| 10/20/2012 4:03:12 PM |
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rdeffley
San Jose, CA
35, joined Sep. 2009
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What are your thoughts on talking about sex before meeting in person? I think it is a good idea myself. We are all adults and talking openly about sex doesn't mean you have to start having it right away. I just think it is a good way to judge basic sexual compatibility. I have personally dated more than a few women that I felt a good mental/emotional connection with only to find out that they were not compatible with me at all sexually. Then it sucks losing that person because you are more invested. So now I make it a point to find out about sexual tastes pretty soon into the process. That way I am not getting overly invested or wasting my time.
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| 10/20/2012 4:18:12 PM |
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bluehope518
Prague
Czech Republic
43, joined Jul. 2012
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i believe this depends on the 2 individuals in question, this could in some cases be sabotage even if it is mutual...
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| 10/20/2012 4:20:39 PM |
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ctrguy
Roseville, CA
53, joined Sep. 2012
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it usually depends on the chic involved.
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| 10/20/2012 4:21:41 PM |
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iwannateaseyou
Dallas, TX
32, joined Jun. 2012
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I never talk about sex...NEVER!
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| 10/20/2012 4:26:04 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
39, joined Feb. 2012
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I'm kind of iffy on this. One hand I want to be able to know at least a lil bit if perhaps we could be sexually compatible. On the other hand, I don't want the person to feel that that is the most important aspect of my life bc its not.
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| 10/20/2012 4:41:00 PM |
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la_dv8
Albuquerque, NM
32, joined Sep. 2012
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I never speak about the devil's tango
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| 10/20/2012 4:58:43 PM |
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nursesugar72
New Caney, TX
43, joined May. 2011
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its a very tricky subject these days. if you talk about it too soon then either party might think you are only out for sex. if you don't talk about it as you said you might not have the connection you are looking for in all aspects of a relationship and it all needs to be there. i have found that the most spontaneous dates are better ones and usually there hasn't even been time to talk about sex. once ive talked to someone for quite a long time about nearly every aspect of a relationship including sex and we never met and that was very disheartening.
im a very open minded person but if a man wants to talk sex within a second email its way too fast and i don't want to wait a long time before meeting because it might not ever happen?
so you just have to feel right and have a gut instinct i guess
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| 10/20/2012 6:12:32 PM |
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rptr12
Rochester, NY
27, joined Sep. 2012
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I would never ever ever... ever ever ever... ever ever ever ever.. talk about not talking about not sex. 
I see what you did there
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| 10/20/2012 6:23:45 PM |
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westy690
Phoenix, AZ
44, joined Mar. 2011
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it pretty common nowadays to talk about sex beforehand and its perfectly ok and healthy..esp with internet dating..
even if she has some sort of sex hangup or claims of "I only want LTR/bf sex"..
they can and will discuss that..
and then after we can rule them out..lol
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| 10/20/2012 7:42:09 PM |
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mscia83
Columbus, OH
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| 10/20/2012 11:16:50 PM |
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mrgatorman
Miami, FL
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| 10/28/2012 9:54:53 PM |
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snarrky
Americana
Brazil
42, joined Jun. 2012
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Not sure how this one died? It's a good topic. Was it the waving fool above me that killed it?
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| 10/28/2012 9:56:32 PM |
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bluehope518
Prague
Czech Republic
43, joined Jul. 2012
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very well could have been...
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| 10/28/2012 9:59:41 PM |
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steamyviolet
Beaverville, IL
46, joined Jun. 2009
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| 10/28/2012 10:00:04 PM |
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7inchdom
Jeffersonville, IN
40, joined May. 2011
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Talking about sex at any point is fine. But if its all you talk about then dont expect results any better than a quick lay.
If you have a broad spectrum of conversation the chats about sex wont be such an issue. And I agree with op, sex is part of understang if two people are compatible.
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| 10/28/2012 10:02:20 PM |
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eriaction
Hendersonville, NC
31, joined Jul. 2012
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I personally like talking about sex before meeting...I am a sexual person though, and I typically like to find someone as sexual... So having some phone conversations first...To feel it out never hurts..
For me...I cant speck for others
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| 10/28/2012 10:02:39 PM |
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angell7619
North Little Rock, AR
40, joined Aug. 2012
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Most likely so Snarrky. That is all he does is wave...no posts. I guess that is how he got all his stars.
And on the topic....I agree with blue. Hi my sexy blue!
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| 10/28/2012 10:02:50 PM |
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ctrguy
Roseville, CA
53, joined Sep. 2012
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I usually just tell chics that the ones that are doing me the most have dibs on any serious relationships and ask them if they have any questions.
