11/20/2010 11:27:29 AM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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I have noticed both men and women who have been into numerous relationships, broke up, divorced, separated, etc. that they tend to be smarter and choosy before involving themselves with another person.
They tend to specify what they want & what they're looking for in a person. Does these past experiences - good or bad - hinder your chances of finding the best suited person to start all over again? Or do you just keep on dating whoever is interested to date you?
On the other hand, do you feel this temptation to keep on looking, thinking probably the next person will be better suited for you?
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11/20/2010 11:38:26 AM |
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tootitnbootit
Pomona, CA
age: 30 online now!
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translation .... so, u learned a thing or two ..are u gonna apply it or keep walking into walls all the while having ur fingers crossed ....
J/S
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11/20/2010 12:02:06 PM |
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onthelakelady
Lakewood, OH
age: 57
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I think every relationship is a learning experience. The trick is to apply the stuff you learn and not keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Easier siad than done!
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11/20/2010 1:29:51 PM |
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lollipopny20
New York, NY
age: 22
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Lots of available men and women who've been though divorce. If you want someone for companionship or just a date here and there you'll have no problem. If your looking for a husband then that might be a little difficult. Most men don't want a already made family. If your kids are older it might not be a problem. Your reasonably young even if you don't feel that way right now. There's always someone compatibale for you whether your 38,40,50 or even 60. You just have to be willing to open up your heart again and not worry about being hurt again. You'll find someone again just don't be tempted to tell your whole life's story just enjoy the moment it is just a date and keep your home separate have them meet you at a place of your choice always have a way home and never set up date at his place you choose you set the rules and keep it in the open and daytime
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11/20/2010 2:18:55 PM |
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bigbazborn
Buellton, CA
age: 46
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Yep, I am so selective that I have chosen nobody.
I go into my F2Fs with no expectations. I rarely have a bad date that way.
Bry
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11/20/2010 2:23:01 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 59
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Ah, lets see...3 Marriages, 2 Divorces, and 2 Broken Relationships...I'm about at the point of learning I'm just not Cut Out for Any of it
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11/20/2010 2:28:15 PM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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Luckily I have never been divorced, separated, single parent or have kids. I was just asking a question for those people who have been through so many relationships - good or bad. Basically I'm just tossing this to learn from other people. I guess being nosy, if you may call it that way!
Experience tend to be the best teacher!
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11/20/2010 4:08:52 PM |
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jerseycaligirl
Redondo Beach, CA
age: 33
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In my experience, when patterns started emerging in my romantic life & history kept repeating itself, I had to acknowledge that I was the common denominator. 3 years ago, when my relationship with my ex-fiance almost cost me my life, I put myself on an indefinite hiatus. I didn't date for over two years & took the time to search my soul & figure out why I kept falling in love with The Wrong Man. Earlier this year I started dating again, met someone & fell in love, assuming the risk that comes with it. Well... apparently I didn't do a very good job in breaking the cycle, because he was all kinds of wrong for me. My mistake? I let my heart get in the way of my instincts... again. So I'm determined to finally get this right, once and for all. "We attract what we think we deserve" - food for thought, indeed...
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11/20/2010 4:12:36 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money. Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work. Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses. I will not pay for sex or someone's time. Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes. With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship. BOTH PARTIES MUST GIVE TO EACH OTHER!!
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11/20/2010 4:23:55 PM |
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ldyfischer
Palm Beach Gardens, FL
age: 47
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What I have noticed is No One ever tells the truth about what they want. The lessons are useless. Except to make people even more scared the next time. Why is it so hard to talk and tell each other what we truly want from a realtionship? Why do we bend and morph into something we are not? Why can't we learn to enjoy each other for who we really are, faults and all? None of us here are perfect. We've hurt others at some point I'm sure as we have been hurt. Why do we feel that need?
I'm not complaining, just asking an age old question. When did we become so unhappy with oursleves and who we are to make up an alternate personality to please another?
I learned I deserve someone who like me for who I really am. Good and bad days included. It beats finding out the real truth after the honeymoon period is over and the true US shines through.
He doesn't really put the toilet seat down everytime / and she would never ask him to buy her tampons! Just food for thought.
