meggie1970
Snohomish, WA
age: 37
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You know you need to change your relationship when:
1. The man you thought you were married to isn't really married to you.
2. The man that you are with is nearly 20 years older than you and had lost his romantic side 5 years after you first got together.
3. The man to whom you have given 4 children, has 0 patience and understanding in regards to how they act and why.
4. The man doesn't listen to 99% of what you say.
5. The man thinks its his duty, his "calling", to save any and all women that are homeless/drug addicts.
6. The man brings them home, and they lie, cheat, and steal from you.
7. The man is prejudicial towards different races, colors and religions, and isn't about to change his views.
8. The man doesn't compliment you when you try to look good for him. No "You're beautiful."
9. Blames you for giving birth to 4 children like he had no part in making them.
10. Thinks he is God, and can tell everyone what to do, what to think and how to think.
This basically covers my life so far. Want to leave now that papers are signed, sealed and delivered. I really cannot stand to even be in the same room as him any longer than I have to. This being in the same house with him has been my nightmare for years, and it isn't going to get any better. All he does is yell and make demands when it comes to the children, and he doesn't bother to try to talk...talking is something he just doesn't do well. I am tired of being put down by him whenever I try my best to make dinner, clean house, and care for the children. All his yelling has caused my stress level to soar, and have a few anxiety attacks in the past. I haven't been taken on a "date" for years...he can take his "women" out but he cannot take me out....something wrong there?? So, to make a more stronger issue, I have not felt like I am treasured, loved, or wanted in a long, long, long, long time. He only thinks of material objects as showing love, but that is completely not my idea, and I have told him so yet it falls on deaf ears. This years Valentine balloons, candy and card just do not make up for it. His recent temper tantrum lead to him throwing and breaking dishes. He makes me feel like a complete failure at everything I do. I try not to take it to heart but it is difficult.
I will continue to say my prayers and hope that someone better will eventually come along and make my dark days disappear and give way to the sunshine of love.
******this was taken from one of my sites, and it was posted about 3 months ago*******
[Edited 5/5/2008 12:44:43 PM]
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