| 5/23/2010 1:48:24 AM |
Do I sound like a b*tch? Looking for honest replies! |
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anindianagirl
Franklin, IN
age: 41
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I wanna hear your blunt opinion on the "personality" section of my profile only, the part where you type in a bunch of stuff about yourself? My goal was to keep it short, to the point, and direct, cuz I think that is how men like to hear info.? I also wanted to name a few general "dealbreakers" right away, to not waste anyone's time, plus the "interest keywords" section gives a general idea of some likes, etc, so I thought it was a good way to start out.. But in trying to be so direct, I'm now thinking it comes across as b*tchy or aggressive or something. Any thoughts would be very appreciated! (surprisingly, half the emails i get ignore anything i say I prefer in a guy..lol.does that mean it's not written clear enough, or that those people are just idiots? Or do most men just go for a look, and don't care so much about what we actually say?)
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| 5/23/2010 2:06:27 AM |
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neo52
Marathon, FL
age: 53
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You are analytical and over zealous in your requirements .
You Scorpios are all alike ..
Mellow out woman ...
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| 5/23/2010 2:21:19 AM |
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anindianagirl
Franklin, IN
age: 41
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you say "you scorpios" like that's a bad thing, but your profile says you're a scorpio, too! still, good point about overanalyzing. thanks 
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| 5/23/2010 2:59:20 AM |
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neo52
Marathon, FL
age: 53
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"your profile says you're a scorpio,"
Yes I am and I know what us Scorpios are about ...
Oh and change your main photo ,you're much to pretty to have your face tilted down ..
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| 5/23/2010 3:19:18 AM |
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ron10000
Brighton, MI
age: 63 online now!
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Other than the fact that you seem to be good looking, why would I want to send you a note? You say nothing about the kind of person you are.
Profile body should include a paragraph about who you are, one about your interests and another indicating the characteristics you seek in a partner. Make sure you have paragraph spacing for ease of reading.
Ron
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| 5/23/2010 7:48:19 AM |
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3rdattempt
Carmel, IN
age: 48
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The comment about you being analytical is correct. That is not a bad thing. What is a bad thing is most guys are either intimated or dislike a woman who knows what she wants. They say they love a woman who can make decisions, but they cringe of the thought the woman wants something different than they do. Continue to be yourself and someone will love you for who you are.
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| 5/23/2010 8:19:34 AM |
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jeffh09
Indianapolis, IN
age: 54
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I think what your wanting is to get on with things,, not draw them out,, If a guy plays games then you are telling them you are not in the mood for it,,, I damn sure don't see anything wrong with that. Don't change for no one,, be yourself no matter what others might say!!!!!
Good Luck in your search,,, 
Jeff
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| 5/23/2010 8:41:27 AM |
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lalagniappe
Saint Francisville, LA
age: 40
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Ummm...OK, first you say "I want to know more about you, if: 1. We have the basics in common (political/religious views)", but yet you don't say anything about yourself. How could one possibly know if they have anything in common with you? You need to get into a bit of detail about yourself, your personality, and likes/interests. Leave out your turn-offs and dislikes too.
Best of luck to you.
LL
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| 5/23/2010 12:04:19 PM |
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burtcollins
Indianapolis, IN
age: 48
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I don't think you sound like a b*tch at all. However, when you list a set of requirements (some of them being quite vague, e.g. political views) and someone responds to you and meets - or believes they meet - your requirements then I think you should have the decency not only to respond but to be open with them about why they didn't "make the cut!"
I realize that most if the women on this site get a lot of email and that they press the Delete key more often than not, but I just think it's common courtesy to reply with something simple like, "Thanks for the note but I'm looking for something else right now." Unless someone sends you a picture of a body part. Then you should just BLOCK THEM. LOL
I'm certain you'll find what you want -- either here or somewhere else -- because you can articulate what you want. Quite frankly, I prefer that to a long, rambling monologue that takes forever to read and interpret. Just be you and you'll attract the people who like YOU.
My two cents.
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| 5/23/2010 12:11:02 PM |
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bran247
Indianapolis, IN
age: 48
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Well, usually when I see a profile like this it starts off with "At the risk of being shallow, here is what I want." LOL, Its hard for a man to email you about any common interests if the only ones you share are politics and religion. Come to think of it isn't them the things nobody should talk about right off the bat?
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| 5/23/2010 12:26:41 PM |
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nole_89
Loganville, GA
age: 47
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No, just means I need to get a hair cut and post my picture soon. 
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| 5/23/2010 1:07:25 PM |
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gfjrtr4343245
Greencastle, IN
age: 41
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No, no, you sound like the type of woman I wish would have kicked the "Shit" out of my Xwife when I was recovering in a hospital. All the woman that I have worked with or lived near too of just have the guts too face the world events like one of us. A man!
