| 3/20/2009 5:53:49 PM |
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singlemom_96145
Tahoe City, CA
34, joined Mar. 2009
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So I need to know! I am new to this and have had one date already. I was more nervous then I have been in I can't remember how long. The date was okay, but now I'm talking to more guys and I am just as nervous about meeting them as I was on my first date. I hate it! I've had plenty of guys in my life so I know it's possible to hit it off with someone, but my fear of rejection is over powering me it feels like! What can I do to get over this!
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| 3/20/2009 5:58:33 PM |
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pike_co_rfd
Keokuk, IA
60, joined Jan. 2009
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Just be yourself.... Plain and simple...
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| 3/20/2009 6:01:32 PM |
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torisdad
Louisville, KY
47, joined Nov. 2008
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It's perfectly normal to be nervous before a first date. I know a lot of people have a fear of rejection and I'm not sure why. The worst thing they can do is tell you no. That's not that bad. Having been in sales most of my life, I've heard no more than yes. It has no effect on me because it's just a matter of time before someone says yes. If I email a woman and she says thanks but no thanks, I just move on to the next one. If you get told no, don't take it personal and get to you. Shrug it off and say "Next". You'll find someone to knock your socks off if you just take your time and let it happen naturally.
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| 3/20/2009 6:08:03 PM |
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charlie460
Houston, TX
55, joined Mar. 2009
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i always try to set limits for date time...public places...separate cars...if you look into someones eyes and ask direct questions, they will either look directly back and smile...
or not...just be who you said behind the screen.
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| 3/20/2009 6:19:39 PM |
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thunderstorms62
Endicott, NY
53, joined Feb. 2009
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Try thinking of it as a "meet" versus a date.
The word "date" has all those friggin expectations
wrapped up within while the word "meet" is just hanging
out with someone.
"Date" should be the next step if "meet" goes well.
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| 3/20/2009 6:36:23 PM |
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r2d2_1
Traverse City, MI
66, joined Mar. 2009
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So I need to know! I am new to this and have had one date already. I was more nervous then I have been in I can't remember how long. The date was okay, but now I'm talking to more guys and I am just as nervous about meeting them as I was on my first date. I hate it! I've had plenty of guys in my life so I know it's possible to hit it off with someone, but my fear of rejection is over powering me it feels like! What can I do to get over this!
That's an easy one. Just bring your mom along  ; but don't tell him. See how long it takes him to start sweating. Put the onus on him and kick back and relax. If he doesn't take kindly to your mother, he's probably not a keeper anyway.
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| 3/20/2009 6:39:25 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
54, joined Sep. 2008
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Try thinking of it as a "meet" versus a date.
The word "date" has all those friggin expectations
wrapped up within while the word "meet" is just hanging
out with someone.
"Date" should be the next step if "meet" goes well.
That's exactly what I do. I can't remember the last time I was nervous on a first meet. My thinking is... they either like me... or they don't. The other thing I don't do though... is spend a lot of time emailing and chatting. I don't allow myself to get involved too deeply before physically meeting.
I learned that the hard way, but it was a very valuable lesson.
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| 3/20/2009 6:42:58 PM |
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_leadingman
Lake Dallas, TX
54, joined Mar. 2009
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Small bottle of Champaign before going out always does it for me
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| 3/20/2009 6:45:14 PM |
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marqeye
Kent, OH
40, joined Aug. 2008
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Just be yourself.... Plain and simple...
You have nothing to loose have fun
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| 3/20/2009 6:49:05 PM |
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eimi
Jacksonville, FL
43, joined Jan. 2009
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I get nervous about parties because your just meeting people.
So dating..yes of course.
The older I am getting the less I get nervous...I think because I care much less about what people think of me.
Bottle of champagne...um that could cause someone to develop a dependancy...JK
It just struck me funny being my mother is a raging drunk and yes that helps her.
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| 3/20/2009 8:14:25 PM |
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danerann
Las Cruces, NM
45, joined Dec. 2008
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The first time I met my fella I was so nervous, I was (literally) trembling.
