| 1/12/2009 8:56:47 AM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 51
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I don't disagree with the women that like the door open for them, but when you talk about yourself "just being old fashioned" keep in mind that these things are old fashioned also... Having a warm dinner on the table for your man when he gets home from work, having his laundry done and ironed for him, keeping a clean house for him, taking care of the need of the children while he makes a living for the family and last but not least, providing him with sex whenever he wants it. A man likes to be "taken care of too". Just some old fashioned trivia for you....
100% agree
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| 1/12/2009 7:40:14 PM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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smoho
Debary, FL
age: 54
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If my hands are full or we are walking in at the same time, open the door -- don't run up and open a door for no apparent reason, I find it condescending by some, goofy by others.
For goodness sake, this is not 1955. I pump my own gas, change my own oil, install my own appliances, cook my own food, make repairs around my house, tile my own floors, etc., etc. I don't think I need someone to make me feel like I'm doing something wrong by opening a door and walking through it. How do I get in a building when I'm not with a guy?
While I like gestures of kindness and courtesy, I don't want to be treated like I'm helpless or hopeless. On the other hand, if a guy sees me struggling with a dozen packages and walks through the door I just knocked myself out opening then he needs to learn some manners.
Why can't everybody just treat each other as they'd like to be treated. I hate having the fact that I can open a door become a controversy that makes a night out difficult. Second guessing whether or not I should open a door before I walk through it is just stress I don't need.
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| 1/15/2009 11:29:11 AM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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postalbob
Everett, WA
age: 24
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I don't disagree with the women that like the door open for them, but when you talk about yourself "just being old fashioned" keep in mind that these things are old fashioned also... Having a warm dinner on the table for your man when he gets home from work, having his laundry done and ironed for him, keeping a clean house for him, taking care of the need of the children while he makes a living for the family and last but not least, providing him with sex whenever he wants it. A man likes to be "taken care of too". Just some old fashioned trivia for you....
It has actually been proven psychologically that women are usually the instigators of sex.
Men don't want sex as often as women have this mainstream media image of thinking. Men want it just as often as women, and us men provide sex just as often when we don't want it in marriage. Usually men just want to feel loved and important and they feel if a woman doesn't feel attracted enough to want to jump their bones every now and again that they are unwanted or undesirable. It makes you women upset too. Everyone wants to feel desired.
Just thought I'd point that out.
Women all too often try to play the "victim" "battered woman" syndrome card and talk about men that are not true old fashioned men.
Yes. Some old style living encouraged that. It was NOT however a part of the old style living, it was a potential side effect that was far out weighed by the true and good effects of living that old fashioned life. That sex comment was out of line and an unfair attack on men and was a very off base view of old style trivia.
To do with what your comments on what the woman does in the house...If the guy tries outside of the house the girl should try in the house. It's a different type of life difficulty. That way both of them don't struggle with 2 sets of the same problems cracking for the same reasons with no one having the relief or experience to calm the situation down. One can provide entire relief from themself on one issue and entire experience of that relief to the person that doesn't experience the relief on the other. If the roles were reversed and men handled the alternate it wouldn't make a difference to me and I sure wouldn't complain. I'd know it's my strength at that point to make the woman's life easier when she got home because I'd have more of an ability to do that.
The problem is people that make these statements of how "unfair" things "could be" in the "worst circumstances" or in general when it's just a different type of life and that's actually a good thing. Be happy for the differences, not upset. I'd advise that or you should go and date women.
-Christopher Robin
[Edited 1/15/2009 11:30:57 AM PST]
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| 1/15/2009 11:53:41 AM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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b4urgone
Sherbrooke, NS
age: 41
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Wimins Lib is what happened.
When all the wimin burned their bras, it created air pollution and global warming.
And now we are too weak from bra ash lung damage to open doors.
And all the global warming...well it's just too damn hot to be opening doors all the time.
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| 1/15/2009 10:03:27 PM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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cyberpet
Kokomo, IN
age: 62
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How can a man not try to treat a woman with respect? If he really is a "man!"
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| 1/15/2009 10:30:39 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 46
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Whatever happened to men treating women with respect? I know I can open my own door but I like having them opened for me. Am I too old fashion? I love being "taken care of". Am I alone?
You're walking to fast and getting to that door before we can lay a hand on it.
Slow down and you may just meet a few in person.
I know we're still out here.
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| 1/16/2009 3:42:00 AM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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niceguy4tlc
Port Saint Lucie, FL
age: 52
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I still open doors most of the time.
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| 1/18/2009 9:37:32 PM |
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firstlight
Strasburg, VA
age: 49 online now!
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I appreciate a man who does this but I don't want to be waiting by the door like some helpless female until he can open it, so for me, it needs to be a natural and logical process. Another old fashioned courtesy I find endearing is when we are walking down the street and the man walks on the outside nearer the traffic. It sounds silly but it gives me a feeling a protection that I find very sexy.
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| 1/18/2009 10:38:26 PM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
age: 43
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were still here
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| 1/19/2009 8:14:39 PM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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runfaster
Concord, NC
age: 49
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I'm dating a guy who actually unlocks and opens the car door for me before I get in. He also opens doors when we go places and lets me walk in first. Sure I can open my own door, but little gestures like that make me feel special.
[Edited 1/19/2009 8:15:14 PM PST]
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| 1/20/2009 9:19:08 PM |
What ever happened to men that open doors for women? |
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notcalleen
Los Angeles, CA
age: 45
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He's with me
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