Unhappily married

4/18/2009 3:00:36 AM	Unhappily married
mstrfixit4u Holmdel, NJ 54, joined Feb. 2009	What is a unhappily married man to do for passion? Meet singles at DateHookup.dating, we're 100% free! Join now!
4/18/2009 3:03:52 AM	Unhappily married
3asygoing Dearborn, MI 47, joined Mar. 2009	get a divorce or fix whats wrong oh yeah and stop fricking whining [Edited 4/18/2009 3:04:21 AM ]
4/18/2009 5:47:50 AM	Unhappily married
wolfkeeper Holland, MI 54, joined Feb. 2008	Maybe he should ask his unhappily married wife what she does?
4/18/2009 5:48:52 AM	Unhappily married
stormygrl Denver, CO 49, joined Aug. 2007	divorce?
4/18/2009 6:03:01 AM	Unhappily married
quitesassy Massillon, OH 45, joined Feb. 2009	I kept away from your threads cause I'm big on - if you don't have anything nice to day, then don't say anything. But, I am not sure what you are seeking....and you are driving me batty. Is it? A woman on the side? Someone to validate your reasons for cheating? Someone to magically fix what is wrong? Staying in a marriage for your children is not helping them (regarding your other thread). What are they seeing when you and your wife interact? From the way you talk, that can't possibly be positive for them. Why don't you come to some sort of agreement with your wife in regards to your children, get divorced and work on yourself and your attitude. You married this woman for a reason - have you ever stopped to think how she feels? Is she just as miserable as you are?
4/18/2009 6:05:38 AM	Unhappily married
mindovermatter6 Waterford, MI 55, joined Nov. 2008	Sorry about the unhappily ever after part, divorce is not always the best way to resolve the problem, take my word! Ask your unhappily married wife! Now thats funny Ya know when two people are in it for the long haul, your going to run into down times, where your not talking and getting along. Passion doesen't have to involve sex and intimacy.. Maybe you should sit down with your partner and suggest going out and doing something different. Mid life crisis is a drag, but it does not mean you have to end your relationship with your spouse. What were your passions before you were married, boating, fishing, concerts, working on cars? Do it alone, if you invited your spouse and they don't want to go. Sometimes, the people have to separate for a time to get to know what they are missing in the relationship. Only you can make yourself happy... and if your happy your spouse will be happy too. If you feel comfort with this partner, sometimes we just get too comfortable and the days just seem to fly by without much attention... Yet its up to the both of you, to put your best foot's forward, make the best of your situation, or leave the situtation. Remember the grass always looks greener in anothers yard sometimes, but if you look closer you will find a few weeds, that crab grass, and a few dandilions... I think more people should tend to their own grass, relationships do take work! JMO Mindovermatter
4/18/2009 6:29:24 AM	Unhappily married
downanotch Old Lyme, CT 58, joined Apr. 2009	Quote from wolfkeeper: Maybe he should ask his unhappily married wife what she does? Good one.
4/18/2009 6:45:59 AM	Unhappily married
yourfriendbob Fayette, OH 61, joined Oct. 2008
4/18/2009 6:58:29 AM	Unhappily married
belindab Lexington, KY 53, joined Dec. 2008	If you are unhappy in your marriage then get out of it. There is know reason to stay in a unhappy relationship I know because I did it for many years and I come to learn life is to short to waste even one minute of it. So end it and find someone that does make you happy.
