| 12/14/2008 4:44:59 PM |
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smitty4980
Fort White, FL
age: 56
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Don't worry about it , buddy.
I've had my foot in my mouth so many times I gargle with Desenex! 
Smitty
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| 12/14/2008 6:18:08 PM |
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katytxlady
Slidell, LA
age: 47
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Sincerity, You are beautiful. 
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| 12/14/2008 6:52:43 PM |
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pichick712
Brookhaven, PA
age: 50
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Big is a relative term. I know women who weigh 120 lbs who think they are big.
Maybe she is overly sensitive about it but that is not your problem.
I am not small but I am happy with myself. If people want to call me big, then so be it. She needs to learn to be comfortable with who she is and how she looks physically.
I know you are a good man!!!! and would never hurt anyone intentionally.
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| 12/14/2008 8:22:39 PM |
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sincerity
Woodbridge, NJ
age: 49
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Sincerity, You are beautiful.
From a beautiful lady to another beautiful lady...Thank you
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| 12/15/2008 11:14:24 AM |
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azagent
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 47
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The only Big problem here is that you crabberman are Not over this woman. You made “Friends” because it seems to be what both of you agreed to be to at least keep talking with one another. 
It is not bad, but you gotta face your fear of rejection.
Call her up and ask her to have dinner with you, on a night when you are not working.
And then tell her straight forward that the only Big problem is that you are not able to get her out of your mind and move on. Tell her that you want to start fresh again and that you will never hurt her intentionally for as long as you live.
It may be your chance to make it or break it, be happy or be free!
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| 12/15/2008 12:04:40 PM |
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roxskis
Salt Lake City, UT
age: 27
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weight is an everyday issue for just about every women i have met, it's good to be aware of their feelings, but it's rediculous to have to always watch your words, how can you have an honest conversation if you censor everything.
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| 12/15/2008 4:35:39 PM |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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The only Big problem here is that you crabberman are Not over this woman. You made “Friends” because it seems to be what both of you agreed to be to at least keep talking with one another.
It is not bad, but you gotta face your fear of rejection.
Call her up and ask her to have dinner with you, on a night when you are not working.
And then tell her straight forward that the only Big problem is that you are not able to get her out of your mind and move on. Tell her that you want to start fresh again and that you will never hurt her intentionally for as long as you live.
It may be your chance to make it or break it, be happy or be free!
Thanks aza....but thats not true.We did not agree to stay freinds at all..actually the thing that really cause the break up was he wanting to date an old flame from before her marriage,and the man was still married.We went months without speaking,which although it did hurt...I was fine with that.We cant make someone want to be with us.And I knew..that if it didnt work out for her and the old flame..she would be calling..and she started texting me during the summer and talking about the Phillies.We were both big Phillies fans.We did meet a few times for breakfast over the summer..talking about the team and other things.She did aploigize for what she did..and thats that.I have no problem staying freinds with old flames,but thats it..old flames.As much as i think she is a great woman and mother to her kids and a real nice person..there is something there that I know keeps us only as freinds.And thats it...lol..if you get to know me..you will find out I am not one for mincing words and say whats on my mind.If I wanted to be anything more then freinds with her or anyone...they would know it.
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| 12/15/2008 5:09:13 PM |
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azagent
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 47
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Great to hear that you are open with people. All my ex's (a handful of LTR's) are people from the past and in the past. I wish them well, love happiness and whatever they desire but we don't stay "Friends". Since the relationship is over, and if there are no kids involved, we each follow our own path.
And what is there to remain friends for? One of us somehow has breached the trust of the other, which is why most relationships break up. The people I call friends have to be people I trust.
Keeping past lovers as friends, brings in or causes problems, at least that is what my experience was with my ex's.
I wish you the best!
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| 12/15/2008 5:18:56 PM |
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apache0115
Elizabethtown, KY
age: 52
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Hey, friend, I guess it would be like calling a 120 lb person skinny...I personally do not like that term, but wouldn't stop talking to you if you called me that! You are a very sensitive man, and there is nothing wrong with that!! Just, next time your are near a supermarket, pick yourself up some of that Desenex!! 
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| 12/15/2008 8:33:15 PM |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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Aza I understand what your saying...but I think that by maybe staying freinds sometimes may kinda rub it in thier faces sometimes and show them they made a mistake.
I have 2 ex girlfreinds I dated before I was married that are still 2 of my best freinds.They are married and I have done lots of work on thier homes.My friend Cindy I have put 2 additions on her and her husbands home.We will be freinds forever probably and there has never been any problem..that I know of.
As for the woman in mention...probably our 1 and only connection is our love for baseball and the Phillies.Of course thats not nearly enough for any kind of relationship besides being freinds.
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| 12/15/2008 8:39:06 PM |
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azagent
Scottsdale, AZ
age: 47
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Interesting... we are all different, as long as you are happy all is okay, it is your life
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| 12/16/2008 1:06:37 PM |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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of course..on the other side of that coin...I have never been one to burn bridges...may need that bridge someday to get back someplace...
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| 12/16/2008 3:22:13 PM |
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amusesherself
Wilmington, DE
age: 47
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Hey Crabber! Good to see you again.
I think it all has to do with intentions.
At 5'8, I've been called big all my life, even when I weighed 120lbs. because I was muscular, and it has made me mad, but that's all on me. The reality is I'm bigger than average. I would certainly call a big man big, and I would call a little man little, too. Not out of malintent, just as a descriptor, "Joe is the little guy back there with the green shirt on," though I might imagine he could be sensitive about it. If I'm sensitive about something, I certainly appreciate when others try to be aware, but again, it's ultimately not on them, as long as it's clear they mean no harm.
Interestingly, sometimes in conversation when I'm speaking about someone in the 3rd person, I've started inserting some genuinely appreciative word, like "Beautiful," or "Competent," or some other positive comment, and it's a wonderful way to view the world! I think I keep so many positive thoughts to myself, and I'm learning that sharing them, even if it's not with the person directly has been uplifting ME! I guess I'm reminded of all there is to appreciate in people...
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| 12/16/2008 5:23:06 PM |
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crabberman
Wilmington, DE
age: 51
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Hey Gretchen..how are you?
and thanks for the reply...and I think thats a wonderful way to think of other people...hope you have a Wonderful Christmas too...
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