| 10/21/2012 2:36:08 AM |
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mandi_f
Muscatine, IA
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Just out of curiosity I am a completely independent single woman who is pregnant. My ex isn't in the picture what so ever. I'm not looking for a man to step in as daddy or for financial support, but as a companion. Would this be a deal breaker?
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| 10/21/2012 2:38:41 AM |
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youdontnomeyet
Henderson, NV
55, joined Apr. 2010
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Is the daddy dead?
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| 10/21/2012 2:38:52 AM |
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tica5656
Tigre
Argentina
35, joined Sep. 2011
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no comment but to wish your baby a healthy delivery.
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| 10/21/2012 2:39:56 AM |
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stan_147
Coos Bay, OR
52, joined Aug. 2010
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Ummmm... NO!
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| 10/21/2012 2:42:06 AM |
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mandi_f
Muscatine, IA
29, joined Jul. 2011
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No the father isn't dead. He disappeared after I found out I'm pregnant. I haven't heard nor seen from him in 3mos.
And thank you for the best wishes. I'm almost 5mos along with a healthy baby boy.
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| 10/21/2012 3:02:30 AM |
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singlinracinwi
Racine, WI
49, joined May. 2011
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Not a deal breaker!  
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| 10/21/2012 3:03:28 AM |
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max811
Palmetto, FL
35, joined Aug. 2010
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For me deal breaker.
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| 10/21/2012 3:12:29 AM |
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mandi_f
Muscatine, IA
29, joined Jul. 2011
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The way I see it...I'm better off with him leaving before my son is born. Less heartache that way.
I'm just wondering how real men feel about it.
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| 10/21/2012 3:23:03 AM |
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mandi_f
Muscatine, IA
29, joined Jul. 2011
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when you truly love someone it doesn't matter who got her pregnant and left..what matters is that you love her and her child with all your heart.
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| 10/21/2012 3:29:06 AM |
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dudefreed
Portland, OR
43, joined Sep. 2012
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I couldn't REALLY say unless I was in that situation, But I think under the right circumstances, I could see myself being okay with that...
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| 10/21/2012 3:56:26 AM |
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rlm68
Aurora, CO
47, joined Apr. 2010
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safe paths
you and your son need it
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| 10/21/2012 5:11:17 AM |
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kiffiniowa
Madison, WI
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No, I would not. I would feel the mother should be more concerned with her health and her child's. Dating me shouldn't even be in the picture.
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| 10/21/2012 5:14:42 AM |
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sazisback
Victoria
Australia
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OP you should be thinking about your baby ...Not about dating .. gees what is wrong with you ..
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| 10/21/2012 5:17:59 AM |
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wrknonluv
Picayune, MS
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This is a big deal breaker 
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| 10/21/2012 5:19:09 AM |
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rubberbanman
Sherman, TX
41, joined May. 2011
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Are you showing yet? Cause if you are,the answer is NO.
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| 10/21/2012 5:20:09 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
68, joined Jul. 2007
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Well---YES it would be a concern. How can a man--be with a pregnant woman---and stay long enough to be there for the birth of the baby---and help you with the first crucial days at home--AND NOT BE A FATHER FIGURE?????????? How can you say that????
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| 10/21/2012 5:20:24 AM |
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rome_84
Bridgeview, IL
31, joined Aug. 2012
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No the father isn't dead. He disappeared after I found out I'm pregnant. I haven't heard nor seen from him in 3mos.
And thank you for the best wishes. I'm almost 5mos along with a healthy baby boy.
I can't help but to get aggravated every time I hear about something like this..
What kind of coward gets a woman pregnant, then leaves her once he knows??
I hope he gets what's coming to him. I guess you're right that it's better that he left, he would've been a shitty father anyway. Best of luck to you and I hope you find someone to help raise the little one.
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| 10/21/2012 5:25:26 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
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You should be looking for a qualified loving man WHO W I L L be-- that father figure. Not every man takes off--not every man is cruel and uncaring. GO FOR THE BEST MAN AND WORK ON A HAPPY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP that will provide the baby with a happy home enviornment. Just dating--now--is counter productive. You got a lot to think about!! NO MAN wants to be kept at arm's length from you and your baby. Get a man who wants to embrace you and the baby!!!!!!!
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| 10/21/2012 5:28:40 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
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MANDI--do you know another DHer--HOLLYWOOD??? maybe you two can be of some help to one another. I think she also lives in Davenport. She sounds like a nice lady that might be a great friend for you, too.
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| 10/21/2012 5:30:26 AM |
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im7
Chapel Hill, NC
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Not a deal breaker.  But no Man wants to get used for about 8 months, just to have a woman dump him; So that she can go back to the child's father.  Been there, done that. 
