| 5/1/2008 8:03:58 PM |
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ladyvirtue52
Redding, CA
age: 52
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I need to stop reading this type of thread...makes me nervous. Dont need this kind of drama...so many of us already have broken hearts that we are tyring to mend in one way or another and to have someone stomp on your already aching heart is unforgivable...this is one reason why I keep putting up my wall...its difficult to keep the wall down because of the fear of getting hurt over again..I dont like empty promises either. No one can say they will never hurt you. They cannot predict the future anymore than I can. its basically a leap of faith..at what point do you take that leap?
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| 5/1/2008 8:12:10 PM |
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misssmatch
Cleveland, TN
age: 51
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when someone says: "trust ME!!" or "i would NEVER hurt you" i often wonder why they have to tell me that...i would rather see it thru their actions...jmo...: )
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| 5/1/2008 8:14:47 PM |
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towfrogg
Lawrenceville, GA
age: 51
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 miss
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| 5/1/2008 8:55:51 PM |
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foxy_woman_49
Omaha, NE
age: 49
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sorry you're hurting
Gotta make sure one is willing to move before getting involved with a long distance relationship.
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| 5/2/2008 7:04:52 AM |
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thor72161
Kinsman, OH
age: 46
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Everyone I just want to thank you all for the messages you left foxywoman33. We met online a while ago and became friends. I hope this is helping her out cause Yes know one should have to go through this kind of hurt. and thanks to the one who said that there are a few good men out there and the ones that are jerks give the rest of us a bad name. Foxywoman 33 hang in there, I hope your dream man comes along soon. Just don't get to attached until you meet and see where it's going from there. 
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| 5/2/2008 11:24:10 AM |
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foxywoman33
Livermore, CA
age: 33
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Thank you all for helping me thru this broken heart all your comments and advice has helped ...just gotta be careful and not go so quick with the feelings ..keep our guards down...and dont believe what the person says until you meet and then see how things are.. i really want to thank you all for your words ...u dont know me and your words have helped me cope ...it has'nt been easy but thanks to all of your posts they have helped me alot !
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| 5/2/2008 12:27:21 PM |
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easy111
Prior Lake, MN
age: 54
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Marry you before he even meets you? Holy *&^%&** how dumb is that
Long distance relationships can work I was in one for almost 2 years. We commutted back and forth every 4-6 weeks but I moved too slow and it faded away 
The next time I'll move faster....oh well 
Your guy sounds like a jerk (player) we are not all jerks.
D
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| 5/2/2008 5:23:52 PM |
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nab5055
Medford, NJ
age: 43 online now!
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Never listen to that line of garbage from someone online and let them break your heart. You can't be in love with someone you have never even met. You are just lonely and looking for something. We all get like that. Take your time.............meet in person and develop a relationship from there.
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| 5/2/2008 5:50:23 PM |
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dixiethelovebug
Auburn, GA
age: 43
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When you are online, the words people say are just what you want to hear. You think this could really be the one. But that is the problem, you want to believe without meeting.
The pic looks good and they sound great but when the time comes to meet, there may not be the attraction that is needed so you try and figure out an excuse to break it off without hurting the other person, expecially if you know that they are attracted to you.
It happens to all of us and it is one of the hard things about dating online.
I try and meet after the first week or two. Get to know the person in person, it seems to be the best way for me. Sometimes it only takes one date to know if you are interested or not, sometimes it takes a couple but you have to meet soon or fall in the trap of hearing only what you want to hear.
When the shoe is on the other foot and you go out with someone that you thought was the one and when you met them and there was no attraction there for you but he/she thinks there is you try and break it off without hurting the person by telling them that you are not attracted to them. That can be some painful words.
Chalk it up and keep dating but dont wait to long to meet.
JMO
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| 5/2/2008 6:04:52 PM |
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gonesailingbabe
Des Moines, IA
age: 44
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Quoting Dixie :
"When you are online, the words people say are just what you want to hear.
You think this could really be the one.
But that is the problem, you want to believe without meeting.
The pic looks good and they sound great but when the time comes to meet,
there may not be the attraction that is needed
so you try and figure out an excuse to break it off without hurting the other person,
expecially if you know that they are attracted to you.
It happens to all of us and it is one of the hard things about dating online."
Add another series of twists to your situation Dixie (By the way thanks for the thoughts you added in this thread!  )
This isn't only the case between male and female relationships with regard to dating and hooking up on this site.
