| 11/24/2007 2:53:26 PM |
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lynn456
Martinsburg, WV
age: 38
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i have that problem of not talking about my feelings ,i never heard my dad tell my mother he loved her.they have been married 32 years .i think i seem to feel it isnt manly because my father never told my mom.but i learned from my failed relationships i should have told how i felt.
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| 11/24/2007 2:53:54 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22 online now!
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actually I am not shy at all....I will talk to anyone.
but when I have feelings for someone it freaks me out cuz I dont know how to say them and scared to let them be known for the fear of being weak instead of strong
I usually keep people at a distance and dont get to invovled because of this.
see I really dont know where this comes from because my family is very close and always talks about feelings and whatever and I can if I fully trust you and know that what I say cant hurt me, but other than that its hard.
The only person that I have let that close to me outside of family is my ex and father of my children...and of course it didnt work out. I told him my feelings all the time but he said I didnt express them enough...who knows im just bad at it I guess.
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| 11/24/2007 2:58:23 PM |
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v2_1
McHenry, IL
age: 44
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I didn't think you were shy! Brit, you've got a great personality. Sometimes it's hard to just be ourselves because we want someone to like us, but they're only gonna like us if we're ourselves. I hate like hell to bring up age, but it's true; as you get older, you'll care less about others opinions and be more comfortable just being yourself. Doesn't help much now, I know. Please just be yourself. Who you are is terrific!
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| 11/24/2007 3:00:20 PM |
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iron_ranger
Owatonna, MN
age: 40
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hey angel - you said it well too. when i have told people how i feel, i either find out that someone is not right for me or.... or it feels really nice to share with someone. either way - its good for me.
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| 11/24/2007 3:00:39 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22 online now!
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but see thats the thing....I dont care what other people think of me. but when its someone I really like then yes I do care and care about how its gonna affect me when I open up to them.
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| 11/24/2007 3:08:16 PM |
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v2_1
McHenry, IL
age: 44
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Brit, if you open up and show how you feel to someone and they react badly, you've learned something valuable. That person doesn't deserve you. Never be afraid to be real. It weeds out the idiots.
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| 11/24/2007 3:11:12 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22 online now!
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ok I will try....its really funny cuz I usually say what I want when I want but when it comes to feelings for a person then yeah I shy down!
But thanks to all of you, I will try my best to let people know from now on.....its just hard.
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| 11/24/2007 3:12:37 PM |
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iron_ranger
Owatonna, MN
age: 40
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whats the saying - there is nothing to fear but fear itself????
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| 11/24/2007 3:13:33 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22 online now!
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you are so right there iron!!! I fully agree
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| 11/24/2007 3:21:38 PM |
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skunkbreath
Saint James, MO
age: 52
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There are rules: Start slow!!!!..don't dump the whole enchilada on them with the first disclosure!!
Like, "you know, i don't hate you"....then try, "i think i might like you some"...If those don't send them a running, try , "I think i do like you"....
Now comes a dangerous transition!...working up from like to love..
maybe put it into the threatre of a dream, like, "i had a dream last night that i was thinking about you and how i loved to be around you"...see, the subtlty there...
well, if that flys, you can actually admit to , "loving to be around them"...make sure to put the emphisis on, "being around them.."
whatever you do don't say, "i love your hair"!!!!.. they will hear , I love YOU- , and terror will block out the "r" and what follows!!!!
just take it slow with expressing "feelings", untill the after the marriage ceremony,
then tell them whatever you feel.
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| 11/24/2007 6:28:34 PM |
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lattml
Hazleton, PA
age: 41
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Hey Brit. Your initial questions is one of the hardest things. You run the risk of saying too much or not saying enough. For what it's worth, it doesn't seem to me as though anyone 'won' anyone, if that's the right term, but not saying enough. Personally, I think it's better to open up.
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| 11/24/2007 7:13:39 PM |
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britbrit
Gloucester, MA
age: 22 online now!
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yeah but dont yall think that sometimes its better not to say anything and just let it go until you find out from them first? I mean especially if you want a friendship out of it at the least....
and not only do I have a hard time expressing myself for fear of being hurt but also because I dont explain things well LMAO
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| 11/24/2007 7:17:40 PM |
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1mt
Johnstown, PA
age: 53
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maybe brit but if you both do that you might just miss out on something very special. in 20 years from now when you see the other person and are talking and he or she say i wish i would have know back then how you felt because i felt the same way you have lost alot of precious time together
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| 11/24/2007 7:20:58 PM |
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mr_passion_2009
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
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brit iam still is i can talk about my feeling on here cause i know no one cares
but in person iam afraid so i know how you feel i don't like to get turn down and that part of life so i stay in my coner
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| 11/24/2007 7:32:02 PM |
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rer
Kennesaw, GA
age: 58
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Brit, if you don't say anything, you have created two problems. You are upset because you let it go by, and the other person does'nt know there is a problem. Take it from a quiet man, it will hurt you in the end, I know.
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