| 10/25/2008 11:50:13 AM |
I hate being single!! |
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lynx64
Reedsburg, WI
age: 44
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Sounds to me like you need to work more on your own issues...love youself first & learn to be happy being alone. Once you're more comfortable in your own skin, then try for a new beau. Most men don't really want a woman who's needy/clingy or one who can't really trust them. If you're the type who thinks you have to know where they are & what they're doing or who they're with all the time or most the time, then you're not going to find what you really want. See what I mean here? Imagine yourself in their shoes, how would you react to someone doing or asking things like this to you? I know I wouldn't like having to explain my every move to someone else, nor would I want to be put up on a pedestal to be worshiped either. Let them do things for you too, relationships are give & take. Don't smother them, trust them unless they have a valid reason for not being trusted...like caught them in a serious lie or cheating, & just be yourself. jmo
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| 10/25/2008 11:53:56 AM |
I hate being single!! |
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irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
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All right, suit yourself. Just don't be surprised when there aren't too many interested guys.
I think what (drummaster) is trying to say...and very badly at that....is that while you are owning up to your motherhood, you don't need to make it like a "In your face/take it or leave it/you better get over it" type of statement.
Your child is the most important part of your life, I doubt there is any man who doesn't understand that. They all (hopefully) have mothers and they understand the bond.
However, you are here to find a partner who would share the other part of your life that is yours and his.
Leave some room for him to occupy...show him that he will have some importance which is as precious, if not more.
That he does not need to compete with your daughter. Make this to be a positive experience, not negative to begin with.
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| 10/25/2008 12:41:01 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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singlemother_86
Algona, IA
age: 22
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no man will ever replace her father...and no man will ever have to compete with her cuz obviously the love i feel for her is for her only..the love I will have for any bf I will have in the future will be a totally different love and if I find the guy i love unconditionally then I will love him and her equally. I just want him to love her as his own because if he doesnt love her then he doesnt love me...hope that makes sence lol
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| 10/25/2008 12:46:24 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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kaseylt
Henderson, NV
age: 38 online now!
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me too!!!!! 
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| 10/25/2008 12:46:40 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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frogluver142
Maryville, TN
age: 53
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I think we all wonder that at times.I would love to have someone to hold me,wake up next to,do some cooking for and share the little things.I also have a 14 yr old at home and I have a hard time finding dates.So you are not alone in wondering....Just keep going and you will find him one day.
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| 10/25/2008 12:50:39 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
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Yeah...but none of that will happen right off bat...He has to connect and love YOU first...then he will automatically love whoever is connected to you, later.
This is such a sensitive issue that it is much better to work out on its own timing, which is certainly not at the begining stages of a connection. That time belongs to you and him, only.
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| 10/25/2008 1:05:38 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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gatorbite1366
Canon City, CO
age: 33
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me too,but what can we do someone is alwas going to be too damn picky too look at the whole picture and see what is inside someone they all want looks on the outside frist then hope like hell that the inside/real person is the same or better
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| 10/25/2008 1:21:25 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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kaycee_21
Temple, TX
age: 21
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I am the type of girl who loves the feelings of being in a mans arms. I dont mean to toot my own horn but I do belive that I make a pretty damn good girlfriend. I never cheat, betray, or lie to my loved one. I wait on him and and foot and I buy him random gifts when I see something that he would like. Now I know thats not all a relationship is based around but I'm honestly starting to think that guys dont see me as girlfriend material. Im starting to wonder if it has anything to do with my looks or the fact that I have a kid. All of my past relationships have ended badly...with either assult or cheating. Now what is it about me that men find so repulsive? Please be kind! 
Hey Sweetie ! take it from a gurl thats JUST LIKE YOU !!!! With my Ex he was a down home loser who stayed home smoked weed drank hung out with his friends and played video games all day... While i went to college played on the college basketball team and worked 6 days a week .. !! Yah I payed the rent put cigs in his pocket cooked for him cleaned DID EVERYTHING !!!! and I let him hang with is friends do whatever he wanted never got jealous or needy Just kinda Loved him with everything i had... This got me cheated on one time with this particular guy and then i TOOK HIM BACK !!! yah I know IM an idiot !!! ANYWAY ALL i HAVE TO SAY IS i DUNNO WHY IT HAPPENS to the good ones like US but hey ... we jsut need to pick up the pieces and move on .... Now Im talking to this GREAT GUY that has his life together and is willing to bend over backwards for ME  just like I am for HIM !!! it all comes together when it's time ... Just keep living everyday without LOOKIng for love... Let it come to you and make friends because wouldnt youw ant your lover to be your best friend too !?  <3kaycee
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| 10/25/2008 1:26:51 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
age: 48
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I hate being single!!
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i am doing my best to understand the feeling of single...
lol
and i like it....
[Edited 10/25/2008 1:27:11 PM]
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| 10/25/2008 1:31:15 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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bekki08
Ridgeland, MS
age: 39
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I actually like and am very happy with my independence and single life. On the other hand I would prefer to be married and have someone to share my life and experiences with.
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| 10/25/2008 1:35:53 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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irresistiblered
Aurora, CO
age: 43
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I think we all wonder that at times.I would love to have someone to hold me,wake up next to,do some cooking for and share the little things.I also have a 14 yr old at home and I have a hard time finding dates.So you are not alone in wondering....Just keep going and you will find him one day.
I have 4 boys, whom I raised single handedly...I never thought they are a hurdle in my dating life. I am sure it has caused many guys to not to contact me to begin with, but I wouldn't want those kinda guys anyway.
I keep them away from any new guy, and then slowly introduce every one, if I am serious about the guy and see the potential of a long term.
I have just started a relationship with a wonderful man, and he doesn't seem to think any of it. They will all be friends and do the guy thing, when they want, and if they don't ... well...not a big deal.
Honestly, the grown up kids only want their single parents to be happy and loved.
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| 10/25/2008 4:41:04 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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sw1981
Philadelphia, PA
age: 27
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If you was closer to Philly, say like within 50 miles I'd hit you up. Seem like a sweetheart.
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| 10/25/2008 4:43:28 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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chrissie_m
Salem, OR
age: 22
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When its suppose to happen it will.. You're a pretty girl, and you've been dealt some not so good hands, just make sure you don't settle.. Even if it means being alone, there are worse things...do not settle, you will find what you're looking for eventually.
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| 10/25/2008 8:08:47 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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singlemother_86
Algona, IA
age: 22
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thanks everyone!!
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| 10/25/2008 8:12:26 PM |
I hate being single!! |
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loyaltynrespect
Kissimmee, FL
age: 27
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1 thing i learned dont chase...let it happen on its own....when you dont think about it thats when it happens.
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