| 4/6/2007 8:26:57 PM |
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lindsee
Olivet, MI
age: 44
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I had been married for 13 years. Recently divorced. I have dated a little. The games and the rules must have changed. Because it feels as if I missed a memo.
Prior to being married I thought I was hip and had a clue. Now I clueless in micjigan.
Any suggestions?
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| 4/6/2007 9:46:11 PM |
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craftygirl002
Tacoma, WA
age: 39
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I was married for 12 years...welcome to the clueless club 
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| 4/6/2007 10:06:53 PM |
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queenofhearts61
Seymour, IN
age: 62
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Haven't dated for 15 years so I know what you both mean. Seems like anything goes and sex means nothing. I'm totally lost maybe someone can give us the new rules. Kinda LOL?
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| 4/6/2007 10:40:52 PM |
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mammyof4
Erwin, TN
age: 49
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O.K. Here is the new rules.
Be yourself and if they don't want to play by your rules find one that will.
Well that's what I think anyways. hehehe
I really don't know either girls but I have been seeing a man I met online for a little while and either it is just him or the rules are still the same and I just happen to get one of the one's that goes by the old rules.
Keep looking and don't worry so much about the rules. If you run across the right one you two can make up your own rules. LOL
Hey one more thing, thanks for your support girls. I think you know what I'm referring to.
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| 4/7/2007 10:36:24 AM |
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chucky_t
Akron, IN
age: 60
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There are rules?....
Never seen that one coming.
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| 4/7/2007 10:54:23 AM |
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duckie1963
North York, ON
age: 45
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I'm in the clueless club too.... thats why I read the forums... Mammy you seem so wise. I always thought rules were for games though... but what you said makes sense
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| 4/7/2007 11:00:09 AM |
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sinfulcharming
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 41
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Welcome to the clueless club...I am your morderator Sin 
here goes for what it's worth.
Ahem....getting on his soapbox
So what if you are suddenly single because of divorce? Enter the dating arena slowly. Rule of thumb: At least six months or more.
"Or more?" you say. Yes! Six months or more!
When you cut your finger. It takes time for the wound to heal. If the sharp edge cuts to the bone, it may take longer. A thorough healing of a broken heart takes time too.
The biggest mistake that newly singles make is getting involved with someone else before the hurts of the past have healed.
When you are mature enough to accept responsibility for your share of the problems that caused your singleness, and if you have learn the lessons that past mistakes have presented, then perhaps beginning again can be looked upon as a good thing.
A survey reports that 56 percent of all singles are currently separated or divorced from a spouse. If you are suffering from the agony of the "Bitter-Ex" Syndrome beware of revealing your baggage especially on a first date. The effect it has on finding romance is devastating. Only reveal what is relevant to the relationship you are seeking.
By the way, dating someone who has a lot of baggage is high on the complaint list for both women and men.
Before you begin dating, think long and hard (no pun intended) about what you need from a relationship. The payoff is big. There is no Mr. or Ms. Right; no perfect mate. Relationships are something that must be worked on "all the time," not only when they are broken and need to be fixed. It is wise to seek a partner who understands this concept and who will commit to work on the relationship with you.
It may be wise to suspend your expectations about how a partner "should" be and instead focus on what you need from a relationship. When it becomes obvious that someone you are dating cannot fulfill your needs, it time to shout, "Next!" and move on. The sooner the better.
Romance often carries a high risk of disappointment, however those singles savvy enough to predefine their needs and who are willing to take the time to prepare for love will most assuredly find it.
As long as you make yourself available to having a relationship, when you are ready for love it will find you.
Are you someone who "you" might like to spend the rest of your life with?
~Sin
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| 4/7/2007 11:25:58 AM |
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suzeed
Denham Springs, LA
age: 49
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I, too have been out of the dating scene for awhile. What are the new rules? Certainly not like dating in the 70's when "if it felt good, it was OK to do it"! Now, if you live by those guidelines, you simply die for one night of pleasure. Its hard not to sound as though your looking for someone to settle down with but, if you are aware of what's out there, that seems to be what one should be searching for. Have I got it all wrong or what?
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| 4/7/2007 11:52:23 AM |
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sinfulcharming
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 41
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with the world going the way it is, you just can't be careful enough, the stories you read in the papers terrify you to death.
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| 4/7/2007 3:17:29 PM |
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jojo05301
Bellows Falls, VT
age: 41
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Sin: I don't know if anyone has said this to you yet, but from the clueless chat post of the other day to today's new rule post, you are full of wit and wisdom. Thanks!
and as to the what are the new rules: coming from a 12 year marriage then an 8 year relationship, if there are any rules, I haven't seen the book, so please let me know when Amazon.com has it on sale.
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| 4/7/2007 3:30:18 PM |
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wolfy9459
Dayton, OH
age: 46
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Seems to me that the rules change from person to person and some times day to day with some people.
Kenny
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| 4/7/2007 4:14:37 PM |
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califgirl1
Lynchburg, VA
age: 62
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I didn't know there were new or old rules.
I live by the rules of my heart and mind.
And just hope for the best.
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| 4/7/2007 4:17:23 PM |
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sinfulcharming
Fort Wayne, IN
age: 41
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that's how it's supposed to be Cali, the rules just act as a guideline to the changing times we have all witnessed, your heart's desire is supposed to be the ruling factor.
~Sin
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| 4/7/2007 4:36:06 PM |
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sebzalive
Pamplin, VA
age: 82
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There are new rules, but there is no rule book. Kind of reminds me of a child's game where the rules are made as the game goes along. Cali, you got it girl, that is the best way to play it.
Be true to you.
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| 4/7/2007 4:42:37 PM |
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califgirl1
Lynchburg, VA
age: 62
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Thank you Seb, and you too Sin.
I think all of us make them up as we go.
Welcome back Seb.
And Happy Easter.
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