| 12/1/2007 5:31:37 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Whyyyyyyyy anyone would go clear across the state for sex is beyond me lol
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| 12/1/2007 5:36:49 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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I agree blu... stupidest thing I've ever heard..
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| 12/1/2007 5:37:29 PM |
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sebzalive1
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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I have friends like that, too tru. Internet friends since about 96 and I have met them in person. Things have changed with the internet since then.
If sex was what I was looking for, I wouldn't be on the internet, I would be out and I would find it... so I get a bit put off by those who think the only reason some are here is for that... like the winker who in first email called me sexy and told me to call him. Rolling eyes.. guess he was into shadows.. or more likely it didn't matter who responded as he thought all were here to have sex.. and not just with anyone, but with him. Pahleeeeese. 
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| 12/1/2007 5:37:36 PM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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I think that this is a little hypocritical if you ask me. I have seen people that posted in this thread talking in other threads about how we are here to support one another and stuff like that. Yet, you are saying if you are hurting over something going bad in a relationship that you should just deal with it on your own and not look for the support. That to me seems like bullshit. There isn't anyone on this site that hasn't said something that they wish they hadn't or when they were mad. Just like the real world. Why wouldn't you tell people that you are with someone and how much you like them..........do you not tell your friends that you are dating someone in the real world. Please..............this is just silly.
I for one am very outspoken and if someone takes me being honest about my feelings and venting them as childish then they can go pound sand. If me showing that I have emotions and that I can handle things badly at times makes someone rum from me then it is there loss. I don't believe that anyone in this thread has handled everything in their life with grace and maturity. If you say you have you are a liar. JMO
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| 12/1/2007 5:38:59 PM |
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sebzalive1
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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I don't think people should look for support in public. Nor do I think they should trash the other when things don't work out.
Just my view.
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| 12/1/2007 5:43:58 PM |
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arreis
Cottonwood, AZ
age: 46 online now!
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me4....
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| 12/1/2007 5:45:36 PM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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No, I don't think that they should trash others, but people do things when they are hurt and upset that they wouldn't normally do. Where should they look for support then? I have better friendships with a few people on this site than I do with anyone in my personal world. My point isn't to condone the trashing........my point is that everyone makes mistakes and does thing when they are hurt.
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| 12/1/2007 5:45:54 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Being here for support is great.. but some things are simply best done in emails to friends. Does that not make more sense? I understand how emotions can get so freaken riled and the hurt and betrayal be sooooo overwhelming that you just want to knock the hell out of that person! Trust me, been there! lol And the bad thing about it happening on the net is that the person who has caused such harm is often thousands of miles away and you don't have the opportunity to face them and say what you have to say to make the closure happen. And yes, we all have said things on here that we wished we hadn't. It's human! But... does it do any good to bring it out in the open is what I'm asking? I know that that is what we really want to do.. to just bash the hell out of another and its not that they may not deserve that! It's tough to be so pissed off but can't see the thing or person that is making us feel that way. And I wasn't pointing you out 4me. In fact, you never crossed my mind when I made this thread. From what I have read in your threads, you got burned in such a way that none of us should ever have to deal with. And your anger is justified.
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| 12/1/2007 5:48:12 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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What you say me4 is true...but what I was talking about is getting on here and fighting with each other in threads and calling each other names. That is a totally different issue than getting on here for support. I am all for seeking support (and giving it) when things go bad...but I am not for the name calling or just running someone down simply because a relationship didn't work out!!
And that's JMO!
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| 12/1/2007 5:48:14 PM |
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sebzalive1
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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I have stood by one who was hurting and I supported her as a matter of fact, I came back to dh FOR her. I also tried very hard to get her to discuss it off the forum with me or with others it didn't matter. She was like a spiraling fireball and it was not healthy nor was it helpful.
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| 12/1/2007 5:49:38 PM |
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sebzalive1
Sebastian, FL
age: 50
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Things said on the net are forever. Sometimes hurting people need to talk with friends privately.
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| 12/1/2007 5:57:10 PM |
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me4aminute
Rutland, IA
age: 34 online now!
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I didn't think you had Tru, I think it is a great post......I just think sometimes it is hard to act like an adult when the feelings are so over whelming. I know myself am guilty of this and have gone back and stated so in the thread. It is just not always so easy to keep a hold of your emotions when they are raging like that.
Happy Holidays to you Tru and everyone else.
I agree with the name calling and degrading people because they don't agree.........but again I have been guilty in the past......I have went back and read some of what was written by myself and others and can't believe that it was said. Some of us learn from it and try to improve............others just use it to find better ways to insult someone in the future.
[Edited 12/1/2007 6:00:52 PM]
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| 12/1/2007 6:00:36 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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Thanks me4 same to you girl. You handled your situatin a hell of alot better than I would have lol Whoever thinks that this is " just the net and words can't hurt and you can't get attached to someone you never met" just has not had it happen to them.. YET!
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| 12/1/2007 6:00:44 PM |
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heatherhoney
Middlesboro, KY
age: 50
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me4... I wasn't aware of you being hurt lately so I apologize...so my comment wasn't directed at you at all.
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| 12/1/2007 6:02:52 PM |
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trublu5ft2
Columbia, TN
age: 50 online now!
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"to find better ways to insult someone in the future." Hey, mebbe we can write a book.. nicer ways to insult LOL
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