| 6/13/2014 7:47:23 PM |
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mrlickzher
Owensboro, KY
36, joined Mar. 2013
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Thanks Mr... Patience is a virtue.
ur welcome dear.. 
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| 6/13/2014 8:09:06 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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I flaked on a woman who was trying to push me into dating on her terms..
You will bring flowers you will take me here you will you will
You are not wooing me properly..
Blah blah blah
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| 6/13/2014 9:28:54 PM |
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mortara
Pittsburgh, PA
61, joined Feb. 2014
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Yes, pretty women sometimes are more trouble then they are worth even for sex.
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| 6/13/2014 9:38:04 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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Emotional outbursts or manipulative conversations
like where you preach to me about your mom being wrong and make me nod my head in agreement to end the conversation...
Those usually require you calling me back.. like im gonna chase you around after that crap..
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| 6/13/2014 9:51:40 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Not really a drama queen so I dont think that applies to me...
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| 6/13/2014 9:53:35 PM |
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icecreamsammich
Abilene, KS
49, joined May. 2014
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You seem pretty awesome.
Maybe the guys are just not confident enough to deal with a strong woman.
Nothing wrong with anyone, just not compatible..
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| 6/13/2014 10:12:11 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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Actually i flake for one reason.. because you make me squirm..
You crossed a principle or value of mine ...it happens...but it will shut me down..
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| 6/13/2014 11:00:41 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Now that I believe... I try nit to make people uncomfortable but it could happen...
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| 6/14/2014 5:52:32 AM |
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tommycjr
Columbus, OH
34, joined Oct. 2013
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I think it can be a turn off when women are too forth coming about how independent they are and how they don't need a man like it says in your profile OP. It's not that guys are looking for a codependent mess of a woman or anything but doesn't everyone who's looking for a serious relationship want to feel wanted and needed? Needed is the glue that holds things together when wanted goes on vacation. I mean it's fine to be independent maybe just try toneing it down a little. I think by this age most people realize the opposite sex can survive just fine without the other. So maybe try starting a relationship without declaring your independence first. 
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| 6/14/2014 6:34:51 AM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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I think it can be a turn off when women are too forth coming about how independent they are and how they don't need a man like it says in your profile OP. It's not that guys are looking for a codependent mess of a woman or anything but doesn't everyone who's looking for a serious relationship want to feel wanted and needed? Needed is the glue that holds things together when wanted goes on vacation. I mean it's fine to be independent maybe just try toneing it down a little. I think by this age most people realize the opposite sex can survive just fine without the other. So maybe try starting a relationship without declaring your independence first.
Thats funny i think exactly opposite of that.... Declare your independence and stop trying to give it up...
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| 6/14/2014 12:41:45 PM |
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dingaling6969
Clearwater, FL
48, joined Dec. 2010
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I am a grumpy old man, what's your point? 'Old fashioned girl' is code for "I'm going to make you jump through all kinds of ridiculous hoops before I consider having sex with you".
You wouldn't flake on a friend? You already have. You think you're an entitled princess and believe your entitled to be pandered to.
You aren't worth it. You're far to impressed with yourself for my opinion to matter. Rude? okay. I can live with that.
You have that all wrong ..maybe your getting feeble or just been a a**hole ypur whole life. But have ypu looked into the mirror lately?? You need to stay off the tabaccoo and what ever else your on makes you.look alot older than 55. You cant honestly believe anything in that post...just wanting to take your rejections out on a sweet person that has done nothing but asked a simple question....maybe smoke signals or sign language should have been used ....in your case. Then again doubt that would even work...
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| 6/14/2014 12:44:08 PM |
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dingaling6969
Clearwater, FL
48, joined Dec. 2010
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Let me break it down for ya......its called class. Something your very much lacking in
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| 6/14/2014 12:57:40 PM |
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dingaling6969
Clearwater, FL
48, joined Dec. 2010
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I think it can be a turn off when women are too forth coming about how independent they are and how they don't need a man like it says in your profile OP. It's not that guys are looking for a codependent mess of a woman or anything but doesn't everyone who's looking for a serious relationship want to feel wanted and needed? Needed is the glue that holds things together when wanted goes on vacation. I mean it's fine to be independent maybe just try toneing it down a little. I think by this age most people realize the opposite sex can survive just fine without the other. So maybe try starting a relationship without declaring your independence first. [/quote? Its taken out of context ....she was explaning a situation on raising children.
