| 11/26/2011 7:14:23 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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| 1. yes, i like him. |
| 2. yes, but he needs to change careers |
| 3. no way. |
| 4. not untill he changes. |
| 5. undecided |
Think of it this way, ladies, he's got a schedule that sucks, he's on call, a lot, but, he brings home the $$ and treats you like gold. What would you do?
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| 11/26/2011 7:33:32 PM |
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bklyndymond
Brooklyn, NY
37, joined May. 2010
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As long as he wasn't doing anything illegal, why not?
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| 11/26/2011 7:35:40 PM |
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wynterskye79
Mexico, MO
36, joined Nov. 2011
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I agree, so long as the job was legal and didn't hurt anyone or went against any moral code of ethics I had, then I don't care that he's on call or over the road or what not.
Besides, that would give me time to miss him so that when he was home I'd be able to enjoy his company!
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| 11/26/2011 7:45:56 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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This was me... She left.. I'm a repo man. I also do impounds, which is hunt for cars parked in tow away zones. It's not pretty, but it pays, well.. she couldn't handle it. I've talked to countless girls that say they couldn't either. It's a mean business, I'm required to carry a gun, I work in a ghetto part of town, and I don't make friends at work. If I meet someone thru work, its not friendly. Lol. In my case, I became a repo man and was one for a year before she left, what would you ladies do? 
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| 11/26/2011 7:49:28 PM |
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bklyndymond
Brooklyn, NY
37, joined May. 2010
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I wouldn't leave. How does doing your job reflect on the relationship? Only a deadbeat that owes money or illegally parks would'nt approve of your job 
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| 11/26/2011 7:50:32 PM |
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ladyfifty123
Brooklyn, NY
58, joined Jul. 2011
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I thnink she left for fear of having to hear that you got seriously hurt.
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| 11/26/2011 7:57:34 PM |
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wynterskye79
Mexico, MO
36, joined Nov. 2011
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I tend to agree with ladyfifty....
I wouldn't care that you were a Repo man. I personally don't like guns, but if you weren't bringing it to bed with you, then I wouldn't care that you had it. :0)
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| 11/26/2011 8:26:22 PM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
27, joined May. 2011
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If I get to a point where I "love" someone, I love them. I love them for who they are, not what they "do". Their job, their car, their house is all irrelevant.
Their washer's important though. Gotta have a nice washer.
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| 11/26/2011 8:29:02 PM |
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psidust
Marion, OH
43, joined Aug. 2010
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so you could handle it if your BF was a splooge mopper? They got one heck of a union.
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| 11/26/2011 8:30:45 PM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
27, joined May. 2011
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If he makes me laugh and separates darks from lights, I'm in  .
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| 11/26/2011 8:31:35 PM |
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122750again
Sioux Falls, SD
65, joined Dec. 2008
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#5, as long as his Career isn't that of a Pimp, Drug Lord, or some other Illegal Trade Mans gotta earn a Living
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| 11/26/2011 8:35:35 PM |
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psidust
Marion, OH
43, joined Aug. 2010
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So that's a no to Mafia Don? Never gets his hands dirty? Comeone!
Sigh. I never get the hot ones.
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| 11/26/2011 8:39:47 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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She actually liked the gun clipped on the side of the bed, but I did that before she was around.
Idk if it was fear of me getting hurt, or our conflicting schedules, or what, she was kind of a flake anyways. But what surprises me is the other girls I've talked to that have said they just don't agree with the business and wouldn't date me to begin with because of what I do and the schedule that comes with it. I'm just looking to see if its really that big of a deal and to what majority of girls....
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| 11/26/2011 8:40:17 PM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
27, joined May. 2011
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It's okay.
<--- pimping druglord.
I don't have a shot in hell. 
