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scorpio4808
Houston, TX
55, joined Sep. 2008
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I am finding dating these not easy at all. Anyone else ??
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| 3/6/2009 8:39:09 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
52, joined Aug. 2008
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UMMMM possibly because I really don't care to be dating at my age BUT what other choice do I have? I haven't been in the situation of dating for quite a long time...
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| 3/6/2009 8:39:13 AM |
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lnlass
Laguna Niguel, CA
57, joined Aug. 2008
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I have found it a bit easier, oddly enough. Met someone in November and loving it. Just here for forums.
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| 3/6/2009 8:40:55 AM |
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jaguarmike
Panama City, FL
54, joined Jan. 2009
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UMMMM possibly because I really don't care to be dating at my age BUT what other choice do I have? I haven't been in the situation of dating for quite a long time...
Same boat I am in. Though it has not been totally fruitless, I have made a few friends, but yeah I am "rusty" at dating as well.
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| 3/6/2009 8:43:23 AM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
47, joined Jan. 2009
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I'll just answer based on what I experienced personally and I know this doesn't fit everyone...
So much damage has been done by past relationships that to even get a date I have to pass their tests that are based on what the last one did and that test isn't graded/judged fairly because they are still bitter and jaded.
So much damage has been done by past relationships that they are unwilling to even get close to any type of commitment, yet expect you to commit.
So much damage has been done by past relationships and nothing done to fix it other than jump in and start dating the next one.
I'm not in any hurry for forever, but damn some don't even give a fair chance to anyone because "all do this" and "all do that". I honestly think a lot don't realize they are pushing people away.
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| 3/6/2009 8:46:31 AM |
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countrysweet677
Waverly, NY
55, joined Sep. 2008
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the only problem i've come across is the guys that are intrested in me are in their 20'and 30's,~~hello~~ the guys my age well i guess they see i have kids still at home and at our age most are done raising them...and they are ready to live their life with no responibilities...i am living my life i enjoy being a mom and really enjoy my alone time with someone special,just because we have kids still at home their not attached to our hip...
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| 3/6/2009 8:53:40 AM |
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tsblueyes
Virginia Beach, VA
55, joined Sep. 2008
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i think there are several reasons..having not dated in a long time, it seems so different now..priorities, i spend so much time with my daughter..and finding those in your area that have similar interests as you..not many people, it seems, are interested in taking the time to get to know someone..JMO..nice topic..
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| 3/6/2009 8:58:07 AM |
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scorpio4808
Houston, TX
55, joined Sep. 2008
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Thanks guys, at least I am not the only one out there lol, I was starting to think I was. Yeah, everyone seems to keep a safe distance from getting to emotionally close to anyone, that's for sure.. Even myself included here, but don't want to spend forever alone either.. Oh whata mess !!!    
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| 3/6/2009 8:58:32 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
42, joined Jan. 2008
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I'm just a wee 35 years young and I have no interest in dating.
Dating is lame... escorts are awesome!
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| 3/6/2009 9:07:54 AM |
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scorpio4808
Houston, TX
55, joined Sep. 2008
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I'm just a wee 35 years young and I have no interest in dating.
Dating is lame... escorts are awesome!
Really... Well I guess that is one way to stay unattached. Except maybe to an STD.. YIKES  !!!!
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| 3/6/2009 9:13:24 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
42, joined Jan. 2008
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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| 3/6/2009 9:22:02 AM |
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milas83
Philadelphia, PA
33, joined Jan. 2009
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Old heads don't have the same flare as young chicks.
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| 3/6/2009 9:25:10 AM |
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milas83
Philadelphia, PA
33, joined Jan. 2009
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Lame.
Higher chance of getting an STD from a woman from here than an escort.
That's fact.
Women that rely on their vagina for income are more knowledgeable about sexual health than some single mom cruising for an ATM attached to a penis.
Good points eddy.
I have seen single mom looking for a man who is like a ATM to her. Escorts know what they gotta do to protect themselves and to keep themselves in position to make money. Therefore, escorts keep a sharper eye on their health than a typical money-hungry female.
