| 1/20/2008 8:37:22 AM |
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polishprincs
New Castle, PA
age: 37
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I have a hard time getting involved with anyone who is separated. There is still a marriage there at least on some level.
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| 1/20/2008 8:49:21 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48
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I believe if you are still in a relationship in any form, no you cannot move on with your life and start a new beginning. I won't even consider anyone who is separated. In my marriage we separated many times, I never dated. Even though once was for a full year and at that particular time in life I worked with all men. There was alot of opportunity to go out. Some people say a piece of paper means nothing, marriage certificate or divorce papers... For me it is a moral thing. Separated is still attached, so it is a no go. jmo
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| 1/20/2008 8:51:57 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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wolf_man
Ada, OK
age: 44
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no way i went threw that last year, i was seeing someone that still had feelings for there ex and in the end, we both was hurt,it was a relationship, we should of never started
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| 1/20/2008 9:00:11 AM |
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bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 23
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Because she's broke, and I'm not wasting the money. She's the one that f*cked up and she's the one that asked for the divorce. Let her pay for it, I got a daughter to raise. I don't need a piece of paper to tell me I hate the b*tch.
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| 1/20/2008 9:17:21 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 39
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yep... it's a moral thing!
 NO NO and NO!!!
if it's just a piece of paper, why did you get married in the first place?
 grace
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| 1/20/2008 9:22:08 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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If the question would you date someone that's separated and not yet divorced, the answer is NO. If I'm dating someone, I don't want to trip over their current baggage. At this point in my life - I don't need this kind of head trip.
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| 1/20/2008 9:24:30 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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grace_ful_heart
College Station, TX
age: 39
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yes, what he said... well said.. tripping on stuff is no fun.
grace
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| 1/20/2008 9:32:52 AM |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 43
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Bigdaddy: Because she's broke, and I'm not wasting the money. She's the one that f*cked up and she's the one that asked for the divorce. Let her pay for it, I got a daughter to raise. I don't need a piece of paper to tell me I hate the b*tch.
Wow, I can see why she left!
If this type of attitude comes out on here, I would hate to see how you daughter is taking the situation. Your still "wife" may have left but it is not about you and how you feel. It should now be about making your child feel like she can still have both parents and not feel she would have to choose sides. I hope you dont use this tone around her.
Most women marry people like their fathers so I would hope when you do mature you will show her how to respect women or aleast not call them out of their name because you are mad.
Look at it this way. Take a good look at yourself and ask yourself if you would want your daughter to marry a man like you?
If you really wanted out you would pay for the divorce because it would not be a waste. So there is your answer.
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| 1/20/2008 9:41:48 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53
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omg..i put in a thread yesterday that included this topic...
AND,..i dated a guy that was seperated..for a while...and it was so against my better judgement...so why did I do it? Guess I thought, why not, someone to do something with, just be friends..well hell..THAT didn't work! I would never again date someone that hasn't gotten his "plate clean" first. My plates clean and I was definately looking for someone to get serious with and commit if it led to that...but a person who is seperated is looking for reinforcement that they are a good guy, they are desireable, they can and will get back into dating...but in my opinion, they jump in too soon. Take care of unfinished business before you stike out again!
JMO
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| 1/20/2008 10:33:02 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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bigdaddy86
Carbondale, IL
age: 23
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"Wow, I can see why she left!
If this type of attitude comes out on here, I would hate to see how you daughter is taking the situation. Your still "wife" may have left but it is not about you and how you feel. It should now be about making your child feel like she can still have both parents and not feel she would have to choose sides. I hope you dont use this tone around her.
Most women marry people like their fathers so I would hope when you do mature you will show her how to respect women or aleast not call them out of their name because you are mad.
Look at it this way. Take a good look at yourself and ask yourself if you would want your daughter to marry a man like you?
If you really wanted out you would pay for the divorce because it would not be a waste. So there is your answer."
You can see why she left? She told me she didn't know who she was and that she needed time, because she felt like she was too young to be a wife or a mother..so she told me to take our then 5 month old daughter and leave. Within 4 days she went through our entire savings on partying. You're right, it's not about me. Its about my daughter. My "wife" chose sides for her. Call her out of her name? What would you call her? Yes, I would absolutely want my daughter to marry a man like me. When I mature? Who are you to tell me I'm not mature? Because I called a woman a b*tch? If the shoe fits.. I don't care about getting out of the "marriage". I don't plan on remarrying any time soon, what do I need that piece of paper for? I don't talk to her, we live 1500 miles apart, and I've got my daughter. I'm happy.
[Edited 1/20/2008 10:34:20 AM]
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