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| 11/26/2011 8:49:58 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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Pending review... Ok I'm new what's that mean? Where is her comment from over 10min ago? Lol
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| 11/26/2011 8:50:35 PM |
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sergioh1986
Tucson, AZ
29, joined Aug. 2011
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Become a club bouncer I do the same thing accept for the taking cars I kick a** wear a bullet proof vest baton taser handcuffs(chicks dig those lol) and a 9mm
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| 11/26/2011 8:58:04 PM |
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sbafour
Newington, VA
49, joined Nov. 2010
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As long as it is not illegal
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| 11/26/2011 9:03:13 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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I dj on the side... But I'm not big enough to be a bouncer, and there isn't enough constant action for me. lol.
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| 11/26/2011 9:16:57 PM |
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sergioh1986
Tucson, AZ
29, joined Aug. 2011
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Try the club I work at everyone fueled by testosterone, cocaine, and whiskey and I gotta reason with them lmfao
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| 11/26/2011 10:22:54 PM |
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bryb89
Foxton Beach
New Zealand
26, joined Sep. 2011
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And not because he has money. If he likes me, and I like him why would I be as selfish as to demand that he quit his job for me?
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| 11/27/2011 12:29:29 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
53, joined May. 2011
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In order to be effective in your line of work you have to become insensitive
to the hardships you cause on your 'customers'. Either that or you actually
derive pleasure out of their misery. Doesn't this indifference to others who
you encounter at work get carried over into your home life? It is very rare
that a person can just switch from one personality into another.
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| 11/27/2011 1:58:28 AM |
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claudius5
Petaluma, CA
66, joined May. 2009
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Money is not everything and there is such a thing as quality of life. What happens is no matter how much you may love each other; you end up growing apart.
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| 11/27/2011 2:06:55 AM |
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pickygirl72
Phelan, CA
45, joined Sep. 2011
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I'm sure male strippers make a lot of money.
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| 11/27/2011 2:18:32 AM |
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matureblkmann
Atlanta, GA
61, joined May. 2011
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Repo Men Shot; 1 Dead, 1 Wounded
atlanta ga.
http://www.wsbtv.com/news/news/repo-men-shot-1-dead-1-wounded/nFCz9/
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| 11/27/2011 5:16:04 PM |
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fero724
Tucson, AZ
49, joined Dec. 2010
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I've had three jobs in my life and none of them are/were 9-5 office jobs. I've been carrying and working with firearms since I was 17 - I'm almost 45 now. I've been stabbed twice, shot at more times than I can count, hit twice (thank God for Kevlar) and came home many times with black eyes, fat lips, a broken nose once, cracked ribs... you get the idea. Now, I won't say that the violence itself affects a relationship, but it does affect your attitude and your attitude affetcs any relationship. The other thing is that people get frustrated when they can't make plans without that nagging feeling that you could get called away for work. Just an opinion from a guy that's been there, still is there and wouldn't have it any other way - for now, anyway.
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| 11/27/2011 5:25:37 PM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
42, joined Sep. 2010
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I thnink she left for fear of having to hear that you got seriously hurt.
I've a feeling this might take a great toll on wives/husbands/boyfriends/girlfriends of people in dangerous jobs - the constant worry about whether he/she will come home alive each day.
Add to that the way that some jobs seem to be difficult to leave at the office... perhaps dangerous people follow you home from work and threaten your family, perhaps you sit and brood about the awful things you had to do or experience on the job that day. Jobs that leave you with PTSD and flashbacks...
It seems to me that it's not unusual for jobs like crime, police work, the military, nursing and trauma/EMT work, repo work or bounty hunting, or politics to really test the limits of a relationship, and they aren't for every family.
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| 11/27/2011 5:28:23 PM |
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akadk
Moody, AL
47, joined Jun. 2011
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| 11/27/2011 5:29:46 PM |
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cutily
New York, NY
29, joined Jul. 2011
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What kind of career?
I won't date a truck driver or something like that, a redneck, a farmer or else.
Chances are I will marry a guy with the same career as mine some kind of businesman so I guess I don't have to think about that.
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| 11/27/2011 6:18:16 PM |
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albme
Brooklyn, NY
38, joined Aug. 2011
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I had something to that effect happen to me awhile ago after getting out of the military. My career choice I made does pay very well and I do get to travel to different countries and learn about other cultures. However, there is a downside to every job and mine is no different. Therefore I have to have a strong women with a understanding heart which sounds easier than it is.