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| 3/6/2009 9:26:52 AM |
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cinthianna
Goshen, IN
36, joined Nov. 2008
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HAHA! Was it ever easy?
Or is it kind of like childbirth...
Ya forget about it till you have to do it again?
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| 3/6/2009 10:12:38 AM |
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txdevilhavnfun1
Willis, TX
53, joined Feb. 2009
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All the damn rules have changed since we dated in our teens!
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| 3/6/2009 10:23:53 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
52, joined Aug. 2008
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That is for sure and I don't play well by no rules...
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| 3/6/2009 11:26:54 AM |
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darlinshel
Clayton, NC
47, joined Jan. 2009
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Hmm another observation...people get very set in their ways as they get older.
Dating and relationships do need to have some give and take in them and some people will flake out thinking the other is trying to change them. Sometimes, someone is trying to change you, but other times you are just over reacting to a normal request in a relationship.
I have seen people say they have gotten used to being alone and having everything to themselves and they don't want any of that to change, yet want someone special in their life.
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| 3/6/2009 8:20:35 PM |
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lkyrdhd
Las Vegas, NV
51, joined Aug. 2008
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If were are lucky we have learned from our mistakes and perhaps we have become a little more choosy. I have realistic expectations and I'm not willing to settle ever again..so I guess its the picking through of it all
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| 3/6/2009 8:47:38 PM |
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itlldo4u
Corbin, KY
59, joined Feb. 2009
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Dating Made Simple For Women Over 40. Get a makeover. What's a woman to do?
1. Color your hair pink and purple,
2. Get a huge tramp stamp on your back,
3. Get your nose, belly button, lip, eyebrows, and vagina peireced,
4. Get a black spiked choker to wear around your neck,
4. Get black fishnet stockings,
5. Black leather shorts,
6. Black blouse,
7. Put on enough Mary Kay for a false face to look 20 years younger,
You'll not only get more dates than you can handle, you will also make a lot of extra money.
Good luck and enjoy all your wonderful dates.
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| 3/6/2009 9:08:11 PM |
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mauimale1999
Torrance, CA
56, joined Feb. 2009
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I have been divorced since 2000 and I was 39 when divorced but it seems that as we get older, we are more selective in the type of individuals we date. Too young and there's a problem in communicating, too old and there is a situation of not relating to their ideas.
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| 3/6/2009 9:14:50 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
52, joined Oct. 2007
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It get harder as we age.
The pool of potential victims, I mean dates, diminishes.
We're more experienced, know what we want, and usually wont settle for less.
Don't give up, there's a lot of us that feel as you do. You just need to find the right one then act when they cross your path.
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| 3/6/2009 9:17:16 PM |
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bobfelter
Duncannon, PA
52, joined Feb. 2009
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All the damn rules have changed since we dated in our teens!
So true
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| 3/6/2009 9:18:27 PM |
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thebestman
Atlanta, GA
41, joined Dec. 2006
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Most times, the older people get, the more stuck they are in their ways and are generally speaking, on average, not willing to compromise much.
Not to mention, the dating environment, etc... changes every 5 years or so, so if one has been out of the loop for a while, it will be a HUGE RUDE AWAKENING.
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| 3/6/2009 9:20:23 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
52, joined Oct. 2007
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Most times, the older people get, the more stuck they are in their ways and are generally speaking, on average, not willing to compromise much.
Yes, looking for perfection in an uncompromising way. They shall be the lonely.
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| 3/6/2009 9:20:55 PM |
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thebestman
Atlanta, GA
41, joined Dec. 2006
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Yes, looking for perfection in an uncompromising way. They shall be the lonely.
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| 3/6/2009 9:38:15 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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WOW! Lots of good insight here and real thoughtful comments.
I couldn't agree more with Bevzie, Shel and Wine!!
All your comments are exactly what I was going to add to this discussion.
I'd like to add on more thing tho' and that is the issue of TIME!
