| 8/22/2011 8:23:34 AM |
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ronbeebe
Norcross, GA
age: 63 online now!
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Situation: I am with a lady that I knew in High School, she is beautiful, but has never been in true love. Her husband died 7 years ago, she has three lovely daughters, three dogs, and teaches school. We see each other on the weekends.
I realize that she is a busy women. I am wondering if she has time for me or if I am just a playmate for her.
she can be affectionate, but it seems to be lets do this and move on. I am one of those guys that wants to linger and enjoy just being together.
What do I do, I think I care for her more than she feels for me. Do I stay in a situation that is not totally satisfying or look some where else for what I really want.
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| 8/22/2011 8:27:02 AM |
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marseclevel
Mechanicsburg, PA
age: 33
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Do you! If she cant meet you specifactions, look but dont move on, until your ready! She obviously uses you, for what she needs, from what your saying. Its a two way street,lol!
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| 8/22/2011 8:32:05 AM |
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goodman4sum1
Reading, PA
age: 43
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First, talk to her about it. It could be a misunderstanding.
But if she doesn't want what you want, end it and find someone who does.
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| 8/22/2011 8:33:19 AM |
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anardric
Brownwood, TX
age: 27
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You have to trust yourself on this one. It could be she is just moving more slowly.
Trust yourself to make this call. Go with what you feel, not what you think. For your thoughts your will play tricks on you.
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| 8/22/2011 8:34:30 AM |
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matureblkmann
Atlanta, GA
age: 57
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Dreamgirls Soundtrack: "Move"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6IbnGwaRiE&feature=fvst
She can't make the time to be with you the way you want.Move on but use her like a hobby until you find what you want.I would.Free good sex a blessing dogg!
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| 8/22/2011 8:55:15 AM |
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datcreoleboy
Compton, CA
age: 35
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One sided relationship only hurt the one that truly feeling something... My advice is get out of it and as far as u can as fast as possible. U will be getting hurt very often. Nothing hurts worst then being in love with someone that doesn't love u back
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| 8/22/2011 9:24:31 AM |
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veniteadoremus
Baton Rouge, LA
age: 26
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You have to trust yourself on this one. It could be she is just moving more slowly.
Trust yourself to make this call. Go with what you feel, not what you think. For your thoughts your will play tricks on you.
Exactly.
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| 8/22/2011 10:10:05 AM |
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gamerman17
New York, NY
age: 24
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Situation: I am with a lady that I knew in High School, she is beautiful, but has never been in true love. Her husband died 7 years ago, she has three lovely daughters, three dogs, and teaches school. We see each other on the weekends.
I realize that she is a busy women. I am wondering if she has time for me or if I am just a playmate for her.
she can be affectionate, but it seems to be lets do this and move on. I am one of those guys that wants to linger and enjoy just being together.
What do I do, I think I care for her more than she feels for me. Do I stay in a situation that is not totally satisfying or look some where else for what I really want.
Quite honestly, the huge red flag is what you've already mentioned: Being a one-sided relationship. Why would you want to subject yourself to basically being used and not treated as an equal? Your subconscious telling you this possibly on the very first time you've seen her set you up for this and now you're questioning yourself whether you're doing anything wrong. Truth of the matter is, you're only doing wrong by staying in this relationship. Sure she may be beautiful, but it isn't worth your dignity or character to be on the line. Find someone who will treat you as an equal or whatnot. Sure this is the logical answer, totally ignorant of your reality, but I feel this is the only way.....gamer
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| 8/22/2011 10:20:10 AM |
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ronbeebe
Norcross, GA
age: 63 online now!
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Thanks for the help. It sounds like all of you think I should move on.
Now: I am the first man she has been with since her husband die. How do I tell her that with all she has going on in her life, there isn't enough of her to go around.
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| 8/22/2011 10:37:43 AM |
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freeparking
Polk City, FL
age: 46
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Treat her like a gun range and shoot blamks.
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| 8/22/2011 10:39:46 AM |
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bluesgirl001
Woodstock, GA
age: 64
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Well let me say you cannot be a mat unless you lay down. I was in a 1 way relationship for 4 years and I had to move to Ga. to try and focus on a new beginning. Sometime we get into a situation that we think is love when it is really just a habit. If you are not satisfied with the position you are in count your losses and try to move on. I cried every day for 7 months when I first moved here. Then I finally realized I had more to offer the right man and I had a lot of respect for myself.As far as you think you car for her. If you only think you care, that is a red flag right there. Why should you be miserable waiting for what I call the "Maybe tomorrow" she will love me more.