(yeah, I know, I'm pretty cool, huh?  )
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| 3/20/2009 8:22:36 PM |
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flyerfan44
Newark, OH
95, joined Mar. 2009
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but my fear of rejection is over powering me it feels like! What can I do to get over this!
if you get rejected............THEIR loss. end of story. thats how you have to look at it.
and your fear of rejection isnt allowing the real you to come through when you meet someone because you arent being yourself due to your fear. so in a sense YOU arent being rejected, the fearful you is being rejected.
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| 3/20/2009 8:27:47 PM |
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tryagaindj68
Evansville, IN
47, joined Aug. 2008
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Try to remember, the guy might be a little nervous, too. Some of that nervous energy is from being excited about finally getting to meet if you've been talking for a while.
Now, if you're still nervous AFTER you meet, try not to ignore that. Listen to the little voice - it's pretty smart, and it knows you really, really well.
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| 3/20/2009 9:04:04 PM |
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_leadingman
Lake Dallas, TX
54, joined Mar. 2009
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I just get the small 6 packs - don't over do it
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| 3/20/2009 9:35:17 PM |
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bry11ca
Irving, TX
51, joined Feb. 2008
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I don't sweat it. Usually nothing comes of it but most people I meet are nice and a few are just plain idgets.
Just be yourself.
It's a meet & greet . . . not a date.
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| 3/20/2009 9:44:07 PM |
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beu24
Virginia Beach, VA
56, joined May. 2008
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Wish I could help but I am never afraid or shy.
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| 3/20/2009 9:47:14 PM |
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edgeofsandias
Placitas, NM
48, joined Jan. 2009
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By the time I meet somebody that I've been chatting with online and on the phone, I'm not nervous to meet them in person. But I've already invested a lot of time with the emails and phone conversations.
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| 3/20/2009 9:57:17 PM |
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ledrock
Preston, ID
53, joined Dec. 2008
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I am always nervous (at first)
[Edited 3/20/2009 9:57:38 PM ]
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| 3/20/2009 9:58:25 PM |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
60, joined Feb. 2009
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I think the men are more scared than the women....thats why they keep changin things up...
I say if your scared or nervous...be honest and say it...I can deal with that...don't come up with lame a** excuses....when your askin me out ,not the other way around...
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| 3/20/2009 10:01:02 PM |
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greenheart_420
Peebles, OH
59, joined Mar. 2009
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you could tell the guy your father is a king pin in the mob & he broke your last b/f's legs for not being nice eneough to you. this way you'll be treaded very nicely...  sorry, i just couldn't help it...
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| 3/20/2009 10:04:29 PM |
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flyerfan44
Newark, OH
95, joined Mar. 2009
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I am always nervous (at first)
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nervous is one thing. to fear rejection before even meeting someone is another whole ballgame. goes back to the simple premise..........why are we here (website).....to meet NEW people. i'm also thinking that as long as you like yourself, then what's to fear? if someone else doesnt like you, thats their perogative. if your being yourself and someone doesnt like you, they never will. their loss.
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| 3/20/2009 10:09:22 PM |
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destinym
Savannah, GA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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I really am simply not the kind of person who gets nervous. I can tell you though that I find it so endearing and cute - and refreshing to run across a guy who does; so I can imagine most guys would like that about a woman as well.
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| 3/20/2009 10:22:57 PM |
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dyezah
North Little Rock, AR
44, joined Feb. 2008
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Nah, no reason to be. At best, you'll make a new friend, @ worst, it'll only be a one time meeting.
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| 3/20/2009 10:27:11 PM |
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ladyog
Erlanger, KY
60, joined Feb. 2009
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Hell Greenheart...I don't need to tell them my daddy's in the mob and gonna break their legs...I could do that on my own....
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| 3/20/2009 10:27:31 PM |
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singlemom_96145
Tahoe City, CA
34, joined Mar. 2009
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You know what? You're all right! I like the meet and greet advice!! It's not a date. If we like each other we can set up a date, right! Also the advice that the worst that could happen is you only gotta do it once if you don't like each other. I'm sure I'll still be nervous but I'm sure I'll be thinking about all these responses while I'm there! Thanks for real!