Since I'm a single mom and responsible for everything not only in my life but my daughters also,
TIME to date and really get to know a person is limited to maybe only a couple of times a month.
This makes it very difficult to establish, let alone even start a relationship with someone that might have any potential.
But so far I haven't really even met anyone who closely resembles what I'm looking for
and like 'lkyrdhd' stated, "If were are lucky we have learned from our mistakes and perhaps we have become a little more choosy. I have realistic expectations and I'm not willing to settle ever again..[like I did with my 'ex'] so I guess its the picking through of it all!"
As for ATM's! I don't use them!! 
Usually they have too many hidden fees and unrealistic expectations attached!!!
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| 3/6/2009 9:41:02 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
64, joined Dec. 2008
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Its no easier over 50 either 
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| 3/6/2009 9:43:59 PM |
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boushy
Noble, OK
49, joined Dec. 2007
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In my experience..dating at over 40 sucks!!! you either get some old perverted men that totally gross you out or a younger one who needs a momma!!! It is really hard to find a man our age who isn't looking for model type material..hate to break it to ya fellas...but if ya find one like that..keep your cash handy..cause that is what she wants!!!
But all hope is not gone...there are some decent men out there our age...I THINK
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| 3/6/2009 9:46:29 PM |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
42, joined Jan. 2009
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I am finding dating these not easy at all. Anyone else ??
you mean it gets harder??? say it isn't so lenny!
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| 3/6/2009 9:48:54 PM |
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rss0412
McHenry, IL
53, joined Feb. 2008
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in my case, i've run out of small talk. just have nothing to talk about anymore.
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| 3/6/2009 9:51:38 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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What is wrong with you guys dating over 40 is not hard at all. Damn,I am 50 and I do not have a problem finding a date. I am always having men come up to me trying to get a date. I personally perfer to go after what I am interested in. Maybe its your location, or appearances that do not attract them. I for one am always flawless when ever I leave out of my home. Then I think that there are ones that do attract people and are not totally honest with themselves or the other person. Then there are the ones that are to quick to jump into a relationship and scare the other person off.
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| 3/6/2009 9:58:01 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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Now that is sad RSS!! 
I don't have any problem finding things to talk about!
It's finding the person who wants to talk to you about anything and everything
and it NOT having to be about politics, social commentaries, or the 'ex'!!
I'd also like to add Boushy that at our age it's difficult finding a man who
has realistic expectations from a 40yr young woman!
BEU, not for anything hun, but just dating for the act of going out is not the same as
dating to find a potential partner in life. HECK! I could go out with many different
men to just have fun and to GET OUT! But to me that's just a waste of my time. I'm
beyond that in what I want out of life and the people I allow in it.
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| 3/6/2009 10:13:58 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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Like I said before dating is like an interview. You set up a time and date, you do your interviews, you narrow it down to the most qualified canadiate, have a second or third interview and make your decision.
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| 3/6/2009 10:16:03 PM |
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luv2bum
Milwaukee, WI
50, joined Feb. 2009
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I don't find it a problem. It is what you make of it!
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| 3/6/2009 10:20:12 PM |
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bella2020
Lebanon, OH
54, joined Sep. 2007
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suks
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| 3/6/2009 10:24:18 PM |
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rss0412
McHenry, IL
53, joined Feb. 2008
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definitely, i agree. i stay away from politics, religion, and the ex(that was so long ago, not worth bringing up).
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| 3/6/2009 10:24:43 PM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
96, joined Jan. 2008
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Lame.
Higher chance of getting an STD from a woman from here than an escort.
That's fact.
Women that rely on their vagina for income are more knowledgeable about sexual health than some single mom cruising for an ATM attached to a penis.
Your facts are interesting Eddy. I work in a clinic that treats Stds, herpes, genital warts etc. for the Pros in town. The patients have numbers, no names. I disagree with your facts.
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| 3/6/2009 10:28:37 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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Like I said before dating is like an interview. You set up a time and date, you do your interviews, you narrow it down to the most qualified canadiate, have a second or third interview and make your decision.
