| 3/27/2009 11:27:12 AM |
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rebelchick50
Winnsboro, LA
age: 49
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and most of them does not live to tell about it. many cops are killed by responding to domestic violence calls. and most restraining orders do not help. so how can we help stop this deadly crime? all opinions are welcome!
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| 3/27/2009 11:27:45 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 36
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Lack of willpower and self-confidence.
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| 3/27/2009 11:29:43 AM |
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ilvstlrs2
New Church, VA
age: 38
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FEAR
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| 3/27/2009 11:30:17 AM |
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msbevzie
Oregon, OH
age: 45
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Well I wish I knew my friend had her hubby restrained and busted her butt to get everything and anything on him...I hope its working I'm awaiting the news, court was today! PLEASE dear God don't let this viscious man out...
FEAR and its paralizing BUT thank God there are domestic violence centers a person can go to and they do help...its scary BUT...
[Edited 3/27/2009 11:31:46 AM PST]
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| 3/27/2009 11:41:06 AM |
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cocopuffs375
Suffern, NY
age: 22 online now!
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Agree with everyone above me...some are just so beaten down..they have no heart or spirit left...so goes the saying you can never break my spirit.....JMO
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| 3/27/2009 11:43:03 AM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 36
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FEAR
So I guess when you women say "I want a big tall strong man so I feel safe" it sometimes kinda backfires on ya, eh?
That's why short men are awesome.. like yer gonna wait for me to get a step ladder so I can slap you around?
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| 3/27/2009 11:54:33 AM |
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k_tothe_c
Las Vegas, NV
age: 39
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Ummmmmmm, ignorance???
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| 3/27/2009 6:18:20 PM |
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groomerdb
New Alexandria, PA
age: 50
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I think its a comfort zone that they have adjusted to living with. They know how to deal with the abuse not the outside world.
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| 3/27/2009 7:06:11 PM |
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azrael4h
Arlington, TN
age: 25
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I wish I knew. I have a friend who in the entire time I've known her has dealt with the same bad situation. He doesn't beat her at least, just psychologically. But she won't leave him.
I doubt it's one catch all cause either. It's never something simple.
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| 3/28/2009 2:00:47 AM |
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gun82
Paris, TX
age: 26
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Fear has got to be the main thing. Theres been many women I have met that stay because they are afraid that if they leave he will hunt them down and hurt them or kill them. so they stay with him and deal with it. kinda crazy but its the animal instinct in us that tells us not to go.
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| 3/28/2009 2:23:51 AM |
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sunfish51
Delevan, NY
age: 52
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Usually they come from abusive homes growing up & to them abuse is thier norm or the abuser is very dominante & with time needs to control the other into non existence. No self esteem/confidence or self worth. The abuser has beaten the other down to nothing & has that person believing they are worthless with no one who cares nor wants them other than the abuser. A hard situation to understand unless you've lived it & a harder one to escape with some kind of self existence to continue living 
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| 3/28/2009 2:34:16 AM |
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stormygrl
Casa Grande, AZ
age: 42
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I'm a domestic violence advocate....it's easy for people to judge and say "they are just stupid" well I see it all and the reasons vary for each person....some it's all they have known there whole life and the cycle continues...until they seek help and counseling it will continue. It's sad to see but also very uplifting to see results from the women who gain control of their life and themselves again and go on to live a violence free life. It's easy to judge if you know nothing about the real reasons this happens...I'm just glad to be able to be a part of helping them find a real life again!
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| 3/28/2009 2:40:22 AM |
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sunfish51
Delevan, NY
age: 52
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Stormy...Thank you 
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| 3/28/2009 2:44:18 AM |
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happyface46
Palm City, FL
age: 46
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Nobody does anything until it is too late.
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| 3/28/2009 2:45:25 AM |
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atrueheart4u
Funkstown, MD
age: 53
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I cant speak for all of them but being in a relationship were I abused on a daily bases sometimes you are convinced by the abuser that you are to blame for it all. I was at a very low point in my life. Just divorced, my sons by choice went to live with their father and had just lost a very good job due to down sizing. This man, a lawyer, very high powered lawyer came into my life and promised all my troubles would go away. We dated more than a year and he was great to me. He was so good to me that when I told my friends after the marriage how he was treating me none of them believed me. He totally convinced my friends and me that I was the one harming myself. That I was having delusions, blackouts my friends thought I had lost my mind and to tell you the truth I was beginning to believe it also. He totally controled me told what I could and couldnt do. He even told me who I could spend time with. Then one day in front of my best friend he made the mistake of showing his true self, from that day on there was never a question by my friends as to what was happening. She took me from that house that day and I never went back. You dont fight the law in his case he had everyone on his side I learned not to fight in the law but stand up for myself and hit back with most of the same words he used on me. I couldnt have done any of this though if not for one very strong and special friend he was there for me when I needed support and even though he and I couldnt make it as a couple we remain very good friends and when my weakness starts to appear again he is the one who always stands me upright again.
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