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| 3/20/2009 11:08:21 PM |
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uglybeast
Spokane, WA
59, joined Jan. 2009
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Kami says don't be nervous cause they are people too. They're probably as nervous as you. I say that you are dating these guys of this site I'm assuming and your nervousness might be coming from the fact that your date may rate you. This may be why your nervous. So what. Have fun and enjoy cause you wanted to meet them. If they rate you then that is their mistake and it is sooo sad cause then they loose. Be yourself and have fun and if it aint fun then don't go on another date with them. If you see something on here about you and any type of rating then rate them negative zero.
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| 3/20/2009 11:13:03 PM |
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in_doubtalishis
Beaumont, CA
40, joined Oct. 2008
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Im nervous too at first. Sometimes it takes me a while. Maybe take more time to get to know someone first or go with someone who you feel very comfortable with online chatting. It should make it more easier. As time goes on and you get back in the swing of things I dont think it will be much of a problem anymore.
As for rejection people reject for many reasons and I am sure you have rejected someone before too. I guess just take it slow and if you get rejected which we all do, just take it as it was not meant to be and move on. Good luck and have fun and be safe
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| 3/20/2009 11:13:47 PM |
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plumberman1
Ripley, WV
41, joined Jun. 2008
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im extremely nervous, and in need of help
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| 3/20/2009 11:42:08 PM |
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sandra49ok
Shelton, WA
56, joined Sep. 2008
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im very nervous i think most of us are
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| 3/20/2009 11:52:59 PM |
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honestami
Ravenna, OH
60, joined Dec. 2008
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I don't think it's the rejection,,,it's normal and every woman I have met has been nervous. I still get nervous and just try and relax and tell yourself it's just a meeting and no big deal.
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| 3/21/2009 2:27:22 AM |
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collegegurl91
Pell City, AL
24, joined Mar. 2008
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I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now who is from Arkansas and he was supposed to be coming down to meet me April 1st but I found out the other day that he will be here Sunday. He know what I look like but I dont know what he looks like. He's real sweet though. I'm not one to judge people by their looks....mainly personality. He sent me REAL flowers when I got sick and calls everyday to check on me. Even though I feel like I know him pretty well I'm still nervous about meeting him because people are always different in person. Everyone gets nervous. It's just something that you're going to go through. If you don't like the person then tell them and move on. If you start getting nervous when you meet them for the first time then think about something else for awhile before you actually meet them face to face and when you do see them then don't think of it as a blind date or as if you are looking to date them. Just think of it as meeting a new friend. It seems to help me.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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| 3/21/2009 9:46:28 AM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
54, joined Sep. 2008
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I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now who is from Arkansas and he was supposed to be coming down to meet me April 1st but I found out the other day that he will be here Sunday. He know what I look like but I dont know what he looks like. He's real sweet though. I'm not one to judge people by their looks....mainly personality. He sent me REAL flowers when I got sick and calls everyday to check on me. Even though I feel like I know him pretty well I'm still nervous about meeting him because people are always different in person. Everyone gets nervous. It's just something that you're going to go through. If you don't like the person then tell them and move on. If you start getting nervous when you meet them for the first time then think about something else for awhile before you actually meet them face to face and when you do see them then don't think of it as a blind date or as if you are looking to date them. Just think of it as meeting a new friend. It seems to help me.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Good luck with that!!! ^^^
I'm sure it'll be a great lesson for you... regardless of you saying you don't judge people by their looks!! Please... keep us posted!!!
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| 3/21/2009 10:56:35 AM |
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thunderstorms62
Endicott, NY
53, joined Feb. 2009
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He know what I look like but I dont know what he looks like.
He's real sweet though.
Exactly how NEW are you to online dating?
This is NOT a good idea lass!
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| 3/21/2009 12:53:17 PM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
52, joined Aug. 2008
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YOUR new this month and have had one date already how are you nervous? I've been here since August 2008, and I've MET 2 people one time not a date at all, so I think I'm more hesistant than the newbie...