4/18/2009 7:12:35 AM	Unhappily married
sacred78 Nashville, TN 37, joined Mar. 2009	First, the unhappy man needs to realize it is not the marriage that is supposed to make you happy. Next, the unhappy man needs to figure out why he is unhappy. Then, the unhappy man should apologize to his family (if he has one) or spouse for being Mr. Grumpy Pants. It is no one's responsibility to secure your happiness. It is your responsibility to create your own happiness within the bounds of marriage; maybe I should say, "do not get mad but glad" (Great saying from that Glad commerical)! This would definitely cause major problems in the relationship. I would even venture to say that you are reacting with your emotions rather than on logic. If you do, this causes serious damage to the relationship. Also, if I was in your shoes, I would seek professional marital counseling...I am talking about a psychologist not a social worker. There is NOTHING wrong with getting counseling. In fact, they go through rigorous training, and can give insights that no one else has, as well as the appropriate actions to take in life and marriage...These things we would NEVER come up with on our own. IT IS OF MY OPINION THAT A MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT TERMINATE BASED UPON SOMEONE'S UNHAPPINESS...NOT GOOD ENOUGH REASON.... By the way, once you get the issues of why you are unhappy settled, then you should consider the things that first attracted you to her...and start back at that. Perhaps, your heart went pitter-patt when she would get her hair done. Maybe, it was when you went out on dates. Whatever you all did before, start doing it again. Sometimes, these little splurges are the best investments! Please do not assume you know everything about her. Let go of that thought process...it is destructive- Instead, bring some mystery back to the relationship. In fact, we can ONLY change ourselves in this life. The more we change in positive ways, the better off we become. Good-luck to you! *Some of this information is not of my own thinking...Therefore, I do not want to claim it as mine...It came from Dr. James Dobson as well as Dr. Norm Henry.
4/18/2009 7:16:05 AM	Unhappily married
noob_online San Diego, CA 58, joined Jan. 2009	Why unhappy? - Serious issues: drugs, booze, financial irresponsibility, cheating , real mental problems, etc. If its these serious problems DIVORCE. The sooner the better. Lack of compassion and "niceness". Why is it we can politley say Thanks to the 7-11 clerk and treat our families like shit? A little counseling might work. Lack of Romance - try a single rose on a friday night. That says it all and is cheap for the truly tight wad. Try that for 2 weekends in a row. See what she says on the third. "Where's my rose, a**hole?" or "I don't have a thing to wear, so I won't wear anything!" If you don't give a care about the relationship but want to stay married. Porno and NASCAR can be your friends.
4/18/2009 7:22:08 AM	Unhappily married
sacred78 Nashville, TN 37, joined Mar. 2009	RIGHT ON, NOOB_ONLINE!!!
4/18/2009 7:25:39 AM	Unhappily married
mismatch Knoxville, TN 59, joined Feb. 2009	i cannot speak for anyone but myself here but if a man treats me in a loving and respectful manner then there WILL BE sex... (i need to add, if we're in a relationship, not in a random email on DH, ) look at your own self and figure out what you are doing wrong...no sex is usually a sign of more serious issues.. there's an excellent book called Passionate Marriage if you truly want to explore whats going wrong in your marriage...if you are seeking permission to cheat on your wife, i won't be giving it to you...fix the problem or get out of the marriage... [Edited 4/18/2009 7:27:28 AM ]
4/18/2009 7:36:24 AM	Unhappily married
yourfriendbob Fayette, OH 61, joined Oct. 2008	Quote from sacred78: First, the unhappy man needs to realize it is not the marriage that is supposed to make you happy. Next, the unhappy man needs to figure out why he is unhappy. Then, the unhappy man should apologize to his family (if he has one) or spouse for being Mr. Grumpy Pants. It is no one's responsibility to secure your happiness. It is your responsibility to create your own happiness within the bounds of marriage; maybe I should say, "do not get mad but glad" (Great saying from that Glad commerical)! This would definitely cause major problems in the relationship. I would even venture to say that you are reacting with your emotions rather than on logic. If you do, this causes serious damage to the relationship. Also, if I was in your shoes, I would seek professional marital counseling...I am talking about a psychologist not a social worker. There is NOTHING wrong with getting counseling. In fact, they go through rigorous training, and can give insights that no one else has, as well as the appropriate actions to take in life and marriage...These things we would NEVER come up with on our own. IT IS OF MY OPINION THAT A MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT TERMINATE BASED UPON SOMEONE'S UNHAPPINESS...NOT GOOD ENOUGH REASON.... By the way, once you get the issues of why you are unhappy settled, then you should consider the things that first attracted you to her...and start back at that. Perhaps, your heart went pitter-patt when she would get her hair done. Maybe, it was when you went out on dates. Whatever you all did before, start doing it again. Sometimes, these little splurges are the best investments! Please do not assume you know everything about her. Let go of that thought process...it is destructive- Instead, bring some mystery back to the relationship. In fact, we can ONLY change ourselves in this life. The more we change in positive ways, the better off we become. Good-luck to you! Some of this information is not of my own thinking...Therefore, I do not want to claim it as mine...It came from Dr. James Dobson as well as Dr. Norm Henry. That is probably the nicest case made for NOT getting divorced that I've seen in a while. I might almost say...sweet. However, sometimes after years upon years of never ceasing, almost ritual abuse, psychosis, and character assassination, it's no longer a choice between..... Divorce or "Mr. Grumpy Pants"* but rather a choice between... Divorce or "Mrs. Head Buried in a Gym Bag in the Back Yard" So, as bad as divorce may be, it beats that....
