| 10/8/2007 4:39:30 AM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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I never thought I'd post this. I always thought of myself as a fly on the wall and would not get involved. Untill someone shows you some kindeness and you let your guard down. And in the end you realize that it's been one game. People are soo cruel and callous
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| 10/8/2007 4:48:34 AM |
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copterdriver
Saint Matthews, SC
age: 55
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And it can be easily done on these sites as well as the pay ones. I see all these, "We are so in love" and then 3 days later it's over after they meet. Really, do you think you can get a feel for all the little idiosyncracies of a relationship over the internet, phone and even video chat? I don't think so, ad I believe it's usually only infatuation.
I have met a few in person and the things that turned me off were usually reminders of past relationships that went south. Does that mean I'm a poor judge of character? No, it means I don't really know you until I've spent some face time with ya.
People give away a lot in simple conversation, facial expressions, true opinions, when they are somewhat relaxed in general conversation. the Undertones or dislikes can be revealed from "face time" that you won't get otherwise. Then there is the sex part, the kissing, the affection or lack of that will determine your true compatability. There are some major turn offs for me that you won't get from email or chat.
Copter
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| 10/8/2007 5:10:26 AM |
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osipsc
Chicago, IL
age: 53
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Not everyone...
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| 10/8/2007 5:18:56 AM |
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agent05949
Greenville, MI
age: 57
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Copter, very well stated !!!
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| 10/8/2007 5:27:48 AM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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It shows you how vulnerable we are. Especially coming out of a bad marriage and you meet someone online who you think you "click" with and then you find out it's been all lies and you've been played. Back to the cocoon
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| 10/8/2007 5:39:43 AM |
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happy4evr
Picayune, MS
age: 46
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You know, I've been reading a lot of conversations on here and have even joined a few. I'm sorry for your experiences erotic, I really am. I'm new to internet dating and I'm thinking maybe it's not worth it.
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| 10/8/2007 5:41:24 AM |
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grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 38
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you just don't have control over anything anyone does, with the exception of yourself. not everyone is playing games.. yes, it sucks when that happens but just remember;
it is nice to be important, but even more important to be nice.
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| 10/8/2007 5:49:20 AM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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I don't think this is worth it either. I come out completely honest with someone and she's a fake...LOL! what a dumb blonde. My heart's been broken 2X in one year
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| 10/8/2007 5:50:23 AM |
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newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 42
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Copter made a lot of valid points, face to face time is key and I too believe that it is only infatuation until you actually meet and start spending time toghether.
That being said I will only add that not everyone is a player and user. I have been fortunate to have met (and I do mean met) an extraordinary person - that still doesn't guarantee a relationship. I have other friends here as well that I have plans to meet, knowing that they are only friends.
The key is to start slow, listen, and hold on to your heart until you actually have something to open it up for.
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| 10/8/2007 5:53:57 AM |
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gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
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This site is worth it if your willing to take a chance..yes you will have some disappointments but you have to hop back on and try until you succeed. Not everone is here to play games..you just have to learn to read between the lines and take your time, at some point they will give themselves away.
Copter you are very insightful..I agree
Men lie too about what they look like or what they actually want. I have traveled to different states and been let down but I have also made some wonderful friends.
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| 10/8/2007 6:00:37 AM |
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eroticartist
West Harrison, NY
age: 48
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| 10/8/2007 6:05:50 AM |
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gawd
Appleton, WI
age: 53
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What does that mean erotic..???Did I say something wrong..
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| 10/8/2007 6:07:41 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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We want to believe people with the hopes of finding love again, especially when you are the one being truthful you hope the other person is doing the same. I don't know how people expect to find love when they lie. Then of course after we've been lied to so many times then we become weary of all - (I do anyway). So hang in there erotic you're a wonderful man....
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| 10/8/2007 6:20:37 AM |
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peaches73036
El Reno, OK
age: 40
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| 10/8/2007 6:28:14 AM |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 36
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Stormy my thoughts exactly...... 
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