| 9/24/2007 2:53:41 PM |
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waytogo51
Prairie Grove, AR
age: 51
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Everybody does it. Remember no man can ever replace him in your heart, but he can make a place in your heart. Some day you will find that man. Good luck.
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| 9/24/2007 2:56:02 PM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34 online now!
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sorry gawd dammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm i did it again was yelling on yahoo at someone and left it on.
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| 9/24/2007 4:16:16 PM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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It takes real effort and restraint to avoid that kind of thing. It ain't easy. It isn't fair to compare the wildest one in the sack with the one with the best personality/intellect/sense of humor etc..........It isn't fair to any of them.
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| 9/24/2007 4:21:08 PM |
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truegrace
Hagerstown, MD
age: 51
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You mention you are widowed. You didn't loose your husband by choice he was taken away from you by no fault of your own. Therefore your not ready to let go. You are looking for reasons to hold on to the one true thing you knew you had. Give it time, don't try so hard, let things fall naturally into place. In a little while you'll be looking for things that truly please you in a man, and your spouse will not be there
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| 9/24/2007 4:21:57 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I agree Krupa. One will not love two people exactly the same way.. as love comes in many levels. I would not want to be compared to another woman.. dead or alive. Relationships are hard enough without feeling one has to compete with someone of the past. Holding a loved one of the past in your heart is one thing... keep them safely tucked there..but find room and wisdom to bring another into your heart and love them for who and what THEY are. jmo
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| 9/24/2007 4:28:23 PM |
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dragonflys
Saint James, MO
age: 46
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And a good one (yo) it is Tru....Its hard, but time does heal. 
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| 9/24/2007 4:34:08 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Of course it is hard.. and hard to figure out why things happen the way that they do. I have never been one to question why things have happened to me.. except for the moments I got angry with God and demanded to know why He took Jimmie from me. But I have faith.. and with faith comes accepting things that happen.. and I believe in fate.. and that is what gets me through the trials of life
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| 9/24/2007 4:37:12 PM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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I know from experience that there is no way I can compete or compare with the loved ghosts of the past. It doesn't diminish what the woman may feel for me but it is hard to deal with. It is a truly helpless feeling.
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| 9/24/2007 4:39:29 PM |
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daghame
Fort Worth, TX
age: 25
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I agree trublu thats a good way of looking at that
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| 9/24/2007 4:56:02 PM |
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txusmc81
Jacksonville, NC
age: 26
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I disagree if your saying not to hold a man up to a level that is equal to a past loved one. As a man I would not feel inadaquate if a women compared my personality to a past love. What is wrong with comparing we all do it some are honest about doing this some are not. Some like to pretend they never do anything unfair I think that is BS.
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| 9/24/2007 5:03:37 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 21
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oh goodness..... I dont even like the think about the ex anymore....let alone compare guys to him.....hell yall all would be in good standings if I did that! LMAO JMO
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| 9/24/2007 5:05:04 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I stand by what I believe. I will never compare another to Jimmie. No one will ever have all his qualities and be like him. I believe you are only going to be disappointed if you compare one to another. I have found someone who is NOT Jimmie.. and he will not have the love that I still hold dear in my heart for Jimmie.. instead, he will have my love that is new, genuine and only for him. JMO
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| 9/24/2007 5:07:12 PM |
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housecall
District Heights, MD
age: 36
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you know annet I think lots of us do it. I know I do it and I do mean to but it happens. I have not had a committed relationship since we split. I know that it is wrong, but it is safe for me, and frankly we all want to be safe.
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| 9/24/2007 5:08:42 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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I agree txusmc... some people like to pretend they are perfect, fair, honest, never in the wrong for anything. I hear a lot of stories along these lines all the time. Annett if you want to find a man as good as your past husband was. you will. Do not lower your standards for anyone.
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| 9/24/2007 5:09:09 PM |
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rain_or_shine
Columbia, SC
age: 44
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I think I did that, but really didnt mean too......I was just shy and didnt know what to expect from men, after being with only one for 25yrs, But I sure as hell do now, and I'm choosy now,I know what I want, and not ashamed to say what that is......So when and if you relax and can, get to know the real you, dating will come very easy, and there will be comparing.......Just a leaning experience......JMP........Shine
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