4/18/2009 7:55:01 AM	Unhappily married
sacred78 Nashville, TN 37, joined Mar. 2009	Yourfriendbob, I would like to say that I agree with what you said 100%. There are valid reasons for terminating a marriage. One example would be if someone was living in abuse. No one should stay in that kind of marriage. However, a person should not divorce, because it does not feel good anymore...
4/18/2009 9:32:37 AM	Unhappily married
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE 57, joined Nov. 2007	does the word passion = sex?
4/18/2009 9:39:15 AM	Unhappily married
msbevzie Oregon, OH 52, joined Aug. 2008	YOU need to stop making excuses using the children, and go file for a divorce... Be alone for awhile, then search for passion... NO one well at least I don't want a married man...
4/18/2009 9:42:43 AM	Unhappily married
___sea___ Mesa, AZ 63, joined Apr. 2009	What sacred said.....Couldn't have said it any better.....Good Job........Sea
4/18/2009 9:45:08 AM	Unhappily married
happylisa Broken Arrow, OK 49, joined Jan. 2009	Watch the movie Fireproof and if that doesnt help, file for divorce, kids or no kids! Im not sure why people think they are doing the kids a favor if they continue staying married even though the marriage is over. Hmm..maybe another thread.
4/18/2009 9:47:03 AM	Unhappily married
safetyglrl Syracuse, UT 56, joined Oct. 2008	Maybe if you stopped dwelling on your unhappiness and did something about creating an environment where happiness can thrive - you might be happier? So many people look outside of their relationship when faced with difficulties (I know about your child). Get back to the basics. What drew you to your wife and she to you in the first place? How have you changed to change that? Change back.
4/18/2009 10:03:18 AM	Unhappily married
goddess56 Tulsa, OK 66, joined Jun. 2006	I read the OP's post about his children, and I do understand his desire to not walk away from the marriage. What's wrong with acknowledging responsibility to one's children? We bring them into this world, and our main responsibility is to make sure they reach a mentally healthy adulthood. But, OP, being unhappy doesn't give you carte blanche to cheat on your wife. Passion? That's an emotion. We don't control more than 10% of what happens to us, but we can choose which emotions we feel and which ones we act upon. Where does character fit into this? Get off the dating sites, quit looking around to see what's "better" out there, and get some counseling as sacred suggested. I would guess than more than half of us on DH would have tried harder if our partners had been willing to try.
4/18/2009 10:08:28 AM	Unhappily married
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE 57, joined Nov. 2007	yep the Op needs to talk with His Wife first Then the two of them can decide what is best...who knows maybe she wants to give up,maybe she doesnt but damn...TALK with one another about it maybe you both can find a way to make it work..and if not then go for the divorce Do not just give up without trying I just read another thread of yours you posted: Quote from mstrfixit4u: So many of us chat about friends with benefits...my last post we discussed...friends and lovers...I guess what I was wondering is there another twist in this human connection.Please give me your opinion of the following questions. Is it socially acceptable today to have sex buddies? Do you keep this relationship discrete? How did you start yours? Now isnt this funny..you're looking for some sex as a married man!!cant fool me or many here..You are way to obvious [Edited 4/18/2009 10:11:45 AM ]
4/18/2009 10:26:57 AM	Unhappily married
tallbevfrompa Pittsburgh, PA 57, joined Sep. 2008	Quote from mstrfixit4u: What is a unhappily married man to do for passion? Read "Love Is A Decision" by Gary Smalley and John Trent. The passion may just be buried...waitng for you to rediscover it.
