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goldangel
Hickory, NC
age: 55
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I just want to say I have read and think alot like you all.
I want a lover to be together but I may not want to fish,golf,
He might not want to go shopping all the time with me
But at the end of the day I want to come home and know he is
my friend ,my helper,lover that I will give all I can to him
and he to me.When he lookes in my eyes he will no there is no one above
him but GOD and he can trust me above all to be faithful and true
I can honest say I have never been unfaithful.
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| 3/2/2008 12:35:45 PM |
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trisha1
Erie, PA
age: 58 online now!
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There is no perfect man as like wise there is no perfect woman.If we think there is ,we are all dreamers.I think that the three most important things that a man and woman should have between them is, first communication,without communication there is nothing.The second would be trust.If you can't trust there is no point in going any futher.Friendship is the most important as the song says,"How can we be lovers if we can't be friends." As Lotus stated,take baby steps.I wish that all of us could find the man or woman that we want or the one that we are looking for.Time will tell for a lot of us.Trisha
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| 3/2/2008 12:42:14 PM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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 ladies I do so agree
Shalah
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| 3/2/2008 1:34:52 PM |
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smalltownmouse
Saint Johnsville, NY
age: 57
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Gold I couldn't have said it any better than you. I am hopeing someday I'll find that same man . As time is always ticking away so is my time here without my last love, so please come soon so I can still enjoy all that life has to offer.If it isn't one here on DH than I hope to meet him soon some place else in the near future.
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| 3/2/2008 2:52:12 PM |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55 online now!
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I would also like to compliment hobokengirl on her beautiful, thoughtful and thought-provoking posting. I've had a rough couple of years and am at one of the lowest points of my life. I would honestly need the person to be a source of strength and encouragement for me. That they could like me enough and understand me enough to believe in me. When we were younger, I don't think we could define exactly what it was we wanted - let alone, find it all in one person. We were cavalier and carefree... but, one day, there was a mutual sexual attraction with somebody - and, if we were honest and sincere - more than likely, that turned into a long-lasting, satisfying relationship - not ever perfect - but, one where we began to love and appreciate that person deeply - for a variety of different reasons. Certain things about them - we loved immediately and they became terribly endearing to us - other things took much more time and effort - but, oftentimes, we did end loving some of those things as well. Now, this next time around... we think we are so mature and experienced and smart that we can do a lot of the "legwork" in our minds and have an almost perfect candidate even before we test the waters with our baby toe. It probably won't work out that way - maybe it will - and, I hope it does and I guess it could - I'm just saying, it probably won't. It will probably be like it was before - remarkably, some night you will find yourself kissing someone - and, it will be a good kiss - and, then a deep kiss - and, suddenly - it won't be about "dating", anymore - just about seeing them tomorrow - and the day after - then, sleeping over - moving in - getting married - and... having someone there. All the time. Suddenly, your partner. Your best friend. Your rocketship... your liferaft... your movie star... your "blanky"... your moon and stars and planets. Then, as things settle down to normal... there will be days when you ask yourself... "How did I get myself all messed up into THIS again?" Then, we'll remember back to the days and nights like the ones we are spending now... and, we'll say, "Oh, yeah... NOW, I remember..." I'm not sure what the hell I just wrote - but, I'm leaving it because I just invested a chunk of my life into it...         
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| 3/2/2008 3:00:49 PM |
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smalltownmouse
Saint Johnsville, NY
age: 57
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Huron, Wonderful writing, with wisdom and experience written all over it.
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| 3/2/2008 3:06:14 PM |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55 online now!
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Thanks, smalltown...
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| 3/2/2008 3:07:20 PM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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Huron I dont think that you give yourself enough credit, you are obviously a very insiteful man. Hang in there you only have one way to go and that is up.
Shalah
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| 3/2/2008 3:09:11 PM |
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tn_tx_lady
Chattanooga, TN
age: 65
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Huron, Wonderful post. Feels like there is a bit of the real you in there.
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| 3/2/2008 3:09:26 PM |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55 online now!
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| 3/2/2008 3:31:27 PM |
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sxyatsxty1
Montgomery, TX
age: 61
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For the last year or so, I've pretty much just gone with the flow....if I win the lottery, good for me. If I find Mr. Right, good for me. Then, for some unexplainable reason, I've decided I really don't give a damn if I win the lottery OR find Mr. Right.
If I live as long as my mother did, I have 15 years left and I'm not about to go 'out' like she did.
I've decided to retire in September, this year, sell everything I own, buy another Harley and hit the highway. I have friends all over the country and two brother still living. If I wear out my welcome, there's always a clean motel and fast food. I figured up this week that a one bed chain hotel room runs about $35 a night...if you sign up for longer, it gets cheaper per night. That's approximately a $1000 a month which is less than what I'm paying for rent and utilities. Add all the other expenses necessary to live in a house; insurance, food, yard care, car and I'm spending nearly $2000 now. And since I can get nearly 55 MPG on a motorcycle, who wants to be retired house-bound?
I've got a "to do" list I want to start scratching off. I want to explore new places and revisit ones I loved the first time. It would be more fun with someone but I'm not going to sit around waiting for Mr. Right to finally get smart and come find me. His loss will be another trip some place exciting for me.
Anyone interested in coming along for the ride?
EC
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| 3/2/2008 3:44:17 PM |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55 online now!
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That sounds like a great plan, sexy. Hey, if you decide you want something else in a year or two... then, do THAT!!! I would think your chances of meeting someone exciting and compatible to yourself might be much greater under those conditions of excitement and travel and ever-changing scenery and life situations than just hanging where you're hanging and going through the same motions day after day. Nothing lasts forever, and you might tire of it, like I said... but, then, there's something else - something completely different from what it would have been should you have just stayed in the same old place and let another year peel off of the calendar...
You'll need a laptop with wireless connection to stay connected to DHU...  
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| 3/2/2008 3:50:58 PM |
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goofynurse
Rolla, MO
age: 50
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Very insightful and heartfelt huron,,,, good thread everyone.... there is just not much more I can add right now.....Donna
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| 3/2/2008 3:56:10 PM |
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shalah
Marshall, MO
age: 59
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sxy sounds like a plan to me hun. You go girl!!! I have always intertained the thought that I would love to get me a pickup truck and a camper and travel the country stopping where I wanted to stop and painting the scenery or what ever took my fancy. Moving on when the mood struck me to move. I understand perfectly.
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| 3/2/2008 4:06:13 PM |
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huronearth
Mount Pleasant, MI
age: 55 online now!
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That would be great for you, too.. shalah. Especially for your paintings, I'll bet... those French Impressionists used to move around "en masse" - looking for the best sunlight...
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