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11/20/2010 5:09:21 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 43
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In my experience, when patterns started emerging in my romantic life & history kept repeating itself, I had to acknowledge that I was the common denominator. 3 years ago, when my relationship with my ex-fiance almost cost me my life, I put myself on an indefinite hiatus. I didn't date for over two years & took the time to search my soul & figure out why I kept falling in love with The Wrong Man. Earlier this year I started dating again, met someone & fell in love, assuming the risk that comes with it. Well... apparently I didn't do a very good job in breaking the cycle, because he was all kinds of wrong for me. My mistake? I let my heart get in the way of my instincts... again. So I'm determined to finally get this right, once and for all. "We attract what we think we deserve" - food for thought, indeed...
Have you considered giving a chance to a guy who seems to be the exacty OPPOSITE of your "type"? Some people dismiss certain types in high school, only to find years later that they never DID give those types a chance and dont really KNOW that much about them.
And you know,mean hotties get uglier and plain nice people really DO start looking better when you love them.
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11/20/2010 5:32:08 PM |
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tcbgirl48
Manchester Township, NJ
age: 62
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forgive ... make CLOSURE
that's all I can say
or you're no good for your next relationship, period
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11/20/2010 5:40:31 PM |
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joubert
San Diego, CA
age: 51
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In my experience, when patterns started emerging in my romantic life & history kept repeating itself, I had to acknowledge that I was the common denominator. 3 years ago, when my relationship with my ex-fiance almost cost me my life, I put myself on an indefinite hiatus. I didn't date for over two years & took the time to search my soul & figure out why I kept falling in love with The Wrong Man. Earlier this year I started dating again, met someone & fell in love, assuming the risk that comes with it. Well... apparently I didn't do a very good job in breaking the cycle, because he was all kinds of wrong for me. My mistake? I let my heart get in the way of my instincts... again. So I'm determined to finally get this right, once and for all. "We attract what we think we deserve" - food for thought, indeed...
I agree 100% I tend to repeat history in my selections though I'm not sure why. I've taken some time off to try and figure it out and believe I will one day. Cheers
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11/20/2010 5:54:51 PM |
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joubert
San Diego, CA
age: 51
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What I have noticed is No One ever tells the truth about what they want. The lessons are useless. Except to make people even more scared the next time. Why is it so hard to talk and tell each other what we truly want from a realtionship? Why do we bend and morph into something we are not? Why can't we learn to enjoy each other for who we really are, faults and all? None of us here are perfect. We've hurt others at some point I'm sure as we have been hurt. Why do we feel that need?
I'm not complaining, just asking an age old question. When did we become so unhappy with oursleves and who we are to make up an alternate personality to please another?
I learned I deserve someone who like me for who I really am. Good and bad days included. It beats finding out the real truth after the honeymoon period is over and the true US shines through.
He doesn't really put the toilet seat down everytime / and she would never ask him to buy her tampons! Just food for thought.
There lies the dilemma. Telling the truth is always the best way to go but, for some folks, it's difficult because of their past experiences in opening up to someone or because they simply don't want to be judged (and there are people who judge). Could you imagine telling someone about mistakes you've made in the past only to have them reject you! I think any reasonable person would be a bit tentative about disclosing again. Personally, I hope I'm the type of person who can listen (if the person feels compelled to tell me certain things); understand; and move on. After all, I'm not perfect--nor do I want to be.
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11/20/2010 6:07:42 PM |
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joubert
San Diego, CA
age: 51
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money. Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work. Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses. I will not pay for sex or someone's time. Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes. With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship. BOTH PARTIES MUST GIVE TO EACH OTHER!!
I understand your point that some folks have a sense of entitlement though I believe it applies to both sexes equally. I've dated women who really think that because men desire sex (which I do), they have a upper edge. And quite frankly, I think men are probably more to blame than women on that debate. On the other hand, some women simply can't afford to pay for a date for a variety of reasons. But you are right there must be mutual giving. Personally, I think a thoughtful gesture on a woman's part who can't afford to pay is making a nice picnic lunch. This way she shows you that she appreciates your picking up the tab!
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11/20/2010 6:11:59 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 43
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money. Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work. Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses. I will not pay for sex or someone's time. Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes. With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship. BOTH PARTIES MUST GIVE TO EACH OTHER!!
You could have made this post MUCH shorter. A breif interpretation would have been : "Ladies, wqould you PLEASE shove your stilltto heels RIGHT up my anus for posting such poor word choices in here?"
Aint saying I totally disagree with you, dude, but MAN! Lock your doors tonight is all i'm saying. When some of the chicks in here read..."Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement..." OMG!
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11/20/2010 6:51:34 PM |
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pdforone
Litchfield, OH
age: 59
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Divorced x2, I have a lot better idea of what I am looking for, but content whether I find her or not. Just really no desire to date dozens of women in the search.