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| 11/27/2011 6:35:59 PM |
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cutensingle37
Oviedo, FL
42, joined Nov. 2011
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As long as it's legal and doesn't jeopardize my life (or my kids' lives) then we're good! You know what's funny is that you never hear this question from the opposite side. Would a man accept a woman's occupation if they didn't agree with it...even though she's bringing home the money and spoiling HIM with it? Hmmmmm....
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| 11/27/2011 7:26:02 PM |
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slic913
Saint Petersburg, FL
31, joined Nov. 2011
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And sadly the insensitivity got to me. Unlike the repo shows, for as long as I've done repos, I've never been caught. Hook it and book it.. or come back later. My boss is very understanding and we take no chances. Only confrontation is with the tow away zones, and there's no pitty there, I have no patience for stupidity, you have no business parking here, don't park there.. but when I get home, I'm so sick of the nasty and mean atmosphere that I'm just that much more loving when I get home. Everything else seems so minor, so I'm the easy going guy I used to be before the stress of being a big kid. Work really is an outlet for whatever anger I have.. even so, it really is just a job, it happens to be booming at the moment and it pays for school and the lifestyle I enjoy. I had discussed it with her before starting to repo and she was on board. I just didn't realize there was such a general discontent from the general public.
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| 11/27/2011 8:03:45 PM |
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citrapandiangan
Balikpapan
Indonesia
34, joined Jul. 2011
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I think whatever he's job, as long as legal job is ok. A day is 24 hours, I guess he's not work all day. We still keep 2 or 3 hours together 
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| 11/27/2011 9:26:40 PM |
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north_coast
Washington, DC
96, joined Jul. 2011
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For the most part, I don't care what he does for a living. Provided that the job is legal and he makes enough money to support himself.
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| 11/27/2011 9:51:26 PM |
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socialgirl73
Janesville, WI
43, joined Oct. 2011
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I picked the first choice.....If he treats me well and I like him, I can accomodate his work schedule and demands......
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| 11/27/2011 11:06:38 PM |
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kimisanangel
Grove City, OH
38, joined Nov. 2011
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Yes bc a career doesn't define my definition of love or a relationship.
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| 11/27/2011 11:06:45 PM |
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lyndajo
Warrensburg, MO
57, joined Sep. 2010
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Yes, of course if the love on both sides were there and the commitment I would go the distance however far it would be. 
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| 11/27/2011 11:27:15 PM |
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fun2bchattin
Hedgesville, WV
49, joined Feb. 2011
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If I get to a point where I "love" someone, I love them. I love them for who they are, not what they "do". Their job, their car, their house is all irrelevant.
Their washer's important though. Gotta have a nice washer.
This, but I have a nice washer. Lol.
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| 11/28/2011 12:16:49 AM |
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cherriestar
Cleveland, OH
28, joined Nov. 2011
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well my ex was fine until he started his short term career in stripping. i didnt like him showing off our goods to these sexual hungry females. he brought home money but he also did alot of flirting n other stuff i cant say.so if its something in that degree then no... if he's jus working late (at a legal job) then i say make that money
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| 11/28/2011 12:24:13 AM |
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what2b
Kansas City, MO
63, joined Sep. 2011
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An interesting perspective on your quest for an answer. I don't think I could deal with this guy not that he isn't one HHOT MF.
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| 11/28/2011 12:39:33 AM |
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lovethelake17
Henderson, NV
57, joined May. 2009
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What does agreeing with someone's choice of career have to do with it. He or she may not like it, but agreeing with it has nothing to do with anything.
Though, I do wonder if your ex gf would have "agreed" with your heart surgeon career, if that's what it was.
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| 11/28/2011 1:00:46 AM |
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takeit11
Hayward, CA
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Yes, as long he is honest got no problem .
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| 11/28/2011 1:06:40 AM |
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dragonflys78
Stockton, CA
37, joined Nov. 2011
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Some women don't like the thought of their man doing a dangerous job and can't handle worrying every night if they are going to come home safe, but then you have other women like me who would love to be a repo agent and would wanna tag along, lol.