I wish you could speak to my sister, mother or even sister in law with that Thought power. I, I hope you find what you are looking for.
If you read this and want to know more, check with ST. PAUL parish in Greencastle, Indiana and they will speak the truth of who I'm. My name is Kevin Richards.
Let's say your not sure, will we can chat via the Email system.
I am old trained, "look me square in the eye while you make a statement and I will know if you are lying or telling the truth."
Don't let the spring rain and thunderstorms get you down. The new seeds in the farm fields need H2O (water).
You, search for what still make you smile however; please do not talk anyone your magic in the box.
Take care,
me (Kevin)
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| 5/23/2010 1:34:38 PM |
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shawnee_b
Monson, ME
age: 55
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Indygirl. No you didn't sound like a b*tch to me but your profile is very lacking. It says little if anything. Don't be hasty, spend some time and put out a good one. Many good people on this dating site, there is someone for you here but write something to draw his interest.
You mentioned in your thread "where you say a bunch". Well? Keep it all positive.
More about you, likes, hobbies, country or city girl, what gives you pleasure in life. A paragraph of what you want in a man. Clean, good looking is OK and honest but is that all you want?
Religion and politics isn't really the basics of a relationship. Join a debate club if that's the case. I don't think that's all you want though. Put your real self out, and what you do want.
Your contrast of colors were readable anyway, that's a start and you spaced thoughts. Your obviously a bright lady with something to give to a relationship too. Add some wit and humor to the profile.
Add more pics, you can have 16 of them. Wear something pretty in a few, get closeups and full shots.
Look at some of the profiles of the people here who are willing to help you, get some ideas from them. Add to yours and ask us to re check it. Good luck, Shawn
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| 5/23/2010 1:59:26 PM |
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countrylady53
Terrell, TX
age: 56
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I think you need to give the guys more to work with here. Right now you have a list of requirements like a job posting. You have listed what you are looking for, but they don't have a clue about you. You've got to help these guys out! (Sorry guys!)
The interest section at the bottom is for the site to match you.
With a lack of information it's really hard to do a review. But you could start out with paragraph telling a bit about you.
Then one about what you do for fun. Include some things that can be done on a first date.
The last paragraph you could list what you are looking for in a man.
Try to keep it upbeat and positive. You might want to look at some other profiles and get some ideas.
I hope this helps.
CountryLady 
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| 5/24/2010 5:53:02 AM |
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goodman64
Lebanon, IN
age: 46
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I wouldn't say your profile makes you sound like a "b*tch" in any way, but it is quite vague. It's good be honest and to the point about what you want in a man, but just be nice and maybe a little humorous about it. Unfortunately, I think a lot of guys only look at the pictures and don't bother reading the profiles. For myself, I want to know about a woman's personality no matter how good looking she is. I agree with the guy who said you need a better picture...one with your head up straight. The full body pic you have is good!
Good luck with your search! - Kenny
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| 5/24/2010 7:07:33 AM |
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goldstandard215
Watertown, NY
age: 28
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No, you don't. You sound just intriguing enough to make me want to send you a message.
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| 5/24/2010 4:10:49 PM |
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darkglow_47
Bloomington, IN
age: 49
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Hmmm, I think the real question is does your written response make you appear to be b*tchy.  My honest opinion, I don't see how!!! I would imagine that you sound as pretty as you look in your picture absolutely beautiful.
Based upon what I read, I could see why alot of guys might respond thinking that they have something in common with you and your criteria is too generic: Besides who wouldn't want to meet someone like you. Maybe you should be a little more specific... Provide a little more detail about the man of your dreams (e.g., is height, weight, age, education, location, and other things that are really deal breakers); a clean cut guy (clean shaven or is facial hair ok - or are you looking for a guy who is well groomed (e.g. must take regular (daily) showers, brush daily, etc.) -- Let's face it, some guys think if they take a bath once a week - they are being too clean (LOL).
Interests: Your interests are important and there should be some common ground between your partner and yourself - however, I would guess that one could list an endless set of interests. Is the person you seek willing to try new things - are you? Being able to explore new things! Variety is always good. 
Hope this helps...
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| 5/24/2010 4:15:47 PM |
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bzguy87
Livonia, MI
age: 22
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You sound direct and straight forward. I think its a turn on for men who are very direct. But keep in mind most men like that, don't message women first, so i hope your not waiting for prince charming.
Add more pix too.
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| 5/24/2010 6:19:49 PM |
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anindianagirl
Franklin, IN
age: 41
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Thank you all for the feedback. I appreciate those of you who say it's fine the way it is. I received a few good pointers, too, and will definitely take some of that into account next time I edit it. Thanks again!
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