| 8/29/2009 1:50:26 AM |
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sauron2042
Rancho Cordova, CA
age: 28
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
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| 8/29/2009 1:53:37 AM |
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iamincs
Colorado Springs, CO
age: 35
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I think she was wrong to say what she did, and you were wrong to keep calling her. But, if she's romantically interested in the other guy then you just need to move on and find someone who's more interested in you then someone else.
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| 8/29/2009 4:06:36 AM |
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sherri_
Erlanger, KY
age: 48
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
She was more wrong for not taking the phone off the hook so the kids couldn't be sucked into your all's little Friday nite soap opera.
/dusts off hands/
Problem solved.
Y'all make simple things complex for no reason.
Sherri ~nodramamama~
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| 8/29/2009 4:18:16 AM |
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trueblkmann
Atlanta, GA
age: 55
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Man pass and pass fast.
Shes wrong and you wrong for trying to make a house rat into a house pet.
You are a young man and need to find you a sweet young lady thats not into games.
Think about it! You ask and now you know!
true
wow
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| 8/29/2009 4:54:02 AM |
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tjer1l
Jacksonville Beach, FL
age: 55
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
hmmm you're trolling on a dating site and you're concerned about who she is with? what a tool!
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| 8/29/2009 9:25:05 AM |
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rabbitbrown
Oviedo, FL
age: 37
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I would suggest that if she is/was your girlfriend, and she has feelings for someone else, that she really isn't/wasn't your girlfriend any way.
I would say: "Thanks for the honesty. Bye-bye now."
It's pretty cold what she said, don't you think?
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| 8/29/2009 9:31:18 AM |
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wreckerman57
Port Jervis, NY
age: 52
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If you know she has feelings for this other guy why sweat it,its over dude move along and don't drag it out.Kids don't need the drama either.
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| 8/29/2009 9:43:30 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 51
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I would suggest that if she is/was your girlfriend, and she has feelings for someone else, that she really isn't/wasn't your girlfriend any way.
I would say: "Thanks for the honesty. Bye-bye now."
It's pretty cold what she said, don't you think?
Incredibly cold. She knows you and how you'd react. She's playing you and loves the drama. Is that what you want?
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| 8/29/2009 11:33:39 AM |
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califgirl1
Martinsville, VA
age: 63
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Are you serious with this question...I mean really???
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| 8/29/2009 11:42:00 AM |
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darklady09
San Jose, CA
age: 53
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from lovethelake17 Incredibly cold. She knows you and how you'd react. She's playing you and loves the drama. Is that what you want?
I think lovethelake hit the nail right on the head. Maybe you shouldn't have called her like that, now you feel embarrassed. I would not call her, see if she calls you and what she has to say. If she really is into this other guy, why bother?
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| 8/29/2009 12:15:57 PM |
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i_am_bill
Astatula, FL
age: 50
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I can't make any sense of the original post so I don't know how anyone can reasonably respond to it. The sentences run together, they make no sense, I give up. They deserve each other. Bill
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| 8/29/2009 12:21:11 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 36
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
Dude, what more do you need other than the highlighted areas? First of all, she disrespected you straight up by asking you that question in ya face like that.
Secondly, you admit that she has feelings for the other guy. She's not only disrespecting you, but playing you like a fiddle in the process. The worst part is that you are allowing this behavior instead of taking control of the situation. You are letting the situation control you - never good.
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| 8/29/2009 12:30:19 PM |
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_pandaswilleatu
Seattle, WA
age: 25
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Cant turn a ho into a house wife.
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| 8/29/2009 2:54:05 PM |
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mommyhelene
Rancho Cordova, CA
age: 23
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The only thing I can say is you can only take care of your self and your own part; that sux that she would say that to you. But I would personally cut contact no matter how much you hurt inside "I can relate". and let her learn on her own time.< 3
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| 8/29/2009 3:06:11 PM |
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buckmasterbob
Clearfield, PA
age: 27
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It's time to move on. she does not seem to respect you enough to be in a serious relationship. Your just going to get hurt even more if you keep letting her treat you like that. A relationship takes two people who are willing to commit to each other to survive,and she is not..
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| 8/29/2009 3:13:41 PM |
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nicksterdemus
Bastelica
France
age: 50
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Hell yeah you was wrong.
You best run like hell over there so fast that when you put your lips to that azz you'll be kissin' ya bury up at least to ya ears between those cheeks...
Let us know how that works out for ya.
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| 8/29/2009 3:15:45 PM |
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zipperlynn
Porterville, CA
age: 39
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I know there's an I-D-10-T form around here somewhere.
Yes, it was not nice that she told you about Rob. But, your reaction destroyed the scales. Calling all the time - you knew she had kids.
You state you panicked - you lost control of your emotions... because she played a game on you. Ah... there's better reasons to panic than this - if this incident can trigger panic in you, I'd be worried how you respond to more severe, life altering situations.
It's time to focus on yourself.
