| 1/10/2008 11:27:05 AM |
I have been dating this guy for a few months... |
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silver_rain1011
Springfield, VA
age: 22
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| 1. Tell him immediately! |
| 2. Wait a little while longer |
| 3. Wait until he says it first |
| 4. Wait until Valentine's Day and see what he does |
| 5. Whisper it quietly and hope he doesn't hear it |
| 6. Some other choice |
I have been dating a man for a few months now. I really like him, he's absolutely amazing and I feel so happy when I'm with him. I'm feeling the "soul mate" connection I've felt only once before with my first true love (which ended badly due to exigent circumstances).
Now I feel I'm withholding an "I love you" from him, that I know something he might not. How should I go about telling him "I think we have long-term and possibly life-long connections?"
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| 1/10/2008 11:28:39 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Do what you do tell people you like too do on here...f*ck him blind then tell him
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| 1/10/2008 11:30:27 AM |
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silver_rain1011
Springfield, VA
age: 22
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hehehe  F*cking is one thing, and you're right I love to do that, hanging out and having fun is another... but making that first "I love you" leap is a whole other ballpark 
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| 1/10/2008 11:31:22 AM |
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lorlie
Eugene, OR
age: 51
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Wait till you know it is for real.
Crow, are you having a bad day?????
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| 1/10/2008 11:31:27 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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shit that shouldn't be hard for you,, hell just tell him, and see what happens, the most he will do is tell ya he's married
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| 1/10/2008 11:52:04 AM |
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prxf
Pittsburgh, PA
age: 51
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If you've been dating him for a few months, I don't see anything wrong with you expressing yourself to him. I think life is too short not to. You have to take each day as it comes, regardless of what happens in the end.
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| 1/10/2008 12:35:22 PM |
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tecman
Manassas, VA
age: 48
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Might as well know where you stand. If you feel that connected, he must feel it too.
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| 1/10/2008 1:04:38 PM |
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collide64
Janesville, WI
age: 43
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Silver you have given much good advise to others, I wish we could do the same for you. With my track record do exactly opposite of what I say. Follow your heart. That's what love is all ab out. Don't over analyze the situation.
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| 1/10/2008 2:05:14 PM |
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chrisk1974
Bowling Green, OH
age: 33
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i'd say tell him. if you are too scared too, maybe drop a few hints. tell him how much you like the time spent together and look for a reaction. saying i love you is a big step, and i can understand wanting to be sure he'll catch you when you take that leap. i for one will not say it unless i'm absolutly sure i mean it. that can take some time. who knows maybe hes close to saying it, and you telling him is all the push he needs.
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| 1/10/2008 2:26:16 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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i agree with collide. don't over analyze. if you feel it do it.
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| 1/10/2008 4:20:41 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 49
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When it comes to love you can't force someone to love you. All you can do is allow yourself to be loved. You don't have to tell him........show him. In ways other than sex. He will figure it out. It is always tempting to tell someone you love them, but actions speak louder than words. When you start doing special things for him that you don't do for anyone else, or that no one else does for him he will notice. Then you will have a better idea about how he feels about you.
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| 1/10/2008 4:25:17 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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I really think that I'd wait...once those words are out, you can't take them back..and I think those words mean a lot..
I'd keep having fun with him, show him how special he is and continue on...no need to rush things. 
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| 1/10/2008 4:43:55 PM |
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irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
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You can share bodily fluids, but you can't tell him you love him?
I don't get it, am I missing something here. Talk about sharing.
If you feel it, share it too...or say that you're starting to feel something stronger for him and how does he feel about that. Conversation could go on from there.
Paris
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| 1/10/2008 4:50:15 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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Personally, I wait for a man to say the words first. When a man says "I love you" it is words that don't come easy and only spoken when they really mean it. I would be crushed if I said "I love you" first and didn't get the response I wanted.
Also, is he a DH member??? If he is then he's probably reading this already. It might make him say it sooner since he'll know how you feel or it may push him away.
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| 1/10/2008 9:38:46 PM |
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kelatious
Lubbock, TX
age: 37
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Silver,
A couple of months seems kinda soon for "I love you". Are you absolutely sure you LOVE him, sure you don't just "like him alot"? Why don't you wait another couple of months, if you still love him, tell him.
kel
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