| 3/25/2008 5:38:33 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
56, joined Feb. 2008
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should you tell his wife? or run for the hills? 
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| 3/25/2008 5:39:27 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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peta_who_cares
Fort Benton, MT
55, joined Jan. 2008
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shoot him
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| 3/25/2008 5:44:59 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
56, joined Feb. 2008
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i'd rather for his wife to do that. i'm not seeing a married man. been there way too many times!    
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| 3/25/2008 5:47:15 PM |
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sugalaflame
Macon, GA
56, joined Mar. 2008
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ugggh...honey............RUN! This comes from experience. My motto now is, If you are married and have a void in your life I'm not going to fill it, because it would only cause one in mine!
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| 3/25/2008 5:54:06 PM |
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imtrina
Houston, TX
63, joined Jan. 2008
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well i have found that a lot of guys on here or elsewhere say they are not married and then when you get to know them better. you find out they are married. i get so tired of that  . why are they even out here looking. it is hard enough for single women without having to discern whether this guy is really single or married. i have found out that married men do act somewhat different in some aspects. they usually have time limits. or always in a hurry to get to the sex part. or is that all men???
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| 3/25/2008 6:05:08 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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stormygrl
Denver, CO
49, joined Aug. 2007
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casterate him.....
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| 3/25/2008 7:03:31 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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38special1
Rolla, MO
54, joined Mar. 2008
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find his wife a date, run up his bills.
did he till you right house number?
have you been there?
 make sure it is wife not gf.. he may have more then one house, travels from house to house.
men try to outsmart some women and succeed. know what that means? you caught him... some didn't.
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| 3/25/2008 7:08:06 PM |
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lin37
Comstock Park, MI
45, joined Feb. 2008
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just run. the wife won't believe you anyway unless she's ready to which she won't be. that's not your problem.
it seems that some men (not all mind you) tend to try to line up someone before they are single again. it's like they need the security of something to run to before they have to run. my ex did that.
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| 3/25/2008 7:19:46 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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dutchboy4u
Huntington Beach, CA
52, joined Oct. 2007
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Kick him in the balls and run. Never look back...
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| 3/25/2008 7:23:09 PM |
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lin37
Comstock Park, MI
45, joined Feb. 2008
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look back only long enough to watch his face loose all its color and see him fall to his knees as he grasps his crotch. then run away.
Maybe run back and kick him in the balls again...repeat steps 1 and 2.
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| 3/25/2008 7:23:37 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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hkm
Bloomington, IL
44, joined Dec. 2007
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I say you just have to turn and walk away !!!!! say the same if they have a GF too !!! If he is gonna lie to her what is to say that even if he left her for you that he wont do a repeat...... I can not stand a person who lies!!!!! I have been with a few and have to say it makes it very hard to trust now.
Kick him to the curb honey !!!!!!!! You deserve WAY better.
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| 3/25/2008 7:24:13 PM |
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greeneyegemini
Port Angeles, WA
45, joined Mar. 2008
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Same here lin37. I was with a gal for over a year to find out she was still married to some guy in the army/navy? She left me to see him in hawaii. 
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| 3/25/2008 7:25:09 PM |
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icedsnow63
Broken Arrow, OK
52, joined Mar. 2008
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it happened to me.....get rid of him now it won't be easy but trust me the longer you wait the harder you will fall.....and you NEVER get over it...
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| 3/25/2008 9:31:53 PM |
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yummybear
Lufkin, TX
38, joined Mar. 2008
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TRY TO FIND OUT WHERE HE AND HIS WIFE IS HAVING DINNER, THEN WALK BY AND GIVE HIM A BIG KISS ON HIS LIPS AND SAY I KNOW NOW WHY U STOOD ME UP TONITE, U HAD TO TAKE UR MOTHER OUT TO DINNNER, HE HAS TO GO HOME WITH HER ,U DON'T , AND U WILL FEEEL SOME WHAT BETTER KNOWING HE IS GETTING HIS BALLS IN A SLING FOR THE THAT ONE !!!!