I agree about it being like an interview, BUT when your TIME is limited and
availability is rare, then you are much more selective in your dating choices.
PLUS! Dating just sucks again at this age because this is NOT what I wanted to be doing at this time in my life!
I was hoping to have moved beyond this when I married and to be experiencing many of the other things life has to offer!
Not to mention that I hated and rarely went on BLIND dates when I was younger and this on-line dating is very similar to that.
[Edited 3/6/2009 10:34:20 PM ]
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| 3/6/2009 10:29:08 PM |
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browneyz
San Diego, CA
96, joined Jan. 2008
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I think dating is not a priority for busy intelligent people that are discriminating. Most of us are busy, have friends, family and other interests.
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| 3/6/2009 10:34:29 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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Lame.
Higher chance of getting an STD from a woman from here than an escort.
That's fact.
Women that rely on their vagina for income are more knowledgeable about sexual health than some single mom cruising for an ATM attached to a penis.
Eddy sweetie, I have to agree with you. Some of these women on this site(DH) are totally classless, do not know how to behave as such as a woman should, and have the morals of an alley cat. And then they wonder why their man cheated on them, or left them and wonder why they are single. I hope they do not teach their children these behavior patterns. JMO
~Bea~
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| 3/6/2009 10:38:35 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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I think dating is not a priority for busy intelligent people that are discriminating. Most of us are busy, have friends, family and other interests.
That's the decision I've started to realize also Eyz and I'm starting to become
much more happier these days NOT putting emphasis on meeting or dating men.
What will be, will be! And no more searching for me!
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| 3/6/2009 10:50:36 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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I agree about it being like an interview, BUT when your TIME is limited and
availability is rare, then you are much more selective in your dating choices.
PLUS! Dating just sucks again at this age because this is NOT what I wanted to be doing at this time in my life!
I was hoping to have moved beyond this when I married and to be experiencing many of the other things life has to offer!
Not to mention that I hated and rarely went on BLIND dates when I was younger and this on-line dating is very similar to that.
It is never to late to experience things that life has to offer. Go for it never let life hold you back expand your horizons. I believe in living life to the fullest and have fun along the way
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| 3/6/2009 11:05:41 PM |
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definitely_ltr
Stroudsburg, PA
53, joined Sep. 2008
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! If it only was that easy!
But HEY! no one here walks in each others shoes so we really can't and shouldn't
be judging what the other person feels, thinks or perceives.
But I do agree that you must continue living in the present and enjoying whatever
it is in life that makes you happy. Don't stop doing because of the lack of a significant other.
YOU must become and should always be the MOST SIGNIFICANT person in your life!
Love yourself and you will not feel DESPARATE for love from others.
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| 3/6/2009 11:08:28 PM |
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graceypoo
Beverly, MA
53, joined Jan. 2009
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All the damn rules have changed since we dated in our teens!
That's for damn sure!! 
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| 3/6/2009 11:10:12 PM |
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fireshade
Seffner, FL
50, joined Feb. 2009
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That's for damn sure!!
not to mention, we are looking for men our age, and they are looking for women that are 20!
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| 3/6/2009 11:20:22 PM |
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gambler1040
Beaumont, TX
52, joined Feb. 2009
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Boy, i'm glad to see i'm not the only one having problems. Everyone i've met my age has some kind of problem and its usually mental. I am very popular with women over 60 especially online for some reason and i don't understand it. If I so much as look at anyone under 35 i'm considered to be some type of dirty old man. I hate bars. I do everything with my kids and for some reason none of there friends are connected to a single mom. If I get introduced to someone they are a lesbian or are seeing someone. I've struck out at the gym, grocery store, and every other spot where a female was located.....wait a minute maybe its me?
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| 3/6/2009 11:49:06 PM |
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
46, joined Jul. 2008
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I think it's a combination of things, at least from a lady's perspective. First, we women notice that we have aged, and are mostly OK with a man that has aged, too. I don't think most men realize that they have aged, at least not to the degree that women do. Men remember dating in their 20's and I think use the same tactics and go after the same type of woman now that they did then.