4/18/2009 10:37:46 AM	Unhappily married
canadiangurl Moose Jaw, SK 45, joined Apr. 2009	Perhaps try asking his wife this question instead of joining a dating site?
4/18/2009 11:23:25 AM	Unhappily married
mdd3rd Miamisburg, OH 44, joined Mar. 2009	poor pitiful you, if you spent as much time with your wife , as you do here, maybe you could resolve your passion problems, plenty of relationship programs out their that can help rekindle your marriage.if your not willing to try, then do both of you a favor and get a divorce.
4/18/2009 11:38:56 AM	Unhappily married
scuffer Saint Paul, MN 55, joined Sep. 2008	grow up....suck it up....be a man about it....divorce..or work it out....the poor men never get enough attention....you ever stop to wonder why??? theres a reason your wife is backing off from you....figure it out....im sure once you start treating her right...things will change.....
4/18/2009 12:16:50 PM	Unhappily married
sacred78 Nashville, TN 37, joined Mar. 2009	Tallbevfrompa, GREAT BOOK!!!
4/18/2009 12:18:47 PM	Unhappily married
in_doubtalishis Beaumont, CA 40, joined Oct. 2008	um that sucks if your married and on a dating site. No wonder your woman gives you no passion. She knows what a jerk you are. Who wants to be passionate with a cheater?
4/18/2009 12:26:40 PM	Unhappily married
serenity0515 Mesquite, TX 41, joined Mar. 2008	If your unhappily married, GET DIVORCED!!! Why do people think you have to stay married when not happy? I know way too many people in so called stuck marriages and are very unhappily married!! Its very sad!! Marco?
4/18/2009 12:34:19 PM	Unhappily married
susansheart839 Port Saint Lucie, FL 68, joined Mar. 2008	Quote from mstrfixit4u: What is a unhappily married man to do for passion? You know, OP, you are either the most ignorant, selfish man I have ever met or half your brain was missing at birth. You have a wife and two children, one of whom you have expressed is seriously ill. Do you think coming here asking for pity fks is gonna make us feel sorry for you? Hell to the NOOOOOOOOO. Now go back to your long suffering wife (who, by the way, deserves much better than you) and tell her what an ahole you've been and beg for mercy before she shows you how miserable you CAN be during the drawn out divorce proceedings where she takes you for every nickel she can get. There...I feel better now.
4/18/2009 12:41:40 PM	Unhappily married
3asygoing Dearborn, MI 47, joined Mar. 2009	A real man , not a bs movie character will be there for his kids. he will also be there for his wife. To just jump out of something like this isnt right imo. Your suffering how about your FAMILY!! I know in my first post I wrote divorce and why did I , so you the down troden pain suffering little child who cant take it anymore can get the hell away from the family and let them be happy. Being a husband and Daddy are priviliges , no more important jobs on hte planet then mom and dad. So Run if you want or see that the pain your in is only part of the whole familys pain. Now stand the f**k up and lead your family instead of posting threads on a dating sight whining about passion. To get passion you must have passion, I pray for your children because I think you havnt for a while.
4/18/2009 12:59:30 PM	Unhappily married
wsprs0nthewind Powell, TN 51, joined Mar. 2009	Same answer as on your other thread. You get out of the relationship or you're a cheat.
