| 10/5/2007 9:54:08 PM |
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1mt
Johnstown, PA
age: 54
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that means she is losing two people that are special to her. you can still be there for her
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| 10/6/2007 7:40:15 AM |
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wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 45
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I that those of us who have admitted to letting someone else control or be abusive to us in any way, HAVE admitted to our own wrong doing. I put it all on me for being so weak that I let him and his friends intimidate me. Since then, I have become stronger, but doesn't take back how stupid I was back then.
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| 10/6/2007 7:54:22 AM |
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dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
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Wild, I see you said you did it for the child. I wish I had been as straight thinking as you. I stayed in the relationship far too long thinking that I was helping the kids.
One day, I wake up with 1 child in rehab and 2 others in therapy. What I did was not helping the kids, it only prolonged things.
I think you were strong all along. But we are taught to be self sacrificing for our families. I think you just were quick enough to see the threat to the children. Wish I had been or at least didn't deny it for so long.
On a brighter note. My son, who lives with me, is doing very well. I am quite proud of him!!!
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| 10/6/2007 7:55:42 AM |
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libra52
Elkhart, IN
age: 55
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My ex and I are just friends now. Regardless of what he did wrong, I was no angel either. The middle story is we did not talk out our problems enough, or each other's feelings and even though you are married, you should still take each other out on a date at least once a month. We fell into too much of a routine, which so many marriages do.
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| 10/6/2007 8:01:46 AM |
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wildgypsy
Bellevue, WA
age: 45
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dg1260, sounds like you had the same idea my mother did. "Stay together for the sake of the children." She was unhappy after the first year, but stayed with my father for about 13. We grew up in a war zone. That is why I knew that I should split for the sake of my kid. Didn't want him to grow up in one.
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| 10/6/2007 8:12:19 AM |
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dg1260
Galion, OH
age: 47
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Never said I was original.
When the kids are such a part of your life, you would do anything for them. Your right though, it becomes a war zone. When my other son comes to visit he comments on how quiet it is with me. Seems to be important with him.
I, on the other hand was not prepared. My folks were married for 47 years when my dad passed. They only had 3 fights I can remember.... Those stand out because my mom and dad seemed to be a solid front on almost all issues.
As a side note, to show their relationship. The best advice my dad ever gave me was, "Your mom may be right, and she may be wrong. But I'm married to her and will be long after your gone". My dad was a very smart man. 
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| 10/6/2007 2:31:46 PM |
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tj1free
Storm Lake, IA
age: 36
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wrong thing i did was i took back myself if you consider that wrong (by standing up for my self and not letting her decide my life for me) good side is i'm about done with divorce after a year though starting over really sucks the big one
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| 10/6/2007 2:38:58 PM |
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memerick
Edmond, OK
age: 28
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Right-kicked her ass to the curb
Wrong-kept thinkin to myself that it could be worked out
[Edited 10/6/2007 2:39:32 PM]
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| 10/6/2007 11:12:25 PM |
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knicknacks
Rocky Mount, NC
age: 37
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Wrong:Just didn't give her space,and on top of that I cheated on her that was the lowest point in my life she was a good woman and she didn't deserve that.
Right:Bringing in four beautiful children in this world and becoming best friends inspite all of the drama.
Do it again-Never,will love with more appreciation and will never ever cheat on anyone again...
[Edited 10/6/2007 11:15:26 PM]
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