| 10/24/2008 12:06:57 PM |
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uradmirer
Buffalo, NY
age: 37
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This is my thing that i have battled with for a very long time, is lies! Whether or not to accept a lie. Honesty is all i need and i put it out there, with a clear definition of my understanding of honesty. Just as well as how lies affect me. My definition of honesty: (Say what you mean and mean what you say! Because your word is what will bond us or break us!) Am i wrong to want nothing but the truth at all times? Let me know!
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| 10/24/2008 12:14:39 PM |
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tellergoodnight
Granbury, TX
age: 57
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This is my thing that i have battled with for a very long time, is lies! Whether or not to accept a lie. Honesty is all i need and i put it out there, with a clear definition of my understanding of honesty. Just as well as how lies affect me. My definition of honesty: (Say what you mean and mean what you say! Because your word is what will bond us or break us!) Am i wrong to want nothing but the truth at all times? Let me know!
You're the Man!!!!!!!!!!. I agree 100%
[Edited 10/24/2008 12:14:53 PM PST]
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| 10/24/2008 12:16:10 PM |
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damtman
Dinwiddie, VA
age: 54
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nope 1 lie & it's the ball game .......they're ota there!!!!!!!!!
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| 10/24/2008 12:19:23 PM |
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mikewheels312
Lewistown, PA
age: 39
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If someone lied to me more than twice, I kick their a** out.
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| 10/24/2008 12:22:38 PM |
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aliveankickinto
Tucson, AZ
age: 78
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Lies are deadly to a relationship.
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| 10/24/2008 12:33:30 PM |
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ilvstlrs
New Church, VA
age: 38
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Depends on the lie...If it's the "Do these jeans make me look fat?" variety, I'm all for lying! Just kidding. Nope, lying's a dealbreaker. No way would I stay with someone who I knew was lying to me.
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| 10/24/2008 12:54:53 PM |
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snazzy73
York, PA
age: 40
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I don't think you are worng for wanting 100% honesty!! Even if the 'truth hurts' isn't it better to put it out there & deal with it then continue on like some hapless fool?
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| 10/24/2008 1:57:14 PM |
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lilmissala
Hartselle, AL
age: 52
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Nope not going there again. Tell me the truth good or bad.
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| 10/24/2008 2:18:59 PM |
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rusty_shorts
West Palm Beach, FL
age: 37
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Been there, done that, stuck around too long.... When trust is gone, it's a dead end...
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| 10/24/2008 3:35:53 PM |
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leftfooted
West Covina, CA
age: 51
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sometimes there are lies that you dont detect because they make you feel good
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| 10/24/2008 4:32:33 PM |
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ccourier512002
Augusta, GA
age: 58
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No way. I was dating this one person years ago and she was my girlfriend. After awhile she started to lie to me and then it started to become regular. It hurt me alot but i broke up with her because of that.
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| 10/24/2008 4:36:26 PM |
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tryagaindj68
Evansville, IN
age: 41
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Once someone lies to you, they become someone who will lie to you. Forgiving them doesn't change that sad fact.
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| 10/24/2008 4:39:46 PM |
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bren31mn
Rochester, MN
age: 41
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NO, I just ended a five year relationship because he just couldn't be honest.. about ANYTHING! I could never believe him and I was angry all the time for not being able to trust him. I am so much happier now!
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| 10/24/2008 4:42:48 PM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
age: 41
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Alright, I am pulling this reply right out of the protestant box I was raised in. When someone says they are sorry it is only geniune if they attempt to change. I don't forgive someone who apologizes and does not attempt to change. If you apologize and keep repeating the effort, your apology is worthless. So, if someone continually lies, and expects forgiveness, it wouldn't happen. Now, if someone were a habitual liar and was attempting to change, then I have some forgiveness to work with. Does that help?
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| 10/24/2008 4:45:22 PM |
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machiavelli215
Philadelphia, PA
age: 36
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The main reason for lying is fear of what the truth may bring. You wanna salvage a relationship with someone dishonest, find out why they fear the truth.
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| 10/24/2008 5:08:54 PM |
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knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
age: 73
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I'm working on the "forgiving", but, so far, I cannot forget and I cannot trust...
That probably won't ever change....
KK
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| 10/24/2008 5:20:07 PM |
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chicaboom58
North Bergen, NJ
age: 60
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Lies are the ruination of a relationship.
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| 10/24/2008 5:21:00 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 40
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Hell... after the first lie I would never trust you again so why would I allow it again????
