| 6/16/2008 8:17:55 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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catie4evr
Virginia Beach, VA
36, joined Jun. 2008
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I work full time, go to school full time and I'm a single mother. I'm usually fine and I stay busy so it's easy to ignore the fact that I don't have a husband or a boyfriend. But for some reason, the last two days have been awful. I just have this inner something that is driving me nuts. I feel like I have got to get married!!! It's so weird!! I've never been like this. I just turned 30 a few days ago and some say that might have something to do with it...but I don't see how. Any insight anyone?
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| 6/16/2008 8:35:50 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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flwrlvr
Hampton, VA
62, joined May. 2008
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I do think turning 30 has a lot to do with it....I remember thinking it was the end of the world and I had better do everything I had dreamed of before I get too much older..but older only gets better! Enjoy your youth and don't rush into anything!
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| 6/16/2008 10:22:01 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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lazyeyedlover
Chesapeake, VA
42, joined Mar. 2008
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I don't have much insight but i can tell you that i know exactly how that feels and i am willing to spend time with you anytime you have free. Hit me up and we will talk.
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| 6/17/2008 8:41:15 AM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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hapenindude
Saint Louis, MO
52, joined May. 2008
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First off, Happy Birthday!
Second, I'm just a guy making an assessment, certainly not certified or qualified in any professional manner to provide advice. Having said that, here's my assessment:
You are a very, very busy woman. Apparently, you have sacrificed much to be successful both in your career and as a provider and single mother. I applaud your accomplishments. Its no surprise to me that you've been focusing on those aspects of your life with great determination. Women's roles today are tremendous.
Also, I'm not sure about your past, but I'm a firm believer that women don't hate men. A woman might hate the man who hurt them, and I don't know if you might still be stinging from a past relationship. Nonetheless, the excruciating loneliness that you are experiencing is not uncommon to us all. Sometimes it is easy to ignore. Sometimes its not. We all deserve to have someone special in our lives though. We just have to get out there and do something about it.
I know you probably wish you could bypass kissing all the frogs and get to your real prince,  but you have to put some energy into it.  Be picky, but don't put it off until tomorrow.
...and by the way, you are very attractive 
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| 6/17/2008 10:21:42 AM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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murano05z
Alexandria, VA
61, joined Apr. 2008
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I am a single parent and have been for 10 years. Yes I have custody. It makes it very difficult to go to work, care for the child, and go to school all at the same time. There were days, still have them occasionally, where I just felt completely overwhelmed by it all. The feeling of it sure would be nice to have some help and more importantly, a companion to talk with came through a lot. But we muddle through!
One of the things that gets me through all of that is the ability to talk with friends, both at work and in social environments. I have a couple of co-worker friends that have seen me through some challenging times. Lean on your friends! The efforts you are making now will show through in the end.
And, make time for yourself! Take a little time to pamper yourself. It might help! Or find someone here that you want to just go have coffee with and do that. Take a break from working your butt off!!!!!!!!!!!
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| 6/18/2008 6:46:40 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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catie4evr
Virginia Beach, VA
36, joined Jun. 2008
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Just wanted to say thanks to everyone that contributed. It's small, but it's always nice to know there are people out there that are going through the same thing and understand. 
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| 6/18/2008 7:02:25 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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murano05z
Alexandria, VA
61, joined Apr. 2008
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Hey, being alone can be okay, but feeling lonely sucks. I guess when it comes down to it, that is why I am on this site. I like to be able to communicate with other people and of course it would be nice to actually meet someone. So take care and if you ever really need to talk or lean on someone give me a shout.
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| 6/18/2008 7:09:15 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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hapenindude
Saint Louis, MO
52, joined May. 2008
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Good call, murano. You give great advice! 
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| 6/18/2008 7:45:47 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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ckmirby1
Fredericksburg, VA
43, joined Feb. 2008
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hey i know how you feel, i am a single dad of three kids that live with me, when im busy i am fine, when im not i go a little stir crazy. if you ever feel like talking, even if its about nothing feel free to write anytim
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| 6/28/2008 10:15:58 AM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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blueyesfou
Stafford, VA
59, joined May. 2008
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What your experiencing is perfectly natural. It's one of the laws of nature for men and woman want to be together your just looking to fill a void. It's also OK to find solace in new found friendship while you search for love.
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| 6/28/2008 4:07:19 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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beachmimi
Leesburg, VA
62, joined May. 2008
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You answered your own question. The day I turned 30, I woke up crying, hubby left for work, cried all day long, I got birthday wishes from friends I had seen or heard from in 20 plus years, hubby came home I was still blue and crying. It was turning the BIG 30, TRUST ME after that one all the rest have been fine. I even didn't mind turning 50, I don't feel 56, I'm still single, granted I have days where I want to have someone in my life to love and love me, maybe someday, but I think I'm just enjoying being me with me. Hard to explain. I get restless at times, and I'm there now, I want to move from here yesterday, can't quite make it happen. I want to move to OC, MD. I feel I can be completely happy there. If you have a dream, put it out there, I have a picture of the beach on my fridge, tell myself everyday, this is where I'm going to be living soon. Crazy? Perhaps, but it keeps my sanity. Happy Belated Birthday, and keep your dreams alive.
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| 6/29/2008 11:11:37 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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themisfit666
Springfield, VA
26, joined Jun. 2008
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mid aged crisis i suppose?
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| 7/1/2008 8:48:16 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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catie4evr
Virginia Beach, VA
36, joined Jun. 2008
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beachmimi,
thanks for sharing...it's nice to know I'm not crazy. Doesn't make it any easier. I feel the same way you do, I want to move, I want a new job, I want so many things that just ain't happening right now. It is what it is I guess.
Thanks!
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| 7/2/2008 12:12:52 PM |
I don't know why...but experiencing excruciating loneliness |
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redmuny30
Petersburg, VA
36, joined Jun. 2008
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I just had my girl cheat on me, so I know how u feel. I trying 2 meet new friends 2 get away from the excruciating pain.
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