| 1/19/2008 8:46:53 PM |
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radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28
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ok got this boyfriend who lives with me, he as cheated on me once because he got really drunk he likes to slap women on there butts in front of me when he is drunk. he tells me he loves me but his doing all of this. on the other hand when his not drunk he takes care of me he makes sure we got what we need if he works if his boss got runnings to do. one thing he tells me he says, i know you love me and iknow you want leave. because he knows i dont like being alone. what should i do, please help a person who gets miss treated all the time by guys... thanks
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| 1/19/2008 8:54:04 PM |
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garywayne30
Grundy, VA
age: 30
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u can find better
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| 1/19/2008 8:55:19 PM |
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libra75
Lowell, AR
age: 32 online now!
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If I was your ol' man, I'd either quit drinkin' so I
didnt do stupid shit like that, or Id be expectin' ya
to kick my ass to the curb real quick.......
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| 1/19/2008 8:57:31 PM |
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stephentrue
Ladera Ranch, CA
age: 58
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Stay away from guys who get drunk. There actually are some. You want some guy who is loaded driving you home? How 'bout makin' love to a guy who doesn't know what he's doin' and doesn't remember much in the morning after he's throwing up. Think he's gonna stop? Probably not for you or anyone else.
Check out, NOW.
Sorry, you asked for help
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| 1/19/2008 9:13:32 PM |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 50
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You should leave this guy, this type of behavior only escalates over time. Love and respect yourself enough to be in a healthy relationship. Don't be in one because you are not comfortable to be alone. I suggest you research material on batterd women.. I feel bad that you are enduring such horrid relationship with this man. Part of the control here is that he knows you wont leave him.
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| 1/19/2008 9:15:56 PM |
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kgearly1021
Valdosta, GA
age: 48
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PACK HIS SHIT
And put him out.
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| 1/19/2008 9:18:39 PM |
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radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28
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thanks guys i believe ill tell him to ship-it or ship out. i just dont understand why guys do that hell i have my own house my on truck and car. i cook and clean what the hell. when he showed up he didnt have shit besides a job and his clothes. and i know dam well i aint ugly, thats for sure.i use to be built but over time i got depress and start eating. and look what i have done to myself over guys who aint worth shit. time to change and be the person i use to be? want to help lol? ill let you kick that thing out for me. thats the hardest part is telling the one you love they got to go. i had never had the stregnth for that. but i will tell him to ship or ship-out. i know there are plenty of guys to take his place real fast. thanks again
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| 1/19/2008 9:19:37 PM |
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thegooddude24
Joliet, IL
age: 25
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Ok Honestly...
It's hard to leave a person. I've done it and I'm sure a lot of us here has. This is about YOU though. My advice is to take a deep breath and when you breath in, breath pride. Go, leave, take off, be happy, be free, and start over. Take the love you put for him and put it into yourself. Enough is enough and it's time you realize that.
Good Luck...
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| 1/19/2008 10:00:58 PM |
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aniceguy4you2lv
Visalia, CA
age: 43
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Radarlove, this guy is a jerk that is useing you! If he cheated because he was "drunk" it just means that he would do it anyway. I know that it is hard to leave but when someone has no respect for you it is time to make a descion. Ask yourself this... Will he keep doing this? Be honest with yourself, only you know the truth. It sounds to me like he knows that you are scared to leave him and he is using that to do what he wants. Be honest with yourself I know it is hard but you need to do it. Do you want to live like this forever or until he gets tired of you. So you want to have him be a role model for your childern? Has he ever hit or thereatened to hit you? Only you know the answers.
I would recommend to you that you need to be alone, not forever... Just until you are not afraid of it anymore. The reason or at least one of the main reasons that get mistreated by guys all of the time is that you are in a hurry to be with someone and that makes you easy prey for jerks that want to control you and use you. I would also reccomend to you to seek out some consuling to help you learn how not to be afriad of being alone, and how to find a man that will treat you the way you deserv to be treated. You deserve to be treated well, and by a man that loves you. 
Good Luck
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| 1/19/2008 10:16:40 PM |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
age: 44
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If you were my sister, I would tell you to leave that jackazz. Don't worry about being alone or needing him for anything.
Get out of an abusive relationship once the abuse begins. To top this all off he's a cheater. No matter what he says or does, he will always be a cheater. You don't need him. Get away from him and work on finding a good man. One that will respect you for who you are.
Abuse, there is no reason for it. GET OUT!
And about the counseling....Forget it. It's a waste of time and will probably have you second guessing yourself for the rest of your life. Go with self help. Be strong, you can get away from this AZZ. The person here that needs the counseling is your boyfriend.
If you were my sister, he'd be getting some size 12 counseling.
GOOD LUCK...We're here for you if you need more support.
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| 1/19/2008 10:20:54 PM |
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bassman1959
Santa Rosa, CA
age: 48
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I grew up with an alcoholic step mother. I say kick him to the curb and find a new BF.
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| 1/19/2008 10:31:12 PM |
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sondra1968
Mackey, IN
age: 40
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thegooddude - that is the best advice i'v heard. There you go sweety and stop kidding yourself. For a youngman that was very nice insight. I'm surprised. You keep it up sweetie and you will go far. 
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| 1/19/2008 10:54:19 PM |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 50
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.... don't give this guy a choice!!!! Ship up or Ship out? Throw his shit out and change the locks ffs. Ummmm while your at it... get a restraining order!
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| 1/19/2008 11:01:48 PM |
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radarlove28
Florence, AL
age: 28
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ya'll have been so helpfull i swear if ya'll was here i believe ya'll kill him lol that was a joke. ya'll have inspired me alot as soon as he wakes up with his drunk rear end ill tell him thank you all for being beside me    
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| 1/19/2008 11:04:47 PM |
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mikey570
Bethlehem, GA
age: 32
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wel radar there are so many people that would love for you to be with them like me so dont ever think you are along ok
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