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| 10/24/2008 5:21:47 PM |
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southernpride2
Grantsburg, WI
age: 39
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I would if they understood how bad lies can be and if they refused to stop see yuh lata tatar
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| 10/24/2008 5:48:07 PM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 48
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No...not anymore than I would loan money to someone with amnesia!
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| 10/24/2008 5:52:01 PM |
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hotpockets
Maple Shade, NJ
age: 54
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No matter what they have said...I would always question...so why stay and wait for another lie? Life is too short. Honesty first!
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| 10/24/2008 6:53:29 PM |
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sharolas
Elk Grove Village, IL
age: 40
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Honesty is the best policy in my book, If you tell a lie the first time you would have to keep telling them in order to get out of the first one. It goes in one big circle.
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| 10/24/2008 8:02:02 PM |
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theshape
Metamora, IN
age: 37
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a lie is a lie, and a lie begets another lie after that one
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| 10/24/2008 8:09:32 PM |
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jilian43
Chicago, IL
age: 45
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Would you forgive someone that lies to you repeated?
HELL NO!
don't settle for less.
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| 10/24/2008 8:15:28 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 36
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This is my thing that i have battled with for a very long time, is lies! Whether or not to accept a lie. Honesty is all i need and i put it out there, with a clear definition of my understanding of honesty. Just as well as how lies affect me. My definition of honesty: (Say what you mean and mean what you say! Because your word is what will bond us or break us!) Am i wrong to want nothing but the truth at all times? Let me know!
You make a good point bro. I don't associate with people who cannot say what they mean and mean what they say. I talk about this same thing. Yes, one's word is their bond especially in the beginning. A lot of people talk a good game, yada, yada, yada, but many times, it's all talk - no backing up, yet plenty of rationalizations and excuses.
I don't surround myself with such because ultimately, who am I really fooling if I do?
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| 10/24/2008 8:18:02 PM |
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boots84
Georgetown, TN
age: 25
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Hell no. 1 lie turns into more. Then its just a pool of deception
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| 10/24/2008 8:31:05 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
age: 49
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To lie is a no no with me
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| 10/24/2008 9:45:35 PM |
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prednisonegirl
Sioux City, IA
age: 48
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Yes..I forgive all the time..no sense in carrying anger with me..I think that is what
triggered my cancer. But...and that is a big BUT..just because I forgive doesn't
mean I am stupid to continue the relationship. I say.."I forgive you for your lying
to me..but I respect and love myself far too much to continue a relationship with you..
God Bless you in your future relationships"..then I walk away. Aww..that feels so
good not to carry any anger and to be free!
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| 10/24/2008 10:11:45 PM |
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suny56
Ravenna, OH
age: 57
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NO not unless your going to forgive and forget them.... people who lie about little things will lie about BIG things..they are also more prone to cheat ..it is a moral issue and if they lack in it, what do they have to offer you..I would rather hear the truth and forgive..I mean if you cant tell them dont do it..TRUST and RESPECT are two of the biggest bonds in a relationship and if you cant trust their words you have nothing ..no matter how bad the situation ..how awful the truth is the key to forgiving is truly being sorry and honest ..how can you forgive someone who isnt even honest with theirselves..a double HELL NO..How can you trust them???
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| 10/24/2008 10:21:10 PM |
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bekki08
Ridgeland, MS
age: 41
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The main reason for lying is fear of what the truth may bring. You wanna salvage a relationship with someone dishonest, find out why they fear the truth.
well said 
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| 10/24/2008 11:24:04 PM |
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mikey2k
Miami, FL
age: 44 online now!
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Repeat liar is a liar. A lie to save oneself's or someone else's life is better than truth.
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| 10/25/2008 6:13:02 AM |
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ultra_munchkin
Plant City, FL
age: 23
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I would and have forgiven multiple lies from one person. The person came clean and told me they were lieing, and because of that I forgave them, now if I had to find it out for myself it may have been a different story...
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| 10/25/2008 9:59:44 AM |
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pendragon_first
Reno, NV
age: 58
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Forgiving is not something you do for the other person, it is something you do for yourself so you can heal.
The better question is would you continue to place your trust in someone who lied to you? Of course not. If this is a partner/lover of yours, would you stay with them? That depends on how much YOU want to stay with them, knowing how they are.
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| 10/26/2008 7:55:13 AM |
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karmahappens
Peabody, MA
age: 40
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Id forgive them from a distance.
cause they'd be away from me.