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11/20/2010 6:58:20 PM |
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2shacks
Mooresville, NC
age: 47 online now!
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I've been married twice..divorced 1st & widowed 2nd. 2nd was the best relationship I had ever had. The 1st was abusive in many ways. Very intelligent and I learned so much from him but if I had never dated anyone before him..I never would've dated again. Fortunately, I had been in love and date some wonderful guys before him. I knew how good it should and could be & wasn't going to let him ruin the rest of my life or continue to control me by me staying single. I was excited to begin life again have what I had before.
Now...there are thing I will & not tolerate. I'm protective and do not believe in wasting life on something or someone just to make them feel better. I stayed with the ex partially bc I felt sorry for him but also bc I was very afraid of him. Now..our safety is the most important. I try not to put my child what my M did her children. It's up to me to protect us and we're all each of us have.
So..yes, it does effect how I perceive someone.
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11/20/2010 7:11:45 PM |
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silentsporty
Atlanta, GA
age: 26
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Learning from the past will help you find a better man/woman because it makes you wiser and gives you a better standard on what you seek out in a relationship. Now BRINING THE PAST to another relationship will usually lead to a failed one. Drop the past, and worry about the future.
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11/20/2010 7:25:47 PM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money. Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work. Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses. I will not pay for sex or someone's time. Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes. With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship. BOTH PARTIES MUST GIVE TO EACH OTHER!!
With that kind of comment, I guess you'll never get a date! Not all women are like that! Based on experience, some women are more than willing to pay for the tab!
If its the other way around and women invite men and takes care of the expenses, what name will you give that guy?
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11/21/2010 3:13:35 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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1st, I don't give a rat's A$$ if I "get" a date. You, honey would be lucky to go out with me. I can afford your daughter. No reason to settle for you! Secondly, all I am suggesting is that men and women be equals. Most women are so cheap, they won't pay for anything, no matter how much a man spends. I tell women up front that I expect them to reciprocate or pay for things sometimes. Women in 2010 have education and jobs and some make more than the men. Expecting the man to pay for everything is unfair and is essentially prostitution on the part of the woman. You middle aged overweight soccer moms should be happy ANY man is giving you attention whether he is paying or not! On top of that, many of you demand expensive dinners and concerts in exchange for your time. If I'm going to do that, I'll find a hot young woman to spoil, not some 40 plus over the hill battle ax with a ton of baggage. Pay your own way if you want to be an equal, ladies. ANy woman who expects a man to pay for everything because she is a woman has a sense of entitlement and it makes me sick. Women seldom invite men out on dates so this bull$hit about the person who does the inviting pays does not apply.
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11/21/2010 3:19:57 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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Here's something else! Women are more sexual than men but they try to hide it to use it as leverage to fleece men out of free dinners, travel, gifts, etc. Who buys all the vibrators? Who has multiple orgasms? Most women ma$terbate constantly and get tired of that battery powered piece of plastic. Men need to wake up and stop being taken advantage of by these gold diggers.
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11/21/2010 3:22:08 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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Here's something else! Women are more sexual than men but they try to hide it to use it as leverage to fleece men out of free dinners, travel, gifts, etc. Who buys all the vibrators? Who has multiple orgasms? Most women ma$terbate constantly and get tired of that battery powered piece of plastic. Men need to wake up and stop being taken advantage of by these gold diggers.
omg.... too funny!!!!!!!!
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11/21/2010 3:24:05 PM |
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elizabeth008
Philadelphia, NY
age: 36
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1st, I don't give a rat's A$$ if I "get" a date. You, honey would be lucky to go out with me. I can afford your daughter. No reason to settle for you! Secondly, all I am suggesting is that men and women be equals. Most women are so cheap, they won't pay for anything, no matter how much a man spends. I tell women up front that I expect them to reciprocate or pay for things sometimes. Women in 2010 have education and jobs and some make more than the men. Expecting the man to pay for everything is unfair and is essentially prostitution on the part of the woman. You middle aged overweight soccer moms should be happy ANY man is giving you attention whether he is paying or not! On top of that, many of you demand expensive dinners and concerts in exchange for your time. If I'm going to do that, I'll find a hot young woman to spoil, not some 40 plus over the hill battle ax with a ton of baggage. Pay your own way if you want to be an equal, ladies. ANy woman who expects a man to pay for everything because she is a woman has a sense of entitlement and it makes me sick. Women seldom invite men out on dates so this bull$hit about the person who does the inviting pays does not apply.
