| 4/18/2008 3:36:02 PM |
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evileddy
Ottawa, ON
age: 35
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Eddy.........not wanting a d*ck in my mouth is not a sexual hang up........wouldn't it e a sexual hang up for you to have to have it?
"not wanting d*ck in my mouth" to me.. is a sexual hangup.
Would be like me saying:
"Ewwwwww.. no way I'm licking you.. gross"
That's a hangup that during sex... you hangup... and the mood is ruined.
...then the crying beings. 
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| 4/18/2008 3:41:05 PM |
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sea_dragon
Crystal River, FL
age: 31
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guys demand it? and get it?   Get me out of Florida already.
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| 4/18/2008 3:51:48 PM |
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victor_sfba
San Jose, CA
age: 18
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JMO, the very demand to do something that you are not in the mood to is a dealbreaker, whatever it is.
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| 4/18/2008 4:43:50 PM |
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luvinlifetou
Biddeford, ME
age: 41
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Some people have dealbreakers that are mutually exclusive. That's life. One of yours is if a man expects frequent oral sex. For some men, a dealbreaker is not getting their c*cks sucked frequently. You prefer penetration. Great! Why not find a man who loves to f*ck and nothing else instead of saying men who don't fall into that category are somehow inconsiderate, insensitive brutes who think only of sex?
1-Why is it inconsiderate of men who don't want to give up blowjobs to choose not to, but it's not inconsiderate of you to tell them to give them up?
2-Why not just find someone you don't feel the need to try to change?
3-Are you saying that a woman who sicks d*cks is somehow lacking, morally, intellectually, or any other way in her life?
4-Does men have to choose between smart girl, good mother to kids versus d*ck sucking bimbo slut?
5-Can a man not find all the other qualities and blowjobs, too?
It's a big world out there. We men who like blowjobs can't help it if some women don't like giving them. We don't even lose sleep over it. There are so many wonderful women who love oral sex, that have so many of the non-sex qualities we want, that it's not like we have to choose.
Pirate...
I think you put some words and assumptions into Me4's mouth...(no pun intended..LOL)
What is up with that?
I have never found you to be quite so....ummmm.....defensive of the treasure chest and its load of booty...
1...Where did she say she was telling anyone to GIVE UP anything?
2...When did she say she wanted to change anyone? I saw a question about how do you deal with giving pleasure to someone you care for, even if you dont particularlly like that method of pleasuring them...
3....ARE YOU SAYING THAT a woman who sucks d#$%s is lacking?
4....ARE YOU saying that if we do like oral sex we are bimbo d*ck sucking sluts?
5.....Where did she say she wasnt going to do it?...Just that she didnt love too...but she would..for his pleasure...just not all the time.
Your darn right its a big world out there....And we women cant help it if we love giving but end up with a man who doesnt reciprocate...
Sheesh.
what a load of crapola.....
Ask and honest question...Get a whole load of crap slung at ya.....
Pirate...expected better. You are usually smart..funny and have excellent advice. What the heck?
Me4...if its not your favorite..you cant help that...if you care enough about his pleasure, then..JUST like YOU said...you will do it for him on occasion.
And who knows? Every single man is different. You may find the one that makes it into a fantasy come true....Who knows??!?!
JMO..
As usual..
Luvin
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| 4/18/2008 6:54:13 PM |
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me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
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Thank you Luvin...........as always you understand what I am saying.
Pleasurepirate........I didn't say anything was wrong with someone wanting oral sex. I asked if it is a deal breaker if I don't want to do it all the time because I personally don't get any excitement or pleasure out of it.......I don't like oral in general. Not even for me.
But, now since you have pissed me off here goes......I have read several posts from f*cking pigs that say if we don't suck d*ck all the time that we are selfish human beings and deserve to be alone. F*CK all of you. It is f*cking selfish to demean someone because of there personal preferences.......I don't f*cking like it, but will do it from occasion just to please the man I am with. I have never and will never do anything that is demanded of me nor will I demand something of any one else.
Eddy..........well for me it isn't a hang up.......I am not afraid to do anything in bed once.........I have no hang ups. I have personal preferences and I have that right. Just the same as you guys have the right to want oral sex all the time........but demanding it and not getting it does not make us selfish.
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| 4/18/2008 7:01:45 PM |
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taylorpetty
Aurora, CO
age: 19
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I used to have a boyfriend that always wanted a blowjob always asking
And I enjoy giveing a good blowjob once in a while but all the time is like eating steak every night. You get tired of it. No thanks honey I dont want meat every night could you like use a little imagination for once.
So if you want oral every night thats a deal breaker for me I will get the vacume cleaner for ya
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| 4/18/2008 7:03:02 PM |
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me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
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| 4/18/2008 7:03:37 PM |
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taylorpetty
Aurora, CO
age: 19
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Hey Evil eddy soo i take it you not being hung up on sex you like a little d*ck in your mouth huh? Oh kayyy baby whatever you like
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| 4/18/2008 7:07:09 PM |
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sliver22
Meridian, ID
age: 40
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Would not be a deal breaker for me.
On another note, I have seen that some women here that don't like kissing??? WTF?? THAT would be a deal breaker. A kiss is such a connection to me, personally.
But oral, no.
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| 4/18/2008 7:09:28 PM |
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carolinaguy71
Boca Raton, FL
age: 36
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Well most guys would rather please their woman then themselves. I dont know what is up with people that just expect you to bend to their will in a relationship. Thats not a relationship its like slavery.
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| 4/18/2008 7:18:47 PM |
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muffycakes
Chanhassen, MN
age: 26
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Well, as stated by others i am sure, a loving partner would never force or demand you to perform a sexual act that you are not comfortable with.
I have a situation a little different from yours... receiving oral sex does nothing for me. I do not like receiving because I have never achieved an orgasm that way ( and for other reasons too ). It seems to me like many men like to go down on women but when I say that I DONT want it performed on me I get some really disgusted reactions from guys. Guys think that I am closed minded and no fun in bed. So if a guy gets arroused or excited by going down on me but I deny him that pleasure does that make me selfish? It goes back to the above statement. I don't want a sexual act performed on me if I don't like it...I don't think that you are selfish and I don't think that I am selfish either.
As far as this being a deal breaker? I think the only deal breaker in a relationship is an individual who will never put out at all ever. JMO.
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| 4/18/2008 7:20:58 PM |
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me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
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Thank you to all the nice guys that posted............I know for some it will be. I understand that. I just don't know what makes me and others that don't like to do it all the time, selfish or have sexual hang ups......
Thank you to all the responses though.....even the ones I don't agree on. It gave me good insite.
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| 4/18/2008 7:23:01 PM |
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mithrender
Moses Lake, WA
age: 34
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Hmm... I think having to make demands is the deal breaker. Maybe if either have to make a demand its just not a good match.
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| 4/18/2008 7:31:06 PM |
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me4aminute_1
Rutland, IA
age: 35
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Bingo
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| 4/19/2008 5:34:38 AM |
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michael6967275
Columbia, MO
age: 46
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Hey Me4, The fact that you would do it from time to time when I knew you didn't really care for it, would mean more to me than if you loved it and did it every night.
Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Most women are not really very good at it anyway, to be honest, and especially the ones who don't like it. It just goes without saying that if you don't want to do something you won't be the world's best when you do.
I wouldn't think it would be a deal breaker, since for me, a woman's tight little twat feels better anyway. Not to mention that you get to give her some pleasure (god willing) at the same time.
I think you are flat-out beautiful! 
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