| 11/25/2008 3:19:47 PM |
Why are men so difficult to understand? |
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chrissylynne
Hickory, NC
46, joined Oct. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
I promise that I am not men bashing, I love you guys. I can't live with you and don't want to live without you. It is just so frustrating.
Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. Have I just not met the right guy yet?
I am very affectionate, caring, sensual, giving, and have a very high sex drive with the guy that I am into. Most of my close girlfriends say that I will need a very strong guy to be able to handle me, and that maybe true.
HELP!
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| 11/25/2008 3:29:13 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
43, joined Jan. 2008
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-Because when we express any emotion most of you women call us giant pussies who need to suck it up and be a man.
-You women do overwhelm us with a battering of a verbal barrage... you think you win most arguments but we just choose to stop playing and move onto better things other than making a scene at a restaurant over something stupid like who should pay. That is confusing to me why you'd wanna look even more like a head case yelling at me in a public place
-men want sex, food, fun, sleep. Not in that order.. but that's basically all we need.
-And for commitment.. why should we when so many women now a days give it up after some attention and buying them a drink? What do you bring to the table that would make us want to stick with just one woman?
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| 11/25/2008 3:29:51 PM |
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namanu
Grand Forks, ND
59, joined Oct. 2008
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Switch the genders, and I could have written the exact same paragraph.
And, no, I don't understand it either.
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| 11/25/2008 3:31:47 PM |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
58, joined Aug. 2008
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It is what we will no longer to bring to the table. If we turn the spigot off and you miss us, you come crawlin back time after time in between chasing other skirts. But each time we swear it will be the last. 
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| 11/25/2008 3:32:15 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
45, joined Apr. 2007
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well look at what we have to work with.
did anybody else ever notice that if you say something to a woman that can be taken a number of ways she will always pick the worst and go with it
should i continue
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| 11/25/2008 3:39:25 PM |
Why are men so difficult to understand? |
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chrissylynne
Hickory, NC
46, joined Oct. 2008
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-Because when we express any emotion most of you women call us giant pussies who need to suck it up and be a man.
-You women do overwhelm us with a battering of a verbal barrage... you think you win most arguments but we just choose to stop playing and move onto better things other than making a scene at a restaurant over something stupid like who should pay. That is confusing to me why you'd wanna look even more like a head case yelling at me in a public place
-men want sex, food, fun, sleep. Not in that order.. but that's basically all we need.
-And for commitment.. why should we when so many women now a days give it up after some attention and buying them a drink? What do you bring to the table that would make us want to stick with just one woman?
I don't think that if a man expresses himself he is a p*ssy. I don't like to argue and I don't think that I am always right. If a man wants to pay, I definitely don't argue! I want Sex, food, fun and sleep too! what's the deal? As far as giving it up, I wouldn't say that I am easy, but if I like someone I don't play hard to get and am not afraid to make the 1st move!
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| 11/25/2008 3:48:51 PM |
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noredneckhere
Knoxville, TN
56, joined Apr. 2008
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We CAN express ourselves just fine.
Most women either can't handle the directness, or can't handle blunt truth.
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| 11/25/2008 3:54:18 PM |
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ilvstlrs
New Church, VA
45, joined Oct. 2008
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It's not that men can't express themselves, it's just that they do it differently than women. We look for...and use...subtleties where men are more direct and don't often see our subtle signals or read between the lines.
They're confused because...see above.
There are just as many commitment-phobic women as there are men.
And you've just not met the right one yet. But you will!
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| 11/25/2008 4:15:05 PM |
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shylywilling
Medford, OR
54, joined Jan. 2008
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It is simple really.
Woman are accountable in nature but not our culture. Men are not accountable in nature but forced to be in our culture. Hence the confusion and ultimately the many many broken homes. We are trying to play unatural roles.
This was a drive-by generalized observation.
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| 11/25/2008 4:25:56 PM |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
40, joined Jun. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
I promise that I am not men bashing, I love you guys. I can't live with you and don't want to live without you. It is just so frustrating.
Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. Have I just not met the right guy yet?