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| 6/15/2014 5:39:11 PM |
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fantasticdreame
Atlanta, GA
38, joined Aug. 2013
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OP is nothing about you, it happens to a lot of women on dating websites!
Like I said on another threads, most people who go on dating websites tend to treat others like fast food, they want it NOW! NOW! NOW!
Try to date men outside too...
Personally, I think that the best relationships start from a natural friendship, where people get to know each others naturally, free from any pressure...
Let's be honest, after sex is involved, everything start to get much more complicated..
so, if is not to be just FWB, will be better to build a solid mental and emotional attraction, and not only physical...
...and then frankly speaking, if the attraction isn't on the physical level only, the sex is much better. 
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| 6/15/2014 6:04:12 PM |
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gman588
Rosedale, MD
56, joined Mar. 2014
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Who knows. Men are idiots. I don't know why women waste their time on them.
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| 6/15/2014 6:28:20 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Thanks fantastic... I agree when the mind and heart as well as the body is involved, sex is ten times better, thats why I really try to get to know mire about them here or talking on the phone before we meet, I also think thats why I dont understand the flaking... its not like I meet them after one text... its why I get so frustrated... 
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| 6/15/2014 6:37:18 PM |
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wrenchspinner45
Waynesville, NC
46, joined Sep. 2013
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As a man , I can say, that sometimes old fears from being hurt raise their heads, but men need to remember that courage is not the absence of fear, but embracing it, owning it, and advancing anyway. Most of us have had this happen one time or another, most as teen -agers, lol. So MEN man up, face your fear and go get that woman whom will enhance you and you do the same for her....nuff said?
mark 
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| 6/15/2014 6:43:33 PM |
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flirty_n_fun67
Belleville, ON
47, joined Sep. 2010
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I don't do flakey men...soooo they can just flake off as far as im concerned...
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| 6/15/2014 6:56:22 PM |
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1971lesprec
Tehachapi, CA
55, joined Apr. 2013
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Only date guys who are willing to drive to you for the first date. If he is really interested he won't mind. Let him pay for the first date. Offer to leave the tip. Never sleep with any guy on the first date. This site is more for forums. POF is better for dating. Its better to meet within a couple of weeks. Don't waste too much time on something that's going nowhere. Hope this helps.
This is very true. I drove to meet my DH date for our first date, and immediately asked her for a second date shortly thereafter. We met in person within 2 weeks of messaging one another. We dated for the next 4 months and I eventually proposed to her and we will be getting married soon. A real man who is genuinely interested in you won't waste time he will move fast like I did. Us guys know that if we don't move fast another will move in and take what we could've had. You snooze you loose
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| 6/15/2014 7:09:23 PM |
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wrenchspinner45
Waynesville, NC
46, joined Sep. 2013
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Only date guys who are willing to drive to you for the first date. If he is really interested he won't mind. Let him pay for the first date. Offer to leave the tip. Never sleep with any guy on the first date. This site is more for forums. POF is better for dating. Its better to meet within a couple of weeks. Don't waste too much time on something that's going nowhere. Hope this helps.
some of us are for some reason temporarily unable to travel...in my case my OLD ...make that antique truck is down and waiting for a part. And I am short on funds for now. otherwise I would drive 200 mikes to meet someone If the chemistry seems to be there. Remember the cookie cutter cutter mold dose not work, we...men and women are all unique and special in our own ways.
mark
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| 6/15/2014 7:15:33 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Thanks wrench and 1971... its good to know good guys are still out there, and congrats on the wedding! 
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| 6/15/2014 7:15:42 PM |
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cheatk
Urbandale, IA
46, joined Jun. 2013
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Not one hood rat on here is getting my time.
Im not looking to date, especially from this site.
However, try going out like to different events around the city, it doesn't have to be a club type of outing.
Take friends with.
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| 6/16/2014 8:21:00 PM |
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indianadave1951
Elkhart, IN
63, joined Dec. 2010
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No sex on the first date can make a lot of men think you're too much work, if they're lazy impatient f**ks. 
I've never flaked on someone though, but I have felt "meh" by date two if there wasn't fire.
Any guy who expects sex on a first date isn't looking for a serious LTR.
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| 6/16/2014 8:49:13 PM |
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naturebiy
Mc Kenzie, TN
39, joined Jul. 2011
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@op
Perhaps try and find what it is about yourself that attracts these type of people and correct it.
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| 6/17/2014 5:18:31 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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So you are saying its something Im saying or doing tgat gets a guy to make the date and then not keep it??Why make the date in the first place??