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| 11/28/2011 2:24:24 AM |
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biancababy125
Sherman Oaks, CA
25, joined Sep. 2011
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Hes got his career n I gots mine. Whatever makes him happy will make me happy as long as hes making descent money. Hmmm? It depends on how msny times I het to see him in a week. I dont ask for to much either. You have to think. We dont wanna feel left out of the guys life cuz hes over working.
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| 11/28/2011 3:47:27 AM |
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chris_90352
Sykesville, MD
42, joined Sep. 2010
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I had something to that effect happen to me awhile ago after getting out of the military. My career choice I made does pay very well and I do get to travel to different countries and learn about other cultures. However, there is a downside to every job and mine is no different. Therefore I have to have a strong women with a understanding heart which sounds easier than it is.
 Exactly - it's much easier to say "any honest job is OK with me" than to actually be OK with it - it sounds easier than it really is.
My previous job was a simple desk job that I spent most of my waking life at, and often spent days away from home to do. When I was home, I was exhausted and didn't want to talk to or see anyone else. Not everyone could handle living like that - losing competition for attention to a job is difficult and heart-breaking. It worked fine for me because I was single and not dating, but I have no doubt it would have destroyed any ordinary relationship I might have tried to be involved in at the time.
For jobs that require a lot of travel and relocation, even if you travel with your significant other, it can be difficult to drop everything, pack up, and start over again somewhere else constantly. Unless they grew up in a nomadic lifestyle, most people simply need more permanence and security than that.
There's a gentleman in one of the other forums who started a thread about how nobody really wants anything to do with someone with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, one of the hazards of jobs in the military, police, fire departments, and emergency medical jobs. PTSD is an extremely difficult condition to live with, and someone who has never lived with it will probably find it nearly impossible to imagine how that aspect of a job can rip a family apart... hardly anyone is ever really ready for PTSD to slam into their lives and families: PTSD can be controlled to an extent, but whether it's controlled or not it becomes a central member of your family forever, and it changes everyone involved.
And then there are those dangerous jobs that leave someone wondering every day if their loved ones will come home from work in a coffin. Who can really callously say "as long as he/she brings home enough money, I'm good with waiting for my loved ones to die?" I think some people can get used to the idea as a fact of life, but others may find sitting constantly sitting on the edge waiting for something awful to happen and being relieved each day when it doesn't to be a crushing, draining way to live.
No, I'm pretty sure that our dates' or partners' job would have far more of an impact on our relationships than perhaps many of us think it would. It sounds easier than it actually is.
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| 11/28/2011 3:49:53 AM |
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yadisyadis84
Los Angeles, CA
31, joined Nov. 2011
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No
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| 11/28/2011 3:54:00 AM |
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audlove515
Jasper, IN
27, joined May. 2011
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This, but I have a nice washer. Lol.
Lol.  chatting. He can't be my laundry slave if he doesn't have a nice washer. 
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| 11/28/2011 5:07:38 AM |
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justplainome
Carney, OK
55, joined Jul. 2009
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Just as long as its legal and honest work. Sounds to me like she didn't have the guts to tell you she had a change of heart. Some people think they can handle being with someone in jobs like yours. Only to realize they can't take the worry and stress for your safety. Then use crazy excuses to get out. Crazy I know but human nature. Go figure.
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| 11/28/2011 5:00:53 PM |
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afrosirene
Brooklyn, NY
38, joined Dec. 2010
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It depends on how bad the career was...
Is he a porn star?
A drug dealer?
A pimp?
A phone sex operator?
I would say no to all of the above careers
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| 11/28/2011 5:51:16 PM |
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esmeraldar
Toms River, NJ
67, joined Jan. 2009
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It depends on what the job is. I don't think that I'd enjoy dating a bill collector.
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| 11/28/2011 8:16:07 PM |
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fero724
Tucson, AZ
49, joined Dec. 2010
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Lol. chatting. He can't be my laundry slave if he doesn't have a nice washer.
Does this work Aud? 
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