I am very affectionate, caring, sensual, giving, and have a very high sex drive with the guy that I am into. Most of my close girlfriends say that I will need a very strong guy to be able to handle me, and that maybe true.
HELP!
most men can't express themselves- Most men that I know do express themselves....however, I think women are WAY too dramatic about certain things....for me some things are just not that serious.
most men get overwhelmed or confused easily- Actually....I think women get overwhelmed and confused MUCH more easier than men....I think this plays out in the men that they choose to date. "Do I want this low life guy who is good in bed, or do I want the stable boring family guy"
they don't want what they want- We know what we want. I think we weigh the pros and cons of a situation
why are guys so scared of committment- Why wouldn't you be afraid of commitment. If you decide that you want to buy a new house, you wouldn't just rush out and get a 30 year mortgage....you would first give it some serious thought and maybe even hesitate since it's a big commitment for most of your life. For me it's what I'm committed to....I'm not afraid of commitment: I've committed to keeping myself healthy, I've committed to my employer to be the best at my job that I can be, I made a commitment to get my undergraduate degree....I'm not afraid of commitment, it's what I'm committed to.
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| 11/25/2008 4:34:57 PM |
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moraldk325
State College, PA
51, joined Aug. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
Sure we can. Most women simply try to overcomplicate it, and the meaning is then lost.
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
Not at all. We are merely trying to figure out what Martian Jibberish we need to speak to make things clear to you, and are confused about which particular dialect you may recognize, since brutal honesty is not an option.
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
Yes we do. We simply understand that what you want can change in a moment's notice, and we would rather accept that than to hang on to some self created dogma.
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
Same answer as the last question. Committment is not what we fear. It is the "obligation" to cater to and entertain someone who has no understanding of what WE committed to or signed on for.
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| 11/25/2008 4:39:10 PM |
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robowobo
Caseyville, IL
41, joined Jul. 2008
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-Because when we express any emotion most of you women call us giant pussies who need to suck it up and be a man.
-You women do overwhelm us with a battering of a verbal barrage... you think you win most arguments but we just choose to stop playing and move onto better things other than making a scene at a restaurant over something stupid like who should pay. That is confusing to me why you'd wanna look even more like a head case yelling at me in a public place
-men want sex, food, fun, sleep. Not in that order.. but that's basically all we need.
-And for commitment.. why should we when so many women now a days give it up after some attention and buying them a drink? What do you bring to the table that would make us want to stick with just one woman?
right on
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| 11/25/2008 4:40:30 PM |
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chrissylynne
Hickory, NC
46, joined Oct. 2008
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most men can't express themselves- Most men that I know do express themselves....however, I think women are WAY too dramatic about certain things....for me some things are just not that serious.
most men get overwhelmed or confused easily- Actually....I think women get overwhelmed and confused MUCH more easier than men....I think this plays out in the men that they choose to date. "Do I want this low life guy who is good in bed, or do I want the stable boring family guy"
they don't want what they want- We know what we want. I think we weigh the pros and cons of a situation
why are guys so scared of committment- Why wouldn't you be afraid of commitment. If you decide that you want to buy a new house, you wouldn't just rush out and get a 30 year mortgage....you would first give it some serious thought and maybe even hesitate since it's a big commitment for most of your life. For me it's what I'm committed to....I'm not afraid of commitment: I've committed to keeping myself healthy, I've committed to my employer to be the best at my job that I can be, I made a commitment to get my undergraduate degree....I'm not afraid of commitment, it's what I'm committed to.
Well, I have to say that you sound like you have it together and you are pretty sexy too!
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| 11/25/2008 4:44:48 PM |
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mag_eleven
New Port Richey, FL
47, joined May. 2008
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well look at what we have to work with.
did anybody else ever notice that if you say something to a woman that can be taken a number of ways she will always pick the worst and go with it
should i continue [/quot  ya know thats true..what's up with that?.
mikey
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| 11/25/2008 4:45:54 PM |
Why are men so difficult to understand? |
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chrissylynne
Hickory, NC
46, joined Oct. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
Sure we can. Most women simply try to overcomplicate it, and the meaning is then lost.