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| 10/21/2012 5:35:43 AM |
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mylegsarecold
Gainesville, FL
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You should be looking for a qualified loving man WHO W I L L be-- that father figure. Not every man takes off--not every man is cruel and uncaring. GO FOR THE BEST MAN AND WORK ON A HAPPY SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP that will provide the baby with a happy home enviornment. Just dating--now--is counter productive. You got a lot to think about!! NO MAN wants to be kept at arm's length from you and your baby. Get a man who wants to embrace you and the baby!!!!!!!
They always say that. I don't want a daddy for my baby, but a man for meeeeeeeeee.
OP, not one should date you until you say what you really want.
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| 10/21/2012 5:43:23 AM |
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hollywoodstar13
Colona, IL
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guys in davenport are huge douchebags!!! is it someone from here? message me his name and i'll punch him in his nose!!! just kidding but seriously you can message me if you need a friend.
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| 10/21/2012 5:48:05 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
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THANK YOU, Hollywood---that is a great gesture that you have just made. I am sure that Mandi will appreciate the opportunity to chat about stuff with you. Sometimes we all need to have someone to have coffee with--and just relax and chat. THANK YOU.!!!!
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| 10/21/2012 5:50:17 AM |
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stilkikin
Lexington, KY
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I've dated one, I've lived with one, hell I've even married one, she was my wife for over 20 years and the baby she was pregnant with was my son, but times have changed for me, so the answer is no...
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| 10/21/2012 5:51:31 AM |
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th6231
Point Pleasant Beach, NJ
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MANDI--it is almost time for us to leave work. We are known as the "2 CREW"---we are 4 men and 4 women assigned to the citys busiest and best RESCUE SQUAD----we are on here between calls. This has been a great way to interact with people from all over the world....since 2007. Unfortunately--we cannot send private messages--or receive them---since we aren't supposed to use social sites--at all. It is a pleasure to know you!!
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| 10/21/2012 5:52:07 AM |
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hollywoodstar13
Colona, IL
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well if it's someone from here i want to know who it is that way i don't get with him. i can't get pregnant but i don't wanna get with a deadbeat. like i said guys around here are douchebags that's why i've given up on dating.
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| 10/21/2012 5:53:37 AM |
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olddirtyearl
Reading, PA
36, joined Jul. 2012
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Hell no, I think it's trashy for a woman to date while pregnant.
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| 10/21/2012 6:13:12 AM |
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whays
Payson, AZ
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OP is a damned fool for carrying to delivery.
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| 10/21/2012 7:10:42 AM |
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alanderson
Orlando, FL
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OP how long were you with this guy before you got pregnant? It seems it might have been a short time... I can imagine you being with someone for great amount of time that wouldjust get up and leave after finding out your pregnant. I would think they would be elated. 
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| 10/21/2012 7:33:36 AM |
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bitsybon
Jacksonville, FL
58, joined Jan. 2010
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Nope.
Those days are over.
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| 10/21/2012 7:55:43 AM |
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mandi_f
Muscatine, IA
29, joined Jul. 2011
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Thank you for all of the opinions and concerns. My health and my baby are #1 priority to me. He will always be my top priority.
When I said I'm not looking for a man to be daddy, I meant I don't expect a man to jump right in if he doesn't feel comfortable.
As for dating while pregnant, why is it so wrong to look for someone to be there and help support you emotionally?
Yes the guy was from DH. We were dating for a few months when the protection failed and I became pregnant.
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| 10/21/2012 8:11:25 AM |
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tommyisdtf
Bakersfield, CA
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Yup ill date a pregnant girl it's actually better 4 me cause I can bust nutts in her and not have 2 worry
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| 10/21/2012 8:36:05 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
37, joined Jun. 2008
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Yes it's a deal breaker.....IMO the mother doesn't need to be looking for a man when pregnant either...., unless the father died ......
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| 10/21/2012 8:38:17 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
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Thank you for all of the opinions and concerns. My health and my baby are #1 priority to me. He will always be my top priority.
When I said I'm not looking for a man to be daddy, I meant I don't expect a man to jump right in if he doesn't feel comfortable.
As for dating while pregnant, why is it so wrong to look for someone to be there and help support you emotionally?
Yes the guy was from DH. We were dating for a few months when the protection failed and I became pregnant.
so why is HE not in or going to be in the picture???
let me guess......you don't like him anymore, so you don't want him to have any rights???
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| 10/21/2012 8:40:26 AM |
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fearless8841
North Pole, AK
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No, I would not. I would feel the mother should be more concerned with her health and her child's. Dating me shouldn't even be in the picture.
That.
