| 12/11/2008 12:08:26 PM |
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jramsd
Southbridge, MA
49, joined Dec. 2008
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I'm curious to know what taking it slow means to everyone.I don't think this is referring only to sex,either.When or how often do you call,when do you introduce them to your friends,family,etc.I'd like some opinions,since I don't seem to be very good at this.My idea of slow might be weeks,someone else's might be months!
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| 12/11/2008 12:24:58 PM |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
55, joined Apr. 2008
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Best to communicate with the person and see what they mean - and why, without beating it to death.
What it dosen't mean is just letting the surge of wonderfulness carry you away.
Pause and consider before taking next steps, or baby steps. Some like to pick thier way through carefully.
I could also mean they're still getting over being burnt OR even that they are keeping options open.
Wish you well with it!
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| 12/11/2008 12:35:08 PM |
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wolfi
Albuquerque, NM
50, joined Jan. 2008
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If she says she wants to 'take it slow' , that means you're not her type.
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| 12/11/2008 12:37:31 PM |
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countrycharmer
Litchfield, OH
50, joined Sep. 2008
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Thinking rationally (predominately) instead of reacting on emotions. When it is right, everything falls into perspective.
My 2-cents
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| 12/11/2008 12:55:53 PM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
52, joined Aug. 2008
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To me it means not talking to someone for hours and the next day meeting them at their motel room. I myself am very cautious and won't go meet a person, not that I have really went out and met anyone, but I feel for me if they are willing to get to know one another to a point me as a female feel "safe" then that is taking it slow. I'd rather go slow than to jump in and regret what could have been a good thing in the long run. If they have no patience and want me to jump in head first against my will...then were doomed...
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| 12/11/2008 1:14:10 PM |
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mmaru
Erie, PA
31, joined Oct. 2007
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For me, it means that I'm not going to decide that I am in love right away. Taking it slow means that I want to take time to really get to know the person, not just the initial excitement of being in a new relationship.
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| 12/11/2008 2:03:46 PM |
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lillibet
New South Wales
Australia
58, joined Jan. 2008
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The opposite to rushing in where angels fear to tread.....   Ive lost the plot so.............. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm it means if im taking it real slow then im just not into you.....
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| 12/11/2008 2:39:33 PM |
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jramsd
Southbridge, MA
49, joined Dec. 2008
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I guess what I'm looking for is how do I know when someone tells me they're looking for a relationship,but really are only looking for a booty call.If that's all you want then fine,but at least be honest about it!
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| 12/11/2008 2:59:42 PM |
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katytxlady
Slidell, LA
54, joined Oct. 2008
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When I hear a man telling me to take it slow, I hear it as "I'm not ready".
My heart is full throttle, my libido can wait.
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| 12/11/2008 3:09:49 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
42, joined Jan. 2008
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Means they are either already madly in love with you.. or they want to slowly back away from you.
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| 12/11/2008 3:13:26 PM |
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serenityfrank
Toms River, NJ
57, joined Sep. 2008
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IF i was to take it any slower i would be backing up,,
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/honest communication on all levels works the best for all cases
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| 12/11/2008 4:33:03 PM |
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katytxlady
Slidell, LA
54, joined Oct. 2008
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Damm, Eddy been talking to my former stalkees. Must change profile name again.
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| 12/11/2008 4:49:00 PM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
58, joined Dec. 2008
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To me taking it slow means just that. Don't push me into going somewhere all the time or spending every minute with me. Don't call me every hour. Don't try to push my feelings. Let them come naturally if they are going to come. Definitely don't expect or demand sex until I am ready because it just isn't going to happen. Give me time to get to know you and you get to know me. I am a pretty complex person even though I am simple at the same time.
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| 12/11/2008 4:53:45 PM |
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bella2020
Lebanon, OH
54, joined Sep. 2007
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Usually,for me it means ,Stop pushing me ,I'm not ready ,Let me decide
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| 12/11/2008 4:55:07 PM |
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hugsnlaughter
McKeesport, PA
55, joined Jul. 2007
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Getting to know the person before the body, in other words actually get to know them before jumping in bed and also not hounding them when you are not in contact every minute. Actually getting to know their likes, dislikes, personality etc.....A lot of guys see this as a red light but it is actually the difference in jumping into bed with a stranger or jumping into bed with someone you love; I prefer someone I love. JMO
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| 12/11/2008 5:01:32 PM |
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wileyguy
Wilkes Barre, PA
44, joined Apr. 2007
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i prefer to play it by ear.theres no set timetables.it's whatever both are comfy with.
keep in mind,family,freinds ...etc....should also be comfy with it.dont try to force someone on them.allow it in it's own time.
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| 12/11/2008 5:35:26 PM |
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jramsd
Southbridge, MA
49, joined Dec. 2008
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I've had relationships fail because I went too slow,and she thought I wasn't interested,then had the opposite happen too.I'm just trying to find the happy medium and get lots of opinions,since everyone has a different idea on this.Why can't we just ask our prospective mates what they want??That would be way too easy!This is why men find women exasperating at times!
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| 12/11/2008 6:22:01 PM |
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ladyvirtue123
Magalia, CA
59, joined Jun. 2008
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Taking it slow means different things to different people..I want to take it slow for me means that I don't want to become exclusive right away while we are getting to know each other in the early stages, plus I don't want any marriage proposals right off the bat or discussion of moving in together too soon..I don't like to be smothered or pressured. I won't be willing to change my life style until we have both agreed to become exclusive..I know a woman that jumps into relationships within a couple of weeks of meeting men..all of a sudden she is in love and by week 3 they are discussing getting married and picking out rings!...I would be running for the hills!..too fast for me.. 
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| 12/11/2008 6:30:23 PM |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
58, joined Aug. 2008
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Agree very much with above poster. I am seeing someone now, and when I found him he said he was looking for a relationship, but wanted to start as FWB and see what time brings or not. I told him I wanted it be monagamous but given that we had so many common interests, that I no matter what I want to be friends regardless of whether he, I or both of us decide we want to go elsewhere for a different sexual or romantic relationship. We are both very busy with work and have all we can do to maintain relationships with our current friends and family, much less trying to spend many hours with one another. So, i guess, my definition of taking it slow is be p/t for a long time. When I retire I will be ready to go 24/7. Seeing him tomorrow night. Heading down to Laguna Beach to check out the holiday lights and carolers, noodling through stores (he likes the "artsy fartsy" stuff as he calls it) and having a meal out. A good night together like that once a week or every two weeks is enough for me.
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| 12/11/2008 6:47:52 PM |
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1r2r3r4r
Minneapolis, MN
64, joined Oct. 2008
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That means that he/she wants spend time talking and asking questions,[about 100 at least in my book] not "making out". This will keep the relationship moving at slower pace. ....after all , you want someone who knows your personality and genuinely loves you, and not someone who just wants to have sex.
Go slow is the only safe way not to get hurt and also very important:guarding your heart for many reasons. cuz breaking up with someone maybe difficult and painful, but more painful to be married to someone who isnt right for you.
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| 12/11/2008 6:55:37 PM |
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soloact59
Albuquerque, NM
56, joined Sep. 2008
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That means they already have their escape route planned
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