| 12/10/2008 9:28:55 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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Well I called her today, and she answered but told me that
she will call me back later, that was at 7 p.m. tonight,
I did call her when I got home at around 8 p.m. and got
her answer machine (cell phone). I left a message that
I will talk to her later, I do feel dumb calling her, but
she does as she told me forget to call people back but now
its 9:30 and don't know if I should call her back or just
get a hold of her tomorrow?
Mickey.
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| 12/10/2008 9:36:47 PM |
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caleb9
Billings, MT
age: 45
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I peed at 7:10 pm, and haven't since, so I'm wondering when I'll pee again. I took my dog for a walk at 9:45 pm and it was really, really dark and cold, but she pooped and I scooped it up about 9:49 and threw it in the trash. I came back in and booted up the PS 3 to play some games, and then this one friend messaged me ata bout 10:05 to join in a Left 4 Dead game.
I did all this on my own free will and I didn't have to ask anyone what I should do.
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| 12/10/2008 9:46:53 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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Okay I get the point, I am being very stupid.
And I do not know why.
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| 12/10/2008 9:51:19 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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Its not that I want to know what she is doing
every moment, She is just a friend anyway.
I just don't know why I act why she has not
called me when she sa.....
Never mind I am just being very stupid and just
need to give myself over things to do. Or I
will loose whatever I do have with her.
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| 12/10/2008 9:53:01 PM |
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ucrazyasme
Naperville, IL
age: 26
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Come on now caleb9, play nice.
To the OP: First of all, you are overanalyzing everything. Secondly, if she said she would call you back later, for christs sake, she's probably busy or you are coming off as clingy and she doesn't want to talk to you. Put down the telephone, go outside and talk to girls in the real world that are just waiting for you to grow a pair. Don't take this personally my friend. You are a unique person created in the image of God, learn to value yourself. Don't try to suck value out of a woman, find your owm value. A woman will not make you a man, you have to do it yourself. Stand tall and keep your head up. Rock on my friend
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| 12/10/2008 9:57:06 PM |
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sweetlymystic2
Oakwood, GA
age: 37
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i think she just wants to be your friend...and maybe you are showing u r wanting to be more...don't concentrate on it...
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| 12/10/2008 10:00:01 PM |
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caleb9
Billings, MT
age: 45
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Come on now caleb9, play nice.
To the OP: First of all, you are overanalyzing everything. Secondly, if she said she would call you back later, for christs sake, she's probably busy or you are coming off as clingy and she doesn't want to talk to you. Put down the telephone, go outside and talk to girls in the real world that are just waiting for you to grow a pair. Don't take this personally my friend. You are a unique person created in the image of God, learn to value yourself. Don't try to suck value out of a woman, find your owm value. A woman will not make you a man, you have to do it yourself. Stand tall and keep your head up. Rock on my friend
LOL, you're right.
Dude, don't worry about it. When you're on the dating market, just remember that you can't own anyone, nor can you read her mind. If she didn't call back, just go with it. There could be many reasons why she didn't call, but whatever you do, please don't call her on it. Give her space, let her be who she is. If you are inclined to call, do so, but just make sure you communicate that you understand she's her own person.
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| 12/10/2008 10:26:19 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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So I should say to her like:
Something like don't say you talk to
me later if you don't talk to me
later, or should not say that.
It must bother me since we usually
talk on the phone almost everyday.
And when she doesn't call when I call
but does not call back that day and
another day goes by some reason bothers
me, I guess its just the fact we talk
almost everyday, if she is busy for the
night she could at least say that she
will talk to me tomorrow. I if I told
her that I am just as well loose my
friend relaionship, I guess that is what
the closest to call what this is. But
if I do not there will lost of communication
between her and I.
But I just can't get over the fact that there
could be a chance with her and I at the end
of the tunnel.
But maybe I am being stupid and forget it but
not what her and I have and just let it be
what it is and be happy what I got.
If there was a chance with her I would stay in
Cali and if not then I will just head out in
June,
I need to stop this and just be friends, this
will drive me crazy.