First kid? Yeah, you're gonna have your hands full and spend about 98% of your time in constant-worry mode. Worrying about some dude isn't going to be on your top priority list.
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| 10/21/2012 8:57:49 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
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OP, you will be constantly on your toes after the baby is born and have little to no time for dating. Your child's health and well being is number one. Also be prepared for the unexpected since the father may try to be involved with the baby later on. It will complicate things if you are dating someone.
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| 10/21/2012 9:16:11 AM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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Ever heard of a condom?
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| 10/21/2012 9:19:14 AM |
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tater79
Springfield, IL
37, joined Jun. 2008
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OP, you will be constantly on your toes after the baby is born and have little to no time for dating. Your child's health and well being is number one. Also be prepared for the unexpected since the father may try to be involved with the baby later on. It will complicate things if you are dating someone.
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.common sense and logic have no place here on dh
so take what you said back
besides you know NONE of this is HER fault
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| 10/21/2012 9:27:42 AM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
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I am not sure a guy would put up with the moods swings. I'm sure some are sweet and nice during their pregnancy, but what about the ones who are not? Maybe deep down you do want a dad for your kid. So if you start now maybe he will fall in love and stick around until the baby is born. Just a thought.
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| 10/21/2012 9:31:58 AM |
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chicachocolate7
Columbus, OH
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Why weren't you n birth control? or as soon as you figured out it failed u will know get the morning after pill.
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| 10/21/2012 9:32:56 AM |
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pickygirl72
Barrow, AK
45, joined Sep. 2011
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Ever heard of a condom?
I like when a man blames the women. Why didnt HE take responsibility to make sure the condom was properly secured on the p*nis? Oh and typical too, the man walking away and leaving it up to the mother.
It was her responsibility too, but we always get the blame.
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| 10/21/2012 9:43:29 AM |
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peachy1954
Sacramento, CA
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Good luck with your pregnancy. Sorry about your situation. Hope your family and real life friends step up and help you. Focusing on those relationships would get my attention. Trying understand the lonelyness and hoping for someone decent to at least be e-pal but think I would avoid adding any new complications to such a tough sitution. Not sure where you get the energy to provide for yourself, cope with pregnancy, and date but suggest you be very careful.
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| 10/21/2012 9:46:34 AM |
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locamariposa69
Bronx, NY
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Mandi....i hate men who walk away like tht but one day im sure ul find a man who will step up n wannna b the father.there are men who want bbys n cnt make em.u should worry bout ur groein baby inside u.be strong.u can be the babys motger and father. He dnt need no man in his life as long as he has a good mother.trust me.no i dnt have kids but i was raised by a single mother who had 3kids n i dont regret it cause i look at things positive.ive succeeded in nursing school and back again for another nursing degree.i want to be as strong as my mother. Keep ur head up n stay strong.u can do it  
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| 10/21/2012 9:48:22 AM |
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rose1206
Gilbert, AZ
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Okay I take it back!
*Busts out with the magic wand, poof be gone!*
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| 10/21/2012 9:48:27 AM |
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hollywoodstar13
Colona, IL
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ok, i am gonna say that most men will tell you no. most men at a young age don't want to be tied to a baby.
most men want attention. so once the baby comes, they get less attention.
maybe you should get Hollywood to come over and babysit for you so you can go out on a date.
i would and my roommate's daughter loves babies and likes to babysit (she's 13) but mandi has not messaged me as of yet
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| 10/21/2012 9:48:38 AM |
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v4lentinr
Cedar Rapids, IA
39, joined Apr. 2012
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Not a deal breaker. But no Man wants to get used for about 8 months, just to have a woman dump him; So that she can go back to the child's father. Been there, done that.
try not to let peoples negativity concern you, if you seek a companion i dont feel being pregnant is the wrong time, and those who feel obligated to tell you that your concern should only be your child, are clearly not interested in your wants or needs. youll do what you feel is right for you and your child and thats natural.
the reason i quoted this gentleman is because what he said is what an honest man would really be concerned with and he should be. specially if he (the childs father) left you and not vice versa. once you have the baby, hopefully healthy, you will most likely be willing to give him another chance no matter what or who is in the picture. so really if you find a good man to stand beside you through the pregnancy you should keep it as light as possible unless you are truly ready to move on from the ex. i gaurantee he will be around in one way or another and most likely once you see his resemblance through the child, you will be willing to forget the hardship. however if you do find a good man to be there with you, id wish you give him your best, specially after the pregnancy.
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| 10/21/2012 9:52:00 AM |
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myblessing2004
Mannheim
Germany
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So the baby's father isn't there to support you emotionally?
Family?
Friends?
Yourself?
A therapist perhaps?
Please......you sound like you NEED someone to be there. This has nothing to do with your pregnancy or the guy but YOU.