4/18/2009 1:16:44 PM	Unhappily married
klutterbuck Jonesboro, AR 69, joined Feb. 2009	Here is a way to reduce the number of unhappy marriages in years to come. First all males get a, reversible, medical procedure at puberty to make them incapable of becoming fathers. They can practice all that they want, preferably with a partner of the opposite sex. Since there will be no children produced to be the victims of the immature actions of supposed adults, there is no need for a wedding license, or the expensive, showers and ceremony for that matter. You can start honeymoon practice as soon as you meet. You will be doing your friends and relatives a favor by sparing them the expense of wedding gifts. Also they won’t have to put up with years of “she/he done me wrong stories”. You just sign a 30 day, renewable. Lease with each other, agreeing to be monogamous for 30 days. If at the end of that time, you still getting along, renew the lease. If you are not 100% happy, bail now and look for someone else. No point in wasting YOUR valuable “happy time” trying to work out problems. If you can’t be faithful for 30 days, a marriage license wouldn’t have controlled your urge to wander. (Similar to trading the car in when the ash tray is full) After all, YOU are entitled to passion and romance whenever YOU want it. After all, this all about YOU and YOUR happiness!!!!! This would save millions of dollars a year on marriage counseling and divorce lawyers fees. That’s a lot more money and time that you would have to ENJOY YOURSELF. Under the renewable lease plan each party keeps whatever they brought into the relationship and each pays half of whatever is spent during the relationship. Surely you don’t expect the guy to pay for everything! (gold digging hussies) After 48 consecutive renewals, THEN you can apply to have the male’s medical procedure reversed and NOW, start having kids. It’s also part of our governments cost cutting program. Just think how many less women and children we would have on welfare under this plan. It would also help our growing overpopulation problem. Happy trails. (RELAX, this was meant to be a satirical rendition)
4/18/2009 1:48:32 PM	Unhappily married
earldirt Tulsa, OK 69, joined Mar. 2008	Sometimes the best thing you will ever have is what you threw away,without knowing her side of the story no one can answer your questions.if your the one who is unhappy and she wants to save the marriage but you don't,then give her what she deserves,the right to happiness after the pain of being rid of you,if she's the one who has irreconcilable differences to put you in this situation and there's no hope of reconciling after you tried your best,you deserve the right to happiness,but only after all hope is gone and you are free from your vows. I'm sure you've already ran all this through your head where it applies but you really are in the wrong place at the wrong time on here,no woman here will touch you,your shopping for Bikinies in the Bridal store so to speak. I guess the name of this site could be a bit misconstrued by some...Date and hook up. I don't mean to be curt or brash with you,just honest from my point of view in a world wide forum that you presented yourself to for opinion.the same as I am doing.
4/18/2009 3:26:29 PM	Unhappily married
foxy_woman_49 Omaha, NE 57, joined Nov. 2007	Quote from susansheart839: You know, OP, you are either the most ignorant, selfish man I have ever met or half your brain was missing at birth. You have a wife and two children, one of whom you have expressed is seriously ill. Do you think coming here asking for pity fks is gonna make us feel sorry for you? Hell to the NOOOOOOOOO. Now go back to your long suffering wife (who, by the way, deserves much better than you) and tell her what an ahole you've been and beg for mercy before she shows you how miserable you CAN be during the drawn out divorce proceedings where she takes you for every nickel she can get. There...I feel better now. You tell him susan..I feel better too
4/18/2009 5:22:30 PM	Unhappily married
goddess56 Tulsa, OK 66, joined Jun. 2006	Quote from earldirt: Sometimes the best thing you will ever have is what you threw away,without knowing her side of the story no one can answer your questions.if your the one who is unhappy and she wants to save the marriage but you don't,then give her what she deserves,the right to happiness after the pain of being rid of you,if she's the one who has irreconcilable differences to put you in this situation and there's no hope of reconciling after you tried your best,you deserve the right to happiness,but only after all hope is gone and you are free from your vows. I'm sure you've already ran all this through your head where it applies but you really are in the wrong place at the wrong time on here,no woman here will touch you,your shopping for Bikinies in the Bridal store so to speak. I guess the name of this site could be a bit misconstrued by some...Date and hook up. I don't mean to be curt or brash with you,just honest from my point of view in a world wide forum that you presented yourself to for opinion.the same as I am doing.
4/19/2009 12:54:59 AM	Unhappily married
joshypoo9 Glendale, CA 44, joined Feb. 2009	Quote from serenity0515: If your unhappily married, GET DIVORCED!!! Why do people think you have to stay married when not happy? I know way too many people in so called stuck marriages and are very unhappily married!! Its very sad!! Marco? That seems to be the norm nowadays: "Let me stay in my unhealthy/unhappy/boring/unfulfilled marriage, rather than get a DIVORCE" why? because of the children, or afraid to lose all of your shit in the divorce,many other probems. Simple answer: dont get married. If you do, make sure it's someone you're willing to spend the rest of your life with, see how easy that is?