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| 3/22/2009 10:10:59 AM |
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destinym
Savannah, GA
47, joined Oct. 2008
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I've been talking to a guy for a few weeks now who is from Arkansas and he was supposed to be coming down to meet me April 1st but I found out the other day that he will be here Sunday. He know what I look like but I dont know what he looks like. He's real sweet though. I'm not one to judge people by their looks....mainly personality. He sent me REAL flowers when I got sick and calls everyday to check on me. Even though I feel like I know him pretty well I'm still nervous about meeting him because people are always different in person. Everyone gets nervous. It's just something that you're going to go through. If you don't like the person then tell them and move on. If you start getting nervous when you meet them for the first time then think about something else for awhile before you actually meet them face to face and when you do see them then don't think of it as a blind date or as if you are looking to date them. Just think of it as meeting a new friend. It seems to help me.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Please do keep up posted. Personally, I feel you are too young and inexperienced with guys to be looking on a dating site for one. You seem too trusting and too hopeful. I'm seriously worried about you meeting with this guy. Lots of guys in your future will say nice things, send flowers and what not. It does not mean that this guy couldn't possibly have some other agenda other than just being nice. Be careful!!! Next time (if this doesn't work out for you) insist they send you a picture! And yes, a picture CAN say a thousand words...
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| 3/22/2009 10:21:57 AM |
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wiilnotgiveup
Fort Lauderdale, FL
30, joined Jul. 2008
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Please do keep up posted. Personally, I feel you are too young and inexperienced with guys to be looking on a dating site for one. You seem too trusting and too hopeful. I'm seriously worried about you meeting with this guy. Lots of guys in your future will say nice things, send flowers and what not. It does not mean that this guy couldn't possibly have some other agenda other than just being nice. Be careful!!! Next time (if this doesn't work out for you) insist they send you a picture! And yes, a picture CAN say a thousand words...
OH HOG WASH!! you see and deal with people everyday , you should be a little nervous. but not scared , its a first meet, why don't you post a picture or two, then he knows what to expect, i had a date once, no pic; she said athletic, got there she was a hog , was polite but never talked to her again, just be honest, and up front with them
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| 3/22/2009 10:27:55 AM |
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goodgato
Fort Lauderdale, FL
51, joined Feb. 2009
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Try thinking of it as a "meet" versus a date.
The word "date" has all those friggin expectations
wrapped up within while the word "meet" is just hanging
out with someone.
"Date" should be the next step if "meet" goes well.
thunderstorms62 - That was the most sensible post I've seen in a long time! Perfectly summarized...if you don't have a bunch of expectations & allow yourself to be open, goes much more smoothly.
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| 3/22/2009 10:35:31 AM |
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jaguarmike
Panama City, FL
54, joined Jan. 2009
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I don't get nervous on a meet either. I look at as an equal thing, she is evaluating me, and I her. No big deal if we don't go out. You can't take it personal because chemistry is mostly out of your control. You worry about nothing.
Now if I really like the girl on the meet, and we set up a first date, I am somewhat a little nervous initially, but that soon passes, very quickly if there is chemistry. You will be so relaxed the conversion will go smooth, affectionate eye contact at times, lots of smiles. That's when you know the first date went well.
You just have to simply relax and be yourself. You got this meet, that's a pretty good indication you can do it again, so don't worry about it.
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| 3/22/2009 10:57:58 AM |
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lilmissala1957
Hartselle, AL
58, joined Dec. 2008
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I use to be extremely shy and nervous but honestly these forums have helped me so much in that department. The last date I had I was not nervous at all. Either he was going to like me or he wasn't. So I was just me. Although I haven't talked to him this week we have talked several times. No I am not his match but we did form a friendship of sorts from it. I find myself holding my head up now in public and speaking to total strangers on the street. Its all in putting yourself out there and practice practice practice.
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| 3/22/2009 9:11:13 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
54, joined Sep. 2008
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<<<----hopes collegegurl91 keeps us posted as to how her blind date went today!!
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| 3/22/2009 9:12:42 PM |
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10_2ur_biz
Highland, CA
50, joined Jan. 2009
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OH yea .....the meeting is the hardest part.
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| 3/22/2009 10:18:25 PM |
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milas83
Philadelphia, PA
33, joined Jan. 2009
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You're a woman? With a fear or rejection? That's very uncommon.
Just meet with the person. Technically, it's not a date. Have very few expectations when meeting and go with the flow.