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| 10/28/2012 10:10:29 PM |
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ashley_m_h
Dayton, OH
30, joined Oct. 2012
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Compatibility is a good conversation. I would suggest a few other topics first. If u start the conversation from the beginning about sex or something sexually over the top I'm not going to take u too seriously.
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| 10/29/2012 4:14:11 AM |
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rdeffley
San Jose, CA
35, joined Sep. 2009
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Compatibility is a good conversation. I would suggest a few other topics first. If u start the conversation from the beginning about sex or something sexually over the top I'm not going to take u too seriously.
I agree with you there. First I have to see if a woman has a sense of humor, if she is intelligent, witty, etc.. Then once I have a basic attraction to her personality, I bring up my sexual tastes. I am very direct and blunt when it comes to the topic though. I have no problem admitting I like sex or that I have an aggressive dominant personality in the bedroom. If a woman doesn't have the mix of being a good classy woman outside the bedroom, and wanting to be treated like a freaky slut between the sheets she isn't for me. The biggest turn on is a strong woman who is usually in control being submissive in the sack.
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| 10/29/2012 9:35:23 AM |
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ashley_m_h
Dayton, OH
30, joined Oct. 2012
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I agree with you there. First I have to see if a woman has a sense of humor, if she is intelligent, witty, etc.. Then once I have a basic attraction to her personality, I bring up my sexual tastes. I am very direct and blunt when it comes to the topic though. I have no problem admitting I like sex or that I have an aggressive dominant personality in the bedroom. If a woman doesn't have the mix of being a good classy woman outside the bedroom, and wanting to be treated like a freaky slut between the sheets she isn't for me. The biggest turn on is a strong woman who is usually in control being submissive in the sack.
That's me all the way. I am a boss on the streets. It's nice to lose that control in the bedroom
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| 10/29/2012 9:36:16 AM |
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jaket6996
Gainesville, FL
27, joined Oct. 2012
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if it feels right do it
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| 10/29/2012 9:38:38 AM |
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eriaction
Hendersonville, NC
31, joined Jul. 2012
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emm muscles
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| 10/29/2012 9:38:57 AM |
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mi1kmaiden
Watertown, NY
33, joined Jul. 2012
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if it feels right do it
Somehow, I think it would. ^^
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| 10/29/2012 9:39:00 AM |
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jaket6996
Gainesville, FL
27, joined Oct. 2012
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all yours
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| 10/29/2012 9:45:51 AM |
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water228
Wheeling, WV
43, joined Jun. 2012
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Discuss your likes and dislikes before meeting always a good thing!!
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| 10/29/2012 9:47:23 AM |
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jaket6996
Gainesville, FL
27, joined Oct. 2012
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AGRREED
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| 10/29/2012 9:48:11 AM |
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bro_sif
Saint Louis, MO
30, joined Aug. 2012
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As important as sex is in a relationship, I think its important to feel each other out a little before wasting time. On the other hand, if all you have in common is your sexual appetite, don't expect it to go too far past sex.
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| 10/29/2012 10:01:01 AM |
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ashley_m_h
Dayton, OH
30, joined Oct. 2012
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As important as sex is in a relationship, I think its important to feel each other out a little before wasting time. On the other hand, if all you have in common is your sexual appetite, don't expect it to go too far past sex.
Sorry gotta say it, you are f**king hot!!
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| 10/29/2012 10:04:09 AM |
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bro_sif
Saint Louis, MO
30, joined Aug. 2012
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Thanks 
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| 10/29/2012 10:07:19 AM |
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rob_rol
Oklahoma City, OK
48, joined Sep. 2012
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The subject usually finds it's way in an fuels the excitement of courtship an if u mesh on a lot of points sex seems to blend in nicely,
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| 10/29/2012 11:44:14 AM |
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rob0213
Canton, MI
40, joined Oct. 2012
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Nothing wrong with seeing if the two people have similar sexual expectations. You don't want to be too forward or creepy, but I think it's a good idea, especially when talking online. You need to set ground rules and know where things are going. If you don't want sex and I do, we need to make sure that it is out there. You just don't wanna end up being super creepy guy.
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| 10/29/2012 11:54:53 AM |
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morganleigh92
Alexander City, AL
23, joined Feb. 2012
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Yes, me and my man like to talk about (mainly his) sex stories of our past relationships.