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| 3/25/2008 9:33:53 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
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sorry - I'd love to comment here, but I'm going to back quietly out of this thread....
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| 3/26/2008 11:03:20 AM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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lookin4serious
Somerville, TN
45, joined Feb. 2008
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I am dealing with this same situation right now. I did not tell his wife, or run. I have became very good friends with him and we chat regularly, without any sexual talk. We have never met, and I do not expect to. He has became my best friend. And yes to a lot of the post here. All are exactly what you feel like doing. I, myself, just like being friends, maybe that wouldn't work for you. But, he makes me smile and laugh, and that meant more to me than a sexual relationship anyway. It is ultimately your choice. Good luck to you. 
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| 3/26/2008 11:06:00 AM |
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lonesomeloser
Louisville, KY
57, joined Dec. 2007
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try stepping up in quality of the men....
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| 3/26/2008 11:15:01 AM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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susansheart839
Port Saint Lucie, FL
68, joined Mar. 2008
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Dump him!!!!
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| 3/26/2008 11:32:23 AM |
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stevex86
Rush Springs, OK
47, joined Sep. 2007
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thats so evil Yummybear, I love it!
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| 3/26/2008 11:39:53 AM |
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yellowroom
Grand Island, NE
55, joined Jun. 2007
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Boil a bunny on his stove!!!!
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| 3/26/2008 11:46:47 AM |
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msjkrldy
Dayton, OH
56, joined Dec. 2007
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If you find out he is married and u still see him you deserve the hurt thats commin !
Me I'd tell his wife cuz I'v been on the other end !
Then kick him in the BALLS !!!!!
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| 3/26/2008 12:48:19 PM |
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vilobo
West Monroe, LA
49, joined Feb. 2008
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Tell him your with child and if he doesnt commit your filing for child support lol.
Then if he starts avoiding you call his work and tell him you just found out you have
a STD.Either of these will scare the heck outa him.
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| 3/26/2008 2:46:19 PM |
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missyrose
Oakwood, GA
44, joined Jul. 2007
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let him go.............no matter what you will turn out to be the hoe /homewrecker,etc. especially if wants to keep his marriage he WILL talk bad about you....YOU WANT THAT?
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| 3/26/2008 3:02:08 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
42, joined Jan. 2008
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How does a person fall hard for someone that they hardly know?
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| 3/26/2008 3:42:48 PM |
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paul1917
Ann Arbor, MI
43, joined Mar. 2008
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This recently happened to me, but of course it was a woman I fell hard for. I ate lunch with her and went for walks during lunchtimes for a couple of weeks befoe I found out she was married. She didn't wear a ring, how's a guy to know?
I can't say that she led me on in any way and nothing romantic happened, but she HAD to know that I was very interested in her. Maybe she liked the attention? I just can't believe that she was completely oblivious to my feelings.
It really sucked because I fell for her harder than I have fallen for anyone for as long as I can remember. We had a lot in common, she was beautiful, really smart, witty, genuine, pretty much my idea of perfection.
I have only just started to get over the fact that nothing can happen because she is already taken. It is hard to get over, but what else is there to do?
Has anything happened between you and the guy? If not then back off and cool down. Maybe you can still be friends if you can respect the fact that he is married.
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| 3/26/2008 3:45:34 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
42, joined Jan. 2008
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Damn sitkarains.. that sucks balls.
Shit.. if you got fooled what chances do I have for not being fooled?
That's it.. I'm just hiring escorts.
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| 3/26/2008 4:17:50 PM |
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againnothing
Miles City, MT
39, joined Mar. 2008
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been with too many married its almost not a shock just hope i dont get caught.
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| 3/26/2008 4:54:23 PM |
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owensborogirl2
Owensboro, KY
52, joined Mar. 2008
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Just consider it a lesson learned and move on.