4/19/2009 2:47:19 AM	Unhappily married
th6231 Point Pleasant Beach, NJ 68, joined Jul. 2007	Can you expound a bit about why you are unhappily married and why you think you are lacking passion?? How can anyone try to comment without better hints on whats wrong up there in good old Monmouth County. How about passionately trying to make yourself happy?? Work at it. I'm guessing you have a crummy relationship and there is not much heated activity going on. Well--its dull because BOTH of you let it get dull. You won't find much passion from a temporary source. You better fix the problems that you have now--with the person that you should be having fun with. Why can't you get out of the unhappiness? Why stay?? Its your decision. All this is totally speculation because I don't quite see what you mean.
4/19/2009 9:16:55 AM	Unhappily married
goodgato Fort Lauderdale, FL 51, joined Feb. 2009	Get a divorce if you're unhappy and stop staying choosing to stay stuck (for whatever saintly reason) in your own negative quagmire of misery. Life is short. Live consciously, make decisions that work.
4/19/2009 9:19:05 AM	Unhappily married
beu24 Virginia Beach, VA 56, joined May. 2008	Find out why you are unhappy. Get a divorce.
4/19/2009 5:29:42 PM	Unhappily married
mstrfixit4u Holmdel, NJ 54, joined Feb. 2009	Do any of you have a child that has a life threatening illness? Do any of you live with that fear that one day that child may not wake up? This is why I stay in this marriage I could never walk away from a child that has a catostrophic illness....my love life can hang in limbo for alittle while...I am just looking for the future....Unless you live it ..it must be hard to imagine! [Edited 4/19/2009 5:30:11 PM ]
4/19/2009 5:35:40 PM	Unhappily married
goodgato Fort Lauderdale, FL 51, joined Feb. 2009	Quote from wsprs0nthewind: Same answer as on your other thread. You get out of the relationship or you're a cheat. Yeppers!
4/19/2009 5:42:39 PM	Unhappily married
firstlight Strasburg, VA 55, joined Feb. 2008	Quote from mstrfixit4u: Do any of you have a child that has a life threatening illness? Do any of you live with that fear that one day that child may not wake up? This is why I stay in this marriage I could never walk away from a child that has a catostrophic illness....my love life can hang in limbo for alittle while...I am just looking for the future....Unless you live it ..it must be hard to imagine! I am truly sorry for your predicament, for your family and for your child. It does not excuse your behavior. It's selfish all the way around. Your wife is probably in pain too and might appreciate a husband who spent more of his time caring about her than he does about trying to find "something for the future" on an internet dating sight. Any woman what would be come involved with you would be a desperate, adulterous, fool.
4/19/2009 5:53:17 PM	Unhappily married
arkbb Jacksonville, AR 58, joined Mar. 2009	Married is married. Whatever thoughts you have in your mind about attracting another woman ... use them on your wife. At some point, you were incredibly attracted to one another. You have a history together that nobody else will be able to duplicate. Would you take a potential date from this site roses? Would you take her on a date, maybe to dinner? Get a baby-sitter and do that with your wife. Pretend you love her and see what develops -- deep down, I bet the feelings can be rekindled. That cannot happen if you are browsing women online. It takes an incredible amount of effort to keep a relationship alive - particularly when there is a special needs child involved. I suspect your wife feels as exhausted and unfulfilled as you. Communication has to be opened, in a caring (NOT accusatory) manner, respecting each other's needs. Start slowly ... again, as you would with another potential mate. You wouldn't jump right into something, so maybe begin with a little note in her purse or in her car, an "I love you" or "I am thinking about you today and hoping you are alright." Work into other surprises. Have you taken the time to know your wife's love language? Different gestures are important for different people. Maybe you can take the time to read the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. Learn how to express commitment in a way meaningful to your wife. Here's the bottom line - most of us are on this site because we did eventually take the divorce route (mine after 20 years) ... for whatever valid reason. It is questionable whether we are the ones you should be asking for advice. We each have our own perspective of what constitutes the end of the marriage. Consider each input to be tainted with that person's experiences - which may or may not be similar to yours. I encourage you to also get some input from those who have been successful for 30 or more years - maybe your parents, respected friends, someone you trust with your secret frustrations. Best wishes ~ I went back and edited this note because at first, it sounded as if I was saying. "I love you" to you. I care, but geez, don't even know you. I just seem to need to put my 2 cents worth in -- I was the wife whose husband chose to go elsewhere, rather than to counseling. THAT made me say, "The end." [Edited 4/19/2009 5:58:59 PM ]
4/19/2009 11:37:44 PM	Unhappily married
whtdimond Amory, MS 49, joined Feb. 2009	Unhappily married, there is alot of that going around. Talk to your wife and tell her how much you love her,(you do still love her). Being in a unhappy marriage might not be what's best for your child.