WOW!!!! breathe honey
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11/21/2010 3:34:09 PM |
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gnu2knoxville
Maynardville, TN
age: 43
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I think we have become a "So what if I hate you tomorrow," world. We all go too far, too fast and are usually disappointed with the results that came out of the microwave instead of the crock pot.
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11/21/2010 3:39:40 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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^^^^ slow roasted is the ONLY way to go!!
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11/21/2010 4:22:48 PM |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth.
Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money.
Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work.
Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses.
I will not pay for sex or someone's time.
Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes.
With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship.
WOW - that's a MAJOR generalization.
If that is your future outlook I feel very sorry for you.
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11/21/2010 4:30:06 PM |
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aeacus
Dundalk, MD
age: 46
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I tend to (or at least try not to) not judge people as I enter into any new relationship. I really only have two "deal breakers" of anyone...must not be in a relationship (or still married or haven't gotten over their ex) and no man hands!
What my past has taught me is how to better express or describe who I am... My idiosyncrasies...good points, bad points, etc.
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11/21/2010 5:03:44 PM |
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sarcastic_steph
Moorhead, MN
age: 37
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Women are the cheapest creatures on earth. Most have a sense of entitlement and expect the man to pay for everything in dating and in marriage while they bank their own money. Most women see sex as a reward they give men for paying for dates, dinners, trips, jewelry, etc. it's the pay as you screw mentality that most women in the USA have. Unless there is mutual giving, a relationship will never work. Anyone who wants to go out with me is informed that I expect them to pay their share of dating expenses. I will not pay for sex or someone's time. Most will not go out with me which proves that most of these women are nothing but prostitutes. With that attitude, they cannot have a successful marriage or relationship. BOTH PARTIES MUST GIVE TO EACH OTHER!!
well after reading the first ranting tenter tantrum you threw I was thinking hmmm not worth the key strokes to replay
but then you had to go and type some more crap that just keep spewing from your little man fingers …It must be very lonely in your narcissistic Napoleon complexed world? You say most woman are this way..”cheap” I believe you said, and when they act this way they are basically wh*res?
Just making sure I got this all right since you seem to be such an expert on woman and what they want and need….Could very likely be the fact that your arrogance just oozes from every orifice you have that most of the woman YOU have gone out with
(represents about what .000001% of the female population) only went out with you because they were raised to be polite and said yes to be nice but in doing so it was enough of an out of pocket experience just to be in your arrogant world for a few hours they figured “damn this man can pay for it since being here is hell on earth anyway” From what I see you’re a domineering type and what do you attract? You will only attract the little princesses of the world who have that sense of entitlement. So your basing your opinion of woman on what it is you attract. If you ever went out with a strong minded woman you would realize she can take care of herself and it’s an insult to her to have to be taken care of.
You did get one thing right in your meanderings it is a 50/50 thing and sometimes it’s nice when one will pay and the next time the other one can. Or go dutch marriage is also a 50/50 commitment.. You need to be very careful with the words you throw around about another gender since you’re not a woman THANK GOD wouldn’t want you in our sex you’ve already embarrassed the male population with your lack of respect and generalizations. Some women do the entitlement as you have mentioned but NOT ALL women do…until you have interviewed or dated all or even MOST women and done a double blind study to PROVE your point then you can carry on with your ratings until then take down your cross put your pitty potty away and crawl back under the self righteous rock you crawled out from
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11/21/2010 5:07:45 PM |
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skeeter180
Bangkok
Thailand
age: 36
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I learned never to get married again.....
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11/21/2010 5:28:56 PM |
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wm2611
Minneapolis, MN
age: 39
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nps3231 Fort Lauderdale, FL age: 47. Here is what I think basically. I had a girlfriend in high school on and off for three years. Then two relationships between those on and off times. When I hit college I had not much dating going on, maybe 1-2 different people before I met my ex-wife. We were engaged in 2 months, married about 1 year later, together for 18 years and married 15 of those. We had a complex situation of her parents divorcing, and both of us battling personal issues that really ended up in a 50/50 split. When your close to separation the natural instinct is to say," It was ALL their fault" When in reality, it takes 2 to build or take down a relationship, even if someone cheats, Illness etc, it's still a 2 way street. 2006 was our split, now divorced legally Jan 2010, I can say we are better off though, we became two different people, and may have been from the time we got married. Only Gods grace carried it through. Why it ended, on this earth I will never know. Maybe I get to ask when God and I rub shoulders. : ) Blessings to all. WM
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11/21/2010 6:48:40 PM |
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cremedemint
Los Angeles, CA
age: 46
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Many marriages end up on the rocks because people were blind to the obvious issues they would have with their partner when they met their partner; this blindness often comes from how the person was raised in thier family.
