11/1/2007 8:27:11 PM |
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purplebrat
Lakewood, CA
age: 44 online now!
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I am just getting out of an Older woman, Younger man relationship that has lasted almost 2 and a half years. I must add we live 2 states away (he Utah, me Cali) and he is 20 years my junior. We started out as "Online Buddies", emailing, I'M'ing and then chatting on the phone and after about 3 months we met in person when he flew out here to Cali. From then on which is exactly 2 yrs Nov 5 since our first meeting we have spoken on the phone every night and morning, vacationed together, spent week-ends together and were committed to one another hehe so I thought. He is born and raised in Utah and never intending for this to go any further and silly me accepted that for awhile. He speaks as though when he ever marries someone one day (someone his age that can bear his children) she would have to accept our friendship, geez as if anyone in there right mind would allow that once they married someone, nor would I tolerate it on my end.
I feel so foolish for letting this go so far, it was as though in my mind there was no age difference, no limit to our relationship, I forget in wisdom and experience yrs that he is still a child even if he acts and appears mature.
I want to try and stay a friend with this person because we have bonded in that way and thats how this started but not sure how to keep my emotions (in love) out of this. Would it be best if I just ended this all together?
Any Advise would be so appreciated!
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11/1/2007 8:54:27 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46 online now!
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I have a girlfriend who married a younger man. Ten years younger and they stayed married and happy for 20 years until her death. Even as she was slowly dying, he took care of her at home. You could see the love that they had for one another. So age isn't the issue. Has to do with the individual. I've been with younger and older men and some I couldn't tell by their personality what age they really were.
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11/1/2007 9:25:03 PM |
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vig1602
Lakewood, CA
age: 20
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I think there are no limits with age for real...although i got nothing on ur last relationship I dated a women that was eight yrs older then me and we are still best friends. I met her in a school in the navy. We are so great with each other it's like whoa but she's stationed in washington and I'm here where I think I will always be....yet we can't be disconnected. She is suppose to come visit me here soon and I can't wait. She's great for real and even though we have a weird relationship I wouldn't have her any other way. But I think things like this can work just depends on the ppl and what they are willing to do ya know? But these things should be put up front before u start getting emotionally attached and what not.
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11/2/2007 6:37:16 AM |
Can a younger man and an older woman relationship work? |
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harliecharlie
Cambridge, OH
age: 48
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If the guys mature enough and doesn't play games
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11/2/2007 6:41:40 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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good luck with that, when time starts hitting you, his interest will wane.
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11/2/2007 6:43:34 AM |
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inorbit
Seneca, MO
age: 55
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age is only a number its how you both feel about each other from your hearts but it has to be mutual
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11/2/2007 6:44:01 AM |
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photographerny
Camp Pendleton, CA
age: 25
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age is only a number except where marriage and kids are concerned.
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11/2/2007 8:29:26 AM |
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copterdriver
Saint Matthews, SC
age: 55
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As retribution you should date a guy much older..... hehehe
BAD GIRL!
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11/3/2007 11:00:20 AM |
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stewy1971
Mosinee, WI
age: 36
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I don't see this as an age issue, it would not have lasted 2 1/2 years, I think your guy simply met someone else. and he's looking for reasons that you may accept i.e. (kid's)
while trying not to hurt you.
he probelly does still "love you", but he is not "in love" with you anymore. huge difference.as hard as it is dear you really should express your desire to remain friends and move on,
personally, after reading your profile, I think this guy must be a compete Idiot, who will regret his choices later, but by then I will have swept you off your feet!! hehehe!
bottom line Hon, enjoy your memories, don't blame yourself, and always remember that there is "true love" out there, without stipulation's. be well
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11/3/2007 6:26:15 PM |
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butterfly58
Arcadia, MO
age: 58 online now!
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This is an issue in which I always stood firm in not believing that it could work but lately that's changed. It depends on how mature the individual is and what you want and comfortable with in your life. Love's a funny thing and it really can't be measured by age alone.JMO
Now your guy has just found somebody else and that happens--sorry.
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11/4/2007 8:23:44 PM |
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beverlylin
Tulsa, OK
age: 51
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Hey I have been on both sides of this coin,,,,and I am in a current younger man relationship, whom I have known for 6 years. Age is just a number, and people that meet us out, think he is older than me.....not a bad thing, I just don't always act my age. As for your man saying, that if he met someone else, and they would have to accept you, well, how much does he love you to say something like that?
I know you care/cared for him, but really, you are a beautiful, attractive woman and shy limit yourself to that kind of mind control....it is a way he gets his cake and gets to eat it tooo....shame on him....
If he found someone else, or wants to find a younger woman then be honest.
I just had that discussion with my man. If you want or need someone younger or closer--we tooo have the long distance obstacle, then just be a man and tell me the damn truth.
I hope you rebound and realize that you are worth so much more than to let him try to string you along, in some sort of friendship/relationship, which will probably limit you in going after a new life without him
Talk is cheap darlin......
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11/4/2007 8:32:08 PM |
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phillygirl0007
Philadelphia, PA
age: 45
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i've had "relationships" with a few younger men - yes, i use quotations because i don't believe that MUCH younger men are capable of real relationships . . . at least not with women my age, maybe. the one that i was involved with a while back, i was 39 and he was 26, that ended VERY badly, he threw tantrums when i told him it wasnt going to work out, really did act like he was still in high school . . .
and now, for some strange reason, i get lots of offers from younger men - early to mid 20's. and from what i can tell, sex is all they're interested in. ten years ago, that might have worked for me, but not now. JMO
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11/4/2007 8:56:06 PM |
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smilingguy76
Denver, CO
age: 49
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Age only matters if you decide it does. I can't imagine how he was able to let you go. I think you should move on.
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11/4/2007 9:01:02 PM |
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peachess
El Reno, OK
age: 40 online now!
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I see some guys who may be younger in age than I but, Wow..Very mature and responsible, I however would might date one but, Long term...I just don't know..I would feel horrid for holding someone back from having their own kids, and I deffinetly don't want them taking care of me dying just because they were younger...Every situation is Diffrient. We live and learn. jmo
xoxoPeaches.
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11/5/2007 11:49:17 AM |
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mick1141
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 37
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My last love was a woman 9 years older than me... and to me there was no age difference.
She was the one who couldn't deal with it.
It all depends on the person.
But I remember being 24... Knowing what I know now, I can't see how any 'kid' that age could understand and appreciate a real relationship...no different than a young girl in her twenties.
They're immature; no matter what they're 'maturity level'! They have no idea what they want! They're just out there testing the waters...
If you want a real relationship; date a man...not a kid.
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