How about take time away from dating and work on that.
Your baby will thank you.
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| 10/21/2012 9:53:42 AM |
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kclady41
Kansas City, MO
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if i was a man i would not date a pregnant woman for you gotta know she is looking for someone to support her baby
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| 10/21/2012 9:56:46 AM |
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chasenarainbow
Alexandroúpolis
Greece
60, joined Jul. 2012
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Op... Congrats on the baby comming, but you need to stop and think about him first.
Dating should be your "last" option at the moment. Take time once he arives to think about your life, his life, and the road you will be taking. Baby's need alot of attention, and dating again should be your last option, because right now, all that baby has is "you"...
Once he is born the father may come back and want to file claim as he is half his you know.
Good luck...
kc... I see that far too often on here. Baby's daddy is gone, so the first thing the women or girls do is look for another for support... Tis sad... As the new Daddy gets stuck with all the responcibilities.
And guys.. DON'T ever add you name to that birth certificate or it makes you reliable for that child!!!!
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| 10/21/2012 10:08:05 AM |
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mbg1096
East Moline, IL
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Whoever says 'not at all' is full of shit.... Total deal breaker if the guy wants to be serious in something long real term
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| 10/21/2012 10:15:19 AM |
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mirandasdream
Moorhead, MN
50, joined Nov. 2011
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so why is HE not in or going to be in the picture???
let me guess......you don't like him anymore, so you don't want him to have any rights???
Tater, Darling. I think you might have missed the important post where she states that he disappeared immediately after she told him she was pregnant.
Op, The decision to date is really not up to you at this point. You are now an expectant mother. Unless you happen to run into some guy with a heart of gold you are on your own. It seems that for right now, your picker is broken anyway. You should work on fixing your picker before getting another man involved with your baby.
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| 10/21/2012 10:19:29 AM |
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hollywoodstar13
Colona, IL
35, joined Aug. 2011
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holy crap all the people from my area are coming out of the woodwork lol its awesome
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| 10/21/2012 10:30:03 AM |
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blkbbw713
Sugar Land, TX
40, joined Aug. 2011
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Ok I will be the voice of reason. @op you are currently not in your right mind and you won't be for about 3 or 4 years. You're already dealing with pregnancy and thinking about a baby coming. I'm sure you're bored and lacking attention and that is usually why women seek men. So life a you know it is about to be flipped upside down. So you want to date on top of all that and just want some "companionship". I don't know how old you are but relationships are roller coasters. I would say this is not a good time to get on it. You're vulnerable, your child is most definitely vulnerable. Why add the added heart break which will happen. We all know, because it will.
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| 10/21/2012 10:38:50 AM |
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alanderson
Orlando, FL
40, joined Apr. 2010
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It was her responsibility too, but we always get the blame.
Life is not fair just ask the husbands who gets divorced and gets joint custody of the children and pays child support to a woman who spends the money on everything else but the well being of his children.
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| 10/21/2012 11:08:15 AM |
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mirandasdream
Moorhead, MN
50, joined Nov. 2011
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Life is not fair just ask the husbands who gets divorced and gets joint custody of the children and pays child support to a woman who spends the money on everything else but the well being of his children.
Do your children have clothes on their back? Are they being fed? Do they have a place to live? Their own rooms? Just how much is your child support?
If you have answered yes to these questions you are controlling and would rather see your children with nothing than pay support.
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| 10/21/2012 11:37:14 AM |
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hbguy311
Huntington Beach, CA
35, joined Aug. 2010
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Isn't this guy bound by law to provide for his kid?
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| 10/21/2012 11:44:23 AM |
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jenlynn84
Bemidji, MN
32, joined Jul. 2011
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I'm sure others have said it but I'll say it again. I think it's important for you to focus on your baby and you right now. Don't worry about finding someone right now.
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| 10/21/2012 11:54:24 AM |
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vicjones1313
Baldwin Park, CA
44, joined Jul. 2012
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of course, and very difficult thing for men to learn to love kids are not his, not impossible but difficult, for the 1 who's willing to try, has an understanding, that you are not alone , and would do anything, for you to be a part of him.
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| 10/21/2012 12:02:37 PM |
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alanderson
Orlando, FL
40, joined Apr. 2010
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Do your children have clothes on their back? Are they being fed? Do they have a place to live? Their own rooms? Just how much is your child support?
If you have answered yes to these questions you are controlling and would rather see your children with nothing than pay support.
I presume this is just a general statement to all men in the form as I have never been married or have children.
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| 10/21/2012 12:43:35 PM |
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tcretiredhippie
Durand, WI
58, joined Apr. 2012
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Not just no but heck no
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