stella23
Lake Jackson, TX
age: 47
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AHHHH! I am so sorry! I can't introduce you to my friends! LOL
WHAT WERE THE ODDS THAT YOUR NAME WOULD BE BUBBA??
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jcsweet25
Woodstock, GA
age: 26
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don't feel bad, it's not really  
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stella23
Lake Jackson, TX
age: 47
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well I just showed how naive I am!
Glad you're not a Bubba!
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filipowiczii
Cuyahoga Falls, OH
age: 29
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I don't blame you one bit for feeling that way. In matter of fact it just happened to me the other week ,. We meet on another dating site and after talking for awhile online I asked for her phone # only to hear a nice voice but it was the laughter that sounded like some DEEP voiced man's laugh. Needless to say I have back off slowly, in a way not to offend this person, because they are nice and all, but damn that laugh, AHHHHH .
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oldeschoolcharm
San Diego, CA
age: 46
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To answer stella23, yes, I hang my head in shame. I found eyes' voice "child-like". But, she is of short stature, and her vocal cords can be expected to be proportionately shorter, and therefore her voice higher-pitched. There's a reason for it.
I don't allow any one thing to be a deal-breaker in a relationship.
In this case, I find she has many wonderful redeeming qualities, and my brain has adapted to the sound of her voice -- I now find it quite delightful to hear.
Understanding her, particularly over the phone, was actually hard at first, but I really like her, and the brain adapts to accomodate the heart.
IIRC, one of eyes' peeves is having people ask her to repeat herself -- suggesting they aren't paying attention in the first place. I was guilty of asking her to repeat herself quite a bit at first, simply for having a hard time understanding her. But, she gave me a chance, and for that I am grateful.
It's not a question of learning to tolerate something you don't like -- that takes effort. Rather it's a question of naturally adapting to something that is a little different to the point where you come to enjoy it. Today, I absolutely adore the sound of eyes' voice, and can understand her quite well.
I will say that I was corresponding with a woman a few months ago who had a very deep voice. We never met, so I don't know if it would have ever stopped bothering me -- while "child-like" is close to feminine, when it comes to the pitch of a voice, masculine certainly isn't.
It was a post of eyes, actually, that encouraged me to give someome I met earlier "a chance" despite having misgivings about our compatabilty. Well, I did, it didn't work out. But eyes and I started a correspondence, which led to phone conversations, which led to meeting, and surprise, surprise, surprise, being attracted to one another, on several levels.
Granted, one date does not a relationship make, but all relationships do start with that one first date.
[Edited 3/14/2008 11:48:11 AM]
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