[Edited 3/22/2009 10:19:57 PM ]
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| 3/22/2009 10:22:07 PM |
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maryg2
Philadelphia, PA
46, joined Oct. 2008
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u have to get out and date in order to gain self-confidence again and its the only way to face rejection. everybody faces it at one time or another...but maybe on a more positive note, view it as the date wasnt meant to be for either one of u and u need to move on...thats it, leave it be.
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| 3/23/2009 10:17:05 AM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Feb. 2007
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I used to get nervous, but then I realized that even if I am not the right woman for one man, it is not a reflection on me or my value. It just means he is not the man for me, and I am not the woman for him.
Just relax and have fun.
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| 3/23/2009 10:20:03 AM |
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ronc1751
Springfield, LA
54, joined Oct. 2007
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I used to get nervous, but then I realized that even if I am not the right woman for one man, it is not a reflection on me or my value. It just means he is not the man for me, and I am not the woman for him.
Just relax and have fun.
well said sweetie !!!
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| 3/23/2009 10:29:30 AM |
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newworldorder
New Bedford, MA
39, joined Mar. 2009
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Not much to get nervous over, but...I can see how it can be for others.
I'm comfortable with myself and however the meeting goes is no reflection on
myself or the other person. Some people you just "click" with, others...
not so much.  Good Luck
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| 3/23/2009 10:30:43 AM |
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klassyklown
Bakersfield, CA
47, joined Feb. 2007
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well said sweetie !!!
Too bad I hadn't learned that in say October. LOL
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| 3/23/2009 10:51:04 AM |
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knittinkitten
Lady Lake, FL
79, joined Jan. 2007
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I guess, by the time one reaches MY age (72), the nervousness has worked its way out. I, too, agree with those who call it a "Meet and Greet" and not a "Date". (Hell, I actually make it clear to them that "Meet and Greet" on long distance meets, DOES NOT include "Bed and Breakfast". That usually knocks the losers off to the wayside.)
However, may I suggest...FOR SAFETY SAKE...although, of course, you cannot be POSITIVE, you're much better off insisting on a picture (actually a few pictures because fakers usually do not have several pix of different poses just sitting around) or, as I have, a session with a web cam....well worth the purchase price.
This way, I know who I'm meeting and can recognize him. It would make ME nervous if I knew he could "stalk" me and then disappear if he wasn't interested.) I also exchange name and phone number just prior to meeting....why? because I don't meet him til I believe I feel comfortable enough to ask. (If he hesitates, ask him how he would advise his daughter, sister or mother...that separates the men from the boys, too. (I've only had 2 refuse me out of dozens.)
I always drive my own car...get there a bit early to I can watch for him to arrive....leave the name and phone number with a friend, along with my expected routing and destination (when meeting someone from a distance - usually no more than an hour's drive). I arrange to call my friend at a particular time...or have her call me, if she has not heard from me.
Any man who doesn't agree with and understand these rules,is of no interest to me, for a friendship OR a relationship. It's worked for me, so far, why not try it?
Nervousness....anytime you begin to get nervous, just take a deep breath...take a time out, and think....You, too are entitled NOT to be impressed with the person you are meeting and therefore can (politely) reject THEM. If YOU can do it, then you must learn to accept that the other person can do it, too....After all, this whole thing is for the purpose of two like people being able to find EACH OTHER....It's not easy, but, by having the proper attitude and taking the proper precautions...it can sure be a lot of fun.
Gotta go...I have a Meet and Greet for lunch today and have to finish getting ready.
He's already called to be sure we don't have to meet out in the rain, so we chose the restaurant. I have another "Meet and Greet" for lunch on Saturday....this one is different. He's from out of town and, we've actually talked and emailed for about a year...we're two old friends by now.. so if it stays at that, it's not all bad either.
Just my thoughts,
Knittin Kitten
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| 3/23/2009 12:05:06 PM |
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jacksparrow11
Statesboro, GA
32, joined Mar. 2009
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Well you are not alone. i feel like that all the time. right now you are doing great. just let the fear of rejection stop you from living your life. you will be amaze how many people would diie just to be with you. life is very deceptive, in the sense that things tend to happen when you least expect them to.
