mountainman7
Chattanooga, TN
age: 41
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Gina....
I told my last date when I met her the first (and only) time that I had ADHD and AS. But if I am going to get to know someone on DH, I'd prefer to disclose that prior to meeting with someone. That way, I don't go into meeting such and such a person, wondering what that person will think of me. What I will do is in the future after disclosing it and talking about it is ask "Would you like to know more about it?" If that person says "no", I feel like it's not worth my time getting to know that person. If that person says, "yes", then I will be glad to share that information.
I have gained an incredible amount of confidence in the past couple of months, especially the last month that I don't worry about what anyone thinks of what I have any longer. What I have is a part of whom I am, not what defines me. If I met someone who had certain types of disabilities, the first thing I'd want to do is discuss them. How they affect that person? If there's anything I can do or should be aware of and such? I will not hesitate in the future to talk for one entire conversation (or more, if needed) about disability issues when getting to know someone. After all, if this is someone I really would like to get to know, why shouldn't that person and I take the time in discussing what we deal with on an everyday basis? I think it's important from the standpoint of knowing how to potentially work together as a team in supporting one another.
We all have been posting so much.
We all answer to the best of our knowledge.
Here's my problem.
When do you or can you even get the courage to tell that other person that you have certain disabilities?
Do you hand them a pamphlet or some papers so they can read up on it?
I myself never hide the fact that I have certain disabilities.
I tell anyone the way it is. I have no fear in expressing myself as some of you already know...LOL.
So how do anyone of you do this hard obstacle?
What is the first approach to it?
What ,if any, results have you found to have received?
I always get very good responses
things like" just because you have this doesn't make you any different than me"
" your still a very beautiful and intelligent woman"
" i love you no matter what is going on with you and I'm always here"
"all those flaws are what makes me fall for you even more"
SO PEOPLE LET"S HEAR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE AND GONE THROUGH!
~GINA~
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