| 9/24/2007 5:13:21 PM |
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krupa1
Abilene, TX
age: 39
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In theory this is all fine....but, I know when I call a woman and she picks up and calls me by her dead husbands name without realizing it......that is not easy to accept. For me it is not possible to accept. So all the talk about BS goes out the window when you get blind sided with things like that.
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| 9/24/2007 5:14:05 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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I agree shine, I was married a long time I can't sit and say being fully honest I would never ever compare any women to my privous wife. Unless I am so retarted, I can't remember her. That does not mean not giving a lady a chance, it means I have standards and stand by them.
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| 9/24/2007 5:14:16 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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It has nothing to do with lowering your standards! I have found someone who is kind, romantic, funny, intelligent, etc like some of Jimmie's qualities were... but that is not a comparison of the two!
And if you had read my statement earlier, I admitted that at one time, I did find myself comparing other men to Jimmie, realized it and how unfair that was to the others and focused on that individual man and his assets
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| 9/24/2007 5:16:37 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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From what I read trublu it sounded like she was comparing the values not the personality traits.
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| 9/24/2007 5:21:40 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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She states that she has a problem comparing so apparently she is not happy doing this or feel negative about it.
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| 9/24/2007 5:27:13 PM |
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ronpan
Petersburg, IN
age: 48
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A long time ago someone said to me..."Its time to throw the yardstick away" Im sorry to say that no one will ever measure up. Each of us is a different INDIVIDUAL and you just have to accept each new person who comes into your life on their own merits or lack of.
I think I read where you were widowed rather than divorced and we have that in common. I dont know how long its been for you but I think you should ask yourself some tough questions. Specifically, have I allowed myself suficient time for grieving and healing?
If you havent then I wouldnt get to serious about dating just now because nothing is going to work for you and you will find a lot of frustration in it.
Dont rush it, you will know when you are ready and you will find something new that is also a good thing.
The man you love is gone now, and you cant bring him back but until you can fully let go then I would just hang around and makes some friends and dont push yourself beyond your comfort zones. JMO
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| 9/24/2007 5:27:21 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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If there is she felt bad about doing it she would not do it. Just like I would never slap a women because I would feel bad about doing it. Why post something you can change with ease. I don't know much about much, but I would assume that she is wondering if doing this is ok or not. Everyone but a few are telling her it is wrong to do this which is BS it is a very normal reaction to have, death of a loved one or not I compare people everyday in my head.
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| 9/24/2007 5:29:01 PM |
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castertroy
Howell, NJ
age: 38
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I bet i don't sound like him
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| 9/24/2007 5:34:18 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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I am saying that its not good to compare people! sticking with it. It would be like losing a child and comparing the living child to the dead on in their traits and actions.. you just cannot do that and be fair!
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| 9/24/2007 5:39:04 PM |
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mark62
Quantico, VA
age: 32
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Our thoughts are not parallel to our morals she said in her post she does not do this aloud.
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| 9/24/2007 7:45:38 PM |
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a_keeper
Campbellsville, KY
age: 45
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I am guilty to comparing men to my last husband. I do this sometimes with any man that I had a long term relationship with. I really don't have an answer for why I do this! 
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| 9/24/2007 7:59:57 PM |
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fightingconch
Key West, FL
age: 28
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Annett when we were out to dinner I did not feel like you were comparing me to anyone. I know you still hurt from the loss of Greg but.. you are a good women and very easy to talk too, you very much kept my attention the entire conversation. Any man you are with will see this and be ok with it.
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| 9/24/2007 8:04:02 PM |
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annetts
Norfolk, VA
age: 39
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Thanks fighting... you are a very cool, funny, sweet guy.
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| 9/24/2007 8:08:34 PM |
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fightingconch
Key West, FL
age: 28
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Thank you like I was saying about my time serving with your past husband, no one will measure up to him not me or anyone else he was one of those freaks nature lets go of once in a blue moon we all morned his passing and still do...... Love ya
Hunt
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| 9/25/2007 1:49:33 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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This was a very interesting thread. Thanks for sharing Trish
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