| 8/18/2011 12:21:33 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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You have MET a great woman/man. What do you do next??
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| 8/18/2011 12:24:45 PM |
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afrosirene
Brooklyn, NY
age: 34
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You have MET a great woman/man. What do you do next??
Keep them....
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| 8/18/2011 12:29:18 PM |
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audlove515
Temecula, CA
age: 22
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Keep them....
QFT.
The end.
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| 8/18/2011 12:36:52 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49 online now!
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Bat my eyelashes, touch his arm, flip my hair, pucker my lips, and laugh at his jokes. Oh yeah... and flash my boobs
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| 8/18/2011 12:39:19 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Bat my eyelashes, touch his arm, flip my hair, pucker my lips, and laugh at his jokes. Oh yeah... and flash my boobs
I know-right?! At some point you become tempted to handcuff them to the bed so they can't get away!!
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| 8/18/2011 12:40:48 PM |
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perspicacity888
Hamilton, ON
age: 23
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Bury them up to their chin in cement so they don't leave you
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| 8/18/2011 12:42:00 PM |
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veniteadoremus
Baton Rouge, LA
age: 26
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Um.. Take it slow & see where it goes!
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| 8/18/2011 12:43:23 PM |
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bigchief423
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 33
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Start to learn about them, and them about me... see what happens.
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| 8/18/2011 12:44:16 PM |
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ankhshu
Newnan, GA
age: 41
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Start asking serious questions about finance, family life, future goals, etc. Serious questions pertaining to life issues usually begin the CONFLICT STAGE.
Hopefully, you won´t get knocked up or banged upside the head during the conflict!
Must pass the conflict stage otherwise its probably a mirage, waste of time, or life lesson!
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| 8/18/2011 12:44:29 PM |
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binderdundat
New Orleans, LA
age: 49 online now!
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Big chief!! Trust me! A little boob flashing works wonders too!!
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| 8/18/2011 12:45:42 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Start asking serious questions about finance, family life, future goals, etc. Serious questions pertaining to life issues usually begin the CONFLICT STAGE.
Hopefully, you won´t get knocked up or banged upside the head during the conflict!
Must pass the conflict stage otherwise its probably a mirage, waste of time, or life lesson!
Great answer.
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| 8/18/2011 12:46:13 PM |
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nottoosure1
Haines City, FL
age: 41
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get a hotel room
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| 8/18/2011 12:58:48 PM |
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mischiefmanaged
Bellevue, WA
age: 41
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I get anxious and worry, I think of silly tests to put them through, I panic thinking what If they aren't right for me? What if I fall madly in love and they leave? What if I grow old and die alone sad and forgotten? What if what if what if... Nah. Too much effort. I just schedule more interaction with them and see how things go.
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| 8/18/2011 1:05:18 PM |
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apirate45
Coventry, RI
age: 49
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try and find out if she thinks your great too.
figure out if your part of her life story or just a book mark..
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| 8/18/2011 1:06:56 PM |
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legaleye
Columbus, OH
age: 59
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Skip the cuffs for now. If you need cuffs to hang on to them, they are the wrong one for you. My advice here is to be yourself. If you are trying to be someone else, sooner or later the real you will come out, and then it ends anyway.
But more specifically, communicate.
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| 8/18/2011 1:18:25 PM |
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bigchief423
South Pittsburg, TN
age: 33
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Big chief!! Trust me! A little boob flashing works wonders too!!
hmmm  .... show me and I'll let you know if it does 
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| 8/18/2011 2:18:36 PM |
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joe_226
Winnsboro, TX
age: 34
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Um.. Take it slow & see where it goes!
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| 8/18/2011 2:39:30 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
age: 56 online now!
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"Met" meaning nothing....met, means just met relatively recently.
Many seem great at first..time will tell.
Definitely keep seeing them, but be mature and realistic at the same time.
Get overwelmed, develope too much feelings too soon, and if time shows, they were not so great.
Where does that leave you?...I'm not saying be leery, just realistic.
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| 8/18/2011 2:47:04 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Definitely keep seeing them, but be mature and realistic at the same time.