I met with someone recently and he decided to go back to his ex. So this almost feels the same...hang in there
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| 3/26/2008 4:59:33 PM |
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pichick712
Aston, PA
57, joined Jan. 2008
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run for the hills. If she doesn't know by now, she is either in denial or really stupid. Why spoil it for her?????
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| 3/26/2008 5:01:25 PM |
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thundergod405
Oklahoma City, OK
36, joined Mar. 2008
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Tell tell tell. Ive been in a situation where a friend knew and said nothing and i could have saved 2 years of my life!!
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| 3/26/2008 5:01:49 PM |
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againnothing
Miles City, MT
39, joined Mar. 2008
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 glimmer your married flake off.
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| 3/26/2008 5:39:28 PM |
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tara7c
Westerville, OH
57, joined Mar. 2008
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Sitkarains...I love the way you handled that. Wow...no one should mess with you! 
TRY TO FIND OUT WHERE HE AND HIS WIFE IS HAVING DINNER, THEN WALK BY AND GIVE HIM A BIG KISS ON HIS LIPS AND SAY I KNOW NOW WHY U STOOD ME UP TONITE, U HAD TO TAKE UR MOTHER OUT TO DINNNER,
Yummybear...I like the way you think! 
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| 3/26/2008 6:03:43 PM |
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jewels180
Bronx, NY
53, joined Feb. 2008
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yes I would tell his wife ... hes a cheating DOG and she should beware  
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| 3/26/2008 6:12:02 PM |
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flowergirl62
South Australia
Australia
53, joined Feb. 2008
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I have never had this problem so I guess I'm lucky. Men seem to let me know they're married and then ask if I'm interested in having an affair. Go figure?
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| 3/26/2008 6:19:45 PM |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
52, joined Nov. 2007
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rule #1....dont fall hard for a guy, if that fails see rule number #2
rule number #2....never fall hard for a guy
No head games, no big kiss ...no getting involved, use your head here....
Value a guy, build a friendship and never have sex until you know exactly whats up.... I guess I was one of those kids who did my homework, looked up meanings of words, if it been translated I look til I find the true translation....Icant believe people just jump in!look before you leap ALWAYS.
It is NONE of your business to tell his wife. Thats HIS reasponibilty, live and learn and dont ever be so quick, investigate, its unfortunate that guys can be, gentlemen notice the words CAN be not are...can be such liars so wise women learn to investigate, keep your eyes open and for Gods sake dont have sex until you know what the f**k is up. This is directed at anyone in this postion. You never know what kind of shit he has done to her to piss her off and she wants things the way they were so rather then keeping him responsible she will blameshiftonto you, your lifew could be in danger, never know, loose canons are everywhere so a hey never speak to him again and be prepared to protect yourself...of course then again, she has every right, maybe you should let her just blow up on you and get it over with.
Above all stay away from some bad advice that invloves head games, head for the hills, dont do it again and they will work it out how ever they choose but at least you will have your health...opr so we hope...if he cheated with you you can damn well bet there have been others and being married he doesnt want no condom and you can bet that somewhere along the way he has not worn them and if you did not wear one you just slept with a whole lot of people....better keep repeating some test for awhile.
much luv sorry bout the harsh truth but I dont bullshit around and I domnt play stupid games i just get to the truth and spill it.....in your case telling the wife could endanger your life, if you haven't already by sleeping with him.
 Good luck
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| 3/26/2008 6:34:48 PM |
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collegekidunot
Winnsboro, LA
56, joined Feb. 2008
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thanks mindyb for the advice. haven't seen/heard from him in a while. he has admitted about seeing the other girlfriends?? so he has a lil black book that he takes with him. i'd love to get ahold of it!
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| 3/26/2008 6:57:34 PM |
You fall hard for a guy, then you find out HE'S MARRIED! |
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mindyb
Park Rapids, MN
52, joined Nov. 2007
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I can understand that....just take good care of yourself babe....not all of them are sleezstacks.
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