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| 12/10/2008 10:26:40 PM |
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ironmuscle
Santa Cruz, CA
age: 32
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Well I called her today, and she answered but told me that
she will call me back later, that was at 7 p.m. tonight,
I did call her when I got home at around 8 p.m. and got
her answer machine (cell phone). I left a message that
I will talk to her later, I do feel dumb calling her, but
she does as she told me forget to call people back but now
its 9:30 and don't know if I should call her back or just
get a hold of her tomorrow?
Mickey.
Mickey!!! C'mon man!! I've read your threads and you're killing me!! I hate to say it (and of course I don't know your situation first hand), but if you haven't already destroyed your chances with her, you're damn-near close...that's why she's being shady about the phone calls. My advice.....QUIT CALLING HER!! You seem to be digging a deeper whole....I've been in this exact situation more than once!
I read your "Nice Guy" thread, and being a nice guy myself, we have to stop putting ourselves in these lose-lose situations by allowing other people to have this kind of power over us.....Here's a strategy for you:
1. Do what's necessary to preserve what you already have in the relationship....it seems that what you've been doing is not working.
2. While you're doing that, look else where for a woman who's ready to committ exclusively.....BUT.....LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT SEEING HER EXCLUSIVELY....IT'S ONLY FAIR THAT YOU TELL HER.
3. Us nice guy's lose when we give into our emotions too soon....so stop doing that SH-T!! Preserve your emotions to preserve your life....we set ourselves up when we get all emotionally attached to women before it's justified.
4. Finally, as I mentioned earlier.....You should date other women AND IF SHE WANTS TO SLEEP IN YOUR BED THEN LET HER.....DAMN IT!!! SHE'S ALLOWING YOU TO HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!! SO START FEASTING AND QUIT SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENTS!!
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| 12/10/2008 10:51:55 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
age: 51 online now!
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Mickey I feel you are tormenting yourself over this woman...I also think you need to do other things with yourself and your life...You might not like me for saying this but i get the impression this woman does not want a relationship with you....I am sorry to be harsh but its obvious and you just keep tormenting yourself over it because its you that wants more..I am becoming concerned about your emotional wellbeing...Time to have a chat to your self about this sit somewhere quiet and think it out rationally...P.S you are also staring to sound obsessed time to let it go mate......
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| 12/10/2008 11:03:44 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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First of all yes I am at the thoughts that
she will and stay as a friend and I am okay
with it now. I just thought if I could
understand me better that she would someday
would concider being with me.
But now I should keep it as it is and just
move to Oregon in June. I mean I gave her
plenty of chances. I even went over it that
I am moving right off the bat on the first
date. That should of been the hammer in my
head that it was not going to work, but I
thought over time she would want me to stay
and be with her.
But when I play the thoughts over my head.
I just have to realize that there is no way
out but what is. I just thought the four
months and then to June things would change.
But what can I say...
...We all don't work the same.
So what else can I write.
But here to friendship with benefit?
That is what this is going and have since
pretty much the beginning. 
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| 12/10/2008 11:23:41 PM |
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caleb9
Billings, MT
age: 45
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Yep, that's about it.
You can't control people. I'd go on with your plans. And what's wrong with friends with benefits? Many times, that's the way a true, enduring relationship has begun. For what it's worth, I'd say pack your bags and find out what life holds for you in Oregon. There's no way to predict what can happen...hang in there dude, but don't ever pin your hopes on another's life choices. You can't control them, they just happen, man.
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| 12/10/2008 11:26:47 PM |
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mickeymic
Portland, OR
age: 31
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Yep, that's about it.
You can't control people. I'd go on with your plans. And what's wrong with friends with benefits? Many times, that's the way a true, enduring relationship has begun. For what it's worth, I'd say pack your bags and find out what life holds for you in Oregon. There's no way to predict what can happen...hang in there dude, but don't ever pin your hopes on another's life choices. You can't control them, they just happen, man.
That is not what I wanted to do is to control her, sorry if that is what it seemed to you or anybody that is reading my writing.
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| 12/11/2008 3:34:47 AM |
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dare2dream100
Springfield, MO
age: 45
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Remember this...
NEVER MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY WHO MAKES YOU AN OPTION!!!!!!!
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