2/11/2008 4:59:06 PM |
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chimike
Chicago, IL
age: 56
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I see a lot of people saying they won't 'settle' for anything other than exactly what they want in a person. Yet, I also see a lot of people on sites like this year after year, the same people (and yes, that means I must be one of them!). MOST people seem to want the same thing, on both sides of the field, men & women, yet, few of us seem to find it. Why is that? When does 'not settling' turn into being 'too picky'?
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2/11/2008 5:03:32 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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To me that's a catch-22. Everyone settles, everyone negotiates and compromises, nothing is set in stone.
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2/11/2008 5:07:11 PM |
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drummaster777
Auburn, WA
age: 32
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Wow, good question.
Personally, I really have no idea what I want in a significant other. That's why I'm not placing a whole lot of expectations on people right now and I'm just trying to get to know people a little bit and see what happens. I think placing high expectations on what you'll accept as relationship material is an exercise in frustration by the people that do it.
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2/11/2008 5:09:05 PM |
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soulcrazy
San Clemente, CA
age: 38
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I agree Geo even though I feel like Soul is damn near perfect. I always said that there are things I can "live with" and then there are "deal breakers". Good thing I didn't have to worry about any of that mess cuz like I said, in my eyes, he is damn near perfect.
~Cajun~
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2/11/2008 5:15:51 PM |
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heatherw
Dixon, MO
age: 30
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I think that might be -the- difference between singles & someone going out with someone
they are not sure they would marry But in the words of Chris Rock
nobody's perfect
you just find someone just as f@#ked as you!!!
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2/11/2008 5:28:23 PM |
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ge0ge0
Tallahassee, FL
age: 41 online now!
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you just find someone just as f@#ked as you!!!
More if you want to hide behind them
Less if you want more attention
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2/11/2008 6:04:20 PM |
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tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
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you know i hear time after time people on here say they wont settle for less . but one should ask . what was the guy you was in love with befot datehookup was less . and if so why you on here looking for the same less man are woman
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2/11/2008 6:10:53 PM |
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tazzper23
Texarkana, TX
age: 45
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i thing just about everyone on here are settling for less. when you only talk to some cause they look good to you in my words is settling for less . cause in my eyes everyone that is seeking true unconditional . should be ask the most important question.
like will this person treat my kids like there own ?
will they help me with my bills?
will they understand me? are be there for me if i get phat ? these the kinds of question
but most look for people that look good and in up with less
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2/11/2008 7:01:38 PM |
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sweetynikki
Canyon Country, CA
age: 23
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never settle for less than the fairytale is what my mommy always told me.
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2/11/2008 7:12:12 PM |
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drummaster777
Auburn, WA
age: 32
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Too bad a guy's fairy tale and a woman's fairy tale are two different things.
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2/11/2008 7:14:17 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 34
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2/11/2008 9:59:12 PM |
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chopperbabe
Selah, WA
age: 47
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I have my criteria for who I am looking for in a male. There are things that I cannot live with and things that are not a big deal. I look at a man as a whole. His thoughts, his views, how he reacts towards issues, his soul. I have never like divorce and I always dreamt that I'd have a happy life with a man who would love me as much as I loved him. One would think with two abusive marriages behind me, that this would dissolved my vision of love but it hasn't.
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