| 1/13/2008 6:25:40 PM |
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tha_legend06
Nacogdoches, TX
age: 20
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Ok there is a gurl i have been talkin to and when we hang out we have a great time. And im really sweet and nice to her but here lately everytime she wants to hang out she comes up with an excuse not to. Wat do yall think i should do
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| 1/13/2008 6:27:11 PM |
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mrcmore
Peekskill, NY
age: 35
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Have you had sex with her?
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| 1/13/2008 6:28:40 PM |
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tha_legend06
Nacogdoches, TX
age: 20
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Not yet i tried once and she didnt want to so i backed off.
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| 1/13/2008 6:43:22 PM |
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funpeaches
Battle Creek, MI
age: 33
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She may have realized that she's not romanticly interested and just doesn't know how to tell you that.
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| 1/13/2008 7:13:38 PM |
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linuxian
Dunedin, FL
age: 36
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I had a similar situation recently. I think Peaches is right, that's how I felt anyway. I eventually broke it off with her after she continued making excuses over and over. While I was a little upset, I don't think she was nearly as troubled as she made it sound. It was just silly to continue trying to force the relationship to work.
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| 1/13/2008 7:28:34 PM |
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flyingdutchman
Lancaster, CA
age: 42
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I would recommend backing off for now, Hence the phrase~ "you can lead a horse to water- but you can't make-um drink" (Perhaps bad analogy) but it does hold validity.
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| 1/13/2008 7:48:06 PM |
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tamieleeann
Westville, OK
age: 36
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Have you tried just asking her? Maybe she will tell you whats up if you ask. All women really want you to do is communicate with us, then you don't have to second guess what might be going on you will know.
 Tamie
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| 1/13/2008 8:10:14 PM |
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that_wd_b_me
Essex Junction, VT
age: 49
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What you are expiriencing is the let's just be friends syndrome.AKA the kiss of death,cut your losses and move on.Supernice guys bore women silly,you need to tease them some,in a nice way.It keeps them off balance and interested.
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| 1/13/2008 9:45:48 PM |
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linuxian
Dunedin, FL
age: 36
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LOLL @ tamieleeann
do you really think she would tell him the truth? Actions definitely speak louder than words in these situations.
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| 1/13/2008 10:55:53 PM |
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majik17
Elk River, MN
age: 20
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I wouldn't consider this a member of the dreaded "Let's just be friends" zone... This seems to be more of a problem with timing...
I view the situation as such:
The two of you go out and have a great time and all... You seem nice, she is becoming interested in you, you kiss (and/or more) right before you part, most likely... She goes home and thinks about how wonderful you are... She has time to over-analyze (As females do) and wonder "how much she really likes you" or "was it just something about the night, the dinner, the drinks, whatever"... She knows that you've kissed, and, though it was good for her too, she doesn't know you, but she assumes you will expect to kiss again, and eventually move on to more... Was she even ready to kiss in the first place?
It's common... It's typical... It happens...
One easy way to prevent this is keep all sexual intentions away until IT happens... Even a kiss with a little too much tongue can be over-analyzed the next day... And if you kiss on the first date - or whenever - don't wait until goodbye... There is nothing like creating some awkward sexual tension than "Oh my god, this is it! This is the BIG moment!"
Don't make it a big deal... Mix it into your night, about halfway, keep her comfortable, and just say good night... You won't get so many LIQUID dates...
Good Luck and Happy Dating!
Majik
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| 1/13/2008 11:53:03 PM |
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heatseeker4u
Indianapolis, IN
age: 37
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Move on, cut your losses and concentrate on someone who will focus on you, and since you already have sensed a distance chill, it's safe to say, it's gotten COLD...Her lost sweetheart...
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| 1/14/2008 2:16:49 PM |
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bigeasy741
Bay, AR
age: 45
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Move on Dude. Don't even look back, more women out there. 
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| 1/14/2008 2:35:15 PM |
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thebestman
Alpharetta, GA
age: 34
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Dude she's giving you obvious signs that you are not important and she has better things to do than to hang out with you. She's dating other men or a significant man. You need to cut your loses.
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| 1/14/2008 4:30:27 PM |
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lawrence084
Honolulu, HI
age: 40
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Totally ignore her.
The less you do the better chance you have of get with her. For example never returning her calls until 24 hours later. Don't make date with her and if she want to hook up for a date, tell her you have other plans.
Then when your notice her taking more of interest, then let her back in your heart very very slowly.
Bottomline you making things too easy for her and she gotten bored with you. But she does have some interest or you wouldn't have gotten as far as you have.
It is a game...you are not playing it and she is. You need to play it or get out before you really get hurt.
KEEP Dating...until you have a commitment always keep dating and searching.
Putting 100% committment with a woman that you have no commitment with is pretty silly isn't it?
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| 1/15/2008 8:07:49 AM |
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tha_legend06
Nacogdoches, TX
age: 20
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Well everyone pretty much gave me same advice so im gonna back off for awhile and not call or nothin and see wat happens. Thanx Guys
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