I have seen people married two, three, four or even five times as they never learned from their prior relationship experiences. I have seen people happily married in a second or third marriage. It is really a matter of learning an little more.
The more rigid someone is the less likely a marriage will ever work for them.
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11/21/2010 6:49:54 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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I said what I had to regardless of what you think Sarcastic Steph.
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11/21/2010 6:53:03 PM |
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truckdriverjohn
Branson, MO
age: 54 online now!
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I think twice now. Still looking and probably will be for some time. Maybe not...Who knows? I just don't want wake up, Turn over look at her, and say to my self..Are you still here?
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11/21/2010 7:12:19 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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Better to stay single than sign a marriage contract with one of these skanks. There is no benefit to a man to get married in the USA. Marriage benefits women since they can often get half or more of the man's assets through divorce.
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11/21/2010 7:16:40 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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Better to stay single than sign a marriage contract with one of these skanks. There is no benefit to a man to get married in the USA. Marriage benefits women since they can often get half or more of the man's assets through divorce.
CRAP!!! Our ruse has been discovered!!!! Back to the drawing board girls!!!
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11/21/2010 8:13:51 PM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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well after reading the first ranting tenter tantrum you threw I was thinking hmmm not worth the key strokes to replay
but then you had to go and type some more crap that just keep spewing from your little man fingers …It must be very lonely in your narcissistic Napoleon complexed world? You say most woman are this way..”cheap” I believe you said, and when they act this way they are basically wh*res?
Just making sure I got this all right since you seem to be such an expert on woman and what they want and need… .Could very likely be the fact that your arrogance just oozes from every orifice you have that most of the woman YOU have gone out with
(represents about what .000001% of the female population) only went out with you because they were raised to be polite and said yes to be nice but in doing so it was enough of an out of pocket experience just to be in your arrogant world for a few hours they figured “damn this man can pay for it since being here is hell on earth anyway” From what I see you’re a domineering type and what do you attract? You will only attract the little princesses of the world who have that sense of entitlement. So your basing your opinion of woman on what it is you attract. If you ever went out with a strong minded woman you would realize she can take care of herself and it’s an insult to her to have to be taken care of.
You did get one thing right in your meanderings it is a 50/50 thing and sometimes it’s nice when one will pay and the next time the other one can. Or go dutch marriage is also a 50/50 commitment.. You need to be very careful with the words you throw around about another gender since you’re not a woman THANK GOD wouldn’t want you in our sex you’ve already embarrassed the male population with your lack of respect and generalizations. Some women do the entitlement as you have mentioned but NOT ALL women do…until you have interviewed or dated all or even MOST women and done a double blind study to PROVE your point then you can carry on with your ratings until then take down your cross put your pitty potty away and crawl back under the self righteous rock you crawled out from
Amen to that!
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11/21/2010 8:20:29 PM |
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sarcastic_steph
Moorhead, MN
age: 37
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Better to stay single than sign a marriage contract with one of these skanks. There is no benefit to a man to get married in the USA. Marriage benefits women since they can often get half or more of the man's assets through divorce.
Well I am very glad you will be staying single better that then spewing your bitterness onto some poor woman who would be mistaken into thinking you were in it for love.
And you have every right to say what you want even if it's the minority of a thought about a few woman you have dated...
Just get your facts straight before you decided to speak to the masses o wise one...Generalizations are for ignorant idiots and you will be put in your place for it, and not just by me but by the intelligent men who are on this site who get sick of hearing from bitter angry people who get pissed off when someone takes away their dominance...
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11/21/2010 8:25:09 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
age: 27
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Steph if you included everyone including the ladies in that statement, I'm behind you 100% I might even buy the book!
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11/21/2010 8:31:48 PM |
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sarcastic_steph
Moorhead, MN
age: 37
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Oh sweetie I was referring to everyone even the ladies..no one is immune...LOL
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11/21/2010 8:32:41 PM |
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jammil
Valdosta, GA
age: 27
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I'll set you free and preach it to the four corners of the world!
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11/21/2010 8:36:09 PM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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Better to stay single than sign a marriage contract with one of these skanks. There is no benefit to a man to get married in the USA. Marriage benefits women since they can often get half or more of the man's assets through divorce.
