| 2/1/2008 12:19:27 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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take care of yourself and the kids...if she wanted to search for greener pastures, and found it wasn't so green, then it's her problem ...you and the kids come first!
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| 2/1/2008 12:23:44 PM |
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garnetlady
Cincinnati, OH
age: 48 online now!
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Well first off it is both men and women, not just one gender but I realize why you ask the question as you did. Cheating is a CHOICE! They do if for many different reasons and you'd just have to ask the individual person. If I love a man enough to take vows with him, there is no greener grass. I was married 17 years and alothough he cheated as a way of life, I was never tempted. Have never cheated on a b/f either. Its just a part of who I am...I choose to be faithful.
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| 2/1/2008 12:23:57 PM |
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karokeman
Abita Springs, LA
age: 37
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I told her I had a date and now she is flipping out, I think in her eyes what is good for the goose is not good for the gander. what the hell. do I sit at home and gloat are do i look for the one that will make me feel everything i want . I need someone to make me whole. When the pain supercedes the pleasure it is time to call it quits.
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| 2/1/2008 12:34:21 PM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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amen brother and if i had a dime for every time i felt something wrong early and still tried to save the relationship, id be rich. if you feel she or he is up to something, chances are they are.
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| 2/1/2008 12:35:28 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Ohhhhhhhh big sigh - you're gonna make me bash a woman and I hate when that happens!!!!!
Damm
Ok - here's the REAL female scoop on this...
You were plain old, plain old hubby. She got a stupid ideea in her head that someone else would be better to her in someway so she chased a piece of tail - which resulted in the two of you separating...which is what she "thought" she wanted...
she played - found she might have had it so bad after all
so she decided she wanted to come back
but the sad and bad thing was when she left you realized she wasn't as committed and good to you as she should have been, and she probably hurt you pretty bad, ripped apart your home and wrecked your kids Christmas
now she's sniffling and drunk dialing and "oh baby let me come home"
and in the mean time...you're going on a date....
Am I even CLOSE? Ha!
Now you're gonna date or have and she's freaking it going ballistic and blowing up your phone....
THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So you have 2 options:
1.) go forward, date who you want, finish the divorce, and hope your ex leaves you alone forever and you find happily ever after with someone new who will be true to you and will really love you and will tolerate your ex and her baggage and will also love your children.
2.) you can go back, take the ex wife back and in 9 months she'll do ti all over again.
You are in control of what you choose to accept in your life and tolerate.
Women are not.
Few men understand this - which is why divorce, separating, etc., gets so long and drawn out.
When you divorce - you divorce.
Shows over.
Good luck!
Putting down the big ass board and walking quietly on to the next thread....
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| 2/1/2008 12:41:08 PM |
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italianlady05
Omaha, NE
age: 53 online now!
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the phrase, once a cheater always a cheater is true. And it doesn't sound like you want her back, so what is your question again? Do you want validation for not taking her back? You have my vote. Pretty much sucks when there's kids involved. They need and deserve stabily..so who is the most stable right now, not just finances, i'm talking emotionaly?
Do you want to date someone to feel like you are needed and desired? How far out has all this been? Are you divorced or separated or just living apart right now? Lots of info that can change opinions here.
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| 2/1/2008 1:06:22 PM |
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sylviasmatch
Winter Springs, FL
age: 50
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I have to disagree - the line "once a cheater - always a cheater" is not always true.
It depends on the PERSON.
I have known more than a handful of people who have proven this statement to be wrong.
Bad people cheat, and Good people stray (cheat). what caused this to happen? I won't go into theories of why.....
I would simply say: Don't judge your next 'mate to be' souly on a past based on ONE bad decision. Now, if they cheated with many???? thats a different story! lol
No need to attack me or accuse me due to my post. I wont engage. I am simply stating my oppinion.
As for letting them move back in? naw, take the kids, but move on with your life, you have already moved on in your head and your heart, there is no healing the marriage now.
S
[Edited 2/1/2008 1:08:09 PM]
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| 2/1/2008 1:18:30 PM |
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grneyedluvr
Waverly, NY
age: 42
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lmfao @ good people stray (cheat) not attacking ya sylvia but omg what has this world came to if its "ok" to stray. that is half the battle when people try to say well, if he didnt do this , or he shoulda done that....omg if your looking the other way fu.... end it! end of story. theres no excuse. ever! especially if theres kids involved. dude, move on, theres still a few good women left who will appreciate ya, especially when they see your a good dad. im still hopeful, you should be too. good luck bro, my prayers are with ya.
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| 2/1/2008 1:20:32 PM |
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landing007
Palmyra, NY
age: 55
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Once the women starts to stray - they will always stray. What kills me is the guys that pick up these strays think their going to have some kind of wonderful life with this 'committed' love...
In my book - you don't get a second chance. I learned that from my X. She strayed once and I took her back (most for the sake of my kid). Nine months later - she was off again running wild. (I forget her handle - but one of the replies here said the same thing with the 9 month time-frame and is totally correct..)
When I look at all the tail I passed up on during my marriage, I could kick myself..
still a non-cheater....
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| 2/1/2008 1:24:37 PM |
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are_we_a_match
Huntsville, AL
age: 30 online now!
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I totally agree with you sylvia....Once a cheater always a cheater is not always true.
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| 2/1/2008 1:50:31 PM |
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sylviasmatch
Winter Springs, FL
age: 50
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its ok greeneye,
I like a good conversation. As long as there is no anger or knife throwing! 
but -----> i never said it was OKAY to stray (cheat)
I did however say - WHAT MADE THEM STRAY????
Now, everyone has there own oppinions. I believe the statement is NOT true: once a cheater always a cheater.
and THANK YOU TO
are-we-a-match,
it's hard to find open minded people who don't group all people into one big ball of manuer! HEE HEE.
PARTY ON! 
s
[Edited 2/1/2008 2:29:22 PM]
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| 2/1/2008 2:24:08 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Just curious does the same standard apply when it is the man who has cheated?
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| 2/1/2008 2:27:27 PM |
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sylviasmatch
Winter Springs, FL
age: 50
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I never singled out women to begin with.
of course! what i stated applies to both men and women and whatever GENDER people may come up with next.
[Edited 2/1/2008 2:30:10 PM]
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| 2/1/2008 8:46:45 PM |
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jewls363
Lincoln, NE
age: 44 online now!
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One man woman here. Its all I will ever want and all I will ever need. Just one.
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| 2/1/2008 9:00:25 PM |
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babygrl82
Sparta, IL
age: 25
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You cant turn a ho into a housewife
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