Also, many of us have been seriously hurt again and again, so that can leave scars, and many try to date before they have even healed. There is a high degree of fear among the older crowd, and that may not even be just from their divorce, it can be from all the crazy dating experiences many have had.
Location and circumstances can have a serious impact, too. I have lived in a very small, close knit town in Arkansas (the bible belt) for 3 years and have been divorced for two of those three years, and I am from western NY state. I'm a damn Yankee "invading" their town, lol. (You think I'm kidding, and I assure you, I'm not.) Plus, this city and county have the highest concentration of churches per capita in the country, so now, I'm a sinning, divorced yankee, and I was raised Catholic, to boot! They all think I am going to hell for sure! Add to all this that I plan to relocate to a larger area as soon as possible, and I don't know anyone in the cities I am considering, so the problem is compounded. And I am a plus size lady. I have changed to a healthier lifestyle, and am down 13 pounds, but have a long way to go to get to a healthy weight. I also don't do casual sex, or purely physical "relationships". How many strikes for me is that?
And then there is sex, and what a can of worms that opens. Some of us are very reserved and conservative about having sex outside marriage, but most are....not. That makes it very difficult when someone like me who is looking for a mature (dare I say forever) relationship, but are not comfortable jumping into bed in short order. Why is sex so important so early on to some people? I know it is a physical need and release, but people lived without it in geneations past and survived. In any case, trying to weed through and find the person or people that have similar values and expectations to your own is a daunting task.
Not to be all doom and gloom here. I have met some nice guys, got my heart broken the first time out, but at least I was feeling something! I am gaining confidence as I "learn the ropes" again, lose weight and firm up. I feel better about myself than I have in a long time. And I know God has a plan for me, but I'm not content to sit on my rear and hope Mr. Right rings my doorbell. I will continue to look, and it will happen for me someday. I just hope it's soon.
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frogluver142
Maryville, TN
60, joined Jun. 2008
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the only problem i've come across is the guys that are intrested in me are in their 20'and 30's,~~hello~~ the guys my age well i guess they see i have kids still at home and at our age most are done raising them...and they are ready to live their life with no responibilities...i am living my life i enjoy being a mom and really enjoy my alone time with someone special,just because we have kids still at home their not attached to our hip...
I'm with you on that one..and they also tend to think that we are looking for someone to take care of us...Have done that alone now for 6 yrs...
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| 3/7/2009 12:05:20 AM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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not to mention, we are looking for men our age, and they are looking for women that are 20!
Bea's Response "Hell I want someone in his 20's"
I think it's a combination of things, at least from a lady's perspective. First, we women notice that we have aged, and are mostly OK with a man that has aged, too. I don't think most men realize that they have aged, at least not to the degree that women do. Men remember dating in their 20's and I think use the same tactics and go after the same type of woman now that they did then.
Bea's Response "I look very youthful.I haven't aged very much at all I can easly go for 28 or 30 years old."
[Edited 3/7/2009 12:11:21 AM ]
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lead_man
Lake Dallas, TX
53, joined Feb. 2009
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Taking a break from dating for awhile, but I have noticed the boobs have improved over the years – must be vitamins or something
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katrinasq
Mena, AR
46, joined Jul. 2008
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Lead man, I had a friend that playfully called them "silly cone" implants. I don't think it's vitamins as much as enhancements and push up bras! And frankly, it's fashionable to show them.
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| 3/7/2009 12:21:59 AM |
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macjim
Colorado Springs, CO
69, joined Apr. 2008
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Your facts are interesting Eddy. I work in a clinic that treats Stds, herpes, genital warts etc. for the Pros in town. The patients have numbers, no names. I disagree with your facts.
What are the infection rates for the general population compared to the Pros? If you only treat the Pros, how would you know how the two groups compare? If prostitution became legal, I'm sure there would be a very low infection rate, like the rest of the world, but thanks to the religious nutcases here, it'll probably not become legal anytime soon.
I think the infection rates for older people is getting very high these days, because amateurs aren't being careful.