You've forgotten those guys who married rich women for the money, and divorced their wives just to get half of the women's wealth!
Kind of funny as two guys were telling me about their wives, of how their marriage did not work because he started the house renovation. Apparently the wife did not want to have anything to do with the renovation, so they split. They're asking me for a date and mentioned about how they'd love to have me around the house since I like to do men's work! So I asked them if they're looking for a helper or a wife!
People should marry because they love the person for who they are and not what they can do for them! Sometimes, the good relationship fades away for whatever reason, but it takes two to tango!
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11/21/2010 8:36:58 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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How many women have you dated Steph, you rude sarcastic obnoxious man hating piece of crap? NONE I am sure. While I might have written generalizations, they are generally true. Women do go after men's assets in divorce court. I was never stupid enough to marry one especially a fat loud mouth kunt like you. Women are generally cheap because they refuse to pay their share of expenses when they are with a man. The same b!tches demand equal pay at work. The most important lesson a man can learn is to stay away from bitter ball busting b!tches like you.
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11/21/2010 8:39:04 PM |
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hbguy311
Buena Park, CA
age: 29
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Sonyomatic has a lot of factual points though(even though I don't agree with his name calling) Dating should be a 50/50 thing and to many women, it isn't. I did not say all women but most of them feel the man should be the one to always pay and the man should be the one with everything to lose. Seriously, if you go on let's say 5 dates with a woman and it doesn't work out, the guy probably paid 5 for 5 or 4 for 5 of those dates so he lost on average about $200(depending on what they did or ate) of his hard earned money on her. He should have only lost $100 but since most women(again, not all) expect the man to always pay, he has everything to lose.
There is no commitment from the women other than their time. Like Sony stated, if he has to pay for a woman, he might as well spoil some hot 22 year old. If women would just accept half of the financial responsibility, the dating scene and marriage would be a whole lot more successful.
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11/21/2010 8:39:31 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49
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Loony toons!!!!
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11/21/2010 9:13:26 PM |
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sarcastic_steph
Moorhead, MN
age: 37
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How many women have you dated Steph, you rude sarcastic obnoxious man hating piece of crap? NONE I am sure. While I might have written generalizations, they are generally true. Women do go after men's assets in divorce court. I was never stupid enough to marry one especially a fat loud mouth kunt like you. Women are generally cheap because they refuse to pay their share of expenses when they are with a man. The same b!tches demand equal pay at work. The most important lesson a man can learn is to stay away from bitter ball busting b!tches like you.
Ohhh hahahaha ohhh wait still laughing see I knew you would go off on a rant and you DID good job!!
You just proved my point and then some...oh and nice use of the English language with your slurs did you have those saved up or do you just pull them out when a strong minded woman puts you in your place??
I realize there are woman out there who do this AS I SAID in my last post...But your so bitter you can't see past your own hate so you generalize have you done any fact finding since the last post you made hmmm doesn’t look like it you may want to Google some facts then get back to us...and as long as we are going to play the lets call names like we did in high school thing then I get to use the "your rubber and Im glue" or does Nanna nanna boo boo work better not sure still trying to define your age with that little rant you had...but hey if you feel better about yourself and got all that out that’s what we’re here for..oh and for the record I love men and have been very happy with a few in my day never have I put down ALL men or generalized them. There have been some very historic things that have shaped this nation because of GREAT men..hell there are some really great guys on this site..your just pissed off cause I put YOU down so im not a man hating b*tch I just dislike you and I called you out and now your Napoleon complex kicked in and your foaming at the mouth...you may want to get that looked at
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11/21/2010 9:15:56 PM |
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sarcastic_steph
Moorhead, MN
age: 37
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How many women have you dated Steph
oh and I don't have to date woman I AM ONE it's weird how that works isn't it
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11/21/2010 10:04:05 PM |
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hurtindaddy
Binghamton, NY
age: 43
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How many women have you dated Steph
oh and I don't have to date woman I AM ONE it's weird how that works isn't it
Sigh.....Why are you in Minnesota, Steph?
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11/21/2010 10:57:52 PM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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Sarcastic Steph, You didn't "put me in my place" you fat pig. You just flapped your big yap. The facts are simple and since as a woman, you have no ability to reason, here they are again in a simple format. Stop eating for a minute and read:
Women are cheap (They expect the man to pay for everything on most dates and in the relationship))
In most cases, the woman will do better in divorce court because the courts unfairly favor women in this country. That's why only a MADMAN would marry in the USA.