Get overwelmed, develope too much feelings too soon, and if time shows, they were not so great.
Where does that leave you?...I'm not saying be
leery, just realistic.
My favorite coined phrase is "cautiously optimistic." It applies in many situations, but especially when it comes to meeting new people.
I have only been posting in the forums for a few days. I posted this thread, in part, because it is already beginning to feel like "groundhog day" in here.
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| 8/18/2011 2:49:51 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
age: 60
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try and find out if she thinks your great too.
figure out if your part of her life story or just a book mark..
Ooh, I like that answer...Maybe just a Chapter or 2
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| 8/18/2011 2:53:36 PM |
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northphxhiker
Phoenix, AZ
age: 49
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sneak away, get the duct tape out of the trunk...
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| 8/18/2011 2:56:47 PM |
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tootsiebee
Tarzana, CA
age: 23
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Keep them....
Perfect answer....
Oh you forgot to add fk their brains out.!
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| 8/18/2011 3:04:28 PM |
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teachableguy
Kennesaw, GA
age: 41
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Perfect answer....
Oh you forgot to add fk their brains out.!
Yep.
Good sex will make a woman forget petty differences.
Keep the kitty happy and get to know each other.
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| 8/18/2011 3:38:23 PM |
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goldie_rai
Louisville, KY
age: 41
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If it's someone that I enjoy spending time with and we seem to be compatible, that makes me want to see him more often. The more time I can spend with him the better, that way I can see him as he really is, and he can begin to understand me more as well.
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| 8/18/2011 3:41:49 PM |
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bbw47reader
Frederick, MD
age: 49
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Pray.
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| 8/18/2011 3:44:09 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Pray.
Yeah. That too.
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| 8/18/2011 3:53:00 PM |
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hatari78
Oklahoma City, OK
age: 32
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great in what?
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| 8/18/2011 3:57:48 PM |
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pwhit
Tulare, CA
age: 39
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Forget the past baggage be open and honest and accept no less in return
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| 8/18/2011 4:20:04 PM |
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julscesar
Montebello, CA
age: 49
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Drop it in cruise control, enjoy the ride. If it's all good seal the deal and marry her/him. Hey, but don't forget the PRENUP (just in case). 
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| 8/18/2011 4:27:53 PM |
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exctbleboy
Gainesville, FL
age: 47
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Start asking serious questions about finance, family life, future goals, etc. Serious questions pertaining to life issues usually begin the CONFLICT STAGE.
Hopefully, you won´t get knocked up or banged upside the head during the conflict!
Must pass the conflict stage otherwise its probably a mirage, waste of time, or life lesson!
Wow the goals and responsibilities interrogation leads to the conflict stage ?
True ..So why go there ? If I find my great women my goddess soul mate .. I wont care what else much happens .
I will be where I need to be .
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| 8/18/2011 4:28:02 PM |
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lisa21468
Andover, NJ
age: 43
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introduce him to the family....if hes in...hes a keeper...
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| 8/18/2011 4:28:53 PM |
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diggy3184
Toms River, NJ
age: 26
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Cook for them for sure a happy girlfriend is a happy life.
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| 8/18/2011 4:30:50 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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great in what?
That's completely subjective, isn't it? What may be one person's 'nice guy' may be another's overbearing prick....and what may be one person's 'good woman' may be another's opinionless spineless woman...I could continue, but I think you get the idea. You can't fit a square peg into a round hole, but you may eventually come across a round peg...or octagonal...whatever shape your hole is.
(wait...that doesn't sound quite right, does it?) lol
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| 8/18/2011 4:33:15 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Wow the goals and responsibilities interrogation leads to the conflict stage ?
True ..So why go there ? If I find my great women my goddess soul mate .. I wont care what else much happens .
I will be where I need to be .
Those questions may or may not bring conflict, but I do think conflict resolution is an important part of building a relationship and a pretty good indicator of whether or not a relationship has lasting power...