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
Not at all. We are merely trying to figure out what Martian Jibberish we need to speak to make things clear to you, and are confused about which particular dialect you may recognize, since brutal honesty is not an option.
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
Yes we do. We simply understand that what you want can change in a moment's notice, and we would rather accept that than to hang on to some self created dogma.
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
Same answer as the last question. Committment is not what we fear. It is the "obligation" to cater to and entertain someone who has no understanding of what WE committed to or signed on for.
Ok, i will give you that. I do tend to overcomplicate things. Yes, with most women what we want can change in a moment's notice.
I have never thought about committment in that way. I have never been married. That does kind of make sense. I appreciate all of you guys giving me your opinions. Thanks!
[Edited 11/25/2008 4:50:17 PM ]
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| 11/25/2008 4:46:45 PM |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
40, joined Jun. 2008
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Well, I have to say that you sound like you have it together and you are pretty sexy too!
LOL!!!! Thanks...but don't stroke my ego.
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| 11/25/2008 8:58:38 PM |
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tichobar
Sarasota, FL
41, joined Jul. 2008
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I shall explain, point by point:
- most men can't express themselves - Yes we can, we just don't want to.
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily - We just want to watch the game and can't understand why you are bothering us with questions.
- they don't want what they want - Yes we do - we just can't tell you because you would slap us.
- why are guys so scared of commitment - Because marriage is a horrible and life-sucking torture.
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| 11/25/2008 9:09:04 PM |
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usakindatheart
Overton, TX
55, joined Mar. 2008
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most men can't express themselves
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
- why are guys so scared of commitment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
1.
don't know what kind of males you have been dating?? but every male i have encounter with this new liberated male syndrome going around.. They have absolutely NO problem telling you how they FEEL about every thing.
2.
Men don't know what they want? Really?... every male i have ever met, wants sex, warm clothes, good food, shelter. pretty basic.. how and where depends on his mood, or life choice at the time.
3.
Males scared of commitment? Really?... every male now a days knows women do want commitment, but also know women have pretty much come to the conclusion its not going to happen, so enjoy men while you want them in your life.
besides, with the new liberated male, they know they do not have to marry any woman anymore, cause women have most given up on it, or put that dream on a shelf, and give sex out for nothing but the thrill of the moment.. So the male can concentrate on number 2 more.
not hard to figure the writing on the wall anymore...
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| 11/25/2008 9:43:46 PM |
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theshadow_
San Luis Obispo, CA
45, joined Sep. 2008
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Anyone is difficult to understand if you make things complicated. men are easy, it's usually women that make things more then they need to be. Think about it, being on the net, how many men actually give a shit? or worry about the small things in life?
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| 11/26/2008 3:14:32 AM |
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ccherie
Salem, OR
61, joined May. 2008
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-Because when we express any emotion most of you women call us giant pussies who need to suck it up and be a man.
-You women do overwhelm us with a battering of a verbal barrage... you think you win most arguments but we just choose to stop playing and move onto better things other than making a scene at a restaurant over something stupid like who should pay. That is confusing to me why you'd wanna look even more like a head case yelling at me in a public place
-men want sex, food, fun, sleep. Not in that order.. but that's basically all we need.
-And for commitment.. why should we when so many women now a days give it up after some attention and buying them a drink? What do you bring to the table that would make us want to stick with just one woman?
Good response...
The answer to the Op's question lies in whether a woman will "Listen" to what a Man says.... or will she respond by telling him what "She" thinks he meant??
I am as guilty as the rest... jumping ahead and not listening
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| 11/26/2008 3:25:03 AM |
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r0gg
Sardis, MS
83, joined Aug. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
I promise that I am not men bashing, I love you guys. I can't live with you and don't want to live without you. It is just so frustrating.
Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. Have I just not met the right guy yet?
I am very affectionate, caring, sensual, giving, and have a very high sex drive with the guy that I am into. Most of my close girlfriends say that I will need a very strong guy to be able to handle me, and that maybe true.
HELP!
I hear you saying that you do not understand men. Think about the one man you know: your father.
