| 1/19/2008 10:27:15 PM |
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serenity11
Salmon Arm, BC
age: 50 online now!
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Alot of people on here say they are wanting to meet someone and build a relationship. So why aren't they done with the last one. I would like to hear from people out there regarding this. Your thoughts, experiences etc. Do you think a person can build a new relationship and have it go well if they are still married?
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| 1/19/2008 10:31:47 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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tanijala
Palmer, MA
age: 34
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i am separated and i had one relationship it was long distance,for 4 months. it was hard my husband still says he loves me even though i dont. i think it will be easier once we are divorced.
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| 1/19/2008 10:32:56 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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I think it doesn't matter, when the great spirit says it's time for you too find yer soul mate, it will happen wether you are single, or seperated
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| 1/19/2008 10:33:47 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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 NO
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| 1/19/2008 10:41:51 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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serenity11
Salmon Arm, BC
age: 50 online now!
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I'm not saying you wouldn't meet someone,just questioning how far it's expected to go when you are still legally committed to someone else. Something like "too many cooks spoil the broth". Don't you think that fact that you are still attached would make your new partner a bit cautious about getting too involved?
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| 1/19/2008 10:43:08 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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You are seperated, and not together any more, as long as you ain't goin back too em, what does it really matter?
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| 1/19/2008 10:47:30 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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ALL i can say if someone was still attached,married what ever,,,,i would have to question the new partner?????? a person is either attached or single,,,,there is no in between
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| 1/19/2008 10:51:07 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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reenie4
Milwaukee, WI
age: 50
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Not possible hun... I might add that I am actually a bit overwhelmed by so many that just SETTLE... simply because they don't like being ALONE... why in heavens name would people do that? SORRY... I just fail to understand that.. must be a total lack of self respect or self confidence! 
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| 1/19/2008 10:57:25 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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serenity11
Salmon Arm, BC
age: 50 online now!
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Well crowdog, I wonder if you are one of the people I am referring to because really the only ones I have ever heard defend it are. If it is so over then why not trully make it that way. It is unfinished business and part of being able to move forward is by having the past dealt with isn't it? I appreciate your comments though as this is something I hear alot of women talking about as far as them not being willing to even think serious if the guy hasn't cleaned the plate so to speak.Wondering what you guys think as well if the shoe was on the other foot.
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| 1/19/2008 11:02:17 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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crowdog3
Ponca City, OK
age: 34
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Hun I was seperated for a little over a year, and was dating, she lived in another state with the guy she left me for,
I also have learned over the years too keep an open mind about how life works,
there is always two sides too a story, and before folks go too jumpin the gun, they need too know the WHOLE story first
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| 1/19/2008 11:02:57 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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serenity11
Salmon Arm, BC
age: 50 online now!
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renee and bucktail, you both sound like you have all your eggs in the same basket and I totally agree. Just wanted to through this out there and maybe give some food for thought as there are alot on here that seem to think it's possible and can't understand what the problem is  
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| 1/19/2008 11:05:08 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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bucktail
Poynette, WI
age: 46
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??????---i guess the words i do means i might
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| 1/19/2008 11:06:57 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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mikey570
Bethlehem, GA
age: 32
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as long as the people are not liveing together then i dont matter see who you wanna see yes i think it will work
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| 1/19/2008 11:10:13 PM |
seperated but not divorced |
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gabisanic
Pleasant Hill, CA
age: 51
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A lot of people want to have their cake and eat it too. It is a free country and if you want to complicate your life by dating new people and form a new relationship while the other one is still hanging over your head, well... it is your decision. However, you are not being fair to the new person in your life who goes into it with hope and a desire to feel special and loved. Clean up your act, and then move on.
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| 1/20/2008 8:32:21 AM |
seperated but not divorced |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 43
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Most who are seperated and have not completed a divorce, well to me that is a sign there may be hope left in them that it may still work out. If it is over then divorce. If it is not over then you seperate.
99% of the first relationships after a divorce do not work anyway. It is fun for awhile but most want to jump back in a relatonship to quick because it is new and exciting. Once the excitment wears off then they realize they jumped in to quickly and did not give themselves enough time to get out there and date. So the cycle continues.
JMO
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