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| 8/18/2011 4:45:54 PM |
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tootsiebee
Tarzana, CA
age: 23
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+1 
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| 8/18/2011 5:21:07 PM |
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rubberbanman
Sherman, TX
age: 38
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If it's someone that I enjoy spending time with and we seem to be compatible, that makes me want to see him more often. The more time I can spend with him the better, that way I can see him as he really is, and he can begin to understand me more as well.
Wow. I'm surprised to see you say something like this Goldie.
I think this is the first post I've ever seen from you where the subject of "golddigging" didn't come up.
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| 8/18/2011 5:23:36 PM |
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dorval
Harrington Park, NJ
age: 92
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+1
tootsiebee: I see you post this a lot, what does it mean................
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| 8/18/2011 5:47:26 PM |
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m3taphor
Upland, CA
age: 22
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You have MET a great woman/man. What do you do next??
Not be a jackass and alienate them, at first.
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| 8/18/2011 5:52:38 PM |
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hounddoglover
Alliance, OH
age: 37
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I usually end up losing her lol
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| 8/18/2011 6:37:36 PM |
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toxic_tale
Milwaukee, WI
age: 34
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Show them or tell them that you are interested and find out if you get the same response
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| 8/18/2011 6:53:06 PM |
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fun2bchattin
Hedgesville, WV
age: 44
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Pinch myself cuz I am probably dreaming. Lol.
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| 8/18/2011 7:09:54 PM |
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angelofhonesty
San Antonio, TX
age: 42
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F**k the hell out of them...HELLO!!!!!
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| 8/19/2011 5:53:14 AM |
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exctbleboy
Gainesville, FL
age: 47
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introduce him to the family....if hes in...hes a keeper...
Why do you need their approval ? What if they dont like him ?
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| 8/19/2011 5:53:47 AM |
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exctbleboy
Gainesville, FL
age: 47
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F**k the hell out of them...HELLO!!!!!
Them ?
I love dis gal !
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| 8/19/2011 6:21:58 AM |
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alphabetsamson
Santa Ana, CA
age: 46
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You have met a great.......what do you do next?.....Kiss them.
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| 8/19/2011 6:33:00 AM |
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puddin1117
Front Royal, VA
age: 46
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Treat him right, and hope to get the same in return.
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| 8/19/2011 8:44:10 AM |
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russy_russ
La Porte, TX
age: 33
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You have MET a great woman/man. What do you do next??
The next step is to see if you can tolerate the company they keep. Because you don't want to be in a relationship with someone and you don't like their friends.
[Edited 8/19/2011 8:45:45 AM ]
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| 8/19/2011 8:49:03 AM |
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princess_jasmin
Houston, TX
age: 44
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Inspect her body for flaws or excess lb-age.
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| 8/21/2011 3:29:11 PM |
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goldie_rai
Louisville, KY
age: 41
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Wow. I'm surprised to see you say something like this Goldie.
I think this is the first post I've ever seen from you where the subject of "golddigging" didn't come up.
I only call myself a crazy gold digger when those whining guys keep complaining about how much a woman will "cost" them.
Seriously though, I usually share the cost of dating pretty equally after the first date. I feel if the poor guy can get through the first one without crying then I most likely return the favor by taking him out at least once, as long as he acted like a gentleman the first time. 
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| 8/21/2011 3:32:45 PM |
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tootsiebee
Tarzana, CA
age: 23
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tootsiebee: I see you post this a lot, what does it mean................
LOL it means I'm one post closer to my star
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| 8/21/2011 3:50:35 PM |
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60freebird
Atlanta, GA
age: 60
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Interesting topic..........specially since I'm sort of there right now! My thoughts are kind of a repeat of several others although Afroshine has my impulses down perfectly!!!
I guess if the "connection is there intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, the obvious, a nice make out session would be first on the list (it's in his/her kiss)........see if the pheromones are there too. Then I think, spend as much time as possible together, communication, communication, communication. Next, meet the families....family is important and I'd want to know how he interacted with his family as well as mine. Next thing, take a trip......short one, maybe a long weekend. Road trips are the best. If you survive that still feeling he/she's the one, then I think it's a go!  
