| 12/19/2007 9:20:54 AM |
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pleasurepirate
Shreveport, LA
age: 47
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most of us can't honestly say we were blameless. even if we did everything right and they did everything wrong, rarely the case, wouldn't you still have to own the fact that you made a bad selecton? and who made that decision???
smart people do learn from their mistakes. maybe they make new ones. but dumbasses keep repeating their old mistakes, over and over, and never learn, usually because they think it's ALWAYS the other person's fault in every failed relationship.
helpful hint: if you have a long string of failed relationships, ask yourself what these exes have in common, and remember one thing they have on common is you!
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| 12/19/2007 9:39:58 AM |
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rodlynn
New Britain, CT
age: 44 online now!
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To quote Benny Hill,
“My wife was always smarter than me,
because I married her and she married me”
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| 12/19/2007 10:47:49 AM |
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sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 55
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and jackie gleeson once said all women get even because you married us
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| 12/19/2007 10:59:28 AM |
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mamalove37
Park Hills, MO
age: 37
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i was married for 18 years; i was the one who gave it the all although i had a husband at home he was nothing but a shadow on the wall, i was the only one who took care of all 5 of our children- day and night;i was the disciplinarian; when our children grew up and graduated from school and then when our 2 sons went off to the army-i was the only one who went; when our eldest was over in iraqi i was the one praying for his safety and sending him letters. so in a nutshell the main reason for our divorce was a husband and a father who cared for noone- all he did when he was home from work was be extremely emotionally and verbally abusive and had no appreciation;
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| 12/19/2007 11:19:08 AM |
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mountainangel
Charmco, WV
age: 38
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omg momalove you just described my second marriage right to the tee, he liked the title of father and husband but didnt live up to them.
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| 12/19/2007 11:42:14 AM |
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atunedhead
Norfolk, VA
age: 40
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Jumping into marriage very-very quickly (both guilty)
followed by
Lack of communication (both guilty) and
TOPPED WITH RELIGIOUS INTOLERANCE (ONLY ONE GUILTY)
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| 12/19/2007 11:46:16 AM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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Well I didn't "screw up" my marriage. I was a good wife, no regrets. No I don't think I'm perfect but it takes 2 to want it to work. He was physically, verbally and emotionally abusive, cheated every chance he got and the truth isn't in him. He admits he was mean because he wanted to be/admits he can't be faithful to any one woman.... No I take no blame. He's been married several times, even since the divorce...I've been married once...figure it out. I feared for my life and lived in hell on this earth, publicly women envied me because he had 2 faces. I don't hate him, is not my nature but hell no I don't take the blame for that mess. Sorry...some remarks hit a nerve. Until you've walked a mile in my shoes....
So the main reason?? I was alone and hurt for so long I wanted to die....I chose to live.
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| 12/19/2007 12:01:41 PM |
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mountainangel
Charmco, WV
age: 38
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I agree garnetlady,when some has walked in our shoes and be thrown against walls choked and have to cover brusises,then they can say its our fault,all mine needed was a beer in his hand,then the shit would be on,we was married for 4 years and lived together for only a year.
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| 12/19/2007 12:08:23 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 46
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1st divorce was verbal abuse. 2nd divorce was cheating and physical abuse. I've always been upfront in both of my marriages. Communiation is something I've always done. Sure it takes 2 for a marriage to work but in my case when I put 100% into a relationship and the other half is just along for the ride and doesn't contribute then the marriage has already been doomed. My stubborness caused me to remain in both too long and it's results have made me who I am now ... very out spoken.
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| 12/19/2007 12:08:24 PM |
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17cloverman
Delanson, NY
age: 44 online now!
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I'd never hit a woman. Sorry that any had to go through that.
and a teriffic woman you have become chopper!
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| 12/19/2007 12:31:17 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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Thank you mountainangel..thought I would get blasted for that post. I don't take the blame for making a bad choice either...when someone is good as gold to you before the I do's how are you to know? He is just a good con man. Mine didn't leave bruises..that would tell on him, he'd twist my arms and legs and so much more. I was married over 16 years..can't even fault me for not trying. My only sin is stupidity for letting my life slip by on something that wasn't going to work. No the next man isn't going to pay....all men aren't bad. I don't even hate my ex, in fact we are friends. I just don't have to be hurt by him any longer. Even he doesn't blame me, wonders why I stayed. He's changed alot...just too little way too late.
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| 12/19/2007 12:35:15 PM |
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stexasbeauty4u
San Antonio, TX
age: 37
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cheating and abuse....
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| 12/19/2007 12:35:39 PM |
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mountainangel
Charmco, WV
age: 38
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yea i know girlfriend or getting shoved down steps,mine was like that to the first night i was married to my first one he put me in the intensive care for a week, so honey your not telling me something i havent already whent through. thanks its nice to know someone else knows what its like.
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| 12/19/2007 12:43:24 PM |
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sorprano
Wayne, NJ
age: 55
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babe: just keep your belief intact--if you are open minded and love conversation you'll get it right eventually because no woman should have to put up with a man that is closed minded-or the excuse some men are like old dogs-just make sure the next guy isn't compared to the past two
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| 12/19/2007 12:52:39 PM |
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huckleberrysqr
Renton, WA
age: 38
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My divorce was due to several reasons. The 2 biggest were that she cheated on me like crazy, and she was horribly verbally abusive to me. I stayed in the relationship for years, even though some of the nicest names she called me was "fat piece of shit". Her and her friends used to love seeing just how badly they could embarass and hurt me publicly.
Now I know, it's completely my fault that I stayed in the relationship for as long as I did, allowing it to go on. But one thing about me, I'm loyal to a fault. It took going to massage therapy school, becoming a massage therapist, and opening my own clinic, giving me an identity of my own, to leave.
My heart still hurts from the way she treated me, because I've always been the kind of person that just wants someone to love me like I would them. I'm at the point again though that I can look ladies in the eyes again, and actually smile at them and talk to em. It's taken some effort to start trusting women again, but I've realized that the vast majority of women out there are very good people that would not hurt their guy like that.
Now to find one for me that wants to be treated like a queen.
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