Good luck
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| 3/27/2009 5:09:54 PM |
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temptingt89
Statesboro, GA
27, joined Sep. 2008
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I have always been nervous about meeting people and getting to know them because of the fear of rejection. As I got older I realized that there is no need to be nervous and that when someone is trying to show some interest in you it's ok to show some interest back because you never know when they may be the person for you. I learned that you cannot talk to a person based on looks. I am a beautiful person. I have a gorgeous smile and a nice body but I do not want a guy to show interest in me for these qualities.I want a man to show interest in my personality.
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| 3/27/2009 5:10:41 PM |
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temptingt89
Statesboro, GA
27, joined Sep. 2008
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I have always been nervous about meeting people and getting to know them because of the fear of rejection. As I got older I realized that there is no need to be nervous and that when someone is trying to show some interest in you it's ok to show some interest back because you never know when they may be the person for you.I learned that you cannot talk to a person based on looks. I am a beautiful person. I have a gorgeous smile and a nice body but I do not want a guy to show interest in me for these qualities.I want a man to show interest in my personality.
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| 3/27/2009 5:15:14 PM |
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k_tothe_c
Las Vegas, NV
46, joined Dec. 2008
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...nope!
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| 3/27/2009 5:24:25 PM |
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jaguarmike
Panama City, FL
54, joined Jan. 2009
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That's exactly what I do. I can't remember the last time I was nervous on a first meet. My thinking is... they either like me... or they don't. The other thing I don't do though... is spend a lot of time emailing and chatting. I don't allow myself to get involved too deeply before physically meeting.
I learned that the hard way, but it was a very valuable lesson.
Binderdundat, I have noticed time and again that we both have the same meeting philosophy and attitude. Working pretty good for me so far, as I hope it is you as well.
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| 3/27/2009 5:28:20 PM |
Is everyone else as nervous about meeting people as I am? |
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darbie1959
Oshawa, ON
56, joined Nov. 2008
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I am not neverious as far as fear goes. I like to just chill and enjoy the other person company. I love to meet new people. If you meet with no expectations and no alterior motive then just be you as yo would around your other friends. Pretend your in the line up at the grocery store talking to the person infront or hehind you.
Relax its is supose to be fun. There will always be people that like you and people that dislike you. If you cick good if not it is not met to be it is not that your not a good person your just not there one.
Does a date mean he or she has to be "the one" cant you just be 2 people sharing, talking.
Might help if you dont look at it as a potential boy friend let it just happen.
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| 3/27/2009 5:35:05 PM |
Is everyone else as nervous about meeting people as I am? |
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1dizzygirl
Gettysburg, PA
25, joined Oct. 2008
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first off, be confident. Secound, relax. Being able to laugh with a potential is always important. If all else fails and you're a ditz like me ( meaning you accidently hit him in the ---- or something, just giggle, apologize , and tell him you're a little nervous. Try not tensing up, chill out. And things should go smoothly from there, ...if not,...I say ditch him!
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| 3/27/2009 7:35:15 PM |
Is everyone else as nervous about meeting people as I am? |
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jaguarmike
Panama City, FL
54, joined Jan. 2009
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first off, be confident. Secound, relax. Being able to laugh with a potential is always important. If all else fails and you're a ditz like me ( meaning you accidently hit him in the ---- or something, just giggle, apologize , and tell him you're a little nervous. Try not tensing up, chill out. And things should go smoothly from there, ...if not,...I say ditch him!
For an 18 yo girl you sound like you have your stuff together very well.
I like it when I read intelligence on here from the very young. I have no doubt you will do very well.
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| 3/27/2009 7:54:20 PM |
Is everyone else as nervous about meeting people as I am? |
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1dizzygirl
Gettysburg, PA
25, joined Oct. 2008
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For an 18 yo girl you sound like you have your stuff together very well.
I like it when I read intelligence on here from the very young. I have no doubt you will do very well.
Thanks  I used to be shy AND ditzy, ( check out some of my discussions!) but one day I realized whats 1 person out of 5 billion? Sure, I care what people think of me, but you don't get anywhere at all thinking everyone's opinion of you is life threatening!
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