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| 8/21/2011 3:57:39 PM |
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codeguru
Huntington, WV
age: 30
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You have MET a great woman/man. What do you do next??
Get ignored in a few days/weeks. I'd rather meet the shitty ones so I can get it over with in a day...
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| 8/21/2011 4:00:56 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Get ignored in a few days/weeks. I'd rather meet the shitty ones so I can get it over with in a day...
"Bitter, party of one. Bitter, party of one."
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| 8/21/2011 4:04:05 PM |
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codeguru
Huntington, WV
age: 30
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"Bitter, party of one. Bitter, party of one."
Yeah, because we're all here to report our successes in love...
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| 8/21/2011 4:07:00 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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Yeah, because we're all here to report our successes in love...
I choose to remain "cautiously optimistic."
And my first go-round is QUITE the 'Jerry Springer' story...I just have all my teeth and wouldn't flash my boobs on national TV.
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| 8/21/2011 4:07:54 PM |
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xyhoney
Atlanta, GA
age: 32
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I would try to find out if he feels the same way also.
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| 8/21/2011 4:10:38 PM |
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codeguru
Huntington, WV
age: 30
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I choose to remain "cautiously optimistic."
And my first go-round is QUITE the 'Jerry Springer' story...I just have all my teeth and wouldn't flash my boobs on national TV.
I choose to remain alone, and then rationalize that statement until I believe it...
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| 8/21/2011 4:21:52 PM |
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ohbelle
Wickliffe, OH
age: 44
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I choose to remain alone, and then rationalize that statement until I believe it...
Good luck with that, darlin'...
I had to spend many years alone. I left my ex-husband in August of 96!! I've had boyfriends and even fiances in the meantime without finding someone who was actually good to me. Every lesson I've learned I have pretty much learned the hard way. Last year I was dating someone and discovered what I considered to be a character flaw that I couldn't live with...and I walked away. For the very first time I walked away before this behavior had an impact on my life and left me with a broken heart.
I wouldn't go so far as to say the man in my life today is perfect, but he amazes me in little ways on a pretty regular basis. I'm happy to have him in my life and I try to show it in big and small ways (I wear nail polish in his favorite shade-things like that). A LOT of years have passed since that August when I packed a car, left my kids with my Mom and moved 1000 miles away from everything and everyone I knew-and many of those nights have been lonely ones...there were times of great discouragement, tears on my pillow and all that jazz...
All that to say don't lose hope-even if all you have is a tiny spark. 
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| 8/21/2011 6:00:26 PM |
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60freebird
Atlanta, GA
age: 60
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Good luck with that, darlin'...
I had to spend many years alone. I left my ex-husband in August of 96!! I've had boyfriends and even fiances in the meantime without finding someone who was actually good to me. Every lesson I've learned I have pretty much learned the hard way. Last year I was dating someone and discovered what I considered to be a character flaw that I couldn't live with...and I walked away. For the very first time I walked away before this behavior had an impact on my life and left me with a broken heart.
I wouldn't go so far as to say the man in my life today is perfect, but he amazes me in little ways on a pretty regular basis. I'm happy to have him in my life and I try to show it in big and small ways (I wear nail polish in his favorite shade-things like that). A LOT of years have passed since that August when I packed a car, left my kids with my Mom and moved 1000 miles away from everything and everyone I knew-and many of those nights have been lonely ones...there were times of great discouragement, tears on my pillow and all that jazz...
All that to say don't lose hope-even if all you have is a tiny spark.
I admire your fortitude and your insights! Excellent!
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| 8/21/2011 6:11:50 PM |
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rekas
Houston, TX
age: 24
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Get ignored in a few days/weeks. I'd rather meet the shitty ones so I can get it over with in a day...
Yeah at first "the one" seems so perfect. Then in a couple weeks it somehow goes to shit and "the one" is telling you ignoring your phone calls, texts till you get the hint "the one" does not want anything to do with you. My sentiment is the same as codeguru on this subject. "The one" to me is just someone that I have not ran off yet. Other than that to me no such thing.
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