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clubkid66
Brooklyn, NY
age: 42
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All sites are the same and it's on both parties which make it that way. People are too busy game playing, bashing, crying, being too picky when they are not picking but waiting for the right one to approach them. It's a case of trying and luck period.
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| 12/2/2008 3:44:21 PM |
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ttex1969
Walker, LA
age: 39
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You know you have a great idea, there are get togethers posted in forums and what have you, but i don't really think anyone takes them seriously. I think if people were to post their interest in attending, sort of like... yeah I'm interested type of thing! once you see there's some interest... it might snowball into something.... Just a thought
Any ideas how to get her done? (CT. people)
Yeah wouldnt an "online dating" singles party be a cool thing. There should be a lot of sponcers interested in selling to the "single and looking" crowd. It seems the dating sites could explore selling a meet and greet. If I've paid for a dating site I'd probably be up for dropping $20 to attend an event, maybe more if there is a good possibility for a large group of singles. Maybe an online dating seminar! That could also work as an opprotunity to meet other online singles.
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| 12/5/2008 11:42:04 AM |
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susanath20
Meriden, CT
age: 49
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I think it would be so much more fun to meet peole with the idea of just making a new friend. If we could put the desire to find "the one" aside and enjoy the company of the person we have jut met, it would be great. I do feel that many people want to have physical contact and that's fine, to each his own. I would prefer to spend time making a new friend without a physical relationship and without sizing one another up as potential mate. Most people want to take it to another level. I would love to meet someone special and I suppose it will happen if it is meant to but I could always use a friend.
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| 12/5/2008 12:38:58 PM |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 61
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Most e-mails I get from this site are sexual in nature and from guys so far away that I know they only want cyber sex. DELETE/BLOCK Online dating sites? Fun to chat, but not real. Within 5 five minutes you are being asked your bra size, age, etc. If a guy asked me that in person (bra size), he'd know the EXACT size of my fist in his eye! And have you ever noticed that the chatrooms online have the most ignorant people in them whose humor is so moronic you have to wonder what level of education they achieved? Thanks, but no thanks. I'll stick with the forums only for a while.
[Edited 12/5/2008 12:39:40 PM]
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| 12/5/2008 5:46:28 PM |
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optimystk
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 48
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while walking down the path of life
someday we all stumble
and find someone to pick us up
remain optimystk, life never fails us
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| 12/6/2008 5:08:27 AM |
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dance4ever
Hartford, WI
age: 47
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Well, I think THIS particular site can rope folks in.
There is the posting boards and the chat option....If one is not careful they can waist exorbitant amounts of time doing both. (actually who am I to say what is a waste of someone's time)...I just know that I can sit down here, at the computer and post a couple of times, READ what others are writing, and there is always a TON and answer some messages and POOF an hour is gone it seems.
An hour of REAL living gone, I should say.
But it can be fun...
and so I agree, meeting in real life...just going out and having a coffee or something. Seems the logical thing to do, because you surely cannot know someone by typed words (phone is a tinchy-bit better) but actually face-to-face and spending a bit of time, giving someone a chance is really the only way it works and that you know.
PLUS I think some people think and WANT to be ready to meet someone, but actually aren't
Just my 2ยข
K.
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| 12/6/2008 5:19:20 AM |
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hogandeb
Richmond, KY
age: 43
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This is not a good way to meet your "forever" person. Part of the problem as I see it is the "best behavior" syndrome. We all know why each person is here... to meet someone or "the love of their life". If you just incidentally met a person, those preconceived ideas aren't there and you get the opportunity to talk to the person as they more truly are.
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| 12/6/2008 8:21:01 AM |
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semp
Valencia, CA
age: 53
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I am not so sure that dating sites really work other than putting people together in a chat/posting comments/email and if you do meet 8 out of 10 times you really find your not right for each other or as I have found not at all what you were expecting from your face to face meeting.
I still prefer to meet someone the good old fashion way before we all had PCs in our homes
For me I enjoy the forums and reading everyones comments on issues,thoughts and ideas,but I really doubt I will find a man I would like to date and become romantically involved with on DH or any other dating site.
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| 12/6/2008 8:37:19 AM |
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starrygreeneyez
Steger, IL
age: 47
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Interesting thread. I also believe that many people are rejected for the following reasons:
it's obvious they haven't read your profile.
They don't share "why" they think you might have something in common.
They don't honor or respect your parameters, ie: education, non smoker, shadow people who don't send a picture when they write, please don't wink(thankfully there is a feature to stop them), being vulgar.
Approaching someone who is out of your league. Again we should respect others but in romance most people seek someone of a similar background.
Stupid lines, ie: "you're hot, "wanna chat?" "Do you have a webcam" or putting their telephone # in the subject line. I read your profile, wanna chat.....They don't even have a description in their profile. These idiots don't warrant or deserve the courtesy of a reply.
I've said the following a hundred times: If a person can't manage to construct 3-4 grammatical sentences that tell me "what" he thinks we might have in common, I'm NOT interested. I'm not looking to play detective. Your picture and profile are the opportunity to tell your story. If it's too much effort for someone to read mine or write one of their own....I'm NOT interested.
Ex:
I noticed we both attended NYU and enjoy triathalons. If my profile is of interest, drop me a line. If not, best of luck in your search.
or
I see we're both CPA's. I volunteer at the soup kitchen and notice you volunteer for Meals on Wheels. If my profile is of interest, please drop me a line. If not, best of luck in your search.
or
I see you like tattoos and harleys. Will you be at bike week in Daytona?
Nobody needs to write a novel.
I've come to the conclusion that when someone can't pay enough attention to honor and respect someones boundries it is THEY who are being rude.
If someone approaches me in a courteous and respectful way, I always take a moment to acknowledge their email. If I don't see the potential, I still thank them for writing and wish luck in their search.
If dating and finding Mr. or Mrs Right were easy, these sites wouldn't exist.
Great response...couldn't have said it better myself. 
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| 12/7/2008 7:18:47 AM |
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lunarider232
Amston, CT
age: 52
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I couldn't agree with you more on your last thought!
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| 12/7/2008 7:45:07 AM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 50
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Before I could even think about being with someone first thing happens with me
I look at their picture and in my mind I am laying down and he is above me..as I look up to him I ask myself..Is this a face I wanna see in this position?
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| 12/7/2008 9:47:48 AM |
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lunarider232
Amston, CT
age: 52
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yeah and suppose if he just rocked your world.....
He just became the best looking guy you've ever lied with Too!!!
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| 12/7/2008 6:31:02 PM |
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bb36575
Sumter, SC
age: 47
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dating is only for the pretty people
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| 12/7/2008 6:39:56 PM |
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monaj40
Binghamton, NY
age: 40
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I Second That Emotion!! 
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| 12/7/2008 6:45:41 PM |
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gator59
Las Vegas, NV
age: 49
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It's too bad people "judge" by what they see instead of getting to know someone. Aren't there enough obsticles out there anyway?
I will remain who I am not looking for anything just having fun if it happens so be it. I will say OP that this is a good topic and lasted more than one page. good for you.
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