4/19/2009 11:50:28 PM	Unhappily married
th6231 Point Pleasant Beach, NJ 68, joined Jul. 2007	Ok--you should have added the details in the beginning--and I will start off by saying I am sorry to hear about the family situation--BUT--now pay attention--when it comes to a child or children--and it also involves illness, or special needs---your entire life is about them--NOT YOU and YOUR PASSION PROBLEM. We are all given what we can handle--you aren't given anything that is impossible to control. Your child will be the center of your attention. Not passion--not physical love--not anything---the child is the thing you focus on. Sorry about your situation--but I will not give this topic another thought. I will wish you the best with this.
4/20/2009 12:12:24 AM	Unhappily married
joshypoo9 Glendale, CA 44, joined Feb. 2009	Quote from goodgato: Get a divorce if you're unhappy and stop staying choosing to stay stuck (for whatever saintly reason) in your own negative quagmire of misery. Life is short. Live consciously, make decisions that work. Bingo!!! We have a winner! Simple really: if you're unhappy for any reason: get a divorce. makes things easier on EVERYONE.
4/20/2009 12:39:10 AM	Unhappily married
hotnstinky Diablo, CA 45, joined Dec. 2008	why stay married if your unhappy. That is the dumbest thing anyone can do.. I wasted 10 years of my life being married to a person that i wasnt happy with..If i could go back in time , i would have divorced him as soon as i felt it.You should get a divorce and find someone to be happy with.Then you will find passion! [Edited 4/20/2009 12:39:53 AM ]
4/20/2009 6:50:23 AM	Unhappily married
jajasun Denton, TX 49, joined Jul. 2008	Quote from canadiangurl: Perhaps try asking his wife this question instead of joining a dating site? Sometimes the answer is right in front of you !
4/20/2009 7:41:06 AM	Unhappily married
babs218 Brick, NJ 62, joined Nov. 2007	well you do not come on a singles sight looking for sex if you don't want to get a divorce then do what you should be doing get a blow up doll or use your hand post script ....you make me sick i have flagged your profile the child is an excuse...sorry you don't get my sympathy vote you can still be a father if you are divorced and stop sending me your winks and viewing my profile i am not interested in cheating lieing dogs i have a real man something you would know nothing about in new jersey ..it's called WHITE TRASH..........BTW and just to let everyone here know..holmdel n.j reaks of money so that is no excuse..you have the dough you just divide it up if this is in fact a real profile???? which i have my doubts is a cheating husband going to put all kind of pics of where he lives ..his boats..his yard ..his house inside and out and his buisiness address on a singles sight???????I DOUBT IT or you really are a flagrant low life cheater??????? you don't seem to be that desperate for work or are you that plain stupid???????????????????????? btw..dh is not a place to advertise your buisiness either against trhe rules and it has been flagged as well what i say fake profile.................TROLL ALERT..................... [Edited 4/20/2009 8:08:55 AM ]
4/20/2009 8:31:21 AM	Unhappily married
wolfi Albuquerque, NM 50, joined Jan. 2008	Quote from mstrfixit4u: What is a unhappily married man to do for passion? Hookers/call girls/Playboy/'Chat' sites, etc.
4/20/2009 9:09:18 AM	Unhappily married
pike_co_rfd Keokuk, IA 60, joined Jan. 2009	Quote from mstrfixit4u: Do any of you have a child that has a life threatening illness? Do any of you live with that fear that one day that child may not wake up? This is why I stay in this marriage I could never walk away from a child that has a catostrophic illness....my love life can hang in limbo for alittle while...I am just looking for the future....Unless you live it ..it must be hard to imagine! Excuses to cheat are like a**holes... Everyones got one..... Sure glad your not my husband, or I'd be playing the Lorana Bobbit act.....

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