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| 11/26/2008 3:32:29 AM |
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optimystk
Fort Mohave, AZ
55, joined Feb. 2008
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Men are never confused, unless they try to have a logical conversation with a woman
Hence we no longer bother to express ourself with a women
And once a women has proven the above to be true
we sure as heck dont want to make it a full time agony
The great thing is there are some really great women out there who CAN
live within the limits of logic
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| 11/26/2008 3:42:06 AM |
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xarmynick
Chicago, IL
34, joined Dec. 2007
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the problem here is simple, you ladys over think everything. men are very simple creatures. you cant get any closer to being animals then men. ladys on the other had abuse the privlige of thinking. hell sometimes you keep yourselves up at night thinking about stupid crap you cant do anything about. you try to over think our actions, thus resulting in most of what your asking about.
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| 11/26/2008 3:54:09 AM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
58, joined Jan. 2008
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I have to agree with some of the male responses here...I think they tend to keep things more simple and uncomplicated and a lot of women over react to things and complicate things more with their constant cogwheel turning in their brain... Being a woman myself there are many times i have wished i was as uncomplicated as a lot of men..I find men more easy going and more straight to the point..I like that most men dont have b*tchiness and have more humour and in my case I have known many men who can express themselves quite well...
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| 11/26/2008 6:52:28 AM |
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kitise
Greenwood, SC
38, joined Aug. 2008
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she has said it for me...lillibet..marry me lol...
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| 11/26/2008 6:54:49 AM |
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noredneckhere
Knoxville, TN
56, joined Apr. 2008
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Not only this, but we have WAAAAAYYYYYYY better sex lives, as we don't feel guilty about sex. Even if I don't get off, or she decides I'm not the right one, or she goes back to hubby, whatever the case, human contact is always better than crabbing away here on DH with a plastic toy jammed up their foo-foo's.
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| 11/26/2008 7:24:29 AM |
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barbaraajo
Reston, VA
59, joined Jul. 2008
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Haven't you ever heard women are from Venus and men are from Mars?
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| 11/26/2008 7:46:18 AM |
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1papisalsero
Capitol Heights, MD
51, joined Sep. 2008
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 we are not,if you look at what you wrote you will get a clue.we cant express our self because the woman shuts us down,so we are confuse because the woman turns things around,we want or do not want because the woman made us confuse in the first place and because of that we do not want to commit get it 
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| 11/26/2008 9:02:15 AM |
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cruise427
Los Angeles, CA
48, joined Sep. 2008
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- most men can't express themselves
- most men get overwhelmed or confused easily
- they don't want what they want (if you need explanation let me know and I will clarify)
- why are guys so scared of committment (one guy friend of mine actually called being in a relationship as "lockdown")
I promise that I am not men bashing, I love you guys. I can't live with you and don't want to live without you. It is just so frustrating.
Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. Have I just not met the right guy yet?
I am very affectionate, caring, sensual, giving, and have a very high sex drive with the guy that I am into. Most of my close girlfriends say that I will need a very strong guy to be able to handle me, and that maybe true.
HELP!
the guys i know,... don't like to be controlled, told what to do,
and put up with constant nagging ..
we like things simple, we love sex. and sometimes we need to be left
alone...
we cannot always be wrong, we have to be right at least once by accident.
sometimes a women, "lets herself go".. and starts to b*tch at the little things..
that will definately annoy a man...
let the little things go,.. and look sexy for your man
Cruise 
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| 11/26/2008 9:11:04 AM |
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rice4lyf
New South Wales
Australia
28, joined Feb. 2008
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It is more of an individual opinion based on experience, what we have seen, read or heard from others about. Some people may have had awkward or unhappy times with their partners that may have affected their points of view while others had awesome experiences and thus view things differently.
I know coming from a young man like myself these words may sound like "what on earth?!" but only a few of the replies have tried to answer the question while the others are straying away from the plot.
Personally, I am too young and inexperienced to answer this broad question but I do hope that latter replies can answer it for you.
Cheers.
Brad
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| 11/26/2008 9:36:10 AM |
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wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
50, joined Jan. 2008
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Women find men difficult to understand for the same reason that Medieval sailors found it difficult to understand why they' ve sailed so far and still hadn't fallen off the edge of the world.
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