B'bye now!
You are not wrong to want the truth.
I thought this was a given,but am finding
out different.
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| 10/26/2008 9:52:30 AM |
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nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 45
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TRUST, HONESTY AND RESPECT! If you don't have that, you can't have a relationship.
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| 11/5/2008 7:05:47 PM |
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mike22304
Alexandria, VA
age: 45
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I cannot respect a liar. If I catch someone in a lie, I’m gone faster than you can say duplicity. No ifs, buts or maybes.
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| 11/5/2008 7:10:58 PM |
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pennell23101
Vine Grove, KY
age: 33
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with me its a slim chance at one forgival for lieing and it better be a tiny lie or you dont even get that. repeat the lie and sorry bout your luck buh bye
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| 11/5/2008 7:14:44 PM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
age: 53
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of course not!
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| 11/5/2008 8:56:03 PM |
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irishmark909
Highland, CA
age: 44
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There is no relationship . Trust is everything. In all relationships.
Your Dog trusts that you will feed him , that is why he/she stays.
There's no relationship!
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| 11/5/2008 9:46:54 PM |
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ohwell75
Baldwin City, KS
age: 35
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I tried the forgiving thing several times, got burned each time. Not to mention the trust i had in her was and remains to be totally destroyed and therefore so was our relationship. As i am and always will be a very forgiving person, I draw the line at lies.
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| 11/5/2008 10:12:45 PM |
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uradmirer
Buffalo, NY
age: 37
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Thank You all for responding to this thread. Please continue to add your advice b/c it is support ofr us all and handling this situation.
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| 11/6/2008 7:05:03 AM |
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gtojudge
Dearborn, MI
age: 41
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Women who are truthful are a turn on to me, women who lie
are [ rascal's ] for lack of a better word, and a turn off
to me JMO.
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| 11/6/2008 7:22:02 AM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 62
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I am honest to a fault, so I have no time for liars. I left my marriage because of it and have found peace because I live a truthful life. To live a life full of lies is emotionally tiring. The liar is only, in the end lying to his/herself.
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| 11/6/2008 7:28:03 AM |
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bikerangel3
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 55
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Why would anyone want to be with someone they have to always question sue to prior lies ??? Absolutely Not !!!
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| 11/6/2008 7:45:11 AM |
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uradmirer
Buffalo, NY
age: 37
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Women who are truthful are a turn on to me, women who lie
are [ rascal's ] for lack of a better word, and a turn off
to me JMO.
are you truthful as the one you are involved with or just hanging out with?
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| 11/6/2008 7:46:11 AM |
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uradmirer
Buffalo, NY
age: 37
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Honesty is the key word....Without it nothing truthful will ever exist!
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| 11/6/2008 7:48:07 AM |
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sweetbtsassy
Mentor, OH
age: 44
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Thats a HELL NO!!
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| 11/6/2008 8:11:27 AM |
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lcl38
Everett, MA
age: 48
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Totally Agree!!!!!!!
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| 11/6/2008 8:13:05 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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The only real question this thread poses is, "How many pages will it take for everyone to notice they all said the exact same thing?"
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| 11/6/2008 8:27:42 AM |
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uradmirer
Buffalo, NY
age: 37
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It is not what you say it is who says it and how they feel about this tread. so do u mind staying on the topic and i am curious as to what you would decide on a one night stand or an indefinite romance with one partner.
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| 11/6/2008 8:46:08 AM |
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arkansasnman
Fayetteville, AR
age: 47
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It is not what you say it is who says it and how they feel about this tread. so do u mind staying on the topic and i am curious as to what you would decide on a one night stand or an indefinite romance with one partner.
You request that I stay on topic and then in the same sentence ask me an off-topic question?
Classic.
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| 11/6/2008 8:49:14 AM |
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catzzys
Springhill, LA
age: 46
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No way would they get another chance, one lie is enough and some people dont know when to stop.
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| 11/6/2008 9:02:33 AM |
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gtojudge
Dearborn, MI
age: 41
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That is a catch 22 question and it could mean a double standard for me
but that is how I personally feel about women whom I have been involved with.
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| 11/6/2008 9:04:12 AM |
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wisegirl33
Queensland
Australia
age: 45
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My answer is a resounding "no". You would be a fool to do that. You can simply learn to forget about them from a distance though.
They may mature with time....why would an intelligent person care ?
wisegirl33 - 7 Nov 08 at 308am Aest
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