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| 6/17/2014 5:43:28 PM |
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jester0011
Lake Waccamaw, NC
47, joined Jun. 2014
online now!
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| 6/17/2014 5:48:02 PM |
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icecreamsammich
Abilene, KS
49, joined May. 2014
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So you are saying its something Im saying or doing tgat gets a guy to make the date and then not keep it??Why make the date in the first place??
That part I don't understand, why tell her you want to see her me then don't
That's a date tease! And teasing is wrong... 
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| 6/18/2014 1:29:55 AM |
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girlygrl93
Pomeroy, OH
34, joined Aug. 2013
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And my girls are my responsibility, not anyone else... I dont expect anyone but me to help them pay for their weddings...
this is why I try to declare my independence right from the start. Yes, I have children. No, I don't need to be a sponge, I have a career. Just treat them like you would a niece or nephew, acknowledge their exsistence and importance to me without flipping that they are your responsibility!! Sorry I had to rant... Such a touchy subject lol
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| 6/18/2014 1:46:55 AM |
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lady_disdain
Wellsville, NY
28, joined May. 2014
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Why are you worrying about it?
A man who is worth your time, attention and affection won't flake. Period.
Those other guys are just saving you the headache of finding out they're flakes later on in the relationship.
Till the right kind of man comes along, you should spend less time worrying about what those flakes were thinking and more time developing the confidence and traits of the woman you want to be.
A woman who commands respect with her lifestyle, character and demeanor will eventually attract a man who is worthy of her respect and will respect her in return.
You attract the type of person that you are. If you don't like what you're attracting, then focus your energies on the one person you CAN change - yourself.
Grab your power, girl. Once you do, those flakes won't seem so appealing.
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| 6/18/2014 9:41:49 AM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Thanks disdain... I agree.. I'm keeping my head up, my eyes open, and looking for fun to walk though the door...
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| 6/19/2014 3:09:59 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
38, joined Sep. 2013
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do you wanna know the truth? the truth is you didn't put out and somebody came along who did...nobody wants to go on 35 dates and court you for years just to get to 2nd base ...there are women who throw it at you on a first date And that's what they want!! it's not 1955 anymore
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| 6/19/2014 5:52:57 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Dear forum friendly... as I said, I am not necessarily easy, but I'm sure as hell no prude... Most that have chatted with me individually could tell you that... you, my dear sir, have no idea...
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| 6/19/2014 5:59:33 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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Wait a sec... isnt it froggy who comes a courtin' in the story?
Coincidence? I think not...
moral of the story... if you wanna stop kissing frogs you gotta put out..
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| 6/19/2014 6:05:48 PM |
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chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
37, joined May. 2014
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I am a grumpy old man, what's your point? 'Old fashioned girl' is code for "I'm going to make you jump through all kinds of ridiculous hoops before I consider having sex with you".
You wouldn't flake on a friend? You already have. You think you're an entitled princess and believe your entitled to be pandered to.
You aren't worth it. You're far to impressed with yourself for my opinion to matter. Rude? okay. I can live with that.
F**k yeah !
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| 6/19/2014 6:17:13 PM |
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chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
37, joined May. 2014
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Why?? I've talked to several guys on the site... They ask, and ask for that first date and finally after I feel that we know each other enough to meet they flake?? Or worse yet we have a great first date, and never get to date number two?? What is it?? Some tell me they love me and they still flake... Ugh! I've been out of the dating scene a long time, but why not go for it?? Has it really changed all that much??? Ladies please help me out...
More than likely psychological hang ups and pit falls. Built up fantasies dashed by reality. People in general are flighty and flaky.
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| 6/19/2014 6:25:03 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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So wait chad are you on the grumpy old mans side or mine?? You say f**k yeah to the old mans assessment that im not worth it, andthen say people in general are flaky and its due to their own insecurities... which is it??
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| 6/19/2014 6:28:12 PM |
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chadischad
Saint Louis, MO
37, joined May. 2014
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A little of both. No offense as im sure youre probably a decent woman. I lost a little brother to leukemia, so i know the pain.
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| 6/19/2014 6:34:54 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Sorry for your loss... and just fyi... Im pretty sure I'm worth it... the only hoops are the ones they put themselves thru... my only requirements are a job and clean cut... age, looks, height, etc. Doesnt matter to me fir the most part... looking for a real connection, then you think you find it and they bail... bummer... that's all I'm saying...
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| 6/19/2014 6:39:54 PM |
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ladypat81
Baltimore, MD
33, joined Jun. 2013
online now!