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| 10/29/2012 12:19:52 PM |
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kmk98
Leesburg, IN
66, joined Jun. 2012
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If you can't talk about the sexual expectations that you have then there is no reason to believe that you can live up to your partner's. You can say "Hey I adore eating p*ssy, just not yours"
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| 10/29/2012 2:14:28 PM |
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dearprudence7
San Marcos, TX
54, joined Mar. 2012
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I've never had a sit down, let's just talk about this situation, but it does seem to get out there. Usually it's in the context of banter, innuendo, teasing. Unless one or both are brain dead you can usually figure out what someone's tastes are during flirting when it gets to more intense flirting. And I find it more fun finding out about someone that way. I wouldn't want it to feel like we are comparing resumes. All aspects of sex should be fun, and good banter is basically part of foreplay to me.
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| 10/29/2012 3:38:19 PM |
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noteasy1
Spanaway, WA
74, joined Apr. 2011
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i think that after talking online for a bit, that sex SHOULD be discussed..in detail !
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| 10/30/2012 1:42:19 PM |
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xirishprincessx
Saint Joseph, MI
40, joined Jul. 2012
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Not sure how this one died? It's a good topic. Was it the waving fool above me that killed it?
Haha * bump
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| 10/30/2012 1:45:49 PM |
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wgk1963
Denver, CO
52, joined Aug. 2012
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Im a grown-up. I can talk about ANYTHING and at ANY TIME. If I will or not... THAT'S another question. 
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| 10/30/2012 2:33:01 PM |
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john487
King of Prussia, PA
45, joined Nov. 2011
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I'm kinda on the fence on this one.
Might be you pull the trigger too early and miss what you're aiming for.
If you're all like, "I just wanna know if you're gonna let me put it in you're a** before I blow 60 bucks on dinner." she might just think you're a d*ck.
On the other hand, if she's one of those girls that wants to wait like months and then it's only some stale vanilla sex at the end of this blue ball eternity, that's something you might want to know right out of the gate.
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| 10/30/2012 2:49:20 PM |
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ashley_m_h
Dayton, OH
30, joined Oct. 2012
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I'm kinda on the fence on this one.
Might be you pull the trigger too early and miss what you're aiming for.
If you're all like, "I just wanna know if you're gonna let me put it in you're a** before I blow 60 bucks on dinner." she might just think you're a d*ck.
On the other hand, if she's one of those girls that wants to wait like months and then it's only some stale vanilla sex at the end of this blue ball eternity, that's something you might want to know right out of the gate.
I think the point is to ask what the two
Of you are into or against. Boundaries, capabilities and experience.
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| 10/30/2012 4:29:21 PM |
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deborah3722
Dunnellon, FL
54, joined Oct. 2012
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What are your thoughts on talking about sex before meeting in person? I think it is a good idea myself. We are all adults and talking openly about sex doesn't mean you have to start having it right away. I just think it is a good way to judge basic sexual compatibility. I have personally dated more than a few women that I felt a good mental/emotional connection with only to find out that they were not compatible with me at all sexually. Then it sucks losing that person because you are more invested. So now I make it a point to find out about sexual tastes pretty soon into the process. That way I am not getting overly invested or wasting my time.
You are very sexy..
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| 10/30/2012 5:14:15 PM |
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iheartidiots
Grove City, OH
39, joined Feb. 2012
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Nothing wrong with seeing if the two people have similar sexual expectations. You don't want to be too forward or creepy, but I think it's a good idea, especially when talking online. You need to set ground rules and know where things are going. If you don't want sex and I do, we need to make sure that it is out there. You just don't wanna end up being super creepy guy.
You are very attractive! 
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| 10/30/2012 5:19:19 PM |
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viewbenz
Chicago, IL
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| 11/3/2012 1:03:33 AM |
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zoozy31
Pittsburgh, PA
35, joined Apr. 2012
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As important as sex is in a relationship, I think its important to feel each other out a little before wasting time. On the other hand, if all you have in common is your sexual appetite, don't expect it to go too far past sex.
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| 11/3/2012 10:05:51 AM |
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lipbiter12
Seagrove, NC
33, joined Aug. 2012
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i believe this depends on the 2 individuals in question, this could in some cases be sabotage even if it is mutual...
Ditto...
My special someone & I, inadvertently began flirting and would tease each other suggestively, but we also talked about anything and everything in between. It was solely that "one topic" conversation...probably one reason we' overall, are still together 1.5 yrs. later.
It's very funny how the two of us can take virtually anything anyone says, and turn it into something naughty. But it's all good and I've never had such a strong connection, love, etc. for anyone else before him.
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