It also CAN occur between friends.
Recently my friends and I were treated in a similar manner by another online fraud. But the saga goes far deeper because the motives and reasons for the behavior were far more exstensive and what we learned is not only alarming in thinking of building friendships online but more especially developing real life dating relationships.
All of us come here with our own perceptions.
We know how we are, who we are, and we think - I am on DH so others similar to me are on also, and when we begin a relationship here we apply those precepts to every person we communicate with UNTIL a red flag warns us that something isn't quite "right" about the other individual.
The red flags begin to pile up within you and you, out of your own personal desires - whatever they may be - you go forward with the relationship thinking a bird in the hand is better than nothing. Even if the bird shits in your palm.
Think again.
People do not always present the truth.
People do not always say the truth.
Sometimes they are just saying words they WISH were true.
Sometimes the photos they are showing you or all of us - are simply the photos of the person they wish to be at that time.
It may not even really be them.
This is part of the many levels of problems within online associations of any sort.
How to move forward with out being conned and to move forward without questioning each person's motives, intents and "can you really be believed?"
I found myself posing this question to a man on the phone this week...
"So, if I sent you naked photos of me, would you show it to anyone else on DH?"
1. I would NEVER do such a thing. And this man knew that.
It was then and will always be a hypothetical question.
He of course replied - "honey if you EVER send me photos of anything - I would NEVER share them with ANY ONE!"
Did I believe him?
Yes, I do.
For many reasons.
But now ask yourself this?
How do I KNOW who he really is?
How he really is?
Maybe nothing I think I know about that man is the truth....
What do I really know? And what am I willing to stake on it?
Ask yourself that before continuing to advance your online relationships
or give any one access to any of your information or your self
unless you enjoy having your heart broken...which I doubt anyone is going to admit to.
JMO
[Edited 5/2/2008 9:47:53 PM]
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| 5/2/2008 6:43:05 PM |
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waterstar
San Francisco, CA
age: 33 online now!
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Foxy, he was a loser to begin with.
I'm sorry you got your heartbroken.
The sun will still shine. You will be fine. Things will get better.
Seems like he became a chicken shit or he found someone else to tell lies to.
Remember that things always happen for a reason.
He wasn't the one for you.
Your prince is out there and he will treat you like the princess you are.
Don't contact that loser or take him back! if you do, thats up to you. But you
have to accept that he may abandoned you again.
Y do i tell you this? Because I've been thru something similar as this.
Be strong woman! He's not the only man out there!!
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| 5/2/2008 6:49:37 PM |
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classyguy333
West Fargo, ND
age: 57
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Yeppers, just kick him right over there to the curb where he belongs. Maybe he gets a BIG bang out of building ladies up, just to crush them. What a guy. Don't waste your time feeling bad. He isn't worth your time.
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| 5/2/2008 6:53:40 PM |
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tlc4u46
Santa Barbara, CA
age: 47
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We all get 
but I would never believe someone on a dating site that I never met if he asked me to marry him. I need to know the person before even considering that, and for a long time. These sites are too easy to be sucked up by players
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| 5/3/2008 2:51:45 AM |
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wildthing1
Saint Clair, MO
age: 52 online now!
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i've been yesterday's trash many times!! i ride the roller coaster of broken hearts and broken dreams, all you can wish for and hope for is to find a man that will be true to you, no matter what.
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| 5/3/2008 4:29:28 AM |
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judycutie
Columbia, SC
age: 65
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. You were vulnerable and so many women are. You and I both would like to have an honorable man in our lives but I also know that we couldn't possibly "fall in love" and talk of marriage with someone we'd never met. Some men just want to know that they can play around with another's emotions. It happened to me but with me it was somebody I dated and loved with all my heart for seven years. He decided he wanted an affair with a married women and he pursued her, When I first knew of it I simply wanted to die. He lied to me and told me there was nobody else and yes, he treated me with the same respect he would for yesterday's newspaper. I never want to be hurting like that again. I allowed myself to be vulnerable and I did know he was capable of lying about important things....those are the kind you have to really look out for. Please be careful with your emotions. Don't put yourself out there so easily. I know all about heartbreak. You think it will never heal but SLOWLY it does. I wish you the best. Read the book by Ekert Tolle called "A New Earth". It's the number one best seller. It told me that I simply can't allow myself to continue to be a victim. It's time to move on....and in time you will, trust me.
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