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The fastest way to get a guy to leave you alone is to say you'll go out with them. It's crazy idk what it is with men on here. They act like b*tches.
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| 6/19/2014 6:40:20 PM |
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forumfriendly2
Norfolk, VA
38, joined Sep. 2013
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all these demands she makes,looks job height etc etc ...and she's just a chubby divorced middle aged woman with 3 kids ...mr perfect will be along shortly your majesty!
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| 6/19/2014 6:44:39 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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^ That dude don't mess around..
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| 6/19/2014 6:53:03 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Mr. Forum...
Not divorced... widowed
Kids... grown, happy, well adjusted, successful, so I did something right.
Dont want to be anyone's queen, I work for a living and am damn proud of the work I do... I also volunteer, have taken in six needy children at different times and never left my husbands side including changing his diaper when he lost his stomach lining from the chemo at 26... you dont know me, you have no idea who Iam and what ive lived thru... all im looking for is happiness, so piss off!
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| 6/19/2014 8:28:43 PM |
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icecreamsammich
Abilene, KS
49, joined May. 2014
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Mr. Forum...
Not divorced... widowed
Kids... grown, happy, well adjusted, successful, so I did something right.
Dont want to be anyone's queen, I work for a living and am damn proud of the work I do... I also volunteer, have taken in six needy children at different times and never left my husbands side including changing his diaper when he lost his stomach lining from the chemo at 26... you dont know me, you have no idea who Iam and what ive lived thru... all im looking for is happiness, so piss off!
You sound like an awesome person! 
But some dill hole will find something to complain about...
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| 6/20/2014 11:52:28 AM |
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dingaling6969
Clearwater, FL
48, joined Dec. 2010
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all these demands she makes,looks job height etc etc ...and she's just a chubby divorced middle aged woman with 3 kids ...mr perfect will be along shortly your majesty!
how are you to talk about anyones appearance/status? Look in the mirror before throwing barbs. It may save you some embarrasment. Homeless??
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| 6/20/2014 6:15:18 PM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
50, joined Jan. 2014
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In spite of the insult-flinging festival this thread has turned out to be, the lady really DOES have a point.
I, too, have guys contact me every day begging to date me and my poly family, and then flake off when it gets to the point of actually meeting. One guy in particular talked to me here for several days, and then on YM video chat for hours, and even Google-Earthed my house. He was gung-ho about meeting until I actually set a time and then he suddenly got a mysterious ailment which kept him from leaving his house (although not from going to work). He said he'd definitely want to reschedule and then pulled the same EXACT excuse the next week.
He's not the only one- there have been several who've set dates to meet and cancelled or not showed (which is why we only invite people to things we're already going to be doing, so our time isn't wasted).
I'm on several other dating sites, and this has been BY FAR the worst for this sort of behavior.
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| 6/20/2014 6:19:35 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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^She has a champagne room in her house
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| 6/20/2014 6:22:59 PM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
50, joined Jan. 2014
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^She has a champagne room in her house
Not exactly, dear. There are no strippers or sexual favors traded here. Just a clean, well kept dungeon where all so inclined can get their BDSM on.
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| 6/20/2014 6:25:08 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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^ she has a champagne house with no credit card machines
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| 6/20/2014 6:28:50 PM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
50, joined Jan. 2014
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| 6/20/2014 6:31:15 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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Its just fun and games...
you are way too serious..
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| 6/20/2014 6:34:56 PM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
50, joined Jan. 2014
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Its just fun and games...
you are way too serious..
Nah, if I was serious, I'd be chewing on you and spitting you out, like on the rapist's thread.
I don't have a champagne room, but I do have a "water sports" room. Not sparkling, but golden!
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| 6/20/2014 6:37:36 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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Lol... thats not right..
but i can tell you im not to be left alone with a fresh car battery and a good set of alligator clip jumper cables..
Everyone needs a spotter!
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| 6/20/2014 6:45:10 PM |
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daneene
Allen Park, MI
50, joined Jan. 2014
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*snorks*
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| 6/20/2014 6:51:08 PM |
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lets_chill98
Boca Raton, FL
41, joined Apr. 2013
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snork all you want but been there done that..
poly relationships are not condusive ti finding what you really want with out finding the one first...
iv'e been asked many times to be the third wheel... but that's what it is, the third wheel..
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| 6/24/2014 10:01:09 PM |
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1moretryblueyes
Naples, FL
43, joined Apr. 2014
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Thanks Danene...
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