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judit0606
Appalachia, VA
58, joined Mar. 2008
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 I don't know about you guys, but...NOTHING has ever been EASY for me!!! Sigh, I just figure that's LIFE and get on with it. Nope, it's NOT easy. BUT, really,  is anything of any VALUE ever EASY? In my opinion, that's the PROBLEM with people these days!!! Most of 'em want the easy way ALL the time about EVERYTHING, what's up with THAT? AND, if it DON'T come easy, they give up! Sigh...whatca goin to do, umm? Well, ONWARD Soldiers, fight the good fight!!! AND, never expect ANYTHING...lot less  heartache that way...
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luvzhugz12
Bertram, TX
55, joined Jan. 2008
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I find I'm more critical of what I want in a partner the further I get in my career and on my own. This is kind of sad, because so many worthwhile people are out there.
Dating is so da** hard these days, I don't remember it being this hard, but then again my memory isn't what it used to be 
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| 3/7/2009 12:55:53 PM |
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lead_man
Lake Dallas, TX
53, joined Feb. 2009
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LOL Katrin. I was joking of course. I would prefer dating someone near my age, but also seem to attract younger woman. I don't really get this either
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| 3/7/2009 3:21:41 PM |
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flytechr
Conroe, TX
60, joined Nov. 2008
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I don't think it's any harder or that the rules have changed since we were teens/twenties. However now most of us are tuned into what we will and will not accept in a relationship, which is a good thing to know where your own head is. Unfortunately, anyone with any history has been burned a time or two so now I think a lot of people in our age bracket simply run at the first peek of trouble and never give things a chance to work out....But then, I've been wrong before....
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| 3/7/2009 4:01:54 PM |
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kimmieb1957
Bloomington, IL
58, joined Feb. 2009
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Because of "access baggage" "head-games" and "high school expectations". By access baggage I mean the "drama" that comes from relationships that have gone bad. Head games are self-explanatory. High school expectations...looking for Barbie and Ken's, high school jocks and cheerleaders when we all look like Fred and Wilma Flintstone and Fred and Ethel Mertz.
I have alot of trouble understanding why guys would want to date someone in their 20's and 30's when they are 40, 50, and 60. As a woman, dating someone that is much younger would be like dating the kids that hung out at my house with my kids....or even farther back, the kids I use to babysit for.
Men say it is our fault because we have let ourselves go physically. It is our fault because we aren't interested in sex like we use to be. My message back to them is to take better care of themselves physically, pay a little more attention to their personal hygiene and be a little more adventurous and giving in the bedroom....they might find we deserve a "second look".
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| 3/7/2009 4:02:00 PM |
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tallbevfrompa
Pittsburgh, PA
57, joined Sep. 2008
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However now most of us are tuned into what we will and will not accept in a relationship, which is a good thing to know where your own head is.
Naps are more appealing than putting up with BS.
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| 3/7/2009 6:23:32 PM |
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ricco714
Magnolia, TX
55, joined Dec. 2007
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WOW! Lots of good insight here and real thoughtful comments.
I couldn't agree more with Bevzie, Shel and Wine!!
All your comments are exactly what I was going to add to this discussion.
I'd like to add on more thing tho' and that is the issue of TIME!
Since I'm a single mom and responsible for everything not only in my life but my daughters also,
TIME to date and really get to know a person is limited to maybe only a couple of times a month.
This makes it very difficult to establish, let alone even start a relationship with someone that might have any potential.
But so far I haven't really even met anyone who closely resembles what I'm looking for
and like 'lkyrdhd' stated, "If were are lucky we have learned from our mistakes and perhaps we have become a little more choosy. I have realistic expectations and I'm not willing to settle ever again..[like I did with my 'ex'] so I guess its the picking through of it all!"
As for ATM's! I don't use them!!
Usually they have too many hidden fees and unrealistic expectations attached!!! 
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| 3/7/2009 6:32:35 PM |
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ricco714
Magnolia, TX
55, joined Dec. 2007
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(this post has been flagged as inappropriate, sorry.)
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