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| 8/22/2011 10:57:06 AM |
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ladyfifty123
Brooklyn, NY
age: 54
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Situation: I am with a lady that I knew in High School, she is beautiful, but has never been in true love. Her husband died 7 years ago, she has three lovely daughters, three dogs, and teaches school. We see each other on the weekends.
I realize that she is a busy women. I am wondering if she has time for me or if I am just a playmate for her.
she can be affectionate, but it seems to be lets do this and move on. I am one of those guys that wants to linger and enjoy just being together.
What do I do, I think I care for her more than she feels for me. Do I stay in a situation that is not totally satisfying or look some where else for what I really want.[/quote
Where do fit in with her are you included in her priority  or are you her option,? 
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| 8/22/2011 10:58:56 AM |
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neo52
Tallahassee, FL
age: 54
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Three days ..Just so you're certain it's one sided ..
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| 8/22/2011 10:59:44 AM |
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ladyeden
Waynesville, MO
age: 51
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That's up to you to decide.
It may not be all you desire but so far it has been enough or you would have left all ready. Unlike those that say dump her and move on - TALK to her. Communication is key,
not assumptions, not supposings. Approach it as wanting what is best for both of you - not ultimatiums.
One thing to consider, as a teacher she has a morals clause in her contract.
Shacking up could jepordize that. You haven't exactly made her any commitments.
Maybe she's waiting for a proposal rather than risking her bread and butter?
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| 8/22/2011 11:29:54 AM |
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asysa
Milwaukee, WI
age: 34
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That's up to you to decide.
It may not be all you desire but so far it has been enough or you would have left all ready. Unlike those that say dump her and move on - TALK to her. Communication is key,
not assumptions, not supposings. Approach it as wanting what is best for both of you - not ultimatiums.
One thing to consider, as a teacher she has a morals clause in her contract.
Shacking up could jepordize that. You haven't exactly made her any commitments.
Maybe she's waiting for a proposal rather than risking her bread and butter?
I truly agree. Sometimes when u invest so much in someone u may love, and u do recieve the same in return, it puts limitations on what u do for others... Address the situation when at hand.. Never allow yourself to settle for less...
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| 8/22/2011 11:35:26 AM |
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xyhoney
Atlanta, GA
age: 32
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One sided relationship only hurt the one that truly feeling something... My advice is get out of it and as far as u can as fast as possible. U will be getting hurt very often. Nothing hurts worst then being in love with someone that doesn't love u back
So true
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| 8/22/2011 11:37:00 AM |
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luvins2
Marysville, WA
age: 39
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Disappointment REALLY sucks!!! Why set yourself up for that!?!?
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| 8/22/2011 11:52:21 AM |
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scoot85
Pauls Valley, OK
age: 26
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If it's a date...about ten seconds
If it's a marriage...about ten days
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| 8/22/2011 12:00:05 PM |
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bumblebee7
Fort Payne, AL
age: 56 online now!
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I'm confused, you just recently made a thread about you were in a long marriage, and your young looking for your age and want a woman between 45 and 55, but haven't been able to find one on the net.
I would get the impression from that, you are single and looking.
Now this....care to eloborate?
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| 8/22/2011 12:33:44 PM |
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marias3girls
Springfield, MA
age: 33 online now!
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Don't stay as long as I did!
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| 8/22/2011 12:38:56 PM |
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wallflower69
Pierson, FL
age: 42
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move on with your life. . .you deserve the whole package. . .if you feel it is a one sided relationship, then it probably is. . .it only gets harder to leave if you keep going with it. . .good luck. . .
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| 8/22/2011 3:49:08 PM |
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rlm68
Gilbert, AZ
age: 42
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3 days
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| 8/22/2011 7:37:52 PM |
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pepgirl
Brockton, MA
age: 45
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I stayed 5 years too long. I was a fool!
Move on to something more filling of your sole. IMHO if you don't you'll regret it!
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| 8/22/2011 8:50:06 PM |
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iluv2read
Tellico Plains, TN
age: 56
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Man, it sounds like your playmate only on weekends is just that ' only a playmate' and has a full plate with her daughters, dogs and her job. You, my man is her dessert on the side. I would find someone else that would be there for your emotional needs as well as your physical. Lots of luck, Dove
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