| 10/26/2008 12:53:17 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 45
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Give me 10 minutes with a real person and It would be so much more productive than 10 days trying to determine who they are online!!!!!!
hey sundancer,
that could be the way that "you" connect, however, there are others who connect fine taking their time and getting to know another person online.
people who are blind can't see, those that are deaf can't hear, does that make the people that they meet any less real? no.
oh lord, no philosophy PLEASE! i feel like were having some kind of debate using the socratic reasoning method.
trixie
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| 10/26/2008 12:56:08 AM |
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heybear
North York, ON
age: 43
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If you post misleading pics or partial information does that make you any better than no pics at all
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| 10/26/2008 1:19:27 AM |
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ylekiot
Stateline, NV
age: 52
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Some people are just shy and don't feel comfortable putting their picture up.
Then maybe they dopn't belong on a dating site. Just sayin'.
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| 10/26/2008 1:29:21 AM |
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sundancer2624
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Good Morning Trixie
I think you are missing my point.
I am not saying time spent getting to know each other online is wrong. I am meerly stating that we are dealing with such limited resources, it is daunting at best.
Lets use your example. The blind and deaf.... Do they not have other senses that they use to a heightened extent. Think about it. We are more handicaped online then these people are in the real world. They have one sense that is not funtional. That leaves 4 to determine their surroundings. We have 4 senses schackled when we are online. We are dealing with a seriously dimished capacity. Why do you place such importance on a profile having a picture. Isn't that a symptom of the point I am trying to make???
As to Socraties---Much to dry! Perhaps we can play wih Berkley, Decartes and Hume someday... If your feeling really frisky lets do Jung sometime.
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| 10/26/2008 1:34:03 AM |
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sundancer2624
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Then maybe they dopn't belong on a dating site. Just sayin'.
Have a little sympathy for the shy. I am terribly shy. I can go days without talking to a soul. These sites have made me a bit more adventureous. Yes the shy ones do create an unknow for the more outgoing. But to think they shouldnt be on the site is a bit of a knee jerk reaction. Over time it may be the only way us shy ones learn that its ok to just go for it.
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| 10/26/2008 1:34:56 AM |
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frogluver142
Maryville, TN
age: 53
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i don't know about the rest of you, but i find it creepy when a guy messages me and doesn't have a picture. then to make the situation worse, they come up with lame excuses as to why they don't have a photo. i find it even creepier, that they want to "get to know me." i'm suppose to let some faceless entity "get to know me?" uh, i don't think so. mama didn't raise no fool.
in my opinion any guy that messages me, and doesn't have his photo posted freely on his profile,
a) more than likely has something to hide
b) is not an honest person
c) is married, or otherwise involved with someone else, and doesn't want to get busted.
d) all of the above, and maybe even things i haven't thought of in my paranoid/delusional state. heh
guys, i know, people say you look like brad pitt, tyson beckford, jabba the hutt etc., but give us a break and post your picture. if you date us, well eventually find out you're lyin', cheatin', old dead beatin' two timin' etc., and tell your significant other all about it. 
trixie
Yeah and then it would be nice if you knew that it was truly a picture of the person sending the message......
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| 10/26/2008 1:39:50 AM |
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gnieto
Los Angeles, CA
age: 36
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The answer is absolutely not. Physical apearance is one component of the various aspects that one should consider before start a conversation that would result in dating someone.
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| 10/26/2008 1:56:27 AM |
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sundancer2624
Bayfield, CO
age: 57
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Trixie this may gaul you, but we agree for the most part. (I hope that really pisses you off,,,he said with a silly grin on his face) The more information the better!
We are all suffering from the symptoms of this form of meeting others. It is hard and at best frustrating and daunting. Just think,,,,,we havent even touched on the thoughts about how anonymity brings out the devil child in most. I bet more than not have thought that they would just post a profile and the world would unfold in front of them. This is difficult, frustrating and riddled with land mines. It's not for the faint of heart.
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| 10/26/2008 2:11:22 AM |
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nunbttr
Middletown, OH
age: 61
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I actually met a 'shadow', and althogh we got along great while chatting, and talking on the phone, the real deal just didn't meet my expectations. Not even close. Needless to say, we were both disappointed. Why do that to yourself, or some else? Now, it's 'No pic, no contact'.
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| 10/26/2008 2:26:49 AM |
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sapphireblue579
Jackson, MI
age: 50
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I don't even like it when they send you a pic in an email. I mean...why not have PUBLICLY POSTED? Unless they're just here for the forums, I have to wonder if they're married and afraid of exposing themselves.
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| 10/26/2008 2:32:06 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 45
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Good Morning Trixie
I think you are missing my point.
(more than likely).
I am not saying time spent getting to know each other online is wrong. I am meerly stating that we are dealing with such limited resources, it is daunting at best.
(nah, i kind of like it this way).
Lets use your example. The blind and deaf.... Do they not have other senses that they use to a heightened extent.
(that's relative to the "disablitity").
Think about it. We are more handicaped online then these people are in the real world
(still relative).
They have one sense that is not funtional. That leaves 4 to determine their surroundings. We have 4 senses schackled when we are online. We are dealing with a seriously dimished capacity.
(in what way?). (maybe, we can't smell that they don't bathe perhaps?).
Why do you place such importance on a profile having a picture. Isn't that a symptom of the point I am trying to make???
(no).
As to Socraties---Much to dry! Perhaps we can play wih Berkley, Decartes and Hume someday... If your feeling really frisky lets do Jung sometime.
(i prefer freud, and i hate to be the one to tell you, however, your superego seems to be running rampant). heh
trixie
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| 10/26/2008 2:33:18 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 45
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The answer is absolutely not. Physical apearance is one component of the various aspects that one should consider before start a conversation that would result in dating someone.
EXACTLY! now let me see your eyes. hehe
trixie
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| 10/26/2008 2:35:51 AM |
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mtn_man_vail
Eagle, CO
age: 45 online now!
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lets see yours ?
sent you a message trix 
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| 10/26/2008 2:41:18 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 45
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I don't even like it when they send you a pic in an email. I mean...why not have PUBLICLY POSTED? Unless they're just here for the forums, I have to wonder if they're married and afraid of exposing themselves.
oh yeah sapphireblue,
that's creepy too. you know what i think i'll do.
next time i'll say, "yeah, send me your picture," then i'll post it in my picture section and put a little notice,
"ATTENTION LADIES, DO YOU KNOW THIS PERSON?"
(shy? indeed!)
trixie
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| 10/26/2008 2:42:22 AM |
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trixie222
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 45
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lets see yours ?
sent you a message trix
see my what?
*runs screaming*
trixie
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