| 11/4/2007 10:15:19 AM |
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silkpanties52
Baytown, TX
age: 52
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Na just little
develed eggs 
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| 11/4/2007 10:15:24 AM |
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endlessly2
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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Have you really talked with any of the women in this topic who think you lump all together? Or are you doing what you say you hate that we ALL do? Just wondering.
I have never seen you before and I am sorry that you feel that way, but if you do, then you you do. I wish you well on your search.
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| 11/4/2007 10:16:11 AM |
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ajewel514
Vero Beach, FL
age: 46
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Dear Bill, Maybe you should just make your profile invisable for awhile and that way you can do the seeking instead of being sought. Make sure you don't compromise what you like in a woman because if you do you wont find the kind of lady that wants the same thing as yourself.
I found a profile I liked but we all know that the profiles dont mean awhole lot. It may seem childish but we emailed back and forth every day for about 2 weeks asking each other tons of questions. That way we could evaluate if we wanted to even speak to each other the phone. It also gave me some idea of what his sense of humor was like and what his basic life values are. I am happy to say our first phone call was yesterday. We didnt make plans with each other just trying to build up some honest communication before meeting if we ever do. But one thing I know is I know alot about him, his family, his past, feeling,hobbies, political view, etc. these are things we can now bring to a verbal comversation.
I dont want to go out with someone just to go out, I would like it to begin as a friendship.
Take care.
Ps.I agree with the other poster, I use the delete button often, I donot owe anyone an explanation.
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| 11/4/2007 10:16:27 AM |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 35
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Patty would NEVER ask you to do that..... just wanted you to read the post...
Oh btw Nick that was PERFECT!!! LOL
[Edited 11/4/2007 10:17:27 AM]
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| 11/4/2007 10:17:27 AM |
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phillygirl0007
Philadelphia, PA
age: 45
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i gotcha bill . . . don't give up, okay???
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| 11/4/2007 10:25:52 AM |
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malicai
Edmonton, AB
age: 32 online now!
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Not all women do that malicai... personally I refuse to allow ANYONE to have that much control over me and my thoughts... we're not all bad eggs out here...
I know, and you are right, but the ones that 'hitch' up to the nice guys DO turn them into not nice guys. I am upset myself because it seems every relationship I have been in has been me being the 'punching bag' in place of the guy who she wants to hurt.
The women I am talking to 'CAN'T' Hurt the guys they want, so they find someone wo walk all over and treat the way they want to treat the ones who deserve it, and in turn, create a man who DOES deserve that treatment (Did this make sense?)
I am not 'angry' at all women, far from it, no I am just wanting those who need to see this to learn what they are doing is harmful...
Healing does not need a target, you need to come to terms with what has been done to you, by yourself, or with the help of someone who wants to help, not to attack, but to find your self.
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| 11/4/2007 10:29:15 AM |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 35
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Well put Malicai!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 11/4/2007 10:35:34 AM |
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phillygirl0007
Philadelphia, PA
age: 45
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Okay everyone, on my couch . . . let's talk about your mother . . .
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| 11/4/2007 10:37:29 AM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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I see what you're saying... and you're right... pisses me off to see a woman mess over a good guy...cause I know she's just making it harder on us "good" women that do that!
I hear your anger and agree... I hope you find one... a good one that is...
But I could also say that why do you good guys always pick the bad girls...instead of us good ones???
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| 11/4/2007 10:37:47 AM |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 35
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LMAO well it's me first Patty since I started this....!!!!!!
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| 11/4/2007 10:49:45 AM |
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newlife4me2
Saylorsburg, PA
age: 42
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Well Bill, what to say..............I for one, knowing what I do about you, don't think you were "lumping" us all together lol.
I don't want to see you go. On my friends list you are there with "All around nice guy" captioned under you picture. I feel blessed to have met you and consider you a good friend. Too bad that others can't, don't, or won't see you as I do.
I understand your frustration though.........think we have all faced it at one point or another. Some earlier than others. I even went invisible for a couple of months myself.
There are some folks here who are just not ready to move forward ya know. Then there are those that will never be able to face their demons or their personal responsibilities in relationship failures. Then you've got the ones that play you and play for the fun of it......There are all kinds on both sides of the sex fence.
The only thing I can say is I will miss ya if you leave and don't want you to go. If you do stay then all I can suggest is to slow down a little maybe before you give your heart completely.......I know, not the first choice of mode of operation when you think you've found the one.........but workable.
You've got my ear whenever you want or need it my friend.........you know how to reach me.
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| 11/4/2007 11:09:55 AM |
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trinagirl
Riverdale, NJ
age: 47
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sounds like you want to give up cause of how ladies are acting to you.
and there are plenty of women who say the same thing about guys.
moral of the story is to NOT bring baggage to meeting someone new. have heard people say thats too hard cause they have been too hurt and cant keep it inside. unfair and selfish to make someone else be a sounding board. especially on a first date?!!
maybe women do this more then men but guys do other things that make us women want to give it up also.
worst thing is to become bitter. have been thru alot of junk in online dating and doubt if right person is in cyber. but i try to stay open...easier said than done but no way am gonna give others the power to make me hide out and give up.
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| 11/4/2007 11:40:29 AM |
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menace47
Sturgeon Bay, WI
age: 42 online now!
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As heatherhoney said: I see what you're saying... and you're right... pisses me off to see a woman mess over a good guy...cause I know she's just making it harder on us "good" women that do that!
Heatherhoney I sooo agree with you! I actually printed off Bill's first post for a girlfriend of mine who just cannot let her past relationships go, and give the good guys a chance. I want her to read how her type of behavior effects men; I and her other friends are trying to drill it into her head that she cannot do this -- everyone is different and you have to give people a chance - they are not your Xs! It really does make it hard on us women who don't hold grudges against the opposite sex, and want to find someone who gives us a chance with an openmind.
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| 11/4/2007 1:28:28 PM |
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angelleyes
Plymouth, MA
age: 34
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i wish you the best sweetie and hope that someday u find someone very speacial
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| 11/4/2007 1:46:32 PM |
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dsjbill
Millville, NJ
age: 35
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Well thank you everybody for all your words. I appreciate everyone who gave an opinion. I wish everyone the best and remember our words of wisdom shared here.......
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