| 1/18/2008 3:00:00 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Do you share children in this marriage cuz I think that's an important part of the deciding factor.....althought o me I keep everything basic. DOn't enjoy your job - quit. Not loving your husband - leave but then DIVORCE don't just leave, cuz Lenny Kravitz sings it best - It ain't over til it's over!
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| 1/19/2008 3:17:23 PM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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thank you everyone for the advice. dont mind wendys advice shes my sister in law, she doesnt like him either
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| 1/19/2008 3:24:14 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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Wendy...it isn't nice to throw all men into the same pot so to speak. I've heard there are no good women but I disagree as I'm a very good woman. Therefore I don't believe it to be true that all men are no good....there are some good ones. They might be a bit hard to find but they ARE there.
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| 1/19/2008 3:40:57 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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Gosh, Your sister Wendy sure sounds like a bitter woman. (NO men are good)? Good thing she is on the other side of the country. With that kind of an attitude she won't find a good man anyway.
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| 1/19/2008 9:41:04 PM |
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wendy001
Manchester, CT
age: 36
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Let me tell you people something your dam right im bitter! I am a good woman a very good one and i was engaged to the love of my life. I did everything and he still cheated. I dont understand?? Then i made the ultamite mistake and slept with him again last night because i actually believed it when he said he loved me and he cant get over me. Then he went back to her in the morning. I cant tell you the hurt i am going through and i dont want to think all men are like this but the ones i pick are. Maybe its my choices i dont know? I hope someday i will find a good one. For now i have to pick up the pieces of my life. bye!
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| 1/19/2008 10:07:51 PM |
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rebellady63
Layton, UT
age: 44
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Wendy, There is nothing wrong with you, he is the one who has a problem. You might never understand it, because it is his. Get him out of your life, keep him out...and then you can heal and move on with living.
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| 1/19/2008 10:11:13 PM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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thats what im telling her
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| 1/20/2008 7:11:59 AM |
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wendy001
Manchester, CT
age: 36
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I know i have to move on and let go of all this pain and anger but i dont know how. I am so lost right now. Once upon a time i had this life with my kids my fiancee and all was wonderful and now he still has that once upon a time and i have a broken dream. His life went on and hes fine. I am left to pick up pieces and it seems like theres so many i dont know where to start. I know many people can understand. I know time will heal this. I just hate the fact that he is content and fine and happy and i am a dam mess. Life isnt fair at all. Thats why i am so bitter and people need to know stories before they say rude things to me on this site. They dont even know half of what went on so please people have some compassion please. Thanks for listening and your advice. 
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| 1/20/2008 7:21:26 AM |
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57rickie
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 57
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Tell the Jerk to hit the road Jack....if you haved tried to work things out and nothing has changed, your feelings for him, his feelings for you, divorce may be the only option. I had a nasty breakup with my 1st husband....he was still into sowing his wild Oats, Wheat, Rye...Mary, Sally, Sue...when you have Kids, you need to do whats best for them. I can understand the pain, deception, and loss of Love. Time does heal some of it, and then it happens again. SH, everyday...wipe, flush and move on.
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| 1/20/2008 10:09:57 AM |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 43
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Well if it is over it is over. If not thne you need to work on fixin it instead of seeing what else is out there. Either get a divorce and move on but dont keep him hanging on the side because you want to see other people. Let him know your true intentions so he can move on also but dont be shocked if he does.
The way I view it, if you are seperated there leaves a chance so your not sure of the future and you should figure that out before you start dating and hurt someone else.
If it is over make if final with a divorce.
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| 1/22/2008 7:47:00 AM |
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irparis39
New York, NY
age: 48
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I agree with Dixie...separated is still married. It matters not what the legal system says, to God you still married and to this man whose ego seems bigger than the moon, he sees it too.
Its not fair to a new person to be dragged into your ex drama. Do you know how many people claim to be separated and for some reason or another go back to their wives and husbands. I would never date a man who claims separation...there's always that chance especially if there are kids.
So do him a favour, get out of Dodge and move forward with a divorce so that he can. Separated women are a treat for some men, they dont' have to commit and they can get the milk even freer without working for it. Unless he falls for you, then it gets ugly in court. And a good lawyer will make you look like Flowers sister on a bad day.
Make some choices for yourself, regardless of where that puts him. He can deal with it his way, its his choice...but don't sell yourself short anymore.
Paris
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