Women attempt to manipulate men with their sexuality when in fact the women want it just as much as men do in most cases, especially over the age of 40. By that point most women look so bad, men are no longer interested in them so they buy vibrators. At this point, women have much less to sell to men as their looks take a nose dive. Just look at the treasure trove of fatties and fuglies in the women's section on this site for a preview.
Men like me with money and a certain amount of power in our fields can have younger and hotter women. We don't have to settle for big mouthed pigs.
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11/21/2010 11:17:11 PM |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Women are cheap
(They expect the man to pay for everything on most dates and in the relationship)
Men like me with money and a certain amount of power in our fields can have younger
and hotter women. We don't have to settle for big mouthed pigs.
Your arrogance and heart full of hate has eaten your soul.
The sad thing, you can't even see it.
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11/22/2010 4:53:36 AM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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Sarcastic Steph, You didn't "put me in my place" you fat pig. You just flapped your big yap. The facts are simple and since as a woman, you have no ability to reason, here they are again in a simple format. Stop eating for a minute and read:
Women are cheap (They expect the man to pay for everything on most dates and in the relationship))
In most cases, the woman will do better in divorce court because the courts unfairly favor women in this country. That's why only a MADMAN would marry in the USA.
Women attempt to manipulate men with their sexuality when in fact the women want it just as much as men do in most cases, especially over the age of 40. By that point most women look so bad, men are no longer interested in them so they buy vibrators. At this point, women have much less to sell to men as their looks take a nose dive. Just look at the treasure trove of fatties and fuglies in the women's section on this site for a preview.
Men like me with money and a certain amount of power in our fields can have younger and hotter women. We don't have to settle for big mouthed pigs.
Sonyo, please refrain from using foul words & calling names when you post here! For one thing, Steph is still a very attractive lady and you have no right calling names until you look at yourself in the mirror and wipe off the dirt on your face!
Technically, if you invited somebody to dinner,movies,vacation, you pay for it! When I invited somebody I pay for it! How would you know all women just pig out on a date and don't share resources in marriage, when logically speaking, you've just been with a few women?
By all means, date the hot young chicks i.e., if they will!
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11/22/2010 6:21:44 AM |
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susansheart839
Paris
France
age: 58
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Here's something else! Women are more sexual than men but they try to hide it to use it as leverage to fleece men out of free dinners, travel, gifts, etc. Who buys all the vibrators? Who has multiple orgasms? Most women ma$terbate constantly and get tired of that battery powered piece of plastic. Men need to wake up and stop being taken advantage of by these gold diggers.
Would it be rude of me to say that you have been hurt by women as a general rule? I suggest some serious counseling for you so you can get past the anger and hatred you have for women. In the meantime, and failing intervention by counseling, I suggest women stay away from you for their own good...
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11/22/2010 7:18:06 AM |
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joubert
San Diego, CA
age: 51
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Sonyo, please refrain from using foul words & calling names when you post here! For one thing, Steph is still a very attractive lady and you have no right calling names until you look at yourself in the mirror and wipe off the dirt on your face!
Technically, if you invited somebody to dinner,movies,vacation, you pay for it! When I invited somebody I pay for it! How would you know all women just pig out on a date and don't share resources in marriage, when logically speaking, you've just been with a few women?
By all means, date the hot young chicks i.e., if they will!
I agree, Steph is very attractive.
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11/22/2010 9:27:49 AM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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Steph is a large and in charge big mouth IMO. Isn't it amazing how you chicks suggest counseling
when a man disagrees with you. Women seldom invite men out so the man gets stuck paying all or most of the time. This doesn't require therapy. It involves avoiding all of you kunts who thing your vag!na is lined with gold. That way, you can pay your share or I'm not going to waste any time with you. You men out there who don't have the balls to insist that women pay should be ashamed of yourselves. Women work and earn money too. There is no reason why they should bank it while you stupidly wine and dine her. If you do, you are a eunuch and need to get your balls reattached. Are you so desperate to get laid, that you have to put the b!tch on a pedestal? If you do, you are a p*ssy and you have trained these women to be the b!tches that they have become.
