| 3/25/2008 7:46:58 PM |
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lola2447
Cullman, AL
age: 42
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Honey, never be ANY man's consolation prize! He will know that's what you are and he will treat you like that.
It might be hard to walk away, but you've got to do it. Once you do, and you get through it, you'll see that you CAN survive. And you'll have a lot more respect for yourself.
And, this is the thing I have learned about men: They will continue in whatever behavior you allow them to continue in.
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| 3/25/2008 7:55:09 PM |
dump him or keep him? |
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uptoc
Castle Rock, CO
age: 47
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Intuition (instinct) very seldom fails..ignoring what you KNOW and FEEL..well the balls in your court..play ball.
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| 3/25/2008 7:55:58 PM |
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daddyduck
Splendora, TX
age: 54
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Wise old duck saying: When you settle, youre never settled
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| 3/25/2008 8:15:34 PM |
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belladreams
Binghamton, NY
age: 37
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Change your phone number, and dont answer your door....tell him that you cheated on him with another woman...he'll understand. by the way im back..... drop the zero and get yourself a hero honey....your just settling for less and that is making you look much worse than he is....so you are alone, so what. I am a single mother of a 14 year old boy, and he dont even want to be around me because he is older now....i have been single for ten years, but i know what i have to do in order to make a life for myself....its a matter of strength. Ask him if he has any friends that he could hook you up with...  
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| 3/25/2008 8:39:58 PM |
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surelyugest
Nanaimo, BC
age: 49
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Lin has some great t hings to say .. I never thought i would be able to be alone.. but I am and i had to learn about who i was without a man around and learn what I liked and didn't like about myself and how this affected my choices in partners. Yes it can be lonely, but better to be lonely when alone than in a loveless relationship that's a whole different kind of lonely. Take the time as a opportunity not a loss.
Good luck 
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| 3/25/2008 9:12:03 PM |
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1pinkstar
Omaha, NE
age: 54
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yes, Lin has some great advice. I CONCUR.
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| 3/25/2008 9:37:01 PM |
dump him or keep him? |
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afrofever
Plainfield, NJ
age: 26
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trush him
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| 3/26/2008 10:23:41 AM |
dump him or keep him? |
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zachmar9
White Lake, MI
age: 39
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You are all right.....nothing said is wrong or a lie. I know I should, but how do you make your self want to dump him. How do you find the strenght. And then what do you tell people when the ask why you dumped him, he doesn't drink, he doesn't hit, he isn't mean in any way.....
And how do I dump him, without being mean? Why can't a women just tell a man, I want to be with you but you don't really want to be with me, you don't respect me, and don't treat me the way I want or deserve, but we can still be friends????
Most men take this as a challenge to change, I don't want to change him, I don't want to change me, I just want MORE! More than he is willing to give.
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| 3/26/2008 3:01:56 PM |
dump him or keep him? |
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sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31 online now!
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You need to do some self-reflecting first. Life is short and what you make of it. Do you want to play second fiddle all the time? I would hope not. Seize the day! Pardon the cliche. It will take courage and strength to lose what you know and become comfortable with. But are you not settling yourself?
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| 3/26/2008 4:23:08 PM |
dump him or keep him? |
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katiescarlett72
Dallas, TX
age: 35
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I dated a guy last year who acted like I was an afterthought in his life. Every time I started to think about calling things off, he'd say or do something just nice enough that I rethought my better judgment.
I finally told him to take a hike in November. It was extremely hard. There was no big dramatic scene, no nasty argument, nothing that gave me a good "excuse" to dump him. People would ask me "what happened?!?" as though expecting a good battered-girlfriend story. I had to just say, "I don't know, it just didn't work out."
I'm now blissfully in love with a new man. We're engaged and I'm walking on air. He's everything I ever hoped I'd find.
The moral to my story: If I'd still been goofing around with the guy from last year, I'd never have found the love that I have now. I'd have been sitting home wondering if I should just settle for "good enough."
Being alone blows goats, there's no doubt about it, but it's often the only path to the things that will truly make you happy.
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| 3/26/2008 4:26:40 PM |
dump him or keep him? |
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alex_192
Sarasota, FL
age: 55
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i hope the sex is great, as you can take he is not respecting you
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