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| 8/29/2009 3:32:10 PM |
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di2981
Norristown, PA
age: 58
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I think that you panicked. First, do you know Rob? You are young and as you get older you will realize that a woman can have a male friend and it can be just that. If you are in a good relationship with someone, you should be able to trust and not be jealous. This all comes with maturity.
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| 8/29/2009 9:30:36 PM |
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mjw_6230
Louisville, KY
age: 32
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
ok this is what you really need to do, seriously. flip the game on her. women play games like that. tell you shit like that to fill you out. so what you need to do is not react to it. play along and tell her to go ahead and spend more time with rob since she is having such a good time. and stick to it. watch how she will eventually react. she'll come back crawling to you.
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| 8/29/2009 9:41:02 PM |
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redinnevada
Wadsworth, NV
age: 49
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ok, so i was talkin to my gf possibly ex gf now on yahoo messenger or trying to that is, then she replies saying "im having fun with rob, do you mind" which is one of her friends. course i panic and i keep callin her and ikept her kids up now possible she's deffinately gonna break up with me, but was i wrong to get soo upset like i did or was it wrong of her to say that to me, not sure if she was kidding or serious but even if she was kidding would that be wrong? Now idk what to do, im scared to talk to her in the morning and everything. i know she has feelings for this other guy
I don't think you were "wrong". I think you were human and may have over-reacted because you know she has feelings for this guy that she just threw in your face. Here's the real problem (in my opinion). She's playing with you, in the extent that you two are supposedly "boyfriend/girlfriend" yet she SAID that to you while in an IM together... knowing full well that it would send you into panic mode. I don't think you should play back, doing similar things to her, because people just don't learn anything real by playing the games, they only learn HOW to play games. 
Ignore her, distance yourself from her, and if given the chance.. TELL HER that you think she's immature in playing games like this and see how it plays out. She may actually have to take a look at herself at some point and maybe she'll grow then? But otherwise..you should start to back away slowly because this isn't a positive relationship. 
btw... HEY RANCHO CORDOVA!!! (I moved from there last year) 
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| 8/29/2009 9:50:07 PM |
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cinthianna01
Goshen, IN
age: 30
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Do you need her to throw a used contraceptive, that you didn't use, to "get it"?
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| 8/29/2009 9:56:41 PM |
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maddingo
Mankato, MN
age: 33
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There are only two potential problems in any relationship, Him and Her. Figure out exactly were the problem is. If it’s been building for a while. And if it’s worth fixing.
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| 8/29/2009 10:02:50 PM |
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wolfmanart
Minneapolis, MN
age: 60
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the fact you are feeling insecure about this relationship is a clue that something is not right about it. Trust your gut feelings and dont be a victim. You are feeding into someome elses power structure at the expense of yours being drained. The only way out is to feel good about yourself and secure. When you quit playing the game others way watch how they change. You enabled that behaviour yourself. Get your positive shit together and feel good about yourself. Until you do you are not good for anyone else. Get a new girlfriend or dont give a shit either way.
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| 8/29/2009 10:04:28 PM |
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thesniper
Erie, PA
age: 36
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Hey look,first of all she would be with you or at least talking to you on the phone friday night if she was serious with you...she is playing mind games....or she is really with this rob...why wouldnt he have gotten on the phone with you and tell you to stop calling? Do you realize how much of a tool you are making of yourself by calling her repeatedly??? You are totally playing in to her hands....and she probably isnt interested in yo anyways...if she is by some small chance...You realize that if you were in a serious relationship this is just a preview of what she is going to be doing on a regular basis? Why would you keep calling her?? why would you wake her kids up..you seem a little persistent and all too....this is doomed,take some time out and DO NOT CALL HER AGAIN. stop it man,get a grip.
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| 8/29/2009 10:07:46 PM |
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thesniper
Erie, PA
age: 36
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"sauron2042?" im guessing your into Lord of the rings...hey thats cool but sword and sorcery fantasy movies have not prepared you for life in the real dating world. get a clue man.
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| 8/30/2009 4:04:17 AM |
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itsclear
Fort Mohave, AZ
age: 47
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She was never your gf
your just one of the boys
Dont bother getting jealous over a women like that
And dont ever act like a dweeb responding the way you did
Make no effort to contact her again
When......and she will contacts you again
REMEMBER your single and have options
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| 8/30/2009 5:18:47 AM |
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noob_online
San Diego, CA
age: 53
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You are on a dating site start searching for other women.
She's just not that in to you.
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| 8/30/2009 5:38:56 AM |
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thunderstorms62
Endicott, NY
age: 47
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She played you like a puppet
because you empowered her to do so.
You need to fix the clingy/needy insecure behaviors
that allowed her to do this. This one is totally on you OP! -Gandalf
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| 8/30/2009 5:51:48 AM |
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spider77
Adamsville, AL
age: 58
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Find a female friend you can have fun with. what comes around goes around.
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