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11/22/2010 9:45:11 AM |
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s_pearl
Cincinnati, OH
age: 47
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Steph is a large and in charge big mouth IMO. Isn't it amazing how you chicks suggest counseling
when a man disagrees with you. Women seldom invite men out so the man gets stuck paying all or most of the time. This doesn't require therapy. It involves avoiding all of you kunts who thing your vag!na is lined with gold. That way, you can pay your share or I'm not going to waste any time with you. You men out there who don't have the balls to insist that women pay should be ashamed of yourselves. Women work and earn money too. There is no reason why they should bank it while you stupidly wine and dine her. If you do, you are a eunuch and need to get your balls reattached. Are you so desperate to get laid, that you have to put the b!tch on a pedestal? If you do, you are a p*ssy and you have trained these women to be the b!tches that they have become.
I don't suggest counseling - unless it is to learn how to communicate a valid point effectively.
Hopefully you are on a different dating site and present yourself with some modicum of decency toward the human race. To use generalized, blanket statements, schoolboy curse words as adjectives, and argumentative responses then imply the desire to meet a woman or lady who shares your view is definitely not going to happen on this site because she is reading your posts before she answers your wink or email.
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11/22/2010 9:54:39 AM |
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sonyomatic
Boynton Beach, FL
age: 45
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I couldn't care less if I meet anyone here. Most of you over the hill broads don't appeal to me anyway. You fatties and fuglies are for poor guys. I can afford your daughter. Why would I settle for you?
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11/22/2010 9:58:03 AM |
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nps3231
Fort Lauderdale, FL
age: 47
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Steph is a large and in charge big mouth IMO. Isn't it amazing how you chicks suggest counseling
when a man disagrees with you. Women seldom invite men out so the man gets stuck paying all or most of the time. This doesn't require therapy. It involves avoiding all of you kunts who thing your vag!na is lined with gold. That way, you can pay your share or I'm not going to waste any time with you. You men out there who don't have the balls to insist that women pay should be ashamed of yourselves. Women work and earn money too. There is no reason why they should bank it while you stupidly wine and dine her. If you do, you are a eunuch and need to get your balls reattached. Are you so desperate to get laid, that you have to put the b!tch on a pedestal? If you do, you are a p*ssy and you have trained these women to be the b!tches that they have become.
I agree with S-Pearl, if you use foul words when you're angry, it makes the situation worse! I still wish you should refrain from using it and generalizing women and now insulting other men too!
It seems that you are so angry with your ex and women, I don't even know why you're here looking for a woman!
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11/22/2010 10:00:54 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
age: 52
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You gotta ignore Sonyo. He's been here before in a previous profile or two, spews his hate, deletes, comes back to spew some more. Evidently, he can't stay away.
I think he really enjoys the bad words, like a little boy who likes the effect.
I'm sure the pic is a fake, but it's the one he's used before. And for some reason he's really into letting people know how rich he is and how he can buy and sell people's daughters.
OT: Yes. My past relationships have shaped what I look for now, but maybe in a different way than it has for others. I used to have a list of things I wanted in a person, and I found them--or at least a majority of them. They were good men, for the most part, and some of the relationships lasted a long time.
But when I met my late husband, he really didn't have a lot of the things I thought I was looking for. He was better and had attributes and qualities I didn't know I wanted (yes, he had some like his integrity and stability). I ended up throwing out the list I'd made, because what he was, I liked.
I guess what I'm saying is I've found that being too choosy or adding to a list I adhere to as I discover things I like or don't like might make me overlook someone who together we might be something really special. (That is not to say that I don't have some deal breakers, it's just to say I'm not married to an 'you must have' list.)
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11/22/2010 10:06:28 AM |
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s_pearl
Cincinnati, OH
age: 47
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I couldn't care less if I meet anyone here. Most of you over the hill broads don't appeal to me anyway. You fatties and fuglies are for poor guys. I can afford your daughter. Why would I settle for you?
Over the hill? I'm two years older than you - and would be willing to bet MY MONEY on that fact that you couldn't handle this woman! How do you know if I am a 'fattie'? Fuglie? what is that? couldn't find it in Websters. If I had a daughter - trust me - she could spot you a mile away and RUN. One of my sons took the time to read your postings. From his mouth to your eyes: 'The guy's psycho. A jerk. Probably can't get it up. That's why he hates everyone.'
So please, please DON'T SETTLE here - keep moving on, surely you will find EXACTLY what you deserve. Then the two of you can sit around complaining to one another about how stupid, and ugly, and old, and selfish EVERYONE else in the world is. Sounds like a match made in heaven.
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11/22/2010 10:12:14 AM |
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phina1
Walton, KY
age: 49
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Sonyo is obviously a troll . . .
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