| 1/18/2008 8:51:19 AM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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if you and husband are separated and you are still good friends, and you have dated in the past and he didnt like it, and all of a sudden he doesnt want you too and if you do. he'll be a total jerk. do you tell him to back off and take that chance? or do you do it and just not tell him?
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| 1/18/2008 9:02:23 AM |
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mikey570
Bethlehem, GA
age: 32
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if you and him arent together then its none of his bussiness so yea tell him to back off (looking for some one)lol
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| 1/18/2008 9:05:45 AM |
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drummrboy
Belmont, MA
age: 43
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a .25 behind the ears works wonders to correct an issue such as yours. but seriously, if u 2 r not together, tell him, back off. you both need to get on with your lives. good luck. 
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| 1/18/2008 9:20:20 AM |
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bramah
Temple, TX
age: 45
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Why are you banging your head against the wall . You seperated for a reason. I don't mean to be crule, but either get on the horse or get off. If your marriage was so bad as to seperate, then you have question yourself and that relationship. Most couples whom choose to seperate find them selfs in a divorce, witch means one if not both have commitment issues to each other. It is not health for one to keep putting them selfs throu the that pain. You will never move on with your life if you stay in the past. Would it be fair to the one that you are dating? I don't think so, but then again whom am I to say. What would you do if you found the right person on one of thoose dates? Tell them you are seperated an take a chance they will stick throu it with you, or loose them. Personaly if you have tried to work on your marriage and it does not work, then get a divorce an move on.
At least I can say is if the right woman comes into my life, I have no extra baggage, an I can commit my whole heart into that person.
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| 1/18/2008 10:28:04 AM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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thank you for the advice
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| 1/18/2008 11:12:25 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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maybe a divorce would help??
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| 1/18/2008 11:13:35 AM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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i know i need to
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| 1/18/2008 11:14:22 AM |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Not too counterdict ya stormy, but maybe a divorce might not help, it all depends on what his mentality is over this whole situation
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| 1/18/2008 11:16:19 AM |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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thats what im worried about. his mental state im not in love with him anymore and he is
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| 1/18/2008 11:22:14 AM |
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stormygrl
Longmont, CO
age: 41
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well crow i thought since they are just seperated then he still feels that he has a hold on her - so i thought a divorce might make it more permanent.....but yeah if he's the controlling possessive type - then it may require restraining order...
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| 1/18/2008 12:03:22 PM |
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wendy001
Manchester, CT
age: 36
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Ya know what i say? I hear he has a cute sister so why dont you go to her place this weekend and get f'd up and forget him hahah oh ya baby! Dont you know that NO men are good? They say they are but guess what its another ploy to sleep with you and leave. Enjoy life for awhile with his hot sister and live life like tomorrow may not come.
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| 1/18/2008 12:17:13 PM |
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steveredman
Spotswood, NJ
age: 37
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what are you talking about Wendy. Not all men are jerks. There are some good ones out there.
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| 1/18/2008 2:02:30 PM |
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midnight2005
Clarksburg, WV
age: 37
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wendy, maybe there is a good reason why men dont want to hang around you? anyway to answer the question, he is trying to control you hun. You must make the decision to get away or make a relationship out of it. if you dont want him anymore then tell him to get lost, he may use the suicide bs, and all of the bs that comes with it, but that is a control tactic, dont fall for it! He wants to do what he wants to, and control what you do, it is as simple as that.
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| 1/18/2008 2:10:38 PM |
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dkitten
Amelia, OH
age: 31
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it's been my experience that if my husband is fine with not keeping in touch everyday & just being casual friends but gets shitty when i start to show signs of seeing someone else it's because; he IS seeing someone and things aren't going so good and he's wants me stay on reserve for him!! don't play that game just don't tell him! if you're seperated it's none of his business anyway! and as a woman and espeialy as a wife you deserve more then being someones "back up" plan!!
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| 1/18/2008 2:52:50 PM |
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bigeasy741
Bay, AR
age: 45
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Sounds like a lot of great advice from everyone. Good luck ad don't be timid.